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Any man who didn't experience marriage is like soldier who didn't set foot on the battlefield. To him a minie ball from Shiloh used in battles is just an artefact but to a combat vet. It's a hunk of metal.
Peace

The5DME:
It seems lots of folks in Nigeria are getting married for the wrong reasons, hence the plethora of negative complaints about marriage on frontpage. So I ask again, what are the reasons a man/woman of age should get married?

companionship.
Loneliness kills

Marriage is essential but not compulsory.

Woe betide you if you get married to the wrong person.

Forget the high rate of divorce nowadays,we still have millions of people who are enjoying their marriages all around the world.

If you've ever been heartbroken,don't give up on love.....That person was not just meant for you.

emmanuelbrown26:
Jah himself regretted creating Eve

Proverbs 18:22 

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD.

.....finds favour not a curse

Noting o cos na woman de benefit from marriage

Again this country girls these days aint noting to write home about

Divoc19:
That's a yes of course
I wouldn't have done it if I knew better.
I just realized I could still have it all without getting married
To hell with society or church if you have money
@ Heathrow44

u re not divorced, u re still married? I would like t get to know u better, well I remember u, u attacked me viciously one time about a comment i made on mercy chinwo and I hope u re changed for the better

Marry for which naija

When 90 percent na olosho dem be ...eve. the one that is not olosho has a selfish attituted and always entitled and not trusted

@womenareapezz and @savedday come and see this

Nazgul:
Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

Awwwnnnn! Sweet something. God made marriage so beautiful. Can't wait...

I don't attack people. That is definitely not me

Heathrow44:
u re not divorced, u re still married? I would like t get to know u better, well I remember u, u attacked me viciously one time about a comment i made on mercy chinwo and I hope u re changed for the better

Divoc19:
I don't attack people. That is definitely not me

u were, check ur old posts, I was attacked by u for my opinion, but anyways is alright, are u still Married then? despite u wishing u didn't dare enter marriage

2ndchildhood:
He's single and still has it all

He doesn't have it all.

Don't confuse "having money" to "enjoying true companionship".

CR7 would have loved to enjoy true companionship like his own father, however - he has not been lucky to find a woman like his darling mum.



Men Marry Women Who have nearly the same Attributes Like their Darling Mothers. (Here is A Natural Orientation that you should Consciously Know Now).



CR7 doesn't enjoy Releasing His TRUST To Any Woman because He FEARS That They Will ONLY Care About His Money.


However; Things are gradually changing for him now as He is getting to Settle Down as He ages.

2ndchildhood:
He's single and still has it all

He doesn't have it all.

Don't confuse "having money" to "enjoying true companionship".

CR7 would have loved to enjoy true companionship like his own father, however - he has not been lucky to find a woman like his darling mum.



Men Marry Women Who have nearly the same Attributes Like their Darling Mothers. (Here is A Natural Orientation that you should Consciously Know Now).



CR7 doesn't enjoy Releasing His TRUST To Any Woman because He FEARS That They Will ONLY Care About His Money.


However; Things are gradually changing for him now as He is getting to Settle Down as He ages.

Free Sex anytime �

PoliteActivist:
Only a single person can be this authoritative about marriage being wonderful. (See quote below).
A married man can only write this if his wife is reading while he writes

Marriage CAN be a good thing (never wonderful) with the right person, but even then it is still dampened by the fact you are trading your freedom and private space for it!

True.


It is a worthy sacrifice that elevates you into more advanced mandated responsibilities.

Many People who want to remain single do so to run away from the surface responsibilities.

It is when you get in that you truly know that you are in for the real deal of redefining yourself to becoming "not just a husband" but a "providing father".

Nazgul:
Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

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What did PoliteActivist write about this ?


I would really love to read it.


He writes nicely and wisely.

Nazgul:
Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

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What did PoliteActivist write about this ?


I would really love to read it.


He writes and debates nicely and wisely.

I Believe This is The Ultimate Reason For Starting Threads like this.

For Debates And Sensitizations.

how?

PoliteActivist:
You can start a family without marriage

PoliteActivist:
But you can have both without being married

But u have it more when married

2ndchildhood:
He's single and still has it all

Try it now,if u are c Ronaldo,u tell us

Kaiser20:
I mean the children's welfare, do you have enough to pay for Baby Mama/papa

I am not encouraging baby man or whatever, I am only stating the obvious.

Anyway, baby mama is more cheaper

bluefilm:
As a guy, there is absolutely no reason at all to get married.

This is because marriage will rob you off all your freedom.

Your life will all be automatically reduced to taking care of your wife and your children until you are no longer able to do that.

If that is what you want for yourself, then go for it.

But as a lady...

You get married so that you can level up your status in the society.

People tend to treat married and unmarried ladies differently most especially when it comes to giving them respect, with the married ladies being given more respect than their unmarried counterparts.

Constitutionally and Politically, As A Man, You need to get Married inorder for you to run any Political Office.


So, This is One Important Aspect To Level Up As A Man. So, You are Wrong to Say Marriage will Rob You off All Your Freedom.


When You Grow Up from Being A Boy into A Man, You'll Understand How To Position Your Woman and Lead Her Nearly The Way You Want. It takes Time, because Women aren't Wired like Us; However - it is worth it.

So, Women aren't Bondage To Reduce You Except You aren't Spiritually and Psychologically Matured Enough To Manifest and Manoeuver Them For Your Glory.


Wives of Bill Gates, Dangote, Peter Obi, Tinubu, Atiku are All Women Who Are Reproduced and Are Reproducing The Energies of Their Husbands even if The Case of Divorce springs up.



Marriage is An Institution. You cannot clearly Understand or Relate About Any Institution if you do not or are not passing through it.

Nazgul:
Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

Not that I necessarily disagree with your points but lets debunk them

- Eating good Food - You assume the woman or lady can cook. I know a lot of people whose significant other cannot cook good food. Its mostly processed food or buying food outside. They both work long hours.

- Raising Kids together - Yep, but where the man or woman works in the medical field with long hours . The kids rarely know their parents as he is always busy with this or that.

- Plan together - How many couples have joint accounts where purchases are done in both names ? There are many relationships where everything is in the man's name and when he passes on , the family members jump and attempt to leave the woman out in the cold. Since she has nothing to her name.

- Lowers risk of STD - hmm, there was a story here where a married woman hid the fact that she was using HIV drugs and sleeping with her husband. We know of married woman and men having affairs unprotected and then sleeping with each other. Lowering STD is not a fact without using a condom.

- Companionship - There are many people who are in a relationship yet leave separate lives. They don't understand or share common goals. Like 2 strangers sharing a bed and nothing else.
If I were to poll 100 people and ask . What's there S.O fav colour, movie, food, vacation destination, etc. only 40% would know.

PHIPEX:
Synergy, many people underestimate the power of synergy. 2 good heads will always be better than 1.

A good couple will outperform a single parent in all ramifications under same condition. Marriage acts like a team in all aspect of human engagement and a good team outperforms a single player.

What has marriage to do with this. Don't you have synergy whenever two or more people are working together? Do they have to be married? Then there are dysfunctional marriages with opposite of synergy

PoliteActivist:
Wrong! You can have both without being married

Kindly explain how can one get companionship without ever getting married.?

PoliteActivist:
Wrong! You can have both without being married

Kindly explain how can one get companionship without ever getting married.?

emerged01:
Proverbs 18:22 

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD.

.....finds favour not a curse

But it's in d Christian Bible na, Jah regretted creating woman after woman went to d serpent for an apple

Some woke people are against marriage and having kids, my advice is for them to check how miserable old people who refused to get married and have kids are.
There’s no need for long talks.

emmanuelbrown26:
But it's in d Christian Bible na, Jah regretted creating woman after woman went to d serpent for an apple

Quote the scripture make I learn na

bluefilm:
As a guy, there is absolutely no reason at all to get married.

This is because marriage will rob you of your freedom.

Your life will all be automatically reduced to taking care of your wife and your children until you are no longer able to do that.

If that is what you want for yourself, then go for it.

Well said

abobote:
Children children children and children

Ronaldo Davido Whizkid etc

There is no reason to get married at all.
Just keep playing... Dey play

emerged01:
Quote the scripture make I learn na

Oga go back to d Christian book and read it

Ilomuanya:
https://youtu.be/zqj-E5OMIY
Reasons why people get married.

His first reason is divorce - tells you right away he doesn't know what he is talking about