Nwodosis:

Ireportlive:
Go and get a forger to forge a General Hospital letter header and fake HIV AIDs positive result in your Brother in Laws name, Snap it and send it to the divorced woman with an annonymous number

Romanoff:
Rather than have a serious conversation with him about his nonchalant attitude, she decided to deny him sex and avoid cooking for him and some chores she usually use to do.

That's a big unwise mistake that a lot of women make.

She should first look for a counsellor to talk to talk to before confronting her husband, she should have a screenshot of the evidence before talking to him.

She can start by appreciating him for what he is doing well in the marriage and then asking him if there's any way she is failing as a wife.

She should listen to what he has to say about her effort as a wife. If he has nothing wrong to say about her, she should show him the evidence and ask where she went wrong.

If nothing positive comes out of the conversation, then it's time to call the families together.

I hope she is gainfully employed or has a business of her own? Cause this could go any way.

rickpat:
once a man has made up his mind to go astray, there's nothing that can be done.. except he falls terribly ill or goes horribly broke....

your sister denying him sex and refusing to do chores is only making him happier because he is seeing more reasons to marry the second woman


conclusion,that man will regret it in years to come.. polygamy not always the best...good luck to him...as for your sister,either she leaves or stay and have a co wife

fyzaila:


Do you think this will work? Can't the potential 2nd wife ask him to come and do the test life to confirm?

Ireportlive:


When to adult are resolved in taking a decision nothing can stop them, except you manipulate them

fyzaila:


She isn't employed. He is the one sponsoring her education at the moment. Hmmm did she have mouth to call any family meeting?

Nwodosis:
Women are more caring in a relationship than when they are being married, for them to pick up thier caring attitudes which are now dormant in marriage, they need a rivalry, either as a side chick or a second wife.

Romanoff:
Rather than have a serious conversation with him about his nonchalant attitude, she decided to deny him sex and avoid cooking for him and some chores she usually use to do.

That's a big unwise mistake that a lot of women make.

She should first look for a counsellor to talk to talk to before confronting her husband, she should have a screenshot of the evidence before talking to him.

She can start by appreciating him for what he is doing well in the marriage and then asking him if there's any way she is failing as a wife.

She should listen to what he has to say about her effort as a wife. If he has nothing wrong to say about her, she should show him the evidence and ask where she went wrong.

If nothing positive comes out of the conversation, then it's time to call the families together.

I hope she is gainfully employed or has a business of her own? Cause this could go any way.

pansophist:


Accountability is so forking attractive in people, especially women. I like your advice, infact I love am.

Denying a man sex won't make him comply to your demands, it only pushes him further. Men by nature are fighters, and woman trying to fight with a man will lose. Unless he is not a masculine man.

A woman can literally get anything she wants in life by being soft with a man, lots of men can even stand a woman's tears, that's how powerful women can be in how they influence men.

If a woman denies a man sex, all the foolishly does is push him into the arms of another woman, destroying her sexual monopoly and make herself irritating as times goes by.

fyzaila:


Lol...

I told her to pray and accept her fate since polygamy is permitted in their religion and culture

Nwodosis:
Women are more caring in a relationship than when they are being married, for them to pick up thier caring attitudes which are now dormant in marriage, they need a rivalry, either as a side chick or a second wife.

Gerrard59:


So, why is she bothered especially as she has starved him of sex?

It is like me being married to a Muslim lady and getting worried she would the hijab.

Tokskob2008:
She doesn't cook for him anymore nor let him have access to his bed rights yet don't want him to have a second wife

Your sis needs her brain checked instead of trying to stop him from having a second wife and I'm pretty sure those were the bad attitudes in her the husband saw before seeking a second wife... She can't eat her cake and have it at the same time.

pansophist:
Polygamy has always been a way of making women seat up. If a woman is not living up to her matrimonial duty, the introduction of a second wife will break her monopoly.

One thing humans fears the most is competition, especially a competent competitor. Since the introduction of Uber for example, other taxi company improved their services and prices, since they have no monopoly anymore.

For a wife, a younger, attractive bride is her worse nightmare, since without conflict, it renders her redundant. Since men carries the burden of relationship, it's unfair to him for a woman not to live up to her own duties.

Imagine providing for her 100%, and she won't cook or fork you, but still enjoys the man's provision and protection. How is that fair? The man is even nice. He didn't throw her out, but decided to add one wife more.

If it's men that are born mad but kept it tamed, they would have thrown her out since, but again, such men won't end up with a woman who denies them sex in the first place. They are smart to pick right.

Goodlady:

Ok. I guess men too need rivals. You don't treat people that do well to you badly.

fyzaila:
I don't know how i can help this situation gaskiya. My sis has been troubled ever since she went through her husband's WhatsApp chat with one particular woman. She told me she has been suspecting her husband who is always with his phone 247 for like 4 months now. She said he is always pressing his phone even till past 12am. When she noticed this she talked to him about it but he told her "it is his phone not hers, everyone should do whatever they like with their phone" she said she even denies him s3x sometimes because of this and also she's nonchalant about cooking and house chores all so that he can change and stop. But he doesn't seem bothered. And they have 2 kids.

So one particular night he slept off and the phone fell off his hand so she took it b4 it locks and went through his chats. She discovers he has been having emotional affairs with a divorced woman. It seems to her the woman was his ex. He is planning on marring her as his 2nd wife. And the woman also has two kids.

She said he hasn't defaulted in his responsibilities to the family. Me personally, i don't know what to do to console her to accept reality. Since our religion permits polygamy.

Nairalanders please what can you say about this situation now.

fyzaila:
I don't know how i can help this situation gaskiya. My sis has been troubled ever since she went through her husband's WhatsApp chat with one particular woman. She told me she has been suspecting her husband who is always with his phone 247 for like 4 months now. She said he is always pressing his phone even till past 12am. When she noticed this she talked to him about it but he told her "it is his phone not hers, everyone should do whatever they like with their phone" she said she even denies him s3x sometimes because of this and also she's nonchalant about cooking and house chores all so that he can change and stop. But he doesn't seem bothered. And they have 2 kids.

So one particular night he slept off and the phone fell off his hand so she took it b4 it locks and went through his chats. She discovers he has been having emotional affairs with a divorced woman. It seems to her the woman was his ex. He is planning on marring her as his 2nd wife. And the woman also has two kids.

She said he hasn't defaulted in his responsibilities to the family. Me personally, i don't know what to do to console her to accept reality. Since our religion permits polygamy.

Nairalanders please what can you say about this situation now.