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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by compton11(m): 9:04pm On Dec 12, 2022
Go to your mama family,tell them to help u talk to her
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by delpee(f): 9:04pm On Dec 12, 2022
Express your feelings to your maternal grandparents or a close Uncle/Aunty. You can't judge your mum for her attitude but you need to solve your problem.

I know someone who got to know his dad through his grandfather. His dad was invited to his grandpas house without the knowledge of his mum initially. A close Aunt joined them to give his mum's perspective of their issue so he could explain to his son and seek his forgiveness. They're all happy about the reconciliation. Both families turned up at his wedding like a big happy family and he's now close to his dad.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by moshino(m): 9:07pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

You're a graduate, you own lands, houses and cars, very good. Since you can't get your mum to show you your biological father, why haven't you hired a private investigator to find your dad.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by IamtheTruth1(m): 9:08pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

25yrs and you still can't manup and ask your Mom?

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by timelessaproko(f): 9:09pm On Dec 12, 2022
In my opinion is not really necessary, what if you know him and he don't care about you.

When just push to know but if he careless don't just kill yourself...most people are selfish here on planet � earth.



Buhari4sale:
Bro, try to reach out to your mom's friends. Interrogate them and use your wisdom to get what you want. Try to ask your mom some questions too.. At this point, don't expect your mom to show you where your father come from.. Just look for a way to find out who your father is.

Go to people within your family and family friends... Explain how you feel to some of them, im sure one of them will be reasonable enough to give you a clue.

You are a man, So deal with your mom as if you are in your father's shoe
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by laughitall(m): 9:09pm On Dec 12, 2022
VeryWickedMan:


My son I'm your Dad. Send me money if you want to see me.
very wicked man ..lol

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by nlreserve: 9:10pm On Dec 12, 2022
You are doing your NYSC and u already wealthy? Hmmmm! Na lamba be this story wey u tell us abi Na yahoo u dey do? Tell us make we learn abeg

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(m): 9:10pm On Dec 12, 2022
delpee:
Express your feelings to your maternal grandparents or a close Uncle/Aunty.

Lol I barely know my mum’s mother

She is based in Europe
All my life she has only visited Nigeria twice

Currently she is in Europe now

My mums dad is dead
Died last year
My uncle are scattered
The only one I can meet is very bitter
If u know what I mean
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Artzdanielsz(m): 9:10pm On Dec 12, 2022
Marriage is for better and for worst and your mum Japa on the first sight of poverty just like our current slay queens.Yoir mum will be queen of slayer if she is in this generation.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by meobizy(f): 9:11pm On Dec 12, 2022
You have a father. He’s the father of your mother. Now go and live without sin.

I have always said Nairalanders are bastards. That is why you children freely throw insults without care at people old enough to birth you.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(m): 9:11pm On Dec 12, 2022
nlreserve:
You are doing your NYSC and u already wealthy? Hmmmm! Na lamba be this story wey u tell us abi Na yahoo u dey do? Tell us make we learn abeg

Smile
I made a lot of money before going back to sch

Had a lot before now

Well no point to prove if u think it’s fake
That’s your problem

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by delpee(f): 9:12pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:


Lol I barely know my mum’s mother

She is based in Europe
All my life she has only visited Nigeria twice

Currently she is in Europe now

My mums dad is dead
Died last year
My uncle are scattered
The only one I can meet is very bitter
If u know what I mean

Aww! I empathize with you on that. How about your mum's close childhood friends? Hopefully, someone can persuade her to reason along with you.

Her cousins? Someone has to help you if she's not interested.
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by wiseone28: 9:13pm On Dec 12, 2022
I know your dad, he was my friend back in school 25yrs ago
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Chetas81(m): 9:13pm On Dec 12, 2022
IN TODAY'S NIGERIA PLS WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE FROM THIS MANY NIGERIA FATHER'S DON'T HELP THEIR CHILDREN TO KNOW THE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS WHICH IS THE LIFE AND DEATH
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by GistFullGround: 9:14pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them





She has to tell you where you come from, abi she be witch? It doesn't matter what she went through; Papa na Papa!

You yourself said it that your father was not buoyant... You have to be forceful because if your mom dies anytime, you can be lost forever.

She has to tell you or show you your origin. By the way, is she an illiterate?

I just dey vex, did she not remarry? Your siblings know their root, while you don't, when you are not a bastard.

Abegi change am for her. I believe she go fear!

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by confydoedowaye(m): 9:14pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

Ur mum is evil for denying you the right to know ur dad.
She is pure wicked. Go the hard way. She must show u ur dad...

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(m): 9:14pm On Dec 12, 2022
IamtheTruth1:


25yrs and you still can't manup and ask your Mom?

Bro I am not always in her city

Seeing my mom take much effort
Like she is extremely busy with business and all

Anytime I bring up the topic on phone
She tries to shoos

This is the first time I am planning to ask her face to face

I know it won’t be easy
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by wiseone28: 9:15pm On Dec 12, 2022
VeryWickedMan:

My son I'm your Dad. Send me money if you want to see me.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Benwallt(m): 9:16pm On Dec 12, 2022
Put the blame on your mother. You haven't done a thing wrong. If you care so much about knowing your father take your mum inside and threaten her to show you. You are already a man, their is nothing he can do for you now that you can't do for yourself but you deserve to get a glimpse of him. God will help you

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by LOVEGINO(m): 9:17pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them
ask ur mama very well. Dem born u out of wedlock my guy.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(m): 9:17pm On Dec 12, 2022
delpee:


Aww! I empathize with you on that. How about your mum's close childhood friends? Hopefully, someone can persuade her to reason along with you.

Her cousins? Someone has to help you if she's not interested.

I grew up
Knowing just my step dad family
Mum family is scattered
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(m): 9:18pm On Dec 12, 2022
LOVEGINO:
ask ur mama very well. Dem born u out of wedlock my guy.

No bro
She marry am normal old day wedding
I still get some old pictures for head when everything new fresh

Omo the thing tire me
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by TenQ: 9:18pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them
Apply wisdom, your help will come not from your mum but your mum's cousins and family member. Visit one of them ask for an old Album then begin to ask indirect questions with with sense o!

You can even ask the children of your mum's Siblings: they can get the information for you. But you have to be smart about it. You don't want an aunty that will carry phone to call your mother asking why bomboy is asking such questions!
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Umunze1stSon(m): 9:18pm On Dec 12, 2022
VeryWickedMan:

My son I'm your Dad. Send me money if you want to see me.
Lol! Werey.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by DIVAD2000: 9:18pm On Dec 12, 2022
Offpointng:
Remain like that bro. You're empty doesn't mean you're not happy cuz statistical study makes us believe Relatives from the father's side are close to very useless. but Ion know your full story sha, but Papa wey no look for you all these years till you turn 25, what gives you the assurance he'll care or give a F about you?

What if he( the father) has been looking for him, but his mum prevented him from finding him

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Henrikjay: 9:19pm On Dec 12, 2022
Prechgold1180:
Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them


Go and meet some of your mother sister's and brothers if she has any still alive , Explain to them your intentions of knowing your dad. ... I am not too sure the story your mom told you about the reason she left your dad is true ... I dont buy one sided story .... Sorry to say this dont be surprise that he is not your biological father and that may be the reason she left with you and don't want to take you back to him cause you may not be his son ..

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Curious345: 9:19pm On Dec 12, 2022
Your dad is a fuul..
If I were you , I will take him out in a drive by
Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by delpee(f): 9:20pm On Dec 12, 2022
@OP

If you know his family name and the town he comes from, you can find out who he is.

Be careful though. In places where the first son is the sole beneficiary or very important in the scheme of things, your appearance could provoke a battle. Remember that he has other children who probably don't know of your existence.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Umunze1stSon(m): 9:20pm On Dec 12, 2022
secretologoto86:
Hmmm. Who knows, your dad might see this post and contact you.
He just did. The werey that commented up there.

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Thereishel: 9:20pm On Dec 12, 2022
Why are you weak? Are you not a man? Cut all communication with your mum withdraw all benefits from her. Tell her you have nothing to do with her until she take it to your dad. It's a shame for you at this age not to know your father. What of if you want to marry? Your friends will be making fun behind you

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Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by DIVAD2000: 9:20pm On Dec 12, 2022
timelessaproko:
In my opinion is not really necessary, what if you know him and he don't care about you.

When just push to know but if he careless don't just kill yourself...most people are selfish here on planet � earth.




What if the mum prevented the son from getting to his dad?

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