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Realistt:
I need mature advice of ways to seriously discipline and deal with a disrespectful wife without laying a finger on her with the sole aim of putting an end or drastically reducing her incessant provocative behaviour and continuous disrespectful attitude. All she does is apologize afterwards but will repeat same attitude after some weeks or months.

PS: I take absolute responsibility of the financial needs and otherwise at home. I really don't know why she keeps disrespecting me at the slightest thing.

Realistt:
I need mature advice of ways to seriously discipline and deal with a disrespectful wife without laying a finger on her with the sole aim of putting an end or drastically reducing her incessant provocative behaviour and continuous disrespectful attitude. All she does is apologize afterwards but will repeat same attitude after some weeks or months.

PS: I take absolute responsibility of the financial needs and otherwise at home. I really don't know why she keeps disrespecting me at the slightest thing.

Realistt:
I need mature advice of ways to seriously discipline and deal with a disrespectful wife without laying a finger on her with the sole aim of putting an end or drastically reducing her incessant provocative behaviour and continuous disrespectful attitude. All she does is apologize afterwards but will repeat same attitude after some weeks or months.

PS: I take absolute responsibility of the financial needs and otherwise at home. I really don't know why she keeps disrespecting me at the slightest thing.

SWATMan:
The single most important choice you will ever make is whom you marry.

Marrying the wrong person will ruin your life. And it will continue ruining your life until your spouse dies or you get divorced. And getting divorced is one of the worst experiences a person can suffer. It also can be financially devastating. If your gut tells you something is not quite right, listen to it. Don’t use rationalizations. Your gut is almost always right when it comes to dating. A person addicted to whatever while you are dating has not proven that he or she can break his or her addiction. If the addiction is to coffee, it doesn’t matter—or exercise, or eating well. But if the person is addicted to bodybuilding and uses steroids, addicted to alcohol, get the Bleep out. You can’t save them. Only they can do that. If a person has beaten an addiction and is/or getting help, that is a different matter. Plenty of former addicts are fine.

You cannot change your partner. That is impossible. And if you want them to change, they aren’t for you. You have to be okay with your partner as they are right now.

There is nothing you can do about your spouse changing during marriage. Aging and life experiences do that. You have to compromise on the effects of it if you want to stay married. That is the work of marriage. If you are already married, unless things are really toxic, you are better off staying in the marriage. There is no perfect person for you. Your goal is to find someone you love but also you can live with. That is success.

You aren’t perfect. You probably have issues. So do they. The question is not about these things. The question is “can we live with each other and each other’s issues?” If the answer is yes, you will be okay.

Life is about compromises. If you are a 5 on the mating market given your mix of personality, status, and looks, you are going to need to find a mate in the 4–6 zones.

If you are a spender and your mate is a saver, you will have conflict. You need to work out something you can live with happily or not get married. Money is the leading cause of fighting and divorce. Adultery is the leading cause of ugly divorces, followed by money.

Marriage isn’t for everyone. Don’t get married because your friends are getting married or your parents and grandparents keep bugging you. You WILL ruin your life. If you disagree about having kids, don’t get married. Don’t say, “we’ll discuss it in the future.” That is a prescription for divorce. If you both have different levels of energy, don’t get married. A person who likes to stay home and rest when not working will have conflict with a person who wants to go tailgating, partying, etc. This information believe will help you in taking the right decision

Skyview01:
Ask her to kneel down and raise both hands Oga. Is this a master slave relationship or what?

Richy4:
OP, I don't really know why I find your write up a little off putting ...Seriously Discipline a wife?.. Just maybe, you can shop for a word or words that doesn't sound condescending.... like you were talking about a kid who is below you.....Words like reprimand, admonish etc.

I will suggest that u do only what works for you and your family.. Do not borrow another man's ways because it might backfire...Remember, any one in a relationship is bound to encounter provocations either intentionally or unintentionally whether you are the breadwinner or tea winner it doesn't matter ... the bottom line is making up and forgiving one another...Whenever she is losing it, pause and remind her that she's starting.. and walk away..

In my opinion, The only way a man can avoid being provoked is when he is married to a deaf and dumb lady.. Whatever you say, she will not hear, She will only smile and walk away...and she will never respond, yell or scream at you...But as long as you are married to someone that hears and talks, you will intentionally or unintentionally provoke each other...

satandeterrible:
You have a low IQ. What sort of foolish submission is this?

How does this address the fact that the OP's wife is disrespectful? This is not about occasional provocations so stop with the stupid deflection of yours.

I don't speak to online lunatics... A reasonable individual can not roam all over the thread insulting people the way you were doing...
I don't know if lunatics do have good days... But have a good day

tayo60:
Anytime she does that, withdrawal your attention from her ,stop doing whatever you normally do for her.

Richy4:
I don't speak to online lunatics... A reasonable individual can not roam all over this thread like this...
I don't know if lunatics do have good days... But have a good day

yemmit90:
Op, please follow this advise, this is only way you can correct such a woman. You don't need to abuse her or talk back at her, just withdraw your attention and act as if she does not exist. She will read the message, and when she finally open up for apology, let her know your action was a result of her disrespectful nature.

satandeterrible:
You need to check yourself in a mental hospital.
Don't worry, I'll pay the bills.

What kind of foolery made you to write rubbish in the name of dropping a comment?

You just disgraced yourself and your family. Not me.

I'll be praying for you.

Richy4:
I have given you enough attention already..U can now run along..
I don't know if you were always this stupid or today is a special occasion... But whatever it is,.. I can't come down to your level.. This would be my last reply... But as a lunatic, u are free to have the Last word...

satandeterrible:
Very rubbish and stupid writeup.

Shame on you.

Nonsense and ingredients.

satandeterrible:
You perfectly understood the OP. Stop with your dumb deflection.

Realistt:
I need mature advice of ways to seriously discipline and deal with a disrespectful wife without laying a finger on her with the sole aim of putting an end or drastically reducing her incessant provocative behaviour and continuous disrespectful attitude. All she does is apologize afterwards but will repeat same attitude after some weeks or months.

PS: I take absolute responsibility of the financial needs and otherwise at home. I really don't know why she keeps disrespecting me at the slightest thing.

JeffreyJunior:
Speak less, stop complaining and stop demanding apologies.

Reduce your attention and availability and if you can't take it anymore, opt for separation.

What I've learnt in recent time is that some things are never meant to be but we humans keep forcing it which is why we continue to have issues.

No marriage is perfect but never settle for someone who never appreciates you, someone who belittles and disrespects you even at every small mistake you make.

SWATMan:
The single most important choice you will ever make is whom you marry.

Marrying the wrong person will ruin your life. And it will continue ruining your life until your spouse dies or you get divorced. And getting divorced is one of the worst experiences a person can suffer. It also can be financially devastating. If your gut tells you something is not quite right, listen to it. Don’t use rationalizations. Your gut is almost always right when it comes to dating. A person addicted to whatever while you are dating has not proven that he or she can break his or her addiction. If the addiction is to coffee, it doesn’t matter—or exercise, or eating well. But if the person is addicted to bodybuilding and uses steroids, addicted to alcohol, get the Bleep out. You can’t save them. Only they can do that. If a person has beaten an addiction and is/or getting help, that is a different matter. Plenty of former addicts are fine.

You cannot change your partner. That is impossible. And if you want them to change, they aren’t for you. You have to be okay with your partner as they are right now.

There is nothing you can do about your spouse changing during marriage. Aging and life experiences do that. You have to compromise on the effects of it if you want to stay married. That is the work of marriage. If you are already married, unless things are really toxic, you are better off staying in the marriage. There is no perfect person for you. Your goal is to find someone you love but also you can live with. That is success.

You aren’t perfect. You probably have issues. So do they. The question is not about these things. The question is “can we live with each other and each other’s issues?” If the answer is yes, you will be okay.

Life is about compromises. If you are a 5 on the mating market given your mix of personality, status, and looks, you are going to need to find a mate in the 4–6 zones.

If you are a spender and your mate is a saver, you will have conflict. You need to work out something you can live with happily or not get married. Money is the leading cause of fighting and divorce. Adultery is the leading cause of ugly divorces, followed by money.

Marriage isn’t for everyone. Don’t get married because your friends are getting married or your parents and grandparents keep bugging you. You WILL ruin your life. If you disagree about having kids, don’t get married. Don’t say, “we’ll discuss it in the future.” That is a prescription for divorce. If you both have different levels of energy, don’t get married. A person who likes to stay home and rest when not working will have conflict with a person who wants to go tailgating, partying, etc. This information believe will help you in taking the right decision

Realistt:
I need mature advice of ways to seriously discipline and deal with a disrespectful wife without laying a finger on her with the sole aim of putting an end or drastically reducing her incessant provocative behaviour and continuous disrespectful attitude. All she does is apologize afterwards but will repeat same attitude after some weeks or months.

PS: I take absolute responsibility of the financial needs and otherwise at home. I really don't know why she keeps disrespecting me at the slightest thing.

onumadu:
You are as wise as Solomon.
Thanks for an EXCELLENT comment!
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