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My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by user283: 1:40am On Nov 25, 2019 |
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross. I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, I'm always sensitive to her needs and I tip her whether she's stranded or not since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is? Not even something as little as toothbrush or hair cream Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need but I've now grown to realize that "give and take" is one of the key elements of a good relationship Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend acts nonchalant and she'll be the last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she takes pride in being stingy I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently just to be sure if she's stingy to me alone but the boy confirmed it that her sister is very stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better. You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship especially a relationship that will lead to the altar What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much only about her own well being Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving. Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man? P.S: I'm still with her because she has other good traits Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry 173 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by IneedSugarMumy1(m): 1:47am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Let's wait for the elders 94 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 1:49am On Nov 25, 2019 |
She's submissive though... Right? 53 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 1:59am On Nov 25, 2019 |
You are dating yourself. 411 Likes 25 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 2:01am On Nov 25, 2019 |
May be she feels she owes no one any responsibility now because you aren't married yet. Do not be surprised if she turns a new leaf especially when you start bearing children. 30 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by user283: 2:04am On Nov 25, 2019 |
favoryte33:Why don't I think I owe her no responsibility too since I'm not yet married to her? Does it mean I'm being foolish? But remember her younger brother told me she's that way when I whined him 253 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by shege45: 2:11am On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283:a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. That woman no go support you in hard times. Na only ur money go dey go House. Just know your salary would be for all of u. Be wise 303 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by vincentjk(m): 2:11am On Nov 25, 2019 |
favoryte33: My best friend is a girl and the kinda things she buys for me ehn. I get her things sometimes and she does same when she has money so not being married is just an excuse 186 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by majormofor(m): 2:20am On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283: You man, your dating yourself o... If a girl truly loves you she would buy something without telling you. Best advice---"buy something for urself and let her know it's New and tell her, it's one of your female friends that bought it and you love it soooooo much.. Let see how we go from there. Her reaction should speak more 458 Likes 35 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by user283: 2:27am On Nov 25, 2019 |
majormofor:I've done that before but it doesn't change anything bro 113 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by mumumugu(m): 5:25am On Nov 25, 2019 |
majormofor: I love this advice 36 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by mumumugu(m): 5:28am On Nov 25, 2019 |
it doesn't matter how far you have gone in the wrong direction, back off. start anew. For God so love the world that he GAVE........ true love is tested in the act of sacrifical giving. stop giving to her. don't wait till you are broke. tell her you needher help. continue asking for her assistance..... 159 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by abuuzy(m): 5:47am On Nov 25, 2019 |
From the look of things bro,thats a bad vibe coming from her....if there are no signs of improvement from your woman don't marry her... How do you workout putting hands together building your home.establishing new business and saving surviving hard times,na only your money go dey do am o... 62 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Jflex07(m): 5:50am On Nov 25, 2019 |
favoryte33:And she is his responsibility?And what if she doesn't turn a new leaf? The Op will come here and start wining that he saw all the signs, but people like you gave him a wrong advice.. Op sit how down again and discuss this issue extensively with her and if she still refuses to change,then forget it,she will never change once you guys get married. 71 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by mascot87(m): 5:53am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Red flag!!! 110 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Fizzymike1(m): 6:19am On Nov 25, 2019 |
You on your own. Wen.you marry her she will be stingy in the other room 34 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Idrisenagi: 6:30am On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283: She just doesn't care, how can a woman be this selfish for God sake 117 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Eyeness: 6:41am On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283:the reason you wrote this is because you don't have much. if she is a good person despite this, then marry her. Actually, you are the provider in the family. How come i never see rich men complain of stingy women? 6 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Quality20(m): 6:49am On Nov 25, 2019 |
just continue with her, this isn't really a bad quality, even at that guess she has other better qualities u admire so much n like. She might change gradually. Ladies by nature are like babies, babies wanna keep everything to themselves and are stingy but do grow out of it at different times. This isn't enough reason to break up Mr man. 12 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Skmoda360(m): 6:50am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Be very 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by VERDA: 6:51am On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283: Just have one advice a married friend gave me....people hardly change their attitude after marriage, and there is no such thing as she/he did not have these bad character before marriage, look well and if you can't live with whatever bad traits present now, well..... 86 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Rajman45(m): 7:02am On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283:Ur very funny....lol. All d digging ur giving her, back and front... U think say na for free. Please wipe that useless idea that sex is a mutual enjoyment for both parties. Sex is not for free.... Even married couples has paid for it through paying her dowry. Never u forget that ur d one going into her nd not d other way around. 12 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by wittyt98(m): 7:09am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Eyeness:Wetin this one dey talk? na everybody Go rich for this life? so only rich people deserve to marry a caring and supportive wife? and besides every rich man today started from the bottom and the support their wives showed them when they had nothing is why they spend all on them when they finally have money oga 151 Likes 7 Shares
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Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 7:23am On Nov 25, 2019 |
No. If she doesn't have, yes but she has little, she doesn't have to be feeding you, all you need is a little support. If you broke after marriage expect public ridicule 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 7:23am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Eyeness:no. It is just dumb trying to shame op for another person's bad mindset. Everybody can't be very rich. Over 96% of the world population aren't rich 77 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by alphaNomega: 8:09am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Women are naturally stingy unless it comes to giving their children. There are some generous ones though and if you happen to have one of such please cherish her. 42 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by lereinter(m): 8:24am On Nov 25, 2019 |
When I saw the topic, I thought your gf were to be working with CBN or their likes But how can you write that someone working in ShopRite is stingy She has not got enough to spare with you Well If you don't give her does she complain heavily 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by utenwuson: 8:34am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Dimples0303:Which one is submissive kwa... Person no de bring even 10 naira come table you talking submission... If your woman can't even help out when u need little favour Bros do not marry her, she will wait for u to come bring money for food when u traveled and the kids are hungry...... 10 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by utenwuson: 8:35am On Nov 25, 2019 |
lereinter:if u have 1k and can't give out 200 naira, my brother even if u have 10m u won't still give out 200 naira..... 130 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by generalissimo(m): 8:49am On Nov 25, 2019 |
Eyeness:You have lived too long among the poor folks that is probably why you haven't seen a rich man complain of his stingy wife. You don't have to be needy before realizing someone has been stingy towards you. Money isn't everything bikonu! Everyone wants to feel loved and a little gift and assistance once in a while is one of the ways to show it. 95 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by generalissimo(m): 8:53am On Nov 25, 2019 |
lereinter:To think that somebody like you will get married one day is scary. If you had not written this under the influence of weed, then, your mother needs a lot of prayers to do 50 Likes |
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