Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

the problem with most nigerians going abroad .they dnt do research on d country.jux want to jakpa nd hustle .most nigerians who are succeeding are d ones from family dt dnt give financial responsiblity pressure on them secindly they have parents who pray nd guard them thru the journey.which some poor illetrate /educated illetrate parents dnt do.
concerning op his problem is loneliness which is an issue for oyinbo socieety i read someway dt going to video gaming conference help or sport events do help in socializing . also to mingle with other african communities nd asia community before oyinbo

People keep saying benefit as if it's free. I pay for everything and nothing is for free. I can't wait for my investment to grow and I cash out. Yankee boring like hell. I pray never to be 45 years old here. Naija sweet when you have money but Yankee boring with or without money. I have money in my account and still hungry. Tired of eating junks and you be like F this place. Average Americans grow up to be independent and stay to themselves while average Nigerians grow up with people around. For example, I have Hulu live TV and I don't even enjoying watching premiership by myself while viewing centers for Bariga is an event to look forward to when home.... I tell a friend, by the time we 50 and we still here, we will be closer to suicide cos the older you get, the likely the loneliness get to you.

MufasaLion:
Yes, it might be lonely but however, you seem not to know what you want.

If you're in Nigeria, there are only few businesses you can do that will generate steady and good revenue for you but what about the quality of life and other basic things?

And as you're in Canada, there are things you definitely will benefit that those living in Banana Island can never benefit with their billions.

Everything in life has sacrifice and focus. Know what you want! This loneliness bla bla bla is stale. It's no more news. Stop the comparison and focus on positive things.

Lonely? Why not sponsor one of ur close relatives or friends to come , atleast u will see someone to talk to

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Some services are more easily accessible in Nigeria if you have money eg healthcare, mechanic. But in emergency healthcare or criminal situation, you are on your own in Nigeria. Loneliness? The cure to loneliness is to erase Nigeria from your mind and embrace your new life.

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Bksense:


LoL. Left Canada permanently two years ago. I'm currently there for a conference slated to end next week and can't even wait to leave already. I do wonder why people kill themselves to be here, but I can understand

are there no Nigerian communities in Canada? Also are Canadians so unfriendly? I also hear people complain of this loneliness, unlike people in other countries.

MufasaLion:


As I've said also, he lacks focus. He's the type that wants it all, which is not possible. He clearly don't know what he want. 3 years and you saved less than $20k. Nobody knows his job or living habit and he can't use his own life to judge things. Some save more than that while some don't. This life, you sleep on what you lay.

3 years and you don’t have $20k? You must be doing something wrong .
I am not yet 3 years but I already bought a home worth $765k at the Center of Ottawa with a monthly mortgage payment of about $4k.
Please reorder your priorities. I have tons of Canadian friends and I am happy with my new life. The only downside is just being the only black person amongst my Canadian friends and really have difficulties understanding Ice hockey and baseballs when we go out for game nights.
Please interact with your neighbourhood. I am yet to see people as friendly and interesting as Canadians.

All I know is, I have a friend that left Nigeria after covid to Canada and was able to deposit 90k CAD for a home. He saved that between 2020 and 2022. I don't know why you single man could not save such because my guy went with his wife. Focus and plan is d main thing here

These OP will always open threads like this so that foolish Nigerians who live abroad, bored to death with the miserable paths they've chosen will now open their rotten mouths to spew thrash and thrash.

gaby:
Human wants/needs are indeed insatiable.

Una go complain about Naija, complain about U.S., complain about U.K...so so complain.

Carry dem go heaven dem go still complain say the place too white or the angels clothes as dem depict am to us too bright...haba..

God, nature, and the universe abhors ingratitude and complains to no end.
Why would your savings not perpetually be hovering below the 20k mark when all you see and do is negatives?

Una no understand life and her workings.

You attract what you exhude...logic, but not a simple one to wrap an immature and inexperirnced mind around.

Whiners....

Make una get to work and mould your ideal country. We dey wait.

Integration, acclimatization, and adjustment are always foreign to you whiners and negativists.

NB
Are Nigerians the only people emigrating to the West?

Go to the US, Canada, and the UK to understand that Nigerians are learners in migration.

These other immigrants particularly the Indians and Latinos migrate in droves, set up businesses, and taking up much of the business spaces while helping each other grow and expand.

Buy our own na "I want be the only one to succeed so that every one go dey worship me and if I fail in that regards, I'd start canceling and discouraging emigration over unfounded half-truths".

The US for example was made by immigrants and slaves and is today a melting pot of every culture in the world because it is what it is.

There are enough jobs that they do not have citizens willing to do them and the immigrants of today whose home countries are nothing to write about are picking up these jobs with all pleasure and raking in fantastic earnings.

Sickening...

I love this.

Op, thanks for coming out.

They will never listen. If there is a place called suffering and smiling even when you have money, outside your base is it.

All the millionaires and billionaires run back home. Quality of life is where your social life is, not "good education" for your children that assume culture that turns against you. It is not even regular water and electricity that if you fail to pay for, turn those born and bred there homeless. It is not a place where they give you cold shoulder for no other reason than the color of your skin. It is not a place you work three times as hard and get half of what a regular job give an average Joe with less qualifications

But an average African has an insane inferiority complex. The more whites shiit in his face, the more he loves it and defend them.

It is too late for some, they cannot go back home and they cannot stay happy abroad.

Hmmmm all I see on this thread is hatred toward what OP shared. No tangible advise. Just the usual "Life is better in Canada than Naija". From reasoning, it's really better to nurture your pain yourself. Nigerian can't understand what OP us talking about. All they don't want to see is your snow picture to serve as a motivation for them to Japa too. And that's why Orion back home try as much to satisfy our cravings with pictures so we can know they're happy with the decision they make. An average Nigerian just want to see abroad pictures. We all have this inferiority complex, including myself.

Learn to stomach your suffering. No one cares.

Dem buku abroad. Happy and satisfied SLAVES.

Build your own contari, Dem no gree. Face your demon at home, Dem nor gree. Na soso worship Dem dey lick their ass. See how Dem dey dance for their preferred presidential candidates.

Which same people would have them as candidates while Godwin Maduka, Sowore and other activists waste away because they didn't have experience in looting.

gaby:
Human wants/needs are indeed insatiable.

Una go complain about Naija, complain about U.S., complain about U.K...so so complain.

Carry dem go heaven dem go still complain say the place too white or the angels clothes as dem depict am to us too bright...haba..

God, nature, and the universe abhors ingratitude and complains to no end.
Why would your savings not perpetually be hovering below the 20k mark when all you see and do is negatives?

Una no understand life and her workings.

You attract what you exhude...logic, but not a simple one to wrap an immature and inexperirnced mind around.

Whiners....

Make una get to work and mould your ideal country. We dey wait.

Integration, acclimatization, and adjustment are always foreign to you whiners and negativists.

NB
Are Nigerians the only people emigrating to the West?

Go to the US, Canada, and the UK to understand that Nigerians are learners in migration.

These other immigrants particularly the Indians and Latinos migrate in droves, set up businesses, and taking up much of the business spaces while helping each other grow and expand.

Buy our own na "I want be the only one to succeed so that every one go dey worship me and if I fail in that regards, I'd start canceling and discouraging emigration over unfounded half-truths".

The US for example was made by immigrants and slaves and is today a melting pot of every culture in the world because it is what it is.

There are enough jobs that they do not have citizens willing to do them and the immigrants of today whose home countries are nothing to write about are picking up these jobs with all pleasure and raking in fantastic earnings.

Sickening...

People like me wey introvert i go like that kind place..as long as am working,healthy and eating...my PUBG go do the rest..

Canada is an overrated shithole, most of this people crying Canada will be disappointed once they get there. I know Canada, life in Nigeria is far better than Canada take it or leave it, I don't need to convince you.

No country want u to take Kobo out of their economy talkless of $20k!. U don't travel abroad solely to go and safe money, they will not even allow you, that is how they designed their system. not like naija where someone can store billion of naira in his house. Presently, am in US with my family and I know what am saying. My brother, blend with people around you and enjoy ur life in Canada, any little amount you can safe, safe it. May God help us all.

Canada is a boring place generally!

Boredom can make you do suicide if you not strong!

Mancala:

One more thing, I sure hope that $20k you saved is not in cash sitting in a bank account. Invest that money in stocks, bonds, real estate, something. Learn how the average Canadian becomes successful in Canada and forget the way its done in Nigeria. Make that money work for you.

Saving your money in cash in this recession is the best, stocks has gone terribly bad since April 2022. Everything has crashed, many companies are laying off in drones. Real Estate is also dicey because $20k is too small to put in, except mortgage that runs to 35 years plus in Canada. So he needs consistent good salary to ensure that too. I don't know much about Bonds, so my verdict is please save your money in cash abeg.

Studymore123:


It's a fact that no 2 situations are the same. However it doesn't make sense to place your life in precarious situation. Some years ago I went for a conference and some Nigerians were begging us for money. Not that I was surprised, but people fail to make good plans and waste valuable part of their lives, living in fear and panic just because you want to live abroad.

just as you have seen Nigerians living abroad begging you for money is the same way I've seen Nigerians living abroad that are real life dollar millonaires with legitimate businesses.
I know a lot of them
Directors in white collar companies,
politicians
Business owners
Real estate magnates.
Tech guru
Doctors
Lawyers
Engineers


. ..stop the tunnel vision!

My cousin has been in Canada for a little over 3yrs and he is doing well.

How did I know? He has renovated his family house, he lives "alone" (i mean no room mate or whatsoever) he's sponsoring his siblings in school (both are in their finals) and this guy still sends money to me and my brothers.

Oga if your coworkers are still waiving your attempts to talk to them, it means you are not productive.

We all know how all these foreigners want to mingle with us if they see our productivity firsthand.

Oga open the next chapter

Bksense:


Everyone knows y'all are poor. Go to Reddit and Quora and see how they yab your country. So, next

Oga sir,ao dem dey yab ur country?No be pple like you cos ham?

I pray Op see this one to read. Just as someone said that he need to get his priorities right. My two brothers, both senior and junior are in Canada, they are doing very very very well. Right from the first day Op arrives Canada, he has already condition his mindset to failure. The loneliness excuse is just too childish.

tshtsh:

Been here 7 months now saving at least CAD2000 monthly with triple payment expected in December and some bonus early next year. I have a formula that works for me. I send CAD1,000 to Nigeria monthly (mostly for give away to family members), pay a rent of CAD2,100 monthly , live on CAD500 weekly and save CAD2,000 monthly in canada. I don't drive yet as I'm still in the process of getting a full driving license. When my girlfriend visited in the summer we had a fight over her constant inclination to ordering for Uber rides and food online. I had a formular that was working for me and wasn't ready to mess it all up. The subway, GoTrain and buses worked well for me.

My close friend calls me to complain about his wife who doesn't work but is constantly buying one thing or the other. She's always taking pictures + posting on TikTok and snap chat (LoL) while he is working for two software companies (one in US and the other in Canada). I didn't take him seriously until the last time they visited me. They called me to say they were 10 minutes away and I told them I was at the IKEA store near the house. He told me they'll meet me there as the wife wanted to buy something at IKEA. When they came I was done and seated at the small food court. I sat with my friend while his wife went into the store to buy some kitchen utensils. She later called him on the phone that she was done and he went to meet her at the cash point to make payment. To my surprise he came back enraged as she had bought items worth $962 which he had to pay. He was very angry telling me he will never go out with her again LOL. I didn't think it was nice to talk about his wife the way he did but as with everything in life it has it's good side and its down side. While they were in Nigeria he did all the spending and it is expected that he continues here. They are probably better off in Nigeria where he was able to take care of her needs (iphone, dinners, clothing here & there) as opposed to Toronto where there are big malls and shopping centers all over the place with more things to do

CoronaVirusRelo:
Canada is a boring place generally!

Boredom can make you do suicide if you not strong!

,Hav u gøne dia b4?

Celepope:

If the OP ready he should hit me up make we show am as e dey go for West Houston. Don’t worry you will have free accommodation. That aside, I have very bad reservations about Canada. Only those that have gone there can tell the story. Many of them cannot even afford tickets to travel within the so called Canada.

Lol. You mean to tell me many of them cannot afford around $250 to $400. Naxo dem broke reach or you just de lie to hype where you live?

Eeh

God bless you for this outstanding input. You didn't have to bring anyone down or make assumptions to prove a point......Infact 2 cartons of orange juice for you

Yankee101:
A human is not fulfilled by money. If you tell a poor man he won’t understand, but ask a rich person and they will tell you the truth.

Quality relationships are the key and it begins with your relationship with God.

MufasaLion:
Yes, it might be lonely but however, you seem not to know what you want.

If you're in Nigeria, there are only few businesses you can do that will generate steady and good revenue for you but what about the quality of life and other basic things?

And as you're in Canada, there are things you definitely will benefit that those living in Banana Island can never benefit with their billions.

Everything in life has sacrifice and focus. Know what you want! This loneliness bla bla bla is stale. It's no more news. Stop the comparison and focus on positive things.

You won't understand until you experience it.

That's probably why it still sounds like bla bla bla to you.

Actively forcing yourself into every nigerian community or becoming friends with every Nigerian you meet is not something I will advise. The ills outweigh the benefits...enough said

Richy4:

I have been in such situations and I know what OP is saying... But this is not friendship.. it more like an acquaintance.. It's about people that shares the same interest..

I used to get invites those days for nite out by colleagues..We might not be friends but we know each other because we work at the same place...

In terms of church activities, a lot of members do celebrate birthdays.. birthdays are big deal in many oyibo land no matter how poor or rich you are ,.. Is OP willing to attend birthdays? One needs to make an effort before one will be socially included... take the first step by joining and see what happens...

OP said he has been in Canada for 3 yrs...So within that space of three years, he has never ran into any Nigerian?.. If he has,Did he ask him or her if he was a member of Nigerian association? Did he ask where they usually hold their monthly meetings?... even If that individual is not a member, I believe he might make an effort to help OP locate who is a member... I don't think OP is making an effort at all...

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

Your experience is not applicable to everyone. At least not for me or my brother or the few Nigerian friends I know here

I came into Canada over 7 years ago for my PhD programe.

Today I am a citizen, have a good job and wonderful colleagues. I am the only black guy in the office team.

I have a few friends here in my city that I connect with.

Nothing missing, No regrets in any way.

All I need God has provided by his MERCY.
I thank him everytime.

If you are an introvert, you will navigate well here because the system is a kind of mind your business system, however you will still meet a few Canadians who go out of their way to relate with you and strike a conversation. If you are an extrovert, it may be a frustrating time for you except you make new type of friends that love to relate with people and go out too..then you may not feel the impact of loneliness.

Hmmm, imagine coming from from warm communal living to sheer individualism with no Amala buka in sight. Moments of utter annoyance

xandy84:
People keep saying benefit as if it's free. I pay for everything and nothing is for free. I can't wait for my investment to grow and I cash out. Yankee boring like hell. I pray never to be 45 years old here. Naija sweet when you have money but Yankee boring with or without money. I have money in my account and still hungry. Tired of eating junks and you be like F this place. Average Americans grow up to be independent and stay to themselves while average Nigerians grow up with people around. For example, I have Hulu live TV and I don't even enjoying watching premiership by myself while viewing centers for Bariga is an event to look forward to when home.... I tell a friend, by the time we 50 and we still here, we will be closer to suicide cos the older you get, the likely the loneliness get to you.

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

Oga Nigeria na hell fire abeg last time i went to abuja people starting singing praises as we arrived safely by 9pm

imagine i do not even know that everybody was concerned about being kidnapped as i am!

It's annoying to be sincere. Now I know the reason Nigerian politicians only enter UK. 6 hours to UK and you're back home living large. US and Canada is individualist countries. Even with wife and kids, you're still bored. An ideal situation is to make money here, start something sustainable for Naija and leave like late 40's, early 50's. Yankee does not know old people. 40 per cent of Americans can't retire, they will work till death. It's common to see 70 years old still working at Walmart...

Childofthelord:
Hmmm, imagine coming from from warm communal living to sheer individualism with no Amala buka in sight. Moments of utter annoyance

Aareona:
Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.

No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine

Many of those quoting you will not understand because just like you before you arrived in Canada, you used to have thesame feelings.

But to me, I fully understand what you are talking about, depression in all these developed countries is out of this world. Life is just too boring around here, back home, the only issue is lack of money but in Canada and many of those western countries, it's lack of so many things, frustrations here and there.

To me, the best way to reduce the pressure is traveling home at least once in every 2 years irrespective of the cost implications, that recharges and revitalizes me, this place is not somewhere any reasonable Nigerian should plan to live for ever I swear.

May God help and change our country for good. No place like Naija.

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