₦airaland Forum

The5DME:
It seems lots of folks in Nigeria are getting married for the wrong reasons, hence the plethora of negative complaints about marriage on frontpage. So I ask again, what are the reasons a man/woman of age should get married?

Nazgul:
Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

Rubbiish:
Companionship between friends & family is still different from that u will share with your kids & spouse. The companionship gap between friends & family becomes wider as u age. They will also be dealing with their immediate family & have less time for u when u need them most.

Bearfruit:
you can still have companionship we meet people everyday and like I said not every marriage produce children. the Bible says you can keep a female friend but if you feel unseemingy about her/ yourbody, then marry rather than burn with passion.we cannot be wiser than the holy spirit.

MessiahOfAfrica:
Constitutionally and Politically, As A Man, You need to get Married inorder for you to run any Political Office.


So, This is One Important Aspect To Level Up As A Man. So, You are Wrong to Say Marriage will Rob You off All Your Freedom.


When You Grow Up from Being A Boy into A Man, You'll Understand How To Position Your Woman and Lead Her Nearly The Way You Want. It takes Time, because Women aren't Wired like Us; However - it is worth it.

So, Women aren't Bondage To Reduce You Except You aren't Spiritually and Psychologically Matured Enough To Manifest and Manoeuver Them For Your Glory.


Wives of Bill Gates, Dangote, Peter Obi, Tinubu, Atiku are All Women Who Are Reproduced and Are Reproducing The Energies of Their Husbands even if The Case of Divorce springs up.



Marriage is An Institution. You cannot clearly Understand or Relate About Any Institution if you do not or are not passing through it.

SugarGirl44:
Some woke people are against marriage and having kids, my advice is for them to check how miserable old people who refused to get married and have kids are.
There’s no need for long talks.

MadarasBlade:
Doesn't it sound selfish that the only reason you want a family is because of old age? If old people could care for themselves, you won't need kids.

LagosInter:
You need to get married to run political office?

Lies.

Divoc19:

Yeah, cooking up spicy stuff

MessiahOfAfrica:
Observe things for yourself.

Which of your political leader is unmarried without a first lady?

Don't lie to yourself.

You live in the world, yet you don't know how things work yet. Except ofcourse, you are still a teenager.
LagosInter

PoliteActivist:
Hello Awelewa Spells, A my beautiful online wife. They banned me for posting you. I am still banned in that section. I'll post once unbanned

PoliteActivist:
He is right. You are wrong.
There is no requirement that one be married b4 running for any political office in Nigeria

MessiahOfAfrica:
Show me a proof.


That's All.

Being Judgmental Should Come with Atleast A Proof - Sensibly LagosInter

PoliteActivist:
See below

MessiahOfAfrica:
Where does Our point of discussion come in play here ?


There is no place written about "marriage" or "not marriage".


However, every politician intendinv to resume office clearly understands the implication of marriage to his political career; hence - they need not be told how right to appeal to people.



Live in Reality of What it is. Not what has been long written and The people are In The Jeopardy of ZERO-SPIRITUAL-Alignment To UPDATE.


When was the last time The Constitution was reviewed to be updated to match up with Present Day Lifestyle ?


Have you participated in the amendment of any constitution since you were an adult as a citizen of your Village, State and Country ?

PoliteActivist:
See below

PoliteActivist:
Spells mi, I was banned again for posting exactly the same thing again (see it below)
I'm still banned in that section

I don't understand why I was being banned for this!!!

LagosInter:
So where is the marriage requirement?

PoliteActivist:
With all due respect, you are talking like an idiot.
YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO BE MARRIED TO RUN FOR ANY POLITICAL OFFICE IN NIGERIA!!!
Full stop!

LagosInter:
So where is the marriage requirement?

Rubbiish:
The bold is where u are getting it wrong!
Marriage is not all about children, but a man & woman. Children will come & go, but u two will remain. I will use my family as an example, if not for my dad my mom wouldn't be alive today. She was seriously ill at some point & my dad was the one doing all the runnings. None of us could go home & stay because of our engagement, we could only visit. My dad is a pensioner & had all his time dedicated to my mom. My mom had a lot of friends, but where were they?
My point is, these people u are seeing as friends will not be there when u need them most, only the bond shared between spouses or with kids can propel one to make such sacrifice. All these friends & colleagues will not stay with u in the hospital when u are sick tomorrow, they will come after some days, spend maximum of 1 hour & go. Take time to visit any hospital, those admitted, enquire about the people sitting beside the sick bed of patients, taking care of them, they will all likely fall into spouses, kids & parents. You will hardly see a friend or colleague there!

LagosInter:
So where is the marriage requirement?[/quote

[quote author=MessiahOfAfrica post=119987895]I'm Glad You Also Asked The Confusionist.

Nazgul:
Marriage is a wonderful thing. The reason why people see it as nonsense is because sexual immorality is as easy as drinking water.

So to your question... reasons why I feel or want to get married are.

1. Companionship. There are times when you would want to talk to someone, just sit, talk and pour out what's bothering you to a listening ear. With the right spouse, you'll always enjoy geninue companionship, enjoy gossips together. Baby Mamas or olosho cannot give you this cos what you have with them is purely transactional.

2. It lowers your risks of contacting STDs. An older cousin of mind told me that for the past 12 years he's been married he has never been treated for any STD. If you're married to a faithful partner, and you're faithful to your partner as well, you would never suffer from STDs.

With Baby Mamas or oloshos your heart would always race wherever you develop any strange feeling or symptom after having sex with them. I've read countless topics here on Nairaland where the guy in question would tell us how the condom bursted and he wasn't aware and how he started seeing some rashes on his manhood. Such a person would never have peace of mind until after a medical test. A marriage to a good spouse eliminates all that.

3. You can plan together . I'll use my parents as an example. When my dad was building his house in the village, my mom contributed a great deal to it. Even the first car he bought which was a Jetta volkswagen, as I grew older I learnt that it was actually my mom who bought the car for him, because he had so much on his hands and didn't want to miss the car, and the funny thing was that my mom never mentioned it not even once, it was my dad who told me.

With the right spouse, you can achieve a lot together, you can build, set up businesses, invest together and support each other. Olosho or baby Mamas cannot give you this cos whatever business you setup for them is theirs and theirs alone. And wouldn't support you with a penny when things go south for you.

4. Raising your kids together . Raising kids alone is very tasking. I have a 4 year old nephew (he'll be 5 this year) who I try to use to see what parenting looks like. There was a time his mom (my cousin) came with him to spend the weekend in my place (Friday to Sunday), that was when I understood that it takes more than depositing your semen into a hole to raise kids.

From waking him up, to bathing the child, to actually spending ample time together with him talking and bonding...this isn't something a baby mama can do. It takes being married to the right person for you to achieve this.

5. Eating good food . This night I just came back from buying beans (elewa) and bread. Most times I feel very lazy to go into the kitchen, there are times I can stay up to 6 months without visiting my kitchen.

As a married man, your wife would spoil you with good food, not the junks you've been struggling with during your bachelor days. The first time I ate Nkwobi in my life, was in my uncle's house, and it was prepared by his wife. Imagine having a wife who can prepare all that, believe me, by 6pm you're home cos you'd be perceiving her food right from your office.

XXXXTENTACION:
If not for sex and giving birth to children alot people
would be single...