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Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 12:51pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
I will make this short as possible, my Mom died about 8 years ago and she left a piece of land in a very good location like 24 hrs light supply in the area, before my mom died she has already built to window length house on the land. Anyway I was in school and really didn't give attention to the property, one say my Aunty who I was living with said she want to raise the building up, I told her No because I know how family drag properties and I didn't want to have problems in the future since I was the only child of my Mom so I basically inherited the land. Long story short my Aunty didn't listen to me and started completely the building my mom left behind, at first she was telling me her progress and making it look like we both are partners in this project. Then for the last 4 years or so she stopped telling me about the progress, instead she was calling the property her own, even her own children was calling the property her own, something happened which made her stop the building 3 years ago but still she keep mentioning she is the owner of the property. Me on one hand dont want to fight to drag property with anyone but we had a little misunderstanding the other day and she got angry that I reminded her of the land claiming that she has spend so much on the building that the house is supposed to he hers and if I want the house I will have to buy it from her. I am so tired because I am currently staying with her and as much I dont want trouble I know that money can change people and make them do unthinkable things. My thoughts now is Should I be scared in this house?? I am planning on leaving but it's next month before I can access my funds and to me it's a very long time |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by RedMac: 12:53pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Hmmmm this is a serious issue, man listen to me... Your life is at risk, staying in that house or not, hatred and jealousy will start creeping in, I will advise you to leave that house immediately and then find a peaceful way to settle this issue 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Lance008(m): 1:06pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Truth be told Your mom was sacrificed by your Aunt and was told to complete the project Meaning the unused blessings of your mom is for her and both your destiny is at risk This is Africa where demons are more than the good people always know that Let that guide your thinking Your Aunt doesn't care if you actually live or survive all she want is for her children to be greater Think of this If your Aunt have money to complete the building why can't she start her own building afresh must it be your mom land This is spiritual It's yours don't leave your house for anyone Take her to court or report her to your mom brothers Please don't be afraid to take actions Witches are never afraid to hurt you 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 1:16pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Lance008:Thanks but she and my Mom were pretty close and she was devastated when my mom passed away. It's just that since I wasn't bothered about the building for years she assumed that she is the owner of the house and now that I have mentioned it, she started looking at me some kind of way, she is the kind of person that feel she is very smart and since I have this calm personality, she thinks she can control me. She keep making mention of how without her raising the building up that some area boys would have sold the land because land there is very sort after. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 1:21pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
RedMac:That was my intention, I want to leave the house and I already planned for it but I unfortunately kept my money in piggyvest safelock still December and now I am stuck in a place I am not comfortable in. Even her children in the house have been giving me side eyes for days like I want to take away their property. I plan to bring the issue when I leave the house but something just made me bring it out this week and as much I will like to believe everything is Okay, I have been seeing how they keep food in their room and lock it like I am going to do something bad. If they think I have such bad intentions then I am scared what they are thinking about. My heart honestly is good 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Nobody: 1:27pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
She said she wanted to raise the building and you declined. The moment she broke your trust and defied your stance on her completing the building and started building on it was the time you should have done something about it if you had the capacity. You should have taken strict actions to stop her plans and make your decision very clear from then. But you allowed it and tolerated it until the situation aggravated to this level. This is part of the consequences of not doing the right things at the right time. Anyways, see the counsel of a legal practitioner or someone learned about things like this sha on the issue 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by IkeIgboNile(m): 1:33pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
The owner of the house is whoever has the original document of the land so if you're in possession of it then all you need to do is to get a lawyer and file an injunction. 9 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 1:33pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
UnusualEmissary:Thanks for the advice. I was pretty young then, it was 7 years ago but tho I was smart to know problems always comes when sharing property. The thing was that she never regarded me both due to my age and the fact I have a quiet personality. I hope we settle this thing amicably and not go to court but for now I am worried like if something like this can make someone harm another person. |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Alvyn69(m): 2:51pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
All this things you are saying will not matter anywhere when you don't have the deeds and land document. I hope you are in possession of the land document? Nothing personal, don't fall for emotional blackmail... If she is a good woman she should have kept that land in trust till you get to a certain age, that would have been more honourable. |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by ikeno(m): 4:02pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
some years ago I bought a piece of land that my elder sister told me about cause the owner was going through financial difficulty then I was in school and had saved some money before I gained admission. a year later she came crying to me that they have been given quit notice where they reside and I should please let her use the money on her to build a room and parlour rather than using it to rent another apartment so that she and her family will be free from landlord wahala and increments. because she's my sister and married with kids and also very close that I sometimes seek advice or discuss issues with her freely,I gave her the go ahead to use some portion of the land and leave the rest for my own building project. few years later wen I came back I found out that they also build some apartment and rented them out on my land.i was so furious and threatened to demolish everything.she pleaded and begged me.i just left it for her and moved on. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 4:20pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
ikeno:So you are saying I should just leave the house for her and move on Maybe I can do that if I was very financial stable but that area the land is, is very good like there is "Step down" there with 24 hours light, that is the only place where they dont seize light in the whole town. Also I feel that's the last thing my late Mom left for me so at least I should treasure it. I think I should gather myself and find a way to pay her back all the money she has spent but for now, let me try and focus on peace 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by ikeno(m): 5:21pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Rosaline5000:my point is that u better do something fast before your story becomes similar to mine 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Lance008(m): 5:39pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Rosaline5000: Do not trust your Aunt Witches are the most dangerous and pretended being in the world Please do as I say She already used your mom She completing the house to use the unfinished glory of your mom Please don't ever trust your Aunt she is a big enemy if she truly your Aunt she won't drag your mom property with the only child Please your Aunt is practicing witchcraft You get to know this as times goes on She was asked to complete the house in order to used the unfinshed glory of your mom after killing your mom Report her and don't be afraid If you are useless tomorrow you only face the pain yourself then why afraid to speak out Your Aunt still keeping you for some reason best known to her You might be the next she going to kill Kindly know this dead man tells no tales 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Taba21: 5:41pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Rosaline5000: Be careful before she kill's you |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Taba21: 5:44pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Rosaline5000: How old are you? |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by marlow1962(m): 5:53pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Ur Aunty don run ur mama street, watch your steps wit her. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by zed7: 6:35pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Relative from hell. People just want to cheat others, something that she can't take to her grave. Be scared my friend, because such a woman can kill if she senses you are becoming a threat. I only hope you have the original documents. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 6:39pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Lance008:I felt chills reading this but if I might ask why do you think so?? |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by merieam16(f): 6:42pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Be careful!!! Thats all I can say to you. Do u av the resources to get ur property back?Are you with the documents? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 6:42pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Taba21:Mid Twenties |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by StPete: 6:44pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
If you have documents to the property, sell it and relocate. It’s her loss for not listening to you to not continue the building 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by fikayormi(m): 7:13pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Babe you are on a long thing When I lost my mom too , before I could come back from school, her Junior sister has already fly with her atm and two phones also one of my uncle has went to claim one of her shop, her cement business also taken over by her brother, Since non of them dey feed me , I was able to recover phones , atm and shop but cement business lost forever. now you are still staying with her and she has already built on the land also you are a girl, you will need help because you can't fight it alone , my dad and some family members interfere in my own case even with that I still lose some things You should have leave her place and start war immediately . Leave her house asap and let her know she is not the owner of the land , also approach some sensible family members to caution and remind her . If you can approach the court of law, I did too . This is like declaring war and trust me she will make you see hell too . So are you ready for it ? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 7:15pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
merieam16:At the moment No. I have put everything in God hands |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by fikayormi(m): 7:35pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Rosaline5000: Continue leaving it in God's hands , dont go out and fight for your right 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Kirkman: 7:49pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
So she couldn't buy her own land and build its to take her late sisters own. Better leave that house for them if you want to live to see next year. Or better still get a lawyer and a court injunction against her or better still refund her the amount of money that she put into the house. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Phimzy: 7:53pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
StPete:Best advice on this thread. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Rosaline5000: 7:57pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Kirkman:Thanks I am planning on leaving next month, I am just feeling it's too far but I have no choice |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by merieam16(f): 8:36pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Rosaline5000:Just forget about the property for now till you av every means to fight back. |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by kodred(m): 8:57pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
What state is this? Do you have a job there? What do you need to get out of that house? Are the documents of the house with her? I think you should look for a way out of that place and forget about the property….for now. Worry not, the value of the property would increase while you grinding. |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Nobody: 9:13pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
You are really dumb lol, your children will regret having you as their mother 1 Like |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Bluezy13(m): 9:49pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
You have maternal and paternal uncles right ?? |
Re: Should I Be Scared??? by Prettygirl200(f): 9:57pm On Nov 18, 2022 |
Op who is in possession of the documents If the documents are with you then this issue is a small one just call for a lawyer and everything will be settled |
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