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| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by kellyzaf(m): 5:47am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180: Bro if ur mum refuse to tell u the truth then the best way to do this is to look for ur mum's brothers or uncles and talk with them about it i bet u they will tell u who ur father is, u know why? Men will understand this ur situation more than the women. Good luck bro. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by macrodata(m): 5:50am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Your mom left the marriage because Dad was broke. She hates broke people. She still hate him because he's broke. 2 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by OlawaleBammie: 5:59am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:Ur mama gave u a very good lambda. It's either she was probably raped to get Ur pregnancy or she got pregnant when she was doing sisy and couldn't pin the pregnancy down on a particular guy cus they could be many. No be woman again?? 2 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Jolly1010: 6:00am On Dec 13, 2022 |
This guy na werey!!! VeryWickedMan: |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Slurity(m): 6:05am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:The best way is not through your mum but to your mums relatives that she respect alot, they either help persuade her or secretly tell you the link to your father. Ready to tip them with money or begging though. |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by olahero(m): 6:16am On Dec 13, 2022 |
VeryWickedMan:  this Comrade can't make heaven oooo. Just buzz me my own share sha incase he does your wish as his dad.  |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by william944: 6:19am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Try to find out why your mum hates your dad.Try to find out why your mum hates your dad.... |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by nedekid: 6:20am On Dec 13, 2022 |
EricSmallz:He won the lottery. Abi he is awon "forex traders". 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by phemmyfour: 6:24am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:Talk to your mum's friends and relatives. You can always get reliable information from them |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Nwaotu10(m): 6:25am On Dec 13, 2022 |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by virginchaser(m): 6:26am On Dec 13, 2022 |
This is common with women. Irrespective of how much you invested in a child he/she must find his/her father. Allow father to contribute too. Look for way to speak with your grandma. Your grandpa would have been your sure bet but you weren't fast enough. |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Nweike1: 6:40am On Dec 13, 2022 |
GistFullGround:God bless you |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Mandesz(m): 6:42am On Dec 13, 2022 |
U want to know your dad? Don't visit yo mum anymore, i mean cut every links to yo mum including receiving calls. Wen she calls don't pick. After months pick her call and give her the condition to continue picking d call i.e yo mind. Unti u know yo dad we cant conclude on his attitude but i think he's a bit wicked and has lackadaisical attitude; be careful. U are not alone, I'm 38yrs old but I've have only seen my father twice. Th 2 times were also 2days. First day, i was like 7yrs old, 2nd day, i was in ss1, 15yrs old and datz all. Even my mum I've seen her once in the last 26yrs. I lived with my grandma, after she died i live another maternal family and so on. They are both alive oh! I think beyond parenthood. Ask 4 your dad but wen u see each other,becareful in relating, it can be hazardous. Prechgold1180: 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by leisuretym: 6:47am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Formulated story |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Sweetvie: 6:50am On Dec 13, 2022 |
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| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by logic102(m): 7:21am On Dec 13, 2022 |
I am 28 years old, my mom and dada separated a very long time ago, I thought my dad was the cause of their divorce. Growing up I discover it was my mom, she was arrogant, egocentric. Her behaviour affected me badly because I left her house at a very early age. Although I am still finding difficult it to feed myself. 3 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by johhnnie(m): 7:27am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180: Don't you think that people who still address her as mama junior may know who your father is/was? 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Godmind2022(m): 7:41am On Dec 13, 2022 |
As someone has rightly said that you should satisfy your curiosity, please do so by asking your mother or her friends or relations about the whereabout of your dad, and make sure you find out about your dad. I also want you to be ready for any result that comes up, in case your mum is not supportive or any of the people you contact are not supportive, be ready for any result that comes out at the end of the day. Again, if you meet your father, and he does not want to meet you or even disown you please, prepare for anything that comes up. Make sure you are not expecting success, work on your mind, believe in Jesus Christ, read good books, read the Bible, make friends, don't hide it from people when opportunity comes to share it. I have discovered that when you keep something that is bothering you as a secret, it continues to bother you and torture you, but when you throw it to the open, not to every Tom Dick and Harry anyway, but to the people that matter in your life, then the fear, the shame, the embarrassment or whatever is over, but please, as I round off, I want you not to expect success. If you succeed, fine and if you don't succeed,fine. Prepare your mind for said whatever happens. you Find help in Bible, find help in God, find help in friendships, fellowship with people of the world God, find them in books. The lord help you in Jesus name amen. (quote author=Prechgold1180 post=119106982]Good evening house Sorry to bore you with my issues My mum and dad separated 24 years ago Reason for separation My only biological bro died from malaria My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment My mum moved out took me with her She remarried 2 years after Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad I am a graduate now So comfortable in life Got lands houses and cars to my name My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad More like I don’t know my root I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas The problem is she hates my dad so much any thing about that topic gets her angry I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus Don’t even know if my dad is good Don’t even know his family Don’t even know my village Everything I call family is just from my mother side Zero from my dad side I wish I can know them [/quote] 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by lordaltruist(m): 7:49am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Bro our case is very similar, I am over 27yrs now and I don't know my dad. My mum was whisked away from her said husband (my father) because as I am told that he tried to kill my mum. Though my mum had told me that whenever I am ready, she will take me to them, my problem is I don't want to make them think I am coming back for what they can offer since I am not made yet. As for you; trust me there are hundreds of people who are ready to show you your father's family home all you need to do is find the right person and make sure to tell them not to let your mum know and with a little cash gift and show of love they will glad take you there themselves. I have come to discover that my mum and grandparents had not been lying to me as I have personally made my findings. My mum was married traditionally to a woman who couldn't bear children for the husband (this is practical in my place) unknown to everyone that she has been the one killing the unborn children not until I was to be born (this was after my supposed senior brother had died immediately after birth) that a band of evangelical prayer warriors storm my supposed father's compound to unveil everything and that the woman was planning on killing me in my mother's womb. When the news got to my grandfather, he horridly came and pick my mum who then gave birth to me in her father's compound. After my birth, her supposed husband and their people paid the normal visit to their wife and daughter in-law but since then I have neither been taken back nor heard from them neither have they come for me either although they knew my grandfather was not one to mess with which I guess was what really kept them away. I still have plans to visit them, although I don't know what will be left of them now but I still plan to and that will be when I am financially ready so it doesn't seem like I am coming for what they could offer. 3 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Myer(m): 7:52am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180: I know a couple of single parents that also make this mistake. Please, do not transfer your Hatred to your children. Whether you like it or not we are social creatures. A child will seek his or her mom or dad eventually. You would only end up making that missing parent seem like an angel if and when they do reunite. Yes, it hurts when the person you want to spend the rest of your life with ends up being a disappointment. But that between you and them(him or her). Try as much as possible to raise your children in love. Is it difficult? Bleep yeah! But that's because it's very important. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Cubeman: 7:52am On Dec 13, 2022 |
On your mum's part,she could be preventing you from knowing your father because of something grievous she did when you were a toddler. Believe me,she wouldn't want your father to tell you now that you are a successful man. Again,she could be preventing you from a toxic man whose unfortunate destiny could have an adverse effect on you. But the story that she left your dad because of his inability to foot your late brother's hospital bill doesn't hold water. In the same vein, your dad could be such a carefree man who doesn't care about himself not to talk of anyone else,even his own blood. Abi how does one explain a man who has not bothered to look for his own son taken away from age one. However, your father could be the type who believes that his son would search for him at the right time. There is something to look at here. Your mum remarried two years after the separation. If you check you will see that your dad remarried more than five years after your mum left him. If you want to know the truth,tell your mom you will kill yourself if she doesn't show you your dad. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by adeniyi65(m): 7:54am On Dec 13, 2022 |
VeryWickedMan: you are a very wicked man indeed as your moniker implies . |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by remele2(f): 7:56am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Bro if you where able to find money that is so difficult to get at 25.... It will not take you 1week to find your father if you want to ..... Start today and thank me next week. 2 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by mannyjoe2002: 8:17am On Dec 13, 2022 |
you must make enquires from other sources other than your mum getting to know your roots is very important for a man when the chips are down your maternal family would never offer you all you need culturally please go for your roots and trace your father.it is better to hear from his own side of the story I wish you good luck 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by DOnlooker(m): 8:33am On Dec 13, 2022 |
I don't know if this is one of those fake stories, but if you got houses, cars etc what stops you from hiring a good private investigator or detective to search for your dad because that would be easy based on the fact that your parents were married. There are records about them in the church or registry where they wedded. There are records about your birth at the hospital you were born etc Use your money (which you claim to have) and bribe the truth out of your extended relatives especially those ones who could use some financial help. You are not committing a crime, you are looking for your father. Finally, if your step family is from the East, better step up your search for your real roots because one day some idiot will tell you that you are not son of the soil and this may break you especially if you have already settled down there with house and wife and kids. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by fotadmowmend(m): 8:41am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:Guy move on with your life ..... Who dad help ? What is you were orphan? 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by TYCO77: 8:46am On Dec 13, 2022 |
[color=#000099][/color] Offpointng: You do not seem to understand the word 'EMPTY'; and I wonder were you got your statistics, maybe that is your personal experience and should not be generalized. You need to understand there is a strong emotional vacuum that needs to be occupied and it is only he who knows it feels it. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Trilz(m): 8:54am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:Bros i no go mind if you show m way |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Buhari4sale: 9:10am On Dec 13, 2022 |
timelessaproko: As an understanding person, your opinion matters. But wether the father cares or not, he still needs to find out by himself to justify and satisfy his conscience as a responsible, Godfearing and reasonable child to his parent. Do you read the part why his mother left the father? It was mainly because the man couldn't raise the money needed to treat his siblings medically who later gave up the ghost. Who knows what the man was facing at that time? We never can tell the kind of woman his mother his, Some woman doesn't really care about husbands survival and challenges, all they care about is their children. So if that is the case, the boy isn't concern about whatever happened between his parent 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(m): 9:23am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Cubeman: I just pray I don’t get into any form of problem I really don’t know what will happen Fingers crossed Would update everyone |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(m): 9:30am On Dec 13, 2022 |
DOnlooker: Thanks for your thoughts First I am not from the east I am from Edo Benin city On issues of hiring someone I haven’t thought about that I think it best I do my search my self for now On issues of marriage There was no formal registry Just normal local marriage Place of bet I was born in a far market place mumsi said she went to sell her goods (normally that’s what she does till now ) She said I was born in a market after which my first bathe was done in a nearby Catholic Church close to market To further prove this my native name is EKI Meaning Market |
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