efficiencie:


It is a case of parenting. Many parents today are immature, childish and themselves also need training. Religious institutions ought to step in a correct this social milieu or else it will be the end of this generation. Virginity needs to be brought back to the center of marriages and intimate relationships. Religious institutions need to start emphasizing it as a requirement for weddings. We need to stop liberalizing everything and understand that there are some rules that should not be broken because when they are broken the consequences could be catastrophic. Imagine a 16 year old going for family planning. Complete madness. If that girl was informed that the moment she loses her virginity her chances of getting married would fall from 95% to 5% she will discipline herself and keep her sexual purity. This would also completely eliminate the incidence of "side-chicry". Imagine the stupid mother. Like mother like daughter. She has passed ancestral/generational curse to her daughter and now she is seeking family planning for a 16 year old.

You might be right. But the situation today is dire. I know a pastor whose daughter pretends to be sexually pure but highly experienced. The parents did their utmost best to rein her in. But rebellion was going on above their nose. The bottomline is that enforcement of chastity before marriage might drive the marriage institution aground as nobody may come to wed and they would still go and cohabit in the name of marriage. Rebellion is real. The more strict a parent is, the worse the underground activities. The mother was not morally right in sending a 16 year old to family planning. But before blaming her, it's necessary to inquire if she had tried all controls and failed. Children of today get exposed easily. You would think you are on top of it but may not know what's going on behind you. We need God and prayers to guide them. Enforcement of purity is possible and attainable only with God. If we are not careful with stringent rules it might backfire.

efficiencie:


This is the same liberalism that is tearing the US apart socially. The US is now a place where children as young as 2 can start receiving life-altering gender treatment. The US is now a place where children are taught sexually explicit materials and exposed to drag shows etc. The US is now a country of social confusion where they no longer know what a woman. This shit is what we are importing to the country. A 16 year old is sexually active yet she is completely bereft of what it takes to be a wife, a mother and a fulfilled woman. This is how we systematically reduce women to mere meat meant for sexual pleasure alone and after they have wrecked their lives they expect a man who has labored all his life to rise to the top to become their husband. Arrant nonsense. The parent of that 16 year old need to be punished for their stupidity and neglect and religious institutions need to return to making virginity a criteria for holy matrimony. They call it "holy matrimony" yet they wed couples that have had sex with countless other people before. How is that "holy" matrimony? That is why this 16 year old can be sexually active because afterall there is no immediate marital consequence to premarital sex.

16 is the legal age for consensual sex in most countries including the US. This is a pragmatic step by the mother. All too often we rely on prayer and faith when a practical solution exists. Kids are exposed to so much more now. The mum knows the girl is sexually active and this is the best solution so she does not repeat the same cycle. Peace

efficiencie:


Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy t This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

Sorry brother, you're totally wrong. Give advise to a young girl from now till eternity, she will still have sex and unprotected one. I have teenages coming to my backyard to have sex, I do chase them and counsel them, last week, I was going to my poultry, I saw unknown guy standing at my free water tap, I ask do you want to fetch water ne replied nay! I move forward and saw my teenager neighbor dressing up to her uniform, she have been having sex and didn't go to school and dressing up to make it look she is coming from school, dey had sex elsewhere but came here to change. The Mum has begged me to help take care of the daughter, I can't because many things are involved with her mum herself. Just pray not to have an evil child.

You have said it all

efficiencie:


Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy test but they will not ask if the couples, especially the lady is sexually pure as a precondition for the solemnization of a marriage. Then when the couples start having sexually related issues in their marriage they will start rubbishing the marriage institution instead of calling out the fools that joined two misfits in an unholy matrimony. If every clergyman and every family enforced the virginity of ladies before marriage, this foolish mother will not allow her daughter have sex before marriage let alone going as far as recommending family planning for an underage girl and even the girl will never try any sexual nonsense knowing fully well she would be jeopardizing her chances of getting married. This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

efficiencie:


Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy test but they will not ask if the couples, especially the lady is sexually pure as a precondition for the solemnization of a marriage. Then when the couples start having sexually related issues in their marriage they will start rubbishing the marriage institution instead of calling out the fools that joined two misfits in an unholy matrimony. If every clergyman and every family enforced the virginity of ladies before marriage, this foolish mother will not allow her daughter have sex before marriage let alone going as far as recommending family planning for an underage girl and even the girl will never try any sexual nonsense knowing fully well she would be jeopardizing her chances of getting married. This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

Did you not read on this here app when a pastor cancelled a wedding because they fingered?

Did you commend him or you threw a blind eye to that? Even so a lot of people bashed the pastor for taking that bold step

We live in a dysfunctional system and perilous times and I must say the church is trying to uphold what good is left in this world

The mom did very well. This era it's good you don't hide whatever information that may help your child. I recommend all moms do same, that way the society will have less unwanted pregnancies and stigmas from unwanted pregnancies. And abortions that claim thousands of lives annually will drastically reduce.

Mindlog:


What makes you even think every female wants to get married? So don't dangle marriage as a "reward" for keeping her virginity.

What would reduce the incidence of "side-chicry" is when more heterosexual men decides to stay faithful to their girlfriends/wives.

I like the way you think. �

Shadysen:
stop all this guiding, bros, any girl i said any girl that want to spoil will surely spoilt, are you going to guide her when she go to sch, market, errands, church, ect......you can only advice her in a best possible way but you can't guide throughout. There is one currently now on my street that made her dad cried,after that man bought everything preparing for her sch, boom! belle pops up, four months, after all the advice, beatings, threating. it only GOD can help us.

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The reason why they should have educated her on sex and the necessary things she needs to do. Slapping her at that point in time is just so wrong.

WillyCassey:


I like the way you think. �

To prevent accidental discharge





Lalasticlala I dash you this babe, take her home, make she dey help madam wash plates for house

efficiencie:


Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy test but they will not ask if the couples, especially the lady is sexually pure as a precondition for the solemnization of a marriage. Then when the couples start having sexually related issues in their marriage they will start rubbishing the marriage institution instead of calling out the fools that joined two misfits in an unholy matrimony. If every clergyman and every family enforced the virginity of ladies before marriage, this foolish mother will not allow her daughter have sex before marriage let alone going as far as recommending family planning for an underage girl and even the girl will never try any sexual nonsense knowing fully well she would be jeopardizing her chances of getting married. This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

Church marriage is a white man traditional marriage.
Engagement is out trad and that is what God recognise for Africans, and court is what the law requires. Don't carry church marriage for head it's just a blessing/thanksgiving, it is not compulsory.

Any child that wants to spoil will spoil, just pray to have good kids.

It's really worrisome to see a teenager being referred to a family planning facility. Actually, the immorality of this generation around sex and sexuality has gone haywire. This trajectory portends gloomy tendencies if not controlled appropriately.

efficiencie:


Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy test but they will not ask if the couples, especially the lady is sexually pure as a precondition for the solemnization of a marriage. Then when the couples start having sexually related issues in their marriage they will start rubbishing the marriage institution instead of calling out the fools that joined two misfits in an unholy matrimony. If every clergyman and every family enforced the virginity of ladies before marriage, this foolish mother will not allow her daughter have sex before marriage let alone going as far as recommending family planning for an underage girl and even the girl will never try any sexual nonsense knowing fully well she would be jeopardizing her chances of getting married. This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

The church is not a judge, God almighty is.

Don't arrogate God's responsibilities to the church.

If Churches start doing what you ask for, nobody will be qualified to wed in the church.

Please let God be the judge.

Religious institutions

This institution has ruined many young girls. Pastors, reverend fathers, choirmaster etc.

So parents should try their best, the gud n bad of their children re mostly received by them first before others

MeghaneMorgane:
I stay in a shared appartment. I have a roommate who is 18yrs old. This is the second boy I’m seeing in a space of one month coming to sleep with her. Even though they try to be quiet, I still hear them because the walls are thin. I’m 26 and have never had sexual intercourse. The world has spoiled.

By the way, I can’t wait to move out of the house. But I’m waiting for my fiancé to arrive in my city so that we can move it together . I don’t want to be alone when I move out.

Wow, keep it up sis. I'm 23 too,and wish to finally get married one day, to a virgin like me.

Non-vigins disgusts me to be honest. Especially the so-called woke ones.

1Sharon:


How will being on contraceptives ruin her future?

Mumu

Your ignorance is indeed VERY LOUD ...

Go read some books on contraceptives and then maybe we'd have a conversation ...

Until then...
Enjoy the bliss that comes with ignorance ...

Good day!

LordErrk:


So according to you, the world is spoilt because an 18 yr old, who is an adult, is having sex and enjoying her life...but you a 26 yr old adult virgin hasn't had sex.
Is like head is paining you. Ya'll carry this virginity of a thing on your head, as if it's worth anything. Lol

Yen yen yen. Always talking trash about virgins, and secretly wish to marry one.

mmadu5:
I love young sweet punna I miss the smell of young fresh punnna. Hmmm

So many demented slowpoke pedophiles on this forum

Fahvvy:


A woman who had ALL her children out of wedlock CANNOT be a good mother, what exactly will she teach her children? ...

Can she be a good role model to her daughter's - Chasity wise?? ....

Can she boldly tell her kids that they shouldn't engage in premarital se.x? ...

And I wouldn't be surprised if she's a single mother, na their way be that ...

Because they wouldn't be a masculine figure in that girls life and this shit is happening ...

Like a 16year old will look at the masculine figure in her life (father) and say "I want to attend my boyfriend's father's birthday", them no born am well! ...

And the mother is saying she doesn't want the same for her child, if she really mean that, then she ought be have closed her legs and not have ALL her children out of wedlock...

She ought to have shunned her daughter from ANY intimate relationship with ANYONE,but no!!

She's allowing someone who isn't an adult to take decisions that could potentially ruin her future - what a mother! ....

Too much liberalism have brought us to this point...

Someone who don't know what it means to be a wife or mother is potentially busy having se.x upandan ...

Someone who can't even wipe her own as.s properly is allowed to jump from one Pole to the other ...

Someone who can't even take care of herself is given a leeway to start sleeping around ...

And yet the woman is saying "I don't want the same for my daughter", mtttttwwwwwwwww ...

Make she just prepare for history to repeat itself... An overwhelming number of children of single.mothers end up become single mothers themselves - numbers don't lie, make we dey wait ....

You are absolutely right. Slay mother and daughter. Infact in developed countries that they claimed to copy. Making a teen under 18 passing through such is considered illegal. Giving a 16year old pass for sexual activity should have been frown at by the Clinic except if the teen is being referred through medical condition.

Don't be surprised, the mother might be the one pimping her out.

This matter is delicate, but the answer to it is simple. The root solution is to imbibe the fear of God in them from their crawling days.

I know of a boy born in 2009. Whenever he lies, his mom reminds him of what Allah said about the liars in the Qur'an and he starts crying � and begging his mom to help him seek forgiveness. His mum would say you need to seek forgiveness yourself then he does ablution start praying and making funny prayer points. If he doesn't want to pray, his mom reminds him of what was said about people who don't pray and he runs after us to the Masjid.

In addition, She does a lot of Positive reinforcement. For instance, she might say you are a good boy, right? Good boys don't play rough and he would stay quiet. She asks him his role model and gets him to imitate his role model after watching him on YouTube.

The outcome of all of that is wonderful. This boy is so modest, shy, upright. I pray God continues to guide him. I know all that seemed Islamic but I believe it can work with other beliefs too.

My point is - Inculcating the dear of God in children goes a long way.

That is not the fear of god that is emotional abuse on the child

ahnie:
Nice one

Good morning beautiful

How are you doing

Been awhile o

Sorry say I entered you and it got to you

Really sorry, took it as a joke not something personally..sorry

efficiencie:


Madness. I blame the churches and families that accept to make wives out of hoes. They will ask for genotype, blood group test and pregnancy test but they will not ask if the couples, especially the lady is sexually pure as a precondition for the solemnization of a marriage. Then when the couples start having sexually related issues in their marriage they will start rubbishing the marriage institution instead of calling out the fools that joined two misfits in an unholy matrimony. If every clergyman and every family enforced the virginity of ladies before marriage, this foolish mother will not allow her daughter have sex before marriage let alone going as far as recommending family planning for an underage girl and even the girl will never try any sexual nonsense knowing fully well she would be jeopardizing her chances of getting married. This will elevate the punishment for rape to capital punishment and will make rape victims easily prove their case.

Why coming out here to expose your ignorance, does church contract marriage in Nigeria?,in case you don't know,church only CELEBRATE marriage (a marriage MUST have existed before the celebration).
There are two laws that guides marriage in Nigeria, the custom and the Act,it is because of this reason that no pastor or church will CELEBRATE your marriage on realising that you have not contract it either by the custom or the Act.

eyinjuege:
She did the right thing.
Better prevent a pregnancy than looking to abort later.
Whether you like it or not, regardless of the restrictions you put in place, when teenagers decide to start engaging in sex, there's nothing anyone can do about it. Beat them, starve them, they will still do what they want to do .
So why not educate them on the various STIs out there and the need for wearing condoms, and also using contraceptives?
You have to choose your poison wisely.
Abstinence has been preached since the day our forefathers landed on this earth, but it has never stopped teenagers having sex or unwanted pregnancies. That approach is obviously not working

whats the point of preventing pregnancy through child planning.

BABANGBALI:
To prevent accidental discharge

Lalasticlala I dash you this babe, take her home, make she dey help madam wash plates for house

where can i find this young girl

She is likely to have her kids out of wedlock as well . It is a general pattern. Action of mother would make it happen faster. If she is lucky to get married, she might end up being divorced. Using wrong approach to solve societal ill would just make thing worse.

eyinjuege:
She did the right thing.
Better prevent a pregnancy than looking to abort later.
Whether you like it or not, regardless of the restrictions you put in place, when teenagers decide to start engaging in sex, there's nothing anyone can do about it. Beat them, starve them, they will still do what they want to do .
So why not educate them on the various STIs out there and the need for wearing condoms, and also using contraceptives?
You have to choose your poison wisely.
Abstinence has been preached since the day our forefathers landed on this earth, but it has never stopped teenagers having sex or unwanted pregnancies. That approach is obviously not working

Abstinence is the best. That is godly approach. Worldly approach is the root of decay in society as most criminals are products of unstable families. Most of children borne out of wedlock are nuisance to society.

GboyegaD:
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The reason why they should have educated her on sex and the necessary things she needs to do. Slapping her at that point in time is just so wrong.

girls of nowadays are terrible
come and see them in ph
money has taken over their heads
you can get them as you want
as long as you have a little cash

Will the family planning prevent her from being infected?
Some women still get pregnant with an active family planning method.

MufasaLion:


Ewww

You perverted pedophile!

I don't trust you