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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Toneyo: 9:38pm On Dec 12, 2022

You are not ready yet. When you are ready to know your root or your dad you will act. You're old enough to pressure your mom.

A 19 years old I know, threatened his mom with a cutlass. It didn't take 48hrs for her to locate his dad. Till today he lives with his.

If eventually you find your dad, don't be surprised if you hear a different story. Some women are good in telling grave lies or twisting stories.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by happney65: 9:39pm On Dec 12, 2022

Your Dad is an akudaya that's the reason why your mum does not want you to know

I don talk my own.. grin

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Exceed15: 9:39pm On Dec 12, 2022

Obviously your mom never wanted you to know your father and probably took you far away so he can't have access to you, for those saying your father didn't look for u .

May be he is a gentle easy going fellow who doesn't believe on unnecessary drama from women and because he knew you are NOT a bastard and that someday you would look for him.
Man up and do investigation on his whereabout. Don't expect your mom to give you any clue. Happy finding dude.

Note: For those women who use children to punish men , know that no matter what u do , the child will hunt a Search for his/her father someday else there will be no peace.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by balarabe01(m): 9:40pm On Dec 12, 2022

Sorry about your dilemma, Go to your mothers village ask of 2elders from her side and make enquiries about your dad and his people, save the info and go looking for your useless father(useless for not looking for you for decades).
Note:dont tell mother your and if she knows aggressively refute her and smoke some sticks to send a warning.
Your father will definitely disappoint you.i watched such a documentary on aljazeera. The ending is usually boring.
You could as well be a product of a torn condom.
Sorry

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Henrikjay: 9:40pm On Dec 12, 2022

Prechgold1180:
I m 70 %. Sure it’s bcus of my elder bro death

Till date some people still addresses her with mama Junior
That’s my elder bro name
Some time Dey miss the name and address me as junior

She got angry that your dad couldn't provide the money for medicine to treat junior of the malaria that lead to junior death ... Meaning your dad has no money and was poor and your mother quiet know your dad was poor without money before she got married to him and had 2 kids while knowing her husband has no money. ..so my point your mother left cause she already have and meeting a man outside which she got married to and have 4 of your siblings for .. And junior death was a perfect excuse for her .. And that was the same reason the man ur step father accept your and her cause he was the one that told your mom out of your father's life ...go and find out about this ...

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by PureNigerian: 9:40pm On Dec 12, 2022

EricSmallz:
Cars, Lands and Houses. Wow, how old are you?

You don't know how to read

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Exceed15: 9:41pm On Dec 12, 2022

Offpointng:
Remain like that bro. You're empty doesn't mean you're not happy cuz statistical study makes us believe Relatives from the father's side are close to very useless. but Ion know your full story sha, but Papa wey no look for you all these years till you turn 25, what gives you the assurance he'll care or give a F about you?

Proof of your statistics please?

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Frontend: 9:42pm On Dec 12, 2022

Who tell lies pass nairaland nobody even politicians dey learn

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Exceed15: 9:42pm On Dec 12, 2022

Mleeperbother:
Wetin u wan use your father do? 4get about the guy.

I see emptiness.

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by silibaba: 9:42pm On Dec 12, 2022

Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues

My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

Go find your dad ASAP son.

Don't ever believe all that your mom told you about him.

Hear your dad side of the story and reconcile with him.

For your mom to remarry sharp sharp speaks volume.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by ekanx27(m): 9:43pm On Dec 12, 2022

Check who you resemble between Mike Adenuga, Tony Elumelu, Adelekes, Femi Otedola, Buhari, Atiku and Tinubu. Convince your mom to say She bore you out of wedlock for him. Don't agree for any DNA test, take a chill Hollandia drink and watch how you would have overcome poverty overnight.

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Atlantis585: 9:44pm On Dec 12, 2022

Ask your mom not Nairalanders.

Seems like she is an evil vindictive mother to have kept you away from your father and your root.

Whatever problems she had with your dad has nothing to do with you - unless she played away match to conceive you and got chased away by your dad and his family

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(op): 9:46pm On Dec 12, 2022

Henrikjay:
She got angry that your dad couldn't provide the money for medicine to treat junior of the malaria that lead to junior death ... Meaning your dad has no money and was poor and your mother quiet know your dad was poor without money before she got married to him and had 2 kids while knowing her husband has no money. ..so my point your mother left cause she already have and meeting a man outside which she got married to and have 4 of your siblings for .. And junior death was a perfect excuse for her .. And that was the same reason the man ur step father accept your and her cause he was the one that told your mom out of your father's life ...go and find out about this ...

More like there is sense in what you saying

But my step dad treated me so bad
I almost died more reason I won’t allow any woman take my child to whatever place

My life has been hell right from childhood
I left his house traveled to a different city when I was 16
From there God has been helping me
Mumsi has also been helping
I am no longer a boy

Lot of things has changed for good

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by customstreet: 9:48pm On Dec 12, 2022

Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues

My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

My brother, there is no smoke without fire . For your mummy to have behaved like that, there is more to it. I had an experience like that for a woman that got a child for me. Though, she claimed that I was the father, but I started doubting her because of the way she hates me to a large extend. This hatred made me to conduct a DNA test. To say the most, the result showed I was not the biological father. This lady till today still says I am the biological father, but her hatred toward me is second to none.

Please look at your mummy hatred toward your daddy and examine why a man can abandoned a child without looking back. There is more to it than what your mummy was telling you going by my own experience

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by adecz: 9:48pm On Dec 12, 2022

Nigeria is a patrilineal society, for good
or bad, your mum owes it as a personal duty
to know who your father is . She
shouldn't transfer her hatred for him
unto you.

If she dies today ( God forbid) you are
doomed for life, because you don't
know your root, and insults will come
from your step siblings later on.

Report her to her own siblings
Make she park well. ☹️☹️☹️☹️

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by greggng: 9:49pm On Dec 12, 2022

Prechgold1180:
I grew up
Knowing just my step dad family
Mum family is scattered

Your mom family is scathered . Does she has a family? If yes ...does she has a village , town or community where she come from? Don't tell us your mother doesn't come from a village , town or community in a particular state..That is the best way to conduct your investigation. When you are ready you will find your dad . Even if your mom brothers or sisters are scathered ...that should nt prevent you from knowing where they are . Go to your maternal home ...you will find someone that will tell you the truth

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Munzy14(m): 9:49pm On Dec 12, 2022

iammee:
I don't know him. That's not how to know someone. I blame myself everyday for reaching out to him. He's a complete disappointment

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Chee59(f): 9:50pm On Dec 12, 2022

When you stare into the dark, the dark stares right back at you.
The matter of divorce or separation is deeply rooted. There's no clear cut reason most times, be careful with your search, so you don't break your own heart even further.
Have you considered the fact that your dad knows you exist but has never made a move, not even sent someone, to see you behind your mother's back?
If he wants to meet with you, he has had 24 years and a million ways to plan your meetup.

Like I said, don't break your heart even further.

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Exceed15: 9:51pm On Dec 12, 2022

DIVAD2000:
What if the mum prevented the son from getting to his dad?

Wise comments. I pity men who fight & go to court to get child/children custody. If she wants to deny you access to them , leave her and focus on your life . It's better for the child to see you tomorrow and be proud of u than spend all productive years tormenting yourself to see your kid(s).

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Justbehave(m): 9:52pm On Dec 12, 2022

Chee59:
When you stare into the dark, the dark stares right back at you.
The matter of divorce or separation is deeply rooted. There's no clear cut reason most times, be careful with your search, so you don't break your own heart even further.
Have you considered the fact that your dad knows you exist but has never made a move, not even sent someone, to see you behind your mother's back?
If he wants to meet with you, he has had 24 years and a million ways to plan your meetup.

Like I said, don't break your heart even further.

Only women think like this.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by KanuSE: 9:52pm On Dec 12, 2022

EricSmallz:
Cars, Lands and Houses. Wow, how old are you?

Na audio.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by feed70: 9:53pm On Dec 12, 2022

Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues

My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

look around ask questions u will seek what ur looking for? Is obvious ur mom knows where he stays!! Or his village please try and look for him it’s very important.. just know this in life no body is perfect bro so ur mum can be wrong also

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Nobody: 9:55pm On Dec 12, 2022

Sue her to court let the court compel her to go show you who your father is.

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by KanuSE: 9:55pm On Dec 12, 2022

Chee59:
When you stare into the dark, the dark stares right back at you.
The matter of divorce or separation is deeply rooted. There's no clear cut reason most times, be careful with your search, so you don't break your own heart even further.
Have you considered the fact that your dad knows you exist but has never made a move, not even sent someone, to see you behind your mother's back?
If he wants to meet with you, he has had 24 years and a million ways to plan your meetup.

Like I said, don't break your heart even further.

I wonder how you're able to relate except you're in a similar situation.

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by karmaolu1(m): 9:55pm On Dec 12, 2022

Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues

My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

May God assist you in locating your dad.

Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Qatar2022: 9:55pm On Dec 12, 2022

Offpointng:
Remain like that bro. You're empty doesn't mean you're not happy cuz statistical study makes us believe Relatives from the father's side are close to very useless. but Ion know your full story sha, but Papa wey no look for you all these years till you turn 25, what gives you the assurance he'll care or give a F about you?

Never take advice from this kind person they will lead you to fire

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by onlinestaff2020: 9:56pm On Dec 12, 2022

Offpointng:
Remain like that bro. You're empty doesn't mean you're not happy cuz statistical study makes us believe Relatives from the father's side are close to very useless. but Ion know your full story sha, but Papa wey no look for you all these years till you turn 25, what gives you the assurance he'll care or give a F about you?

You are mad and a bastard for discouraging him.

Op, make sure you search for your fathet even though that's the last thing you can achieve in life.

Your mom might have led to his departure, that's the way most women are and they will poison children's mind against their dad.

Blood is thicker than water!

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Justbehave(m): 9:56pm On Dec 12, 2022

KanuSE:
I wonder how you're able to relate except you're in a similar situation.

You dey mind all these bitter women here?

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by olasmade: 9:56pm On Dec 12, 2022

Don’t hold a grudge until you hold a conversation. There are two sides to a coin and trust me I am talking from experience.

Offpointng:
Remain like that bro. You're empty doesn't mean you're not happy cuz statistical study makes us believe Relatives from the father's side are close to very useless. but Ion know your full story sha, but Papa wey no look for you all these years till you turn 25, what gives you the assurance he'll care or give a F about you?

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