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CaveAdullam:
Men have never had issues taking care of women. The average man can cater to a woman so far the average woman is ready to make things work for the good of the relationship. If a relationship seems difficult for men today, it's because the average woman aims for what's above her, yet she doesn't have the required value and character, and personality to attain that which she desires. I get the point about hypergamy, however, in terms of value, the average man still supersedes. The problem is that the modern woman uses the top <20% of ultra-rich and powerful men as a benchmark to judge the >80% of other men.

Women are like children, it's the boundary you set for them, and they'll follow, once you abandon that boundary, and grant them a leeway to do their thing, they go off the mark and cause problems to themselves, family, and society at hand. That's why their so-called rights are impeded in some parts of the world, especially Islamic nations and middle-east. Compare them with their counterparts in the West and you'll see the glaring reasons.

Women love to test your boundary. Ignore them at your peril. They don't care whether you love them or not, once you goof, the relationship becomes a mess. You must always hold your ground.

Social media is another reason they behave absurdly because they've inculcated gibberish from there.

Kudos for maintaining your rank.

Brb.

Nyascobar1414:
See this f!shy sm£lly vvoman oo..

If bills are to be shared 50/50, you dement€d f!shes will cry foul..

I pity the simp that married a walking L!zard like you

emmaodet:
Hmmmmmmmmm

Thanks Mr cave for the good write up.
I still owe you something for all your write ups on TRP thread. Will send to you by ending.

CaveAdullam:
Thanks sir. I do appreciate it.

PS: Would have gone further but had some break. Will continue if you insist.

CaveAdullam:
Thanks sir. I do appreciate it.

PS: Would have gone further but had some break. Will continue if you insist.

CaveAdullam:
Thanks sir. I do appreciate it.

PS: Would have gone further but had some break. Will continue if you insist.

emmaodet:
Yea please, go ahead.

CaveAdullam:
1. Women don't like going against the group because of the herd mentality + the group guarantee more safety than being alone. Again, women can follow the order of one man if she's far from the group.

What do I mean?

2. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers were submissive because the women within their communities were submissive to their husbands. Because that's what the group does and likes. Men were roughly on the same level except for community leaders, kings, etc. But on average wealth inequality was not obvious.

3. If she goes astray, she will be shamed by the group.
NB: Women slút shame other women than men.

4. Back to our modern age. Shaming tactics no longer work because belligerence, arrogance, complacency, dishonor, weakness, pleasure, and materialism are being praised. Social vices are taking the top place of virtues in our society because virtues are deemed for the weak.

5. We are now in a social media age. Women can see men on different geographical terrains in the comfort of their homes. + she's able to get attracted to a tribe easily which can influence her behaviors.

6. Exposure harms women. It corrupts them as they can't handle temptations without a reputable virile figure and a brave woman behind her. These figures guard her and coach her as she begins to interact with the world.

7. Women say they want freedom, but can't handle freedom. You give them an illusion of freedom while raising the bulwark. Women don't act right by their volition, you make them act right. You cooperate with them. This must be done if you want to enjoy them. Any assumption must be jettisoned.

8. This doesn't mean you must act like a commando because if you do, they will resent you. They are like chameleons that will assume the present color closer to them and will change to another once you turn your back. Observe how a mother treats her child, and you'll get a better understanding of how men should treat women - the left hand of discipline; the right hand of love and kisses. Both hands must be present.

Left hand only, she will hate you albeit covertly. Right hand only, she will ignore your boundary and make jest of you. Balance is all that is needed.

9. Women are the way they are today because men don't understand that women are using social media scenes to judge them + are unable to use social media effectively.

Women are not satisfied because they see what's beyond their rank every day on screens, hence, start comparing their spouses to those scenes. If by chance she's able to have a taste of that expensive luxury or cuisine, she will never like to dwell with men below even though she's not better than them by an ounce.

10. The only condition where this is paramount is if she has a good and strong father. Her father becomes a benchmark she uses to select good men. And that's why most women with no good father relationship or absentee fathers turn out worst. The sons become weak, lazy, and effeminate.

11. I like what you did with your spouse. It's not an easy feat for the average man to pull. Why?
A. Blinded by romance.
B. Need a constant supply of sex.
C. High investment in the relationship.

12. Women follow men, anything that men tolerate women explore. If men don't care, women will care less.

We expect women to act right and sensible because they are humans, however, as leaders and shepherds, men must sound it like a band of cymbals in their ears daily. And also maintain the frame.

13. The wife must understand that the husband has power over her and can pull the roofs over her anytime or day, this will at least keep her on track. And as a man, be bold in your ranks and take full charge.

Thanks.

emmaodet:
Nice write up bro.

Also, I think the issue of bill sharing at home is making many men compromise a lot. Unfortunately, it is very hard to run a family alone without wife support in this present generation.

May God help us all

Nyascobar1414:
And my brok€ father collected bride price

Hell no.

She is a Woke b!tch

CaveAdullam:
1. You are correct.

Running a family is not easy, especially in this age where the Gini coefficient is high as a result of hyperinflation and taxes.

2. That's why as a man you must choose a woman whose ambition streamlines with yours because in doing so both of you end up pursuing a common goal. There is always great value exchange.
However, men don't care about this if they can provide for the family wholeheartedly, the only challenge is an unstable economy.

3. Once you have started experiencing that financial boom as a man, it is good you set up a business that your wife can fit in. She can start helping you to build part of the family from there rather than you bearing the risk and burden alone. You are the manager, she's the supervisor.

4. Once you begin to share bills with your wife, your authority becomes featherweight. Better to leave her as a full-time housewife and call the shot when you wish than share bills.

5. Independent women have no use for men, once they got the money, they don't regard men, except the men richer than them.

Marrying at your level + sharing bills = marital chaos. You marry a woman that depends on you, not like a dúmbass or a parasite, but an attachment that looks like a catalyst that stimulates your growth.

6. Marriage isn't about equality, nothing itself is equal. It's a leader-follower relationship, men lead, and women follow. And the one who needs the other the least has the most power in the relationship. And if you provide solely, you've all the power to pull the strings at will.

Thanks.

CaveAdullam:
1. Women don't like going against the group because of the herd mentality + the group guarantee more safety than being alone. Again, women can follow the order of one man if she's far from the group.

What do I mean?

2. Our mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers were submissive because the women within their communities were submissive to their husbands. Because that's what the group does and likes. Men were roughly on the same level except for community leaders, kings, etc. But on average wealth inequality was not obvious.

3. If she goes astray, she will be shamed by the group.
NB: Women slút shame other women than men.

4. Back to our modern age. Shaming tactics no longer work because belligerence, arrogance, complacency, dishonor, weakness, pleasure, and materialism are being praised. Social vices are taking the top place of virtues in our society because virtues are deemed for the weak.

5. We are now in a social media age. Women can see men on different geographical terrains in the comfort of their homes. + she's able to get attracted to a tribe easily which can influence her behaviors.

6. Exposure harms women. It corrupts them as they can't handle temptations without a reputable virile figure and a brave woman behind her. These figures guard her and coach her as she begins to interact with the world.

7. Women say they want freedom, but can't handle freedom. You give them an illusion of freedom while raising the bulwark. Women don't act right by their volition, you make them act right. You cooperate with them. This must be done if you want to enjoy them. Any assumption must be jettisoned.

8. This doesn't mean you must act like a commando because if you do, they will resent you. They are like chameleons that will assume the present color closer to them and will change to another once you turn your back. Observe how a mother treats her child, and you'll get a better understanding of how men should treat women - the left hand of discipline; the right hand of love and kisses. Both hands must be present.

Left hand only, she will hate you albeit covertly. Right hand only, she will ignore your boundary and make jest of you. Balance is all that is needed.

9. Women are the way they are today because men don't understand that women are using social media scenes to judge them + are unable to use social media effectively.

Women are not satisfied because they see what's beyond their rank every day on screens, hence, start comparing their spouses to those scenes. If by chance she's able to have a taste of that expensive luxury or cuisine, she will never like to dwell with men below even though she's not better than them by an ounce.

10. The only condition where this is paramount is if she has a good and strong father. Her father becomes a benchmark she uses to select good men. And that's why most women with no good father relationship or absentee fathers turn out worst. The sons become weak, lazy, and effeminate.

11. I like what you did with your spouse. It's not an easy feat for the average man to pull. Why?
A. Blinded by romance.
B. Need a constant supply of sex.
C. High investment in the relationship.

12. Women follow men, anything that men tolerate women explore. If men don't care, women will care less.

We expect women to act right and sensible because they are humans, however, as leaders and shepherds, men must sound it like a band of cymbals in their ears daily. And also maintain the frame.

13. The wife must understand that the husband has power over her and can pull the roofs over her anytime or day, this will at least keep her on track. And as a man, be bold in your ranks and take full charge.

Thanks.

emmaodet:
I won’t blame those men much.
They wanted to make their wives happy and the home peaceful but in the process, it will turn to something else.
Also, it is always very very hard to change something you have started later in the marriage.

Example- I do wash plates for my wife occasionally when I notice she is very busy or lay the bed but after a while, I noticed she took it as normal.

She won’t lay the bed while watching the tv until after 10 in the evening, expecting me to go and lay the bed.

So when I noticed this after doing it consecutively for 3 days, had to tell myself enough.

Told her she has to be laying the bed by 9pm but she countered that anyone can lay the bed and it doesn’t have to be mandatorily her. I told her as a matter of fact it is her duty and because I am helping out doesn’t mean it is my job and if anyone can do it, why has she not been doing it then? After all, anyone can do it.

So told her henceforth, I am not doing it again.

She formed angry, laid the bed why nagging regularly. I didn’t even look her side for more than 2 days before she came back to her senses. She called her mum and asked her if it is the duty of a woman to be laying the bed or any of the couple can do it but her mum fell her hand and told her it is the duty of a wife to lay the bed her husband will sleep on.

I don’t even care whether the mum supported her or not, have made my decision and if she is not comfortable with it, she can take a walk.

Any man that is not strong will not be able to deal with a modern woman and there are many reason modern men are compromising- they share the house bill so the woman will always push back for a better deal. After all, she is also paying part of the bill.
A man that takes care of his bills will hardly take shit from a woman.
I told my wife if she continues like this, then it is better to have a house maid than a wife because if am giving her and the kids 200k per month, a house cleaner comes twice a week to clean the house and wash the clothes etc yet to cook promptly and take care of the general home is still a problem, then a maid is more productive than a wife aside sex.

If I hire a maid of 50k per month, she will cook my food daily, wash my clothes, take care of my kids etc so while pay 200k for a wife then?

kcowen:
you honestly don't know me,am that kind of person that will kill,skin you and bury you where even the joint effort of CIA, KGB, MI6, Mossad, ISI, MSS and RAW, wont be able to find

nwekeugochukwu:
Nigerian televangelist, Mike Bamiloye took to his Instagram page to ask men a question pertaining to running errands for their wives, IGBERETV reports.

I can do it, it is not a problem. It doesnt make me a simp or a weakling. It means that I can help my wife when the need arises.



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