₦airaland Forum

eyinjuege:
■ Men need to stop drinking alcohol excessively, and stop smoking . These are things you can control to reduce your risk of a heart attack or stroke. Don't wait for your wives to remind you to take your blood pressure medicines.
■ Stop waiting for your wives to force you to see your Dr when you notice blood in your stool and instead would rather take "agbo jedi" for pile. Meanwhile it's cancer disturbing you. Women are more proactive with their health. If they have headache, they will see their Dr. If they see blood in their stool, they will not decide on their own that it's pile.
■ I've seen more than enough men that have ignored symptoms and were forced to see a Dr by their wives only to discover it's cancer that has spread. Women are more religious, and whether you like it or not, that motivational speaking you hear in your church helps your mental health and reducing stress. (Sress inadvertently opens the body up for diseases). I watched a sport today in passing , and I saw Men facing each other and giving each other slaps. The kind of slap that your eyes will definitely be 'turninoninown'. One guy actually fell down flat on receiving a slap. He could not go the round to return the slap. What kind of sport is that?

1. But there are equally folks out there in the world who drink and smoke well into their 90s and 100s. These things are not to blame.

2. Ignorance and of course arrogance is always never the right way to go about living.

3. Stress is definitely at the top of the list where Nigerians are concerned. If you ask me, I think it is the major reason the mortality age remains as low as it is even to this day. The average Nigerian lives a severely stressed existence.

Bmaster:
ever wondered why people of the old lived long ?

They gave consent to sex only when necessary!



And meanwhile,I didn't say once in a month.

every 21 days means ones in a calendar month

oz4real83:
A man already has a lot of personal pressures added to other family pressures. That same man falls in love and the girl he falls in love with suddenly becomes an "orphan" without family and dumps all her life worries and pressures on that same man. When they become married, children pressure becomes added to an already overstressed man, how will such a man live long 🙄🙄

The men are unnecessarily adding the pressure on themselves. Whatever you're doing, make sure you don't over burden yourself with unnecessary pressure from other people. Worrying and inconveniencing yourself up and down. Provide for your family; what you have, give them, what you don't have tell them I DON'T HAVE. I assure you, they won't die.

oz4real83:
■A man already has a lot of personal pressures added to other family pressures. That same man falls in love and the girl he falls in love with suddenly becomes an "orphan" without family and dumps all her life worries and pressures on that same man.
■When they become married, children pressure becomes added to an already overstressed man, how will such a man live long 🙄🙄

1. Did anyone hold a gun to the heads of these men to force them into hypogamous unions that supposedly put them under these pressures your speak of?🙄🙄

2. In the world we live in today, there are plenty of examples of men and women sharing responsibilities equally in marriage, so these men who — mostly for the sake of their inflamed egos — choose to put themselves under pressure are to blame for their predicament. Whose fault is it when a human being out of complete disregard for his life chooses to live under conditions that almost assure his early demise? We need to stop asserting that such fools deserve our pity abeg!🙄🙄

InvertedHammer:
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They are everywhere around you but you are not noticing them....

and that adds to their stress.

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Was just being sarcastic.
Unfortunately, I may not qualify since I am quite content with my life and can never be on any man's payroll as a wife or concubine. I really prefer a career and enjoy the fruits of my own labor. . . .like all 'modern women' who have absolutely no business with 'archaic men'!

I believe in a partnership. . . . in or out of marriage.
If my husband is stressed, I do everything possible to alleviate his concerns. I usually expect the same from him.
If people work together and avoid unnecessary distractions. . . . individuals in any relationship. . . .men or women should have a fair chance at longevity even with the odds against men.

Kobojunkie:
1. But there are equally folks out there in the world who drink and smoke well into their 90s and 100s. These things are not to blame.

2. Ignorance and of course arrogance is always never the right way to go about living.

3. Stress is definitely at the top of the list where Nigerians are concerned. If you ask me, I think it is the major reason the mortality age remains as low as it is even to this day. The average Nigerian lives a severely stressed existence.

Regarding the first point, smoking is a documented risk factor for heart attacks, strokes, cancers, hypertension, lung diseases etc
There is a reason cigarettes are the only products (I know of) that gives a direct disclaimer that it's consumers are liable to die young
No hiding anything, but direct talking.
So, because some smoke till old age and get away with coming down with any of these diseases doesn't take away the fact that cigarettes are toxin filled and 'dangellous'
Alcohol in excess is also linked with oral cancers, heart attacks, strokes, liver problems, stomach ulcers and bleeding. I'm not even sure which poison is worse between cigarettes and EXCESSIVE alcohol intake. Excessive is more than a bottle and half of wine / more than 4-5 glasses of wine a whole week spread over 3 days
2nd point, I agree arrogance plays a part in the poor health seeking behaviour of men sometimes. Not so sure about the ignorance because women raised in same environment know to seek help.
Some just refuse to take responsibility for their own health and expecting to be babied by their spouses.
Last point, concerning mortality in Nigerian adults, I believe heart attacks, strokes are still the top causes followed by accidents/injuries/trauma, cancers. If further traced, they have risk factors like OBESITY, excess alcohol, smoking, family history, not going for regular medicals for BP, diabetes check.
Infact, I forgot to mention OBESITY earlier as a major cause of death now. People will say it's a sign of good living
It's also linked with a lot of cancers, so equally as dangerous as cigarettes and alcohol.
So chronic stress on it's own without other more prominent risk factors is not as common as a cause of dying young.
Stress in itself is pretty much life- emotional stress, work stress, relationship stress, environmental stress/where you live etc.
We all go through stress, whether Nigerian or any other nationality.
The difference again may be that other places have a better health system in place to pick up disease quickly, and also to offer top treatment. If you have a stroke abroad, you will likely survive it than in Nigeria- rapid response ambulances, treatment centers already expecting you etc.
Nigerian health care system is thrash, so any surprise the life expectancy is low?

KanwuliaExtra:
Was just being sarcastic.
Unfortunately, I may not qualify since I am quite content with my life and can never be on any man's payroll as a wife or concubine. I really prefer a career and enjoy the fruits of my own labor. . . .like all 'modern women' who have absolutely no business with 'archaic men'!

I believe in a partnership. . . . in or out of marriage.
If my husband is stressed, I do everything possible to alleviate his concerns. I usually expect the same from him.
If people work together and avoid unnecessary distractions. . . . individuals in any relationship. . . .men or women should have a fair chance at longevity even with the odds against men.

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If you are looking for partnership, go and start a business. Partnership is the reason many couples are stuck in divorce courts waiting for the judge to dissolve the limited liability company called marriage.

You need someone with leadership qualities whose ideas can compliment yours based on mutual respect.

By the way, na so una mouth dey sweet before marriage. Talk is cheap. Once the man tie the knot, you go carry all your life frustrations heap on his head. Patapata 15 years he gives up and join his ancestors.

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InvertedHammer:
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If you are looking for partnership, go and start a business. Partnership is the reason many couples are stuck in divorce courts waiting for the judge to dissolve the limited liability company called marriage.

You need someone with leadership qualities whose ideas can compliment yours based on mutual respect.

By the way, na so una mouth dey sweet before marriage. Talk is cheap. Once the man tie the knot, you go carry all your life frustrations heap on his head. Patapata 15 years he gives up and join his ancestors.

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. . . .And you do not think marriage is a 'business' venture?
Please, get married first, stay married for at least 10 years. . . then come back and ask Ireti and Patrick Doyle why they divorced after 20 years.

Please. . . stick to the topic and stop derailing the thread with your local and archaic sentiments.

Look at who is posting about women and life's frustrations. Even with all the 'machismo' una dey form, una still dey quench upandan. . . . cannot even handle common women frutrations. Only to dey count how many 'drops' of wotowoto 'akamu' una fit release to dey knack chest.

Abeg help us find solutions to keep you dudes from dying prematuredly and stop typing rubbish from thread to thread. Women cannot be the cause of the statistically low mortality rate of menfolk globally. THE REASON WOMEN WILL KEEP OUTLIVING MEN? . . . .THEY HAVE DEVELOPED BETTER COPING MECHANISIMS TO HANDLE LIFE FRUSTRATIONS. You learn to do the same by taking a few lessons.

eyinjuege:
■Regarding the first point, smoking is a documented risk factor for heart attacks, strokes, cancers, hypertension, lung diseases etc. There is a reason cigarettes are the only products (I know of) that gives a direct disclaimer that it's consumers are liable to die young. No hiding anything, but direct talking. So, because some smoke till old age and get away with coming down with any of these diseases doesn't take away the fact that cigarettes are toxin filled and 'dangellous'. Alcohol in excess is also linked with oral cancers, heart attacks, strokes, liver problems, stomach ulcers and bleeding. I'm not even sure which poison is worse between cigarettes and EXCESSIVE alcohol intake. Excessive is more than a bottle and half of wine / more than 4-5 glasses of wine a whole week spread over 3 days
2nd point, I agree arrogance plays a part in the poor health seeking behaviour of men sometimes.
■ Not so sure about the ignorance because women raised in same environment know to seek help. Some just refuse to take responsibility for their own health and expecting to be babied by their spouses.
■ Last point, concerning mortality in Nigerian adults, I believe heart attacks, strokes are still the top causes followed by accidents/injuries/trauma, cancers. If further traced, they have risk factors like OBESITY, excess alcohol, smoking, family history, not going for regular medicals for BP, diabetes check. Infact, I forgot to mention OBESITY earlier as a major cause of death now. People will say it's a sign of good living. It's also linked with a lot of cancers, so equally as dangerous as cigarettes and alcohol.
■ So chronic stress on it's own without other more prominent risk factors is not as common as a cause of dying young. [b]Stress in itself is pretty much life- emotional stress, work stress, relationship stress, environmental stress/where you live etc. We all go through stress, whether Nigerian or any other nationality. [/b]The difference again may be that other places have a better health system in place to pick up disease quickly, and also to offer top treatment. If you have a stroke abroad, you will likely survive it than in Nigeria- rapid response ambulances, treatment centers already expecting you etc. Nigerian health care system is thrash, so any surprise the life expectancy is low?

1. Of course smoking is bad for your health and all but what is keeping the mortality age in Nigeria at such low levels ain't smoking at all. So let's not even bring it up here as we smoking in Nigeria, and smoking deaths, are at a level of great concern. It ain't so let's not drag it into this yet. Same with alcohol.

2. You just described ignorance and nonchalance.

3. You are busy linking but where are the numbers to show that any of what you have listed so far is to blame for the continued low mortality age that plagues Nigerians, particularly in Nigeria?

4. In my opininon, stress is the number one killer when poverty is to be considered.

KanwuliaExtra:
. . . .And you do not think marriage is a 'business' venture?
Please, get married first, stay married for at least 10 years. . . then come back and ask Ireti and Patrick Doyle why they divorced after 20 years.

Please. . . stick to the topic and stop derailing the thread with your local and archaic sentiments.

Look at who is posting about women and life's frustrations. Even with all the 'machismo' una dey form, una still dey quench upandan. . . . cannot even handle common women frutrations. Only to dey count how many 'drops' of wotowoto 'akamu' una fit release to dey knack chest.

Abeg for help us find solutions to keep you dudes from dying prematuredly and stop typing rubbish from thread to thread. Women cannot be the cause of the statistically low mortality rate of menfolk globally. THE REASON WOMEN WILL KEEP OUTLIVING MEN? . . . .THEY HAVE DEVELOPED BETTER COPING MECHANISIMS TO HANDLE LIFE FRUSTRATIONS. You learn to do the same by taking a few lessons.

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I hope you know that the statistics said "on average".

So don't toot your horn. Not all women are outliving men.

Ireti divorced her husband? Watch the glow on Patrick going forward. He should go and do Thanksgiving in the nearest church.

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Kobojunkie:
So when earning the money do women do less work than the men do?

By the way, when men choose to enter into hypogamous unions, isn't it primarily in order that they can sit as gods in such unions? Do women force them into such unions? No, they mainly choose such unions for the sake of their egos, so make we hear word abeg.

That argument falls on biological basis and at the societal level. Because, women, who are the gate keepers, choose men of higher status than themselves.

The 'illegal' stresses men give themselves eg cheating, womanizing, keeping unnecessary secrets,gambling etc apart from what could actually stress them: village people due to envy, politics, lifestylechoices: drinking, smoking etc

The woman carries pregnancy for 9 months and pushes out baby ALONE..... Does house chores, some will even fetch water ( pregnant/ not) in homes where they have wells while their able bodied men are alive, do home work/ breast feed/ cook almost at same time, chase higher degrees like men, chase money.....

And the only thing men can do to show they are REAL MEN which is looking for money, they still beg for support from women... They turn cry babies and say: they need support from women.....looking for money is not for only one person( I wonder the day men will help women carry pregnancy and push out babies)..... Men will not die of stress chasing money( lol.... Thing wen women dey do and not crying, just that when married at least there should be VALUE added to a woman's life by her King.... Women may talk to their men inside the house so they live up to expectations but women try not to spread this outside to preserve the dignity of their 'ogas'....

I think the men are physically stronger but women have inner strength and resilience besides from birth women have been going through PAINS and thus are stronger... Pains like: ear piercing, making their hair, seeing their period, carrying pregnancy, pushing out babies unlike men that the major pain they had was circumcision which some girls also do.

Anyway, I thank God that despite being tagged the weaker gender and ladened with more work especially in Africa, women still live longer.

KanwuliaExtra:
Why are you making this a 'personal' matter. . . .?
First of all. . . Stop derailing threads all over NL
Secondly, it is not your business if I am married or single.
Thirdly, I owe you or NL no explanations. . . .gone are those days!

Now, back to topic!

This is the problem with narcissistic modern women like you. You give but you can’t take….again another reason men run away from women like you. By the time a man gets to a certain age he can smell problem women a mile off. Who came on Nairaland talking about themselves? You made your “personal” business a public matter? If you do t want your personal business to be an issue then STFU about your personal business.

casualobserver:
This is the problem with narcissistic modern women like you. You give but you can’t take….again another reason men run away from women like you. By the time a man gets to a certain age he can smell problem women a mile off. Who came on Nairaland talking about themselves? You made your “personal” business a public matter? If you do t want your personal business to be an issue then STFU about your personal business.

Like I stated earlier, this is not my personal story. I am using an article to discuss some of my observations and express my viewpoint.
Please, contribute respectfully and meaningfully.
Most Nairalanders I have interacted with over the years know I have been off the marriage market for over 20 years. . . .
I am an expert authority of marriage and have many years under my belt to discuss ALL FAMILY TOPICS.
please, stick to your generational gap move to your next target!

InvertedHammer:
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I hope you know that the statistics said "on average".

So don't toot your horn. Not all women are outliving men.

Ireti divorced her husband? Watch the glow on Patrick going forward. He should go and do Thanksgiving in the nearest church.

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I am tooting with horn. . . .? Did I write the article?
Some of you really have some 'basic comprehension' problems.
Please, read the article and stick to the subject matter.
I don't care if Patrick Doyle is glowing or Ireti Doyle is wilting away.
This is not a personal matter. . . .my viewpoint.
Epress yours and move on!

KanwuliaExtra:
Rasiing a child or children which women do mostly SINGLEHANDEDLY. . . . is like going through labor EVERYDAY!
You will shout everyday, do detective everyday and live in a state of paranoia worrying to give them the best every minute of your life.
IT WILL CONSUME YOU. Do you know what hormonal battle feels like?
Can a man do that?
Some women still have to struggle as provider-partners in a home and still go through what the men are going through in a COMPETITIVE-CAPITALIST MODERN WORLD.

How many men are SOLE PROVIDERS in this day and age?

To reply you further, I will quote similar sentiments from a comment in response to the article. . . .

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/05/why-women-live-longer-than-men-2/






Oturugbeke!

Women don't raise a child single handedly... Husband and wife raised them together with each one of them doing the duty... Are you now telling me men always abado their children to just focus on work only? I don't get your point... You make it seems like men are nothing... Even after a lady dlivers I have seen couples that take turns to make the baby sleep at night not one not two not even ten that do that... So should we say the men abandon their children?

KanwuliaExtra:
So men are doomed for early fatality?

This has to be Kobojunk.ie

Guys note and avoid this moniker.

She's very argumentative and it doesn't end.

She argues even when she's not supposed to.

Take note everyone.

KanwuliaExtra:
Like I stated earlier, this is not my personal story. I am using an article to discuss some of my observations and express my viewpoint.
Please, contribute respectfully and meaningfully.
Most Nairalanders I have interacted with over the years know I have been off the marriage market for over 20 years. . . .
I am an expert authority of marriage and have many years under my belt to discuss ALL FAMILY TOPICS.
please, stick to your generational gap move to your next target!

Only an unwise man argues with a woman, talk less a woman like you.

Read your post again it’s all about you you you! Your entire post is about your personal business. You made your personal business a public matter….No one gives a sh1t. No wonder nobody marry you!!!


Expert ko, expert ni! It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know, you are either never married or you are divorced because no man will put up with you and your nonsense man’s be happy. Men want peace!!
Argue with your keyboard!!!

To young women reading this don’t take relationship or marriage advise from women who themselves can’t find or can’t keep a husband. If you want relationship advise seek it from those who have visible marriages you admire not faceless bitter old spinsters on the internet. Someone who doesn’t t know what it takes to find a man, to keep a man, to maintain a household, to raise children, to raise a happy home and marriage is not a mentor!!! All they will do is lead you to where they are old lonely bitter and unwanted. This woman is clearly old, read her post below in her own words…she is alone, she clearly could not get a man to marry or could not keep her marriage together!!! This is not the sort you take advice from!!!

KanwuliaExtra:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/05/why-women-live-longer-than-men-2/




Guessing matter ke?

I think as I get older, I do not tend indulge in unhealthy relationships or habits as a female. I am quite content with my ALONE time without looking for attention from same or opposite sex. I have made all the friends and companions I could ever possibly make and have ABSOLUTELY no room for new friendships or relationships. Advantages?

1. I eat and sleep well, exercize and do only things that give me peace and pleasure. I have become extremely selfish with my body and soul that I could care less if i remained married or died single!

2. Predatory/scam emotional or financial relationships are not possible at this stage of my life as to bring about unnecessary depression and anxiety. . . .or other mental challanges that would be detrimental to my wellbeing.

Tycyborg:
Women don't raise a child single handedly... Husband and wife raised them together with each one of them doing the duty... Are you now telling me men always abado their children to just focus on work only? I don't get your point... You make it seems like men are nothing... Even after a lady dlivers I have seen couples that take turns to make the baby sleep at night not one not two not even ten that do that... So should we say the men abandon their children?

I did not imply the above in any way.
Child rearing is mainly the responsibility of a woman.
The reason we have many single families headed by women(married or unmarried).
Even if men participate in raising children, most can only be there for brief periods. They are mostly out of the homes making a living or other families! FACT!

casualobserver:
Only an unwise man argues with a woman, talk less a woman like you.

Read your post again it’s all about you you you! Your entire post is about your personal business. You made your personal business a public matter….No one gives a sh1t. No wonder nobody marry you!!!


Expert ko, expert ni! It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know, you are not married or divorced because no man will put up with you and your nonsense man’s be happy. Men want peace!!
Argue with your keyboard!!!

To young women reading this don’t take relationship or marriage advise from women who themselves can’t find or can’t keep a husband. If you want relationship advise seek it from those who have visible marriages you admire not faceless bitter old spinsters on the internet. Someone who doesn’t t know what it takes to find a man, to keep a man, to maintain a household, to raise children, to raise a happy home and marriage is not a mentor!!! All they will do is lead you to where they are old lonely bitter and unwanted. This woman is clearly old, read her post above…she clearly could not get a man to marry or could not keep her marriage together!!! This is not the sort you take advice from!!!

I know you are still 'smarting' from our previous exchanges on the other thread.
States a classic misogynist who goes around NL attacking women.
I started this thread for intellectual discourse. . . not personal banter.
Be productive and give us something meaningful to read on NL.
Unlike the nonsense you keep spewing all over NL. For example. . . .

https://www.nairaland.com/7535872/spiritual-reasons-solutions-delay-marriage/2#120280890

casualobserver:
Life works in cycles. Just like I said pre 30 the woman has the upper hand and after that the man has the upper hand. However a successful man can never be alone unless he wants to be alone. If you are abandoned in your old age as a woman or a man it is because you have nothing to offer. Same for a man or woman who no one wants to marry.

As a man your job in life is to be successful, if you are successful you will get the best women and you will not be lonely in your old age.

Please dont come hear giving examples of lesser men, whose problems in life is their lack of success or failure to think ahead and plan for old age, they probably married a woman who settled for them because the type of men she wanted didn’t want a woman like her to begin with. Such women tend to abandon their average husbands once they have kids. The key here is the woman has gotten all she wants from you. In the same way as the job of a woman is to be needed as a wife, your job as a man is to be needed until you die.

Success has many fathers, failure is an orphan. Same principle applies to both sexes. Men and women need to be desirable to the opposite sex. For a man, the no1 criteria for desirability is success. For a woman it is youth, purity (low body count) and submissiveness. People who end up alone usually do because they don’t posses these qualities. The game has always been the same and always will be.

If you are youthful, able to give a man children and submissive, you will be able to choose the best men to marry. By definition the best men are good men with a conscience and good values. Such men will never abandon their wives come rain come sunshine. Similarly if you have done your job as a man and you are successful, Nobody is going to leave you …be it wife /wives, side chicks, children, friends associates. Everybody wants a piece of you!!! Nobody abandons success!!!!!! If you see a man abandoned chances are he is not successful or lost his fortune. It has nothing to do with you, even if you are the nicest man on earth, even your children won’t have your time if you have nothing to give them in your will!!!

My reply to you?

KanwuliaExtra:
I am not gonna stay here and indulge you with your 'supra-archaic and misogynist' views on human relatioships.
Please, you are derailing the thread.
Your views have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH THE SUBJECT MATTER AT HAND.
Thanks!

Going personal will only get you whooped.
I don't indulge 'archaic-minded' men or women. . . .on or off NL.
Please, this is my thread. . . .if you don't like it. . . .get off!

AwesomeDuru:
This has to be Kobojunkie

Guys note and avoid this moniker.

She's very argumentative and it doesn't end.

She argues even when she's not supposed to.

Take note everyone.

Kobojunkie ko. . . .Please, learn to be productive and less anxious with your 'frustrated Lagos life'. Retire to your village and farm for some deep-healing, journey-therapy!

As for you. . . .
All your useless threads on NL were deleted BY YOU out of SHAME.
You nor even get motor to drive go work? After jumping from molue to molue doing 'agbero' jobs" from one Lagos-"VI"- slum to another "Iyanoba" ghettoid 'dog-out' of a slum-dwelling. . . .how won't your brain be fried? Why don't you live and work in "VI" or your 'Iyanoba-slum-dwelling" to save NL your rabid attacks?

https://www.nairaland.com/awesomeduru

You history on NL is legendary.
You even attacked a woman on a bus with your pre-prostate malignancy frustrations.
Your anger with BURAHI frustrating YOUR LIFE. . .WITH POVERTY AND UNEMPLOYMENT, you decided to lash out at a woman on a bus.
Is not evidence of your disturbed mind?

The same level of 'BUHARI-INDUCED FRUSTRATIONS' is what you are using to harass me on this thread.
Somebody saved your sick post. . . .I read the replies to your offensive write-up you deleted out of shame. They discribed you perfectly

Here goes:


https://www.nairaland.com/4491527//2

AwesomeDuru:


[s]I had a verbal showdown with a woman in the bus recently. It was in a bus from Victoria Island to Iyanoba after the day's very difficult work. I had been silently contemplating how much it was costing me daily to transport myself to and from these two locations when a woman, probably in her late 40s began shouting in the bus, just right at the top of my head, bathing me with an impressively generous amount of sputum in the process. It was a Preacher Woman.

So with my anger at Buhari's already failed government boiling inside me, I spun round and lashed out at her. I asked her why she was making so much noise with her stupid sermons when she would have been better off putting her brain to better use by thinking her way out of her sad menopausal life.

The silence that greeted these words was very real. Even passengers that had earlier seemed distant and inattentive now turned their attention towards this potentially entertaining showdown. The woman herself looked horrendously(¿) stupefied. Her reaction suggested that it was either the first time anyone questioned her religion and even stood against it or that she had in fact, come across with a physical devil (she was mostly used to spiritual ones).

Unfazed, I continued my speech. Leaving in my wake inquisitive faces of numerous passengers beaming down at me and the Preacher Woman's priceless horrifying look.

I told her her problem was that she was doing the right thing at the wrong time thereby disturbing everyone with her plain foolhardiness. That it was silly to even think of preaching her religion in a bus as this where everyone there had surely just gone through the typically rigorous Lagos daily life and needn't be hearing about some God who is very powerless and can do little to nothing to help the Nigerian situation.

It took moments before her replies, nay, *curses* came. They came in all their glories, very disturbing to behold especially when the fellow who was now uttering them was the same person preaching Love, Peace, and Tolerance moments ago.

I was calm and composed. Heck, a passenger even had to ask me later on if I had taken classes in the Art of Tranquility. Lol. I was ready for her, I'm always ready whenever these religious nutter heads and self-denying fanatics are involved. The trick is always to irk them a little and then watch them shatter the very foundations of the same virtues they claim to hold dear. Yeah, and you wonder why my favorite word is 'hypocrites'.

I didn't take in most of what she said though. I was more busy trying desperately to get away from her sputum which were now pouring uncontrollably from her mouth. Still, I heard her mention things like devils, end time and how the mini demons dwelling inside me needed to be urgently exorcised. It made me momentarily wonder whether I in fact had mini demons dwelling inside me because the way I have been eating these days surprises me very much. I immediately made a mental note to check my demonometer when I got home to see if truly there were mini demons dwelling inside me, and if indeed there were, to immediately do away with them because the prices of foodstuffs in the market is no longer funny. I can't coman be feeding mini useless demons for free, no fa.

I digress. Back to the showdown, to this peculiar battle between God and Satan, White and Black, what is Sinless and what isn't, I told the woman to leave preachings to those buildings they call churches and quit causing noise pollutions in public buses.

Surprisingly, just as she was about to retaliate with freshly laid out curses, the Conductor intervened and told her that she was in fact disturbing everyone in his bus and that she had better left the preachings to be done in Churches. Most of the passengers even murmured in agreement to this.

So like a wounded Lion, greatly outnumbered, amidst fresh curses, fuming, and hisses, the great god-hand finally quieted down.

Somewhere in the record keeping section of my mind I wrote "On this day, in this epic battle between God and the Devil, the Devil has emerged triumphant"[/s]

If it were a 'man' like you, would you have had the balls to confront her?

KanwuliaExtra:
Besides Ukraine. . . which wars are men fighting now or in the last 20 years? Which "other activities"?
Jesus died at 33. . . . and will have to die again to make the same impact. The second coming sounds familiar. . . .perhaps he would require a 9th and a 10th and still make no impact for followers with 'hardened hearts and souls'.
I ask again. . . what are MEN doing awake at night when they should be sleeping?

Read to understand and not to respond my friend. Obviously u are not well versed in what is going on inthe world. In world war 2 and after millions of men died

U have heard of Boko Haram, is that not a war. Do you know how many casualties on both sides , majority been men. underline majority
What of Sierra Leone, Liberia


Israel-Palestine crisis


Yemeni Civil War


Libyan War



Iraq War

War on Terrorism

War in Afghanistan

The price men have to pay to be the head - thats y they dont sleep like women with no care in the world

kkins25:
That argument falls on biological basis and at the societal level. Because, women, who are the gate keepers, choose men of higher status than themselves.

Really? So women are to blame when Nigerian men date women of the same economic status but abandon said women only to marry women of lower economic status in order to sit as gods in marriage?

Women are to blame when Nigerian men married to women who are economically dependent chase after and even go as far as to destroy their unions for the sake of others who are lower on the economic totem pole?

Women who are able to carry their weight financially are not fit on this biologic basis, abi?

Not to forget, the many Nigerian men out there who are in partnership relationship as opposed to master-slave unions that many Nigerian men seem to desire more are themselves not men?

KanwuliaExtra:
All about lifestyle.
Even without these 'pressures' you claim the 'man' goes through around you, it is still a global phenomenon that men in the anywhere in the world have a shorter lifespan than women.

There is NO STRESS worse that takes a toll than child bearing and rearing for women. . . .which most men escape. This stress on women alone TO CARRY AND RAISE A CHILD OR CHILDREN is enough to KILL EVERY WOMAN that has embarked on that journey. But they still manage to cope and survive right? If most men were single-parents, their lifespan would have been 1/4 that of women world-wide!

ESPECIALLY IN A FOREIGN COUNTRY WITH DIFFERENT CULTURES THAN YOURS, where our traditional methods of discipline will fail you.

Try ya luck. . . .especially raising FEMALE CHILDREN!!! You will die and resurrect everyday. . . till you finally stroke out!

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oz4real83:
do women go through labour everyday? Men worry everyday of their lives, especially when such a man is married to a lady that is never satisfied. Yahoo boys and Nigerian politicians have even created more problems for honest, hard working men. An average Nigerian lady will compare what she receives from her partner with what other ladies are receiving from their partners, when it doesn't measure up, such a man will have his lifespan reduce furthermore , even when such a lady has nothing to offer.

You dey mind am

KanwuliaExtra:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/05/why-women-live-longer-than-men-2/

Apart of the fact that women are the stronger specie. You can't imagine what men have to go through to meet ends. Men work like donkeys and have to go home to please their wives and continue the next day.

drnoel:
Apart of the act that women are the stronger specie. You can't imagine what men have to go through to meet ends. Men work like donkeys and have to go home t please their wives and continue the next day.

Thanks for your input.

If men have to work like donkeys, something is inherently wrong with that relationship. Is the partner handicap?
I know a lot of men who are able to partner with their significant others for a healthy work-life balance.
The reason I do not subscribe to a one-income/one-bread-winner family. Most who adopt this kind of economic planning with one stay-at-home parent actually make men the ONLY BREAD-WINNER IN THE HOME.

Women will say they are 'home-makers' working at home without income.
What will happen to that ONE SOLE BREAD-WINNER if he or she is met with sudden unemployment or health challanges preventing continuation of employment?

How will the pressure not be too much on ONE PERSON(MAN OR WOMAN)?

If I were to be the sole breadwinner going to work knowing my WHOLE family depends on me to thrive. . . . I would be worried day and night!
When men claim to be breadwinners/heads of households and suggest their wives DO NOT WORK, what are they thinking?

We have to learn to work together to achieve a healthy work-life balance.
Men do not complain or nag. . . women do. Because women nag, they have outlets to vent out frustrations and can re-charge. Men bottle everything up and end up becoming less productive on the long run.

WHY SHOULD A MAN TAKE ON THE SOLE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A BREAD-WINNER IN HOME? That will only work on a short term basis.
If a man continues that on the long run, he risks dropping dead within 10 of retirement, if he ever gets to retire.

quickly:
Read to understand and not to respond my friend. Obviously u are not well versed in what is going on inthe world. In world war 2 and after millions of men died

U have heard of Boko Haram, is that not a war. Do you know how many casualties on both sides , majority been men. underline majority
What of Sierra Leone, Liberia


Israel-Palestine crisis


Yemeni Civil War


Libyan War



Iraq War

War on Terrorism

War in Afghanistan

The price men have to pay to be the head - thats y they dont sleep like women with no care in the world

Let me educate you a tad. . . .Women also fight in wars. . . as combat aides or support aides. I have famales in my family who are military medical personnel.
You need to understand that the rate at which men loose their lives in wars. . . or unnecessary ethnic/religious crises pales in comparisons to the rate at which women die in Africa EVERY YEAR during childbirth. I have done my research. . . you do the same. For every reason you 'CLAIM' that men are endangered. . . .women are twice as endangered DURING CHILDBIRTH AND SITUATIONS WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE in the hands of men all over Africa. Yes, women also kill their husbands in violent disputes, but not at the disproportional rate men kill women.

Women also have their own MAJOR BATTTLES WITH MATERNAL-INFANT DEATH RATES IN AFRICA. There are different battle fields in life. WOMEN HAVE THEIRS. Men are not special when it comes to risk-exposures in life.

IS THIS NOT A BATTLEFIELD FOR WOMEN? Pregnancy exposes women to A LOT OF HEALTH RISKS!
Do you realize that the major cause of HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE AND DIABETES IN WOMEN IS PREGNANCY?
https://www.afro.who.int/health-topics/maternal-health

KEY FACTS
Every day, approximately 830 women die from preventable causes related to pregnancy and childbirth.
99% of all maternal deaths occur in developing countries.
Maternal mortality is higher in women living in rural areas and among poorer communities.
Young adolescents face a higher risk of complications and death as a result of pregnancy than other women.
Skilled care before, during and after childbirth can save the lives of women and newborn babies.
Between 1990 and 2015, maternal mortality worldwide dropped by about 44%.
Between 2016 and 2030, as part of the Sustainable Development Goals, the target is to reduce the global maternal mortality ratio to less than 70 per 100 000 live births.


Why do women die?
Women die as a result of complications during and following pregnancy and childbirth. Most of these complications develop during pregnancy and most are preventable or treatable. Other complications may exist before pregnancy but are worsened during pregnancy, especially if not managed as part of the woman’s care. The major complications that account for nearly 75% of all maternal deaths are:4

severe bleeding (mostly bleeding after childbirth)
infections (usually after childbirth)
high blood pressure during pregnancy (pre-eclampsia and eclampsia)
complications from delivery
unsafe abortion.

Do 830 MEN die on the battle field EVERY DAY?
Please, state your next point.

I finally understand that women are the more endangered. . . .they are rewaded with longevity out of DIVINE PROVIDENCE AND MERCY!

KanwuliaExtra:
Thanks for your input.

If men have to work like donkeys, something is inherently wrong with that relationship. Is the partner handicap?
I know a lot of men who are able to partner with their significant others for a healthy work-life balance.
The reason I do not subscribe to a one-income/one-bread-winner family. Most who adopt this kind of economic planning with one stay-at-home parent actually make men the ONLY BREAD-WINNER IN THE HOME.

Women will say they are 'home-makers' working at home without income.
What will happen to that ONE SOLE BREAD-WINNER if he or she is met with sudden unemployment or health challanges preventing continuation of employment?

How will the pressure not be too much on ONE PERSON(MAN OR WOMAN)?

If I were to be the sole breadwinner going to work knowing my WHOLE family depends on me to thrive. . . . I would be worried day and night!
When men claim to be breadwinners/heads of households and suggest their wives DO NOT WORK, what are they thinking?

We have to learn to work together to achieve a healthy work-life balance.
Men do not complain or nag. . . women do. Because women nag, they have outlets to vent out frustrations and can re-charge. Men bottle everything up and end up becoming less productive on the long run.

WHY SHOULD A MAN TAKE ON THE SOLE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A BREAD-WINNER IN HOME? That will only work on a short term basis.
If a man continues that on the long run, he risks dropping dead within 10 of retirement, if he ever gets to retire.

What you say is true but you are looking at it in line of the Nigerian setting, where you have family around and can employ a house help or a cleaning person.
Speak to Nigerians in diaspora and you will understand another point of view. For most families as long as the children are still young someone may have to either work shorter hours or stay at home

KanwuliaExtra:
Thanks for your input.

If men have to work like donkeys, something is inherently wrong with that relationship. Is the partner handicap?
I know a lot of men who are able to partner with their significant others for a healthy work-life balance.
The reason I do not subscribe to a one-income/one-bread-winner family. Most who adopt this kind of economic planning with one stay-at-home parent actually make men the ONLY BREAD-WINNER IN THE HOME.

Women will say they are 'home-makers' working at home without income.
What will happen to that ONE SOLE BREAD-WINNER if he or she is met with sudden unemployment or health challanges preventing continuation of employment?

How will the pressure not be too much on ONE PERSON(MAN OR WOMAN)?

If I were to be the sole breadwinner going to work knowing my WHOLE family depends on me to thrive. . . . I would be worried day and night!
When men claim to be breadwinners/heads of households and suggest their wives DO NOT WORK, what are they thinking?

We have to learn to work together to achieve a healthy work-life balance.
Men do not complain or nag. . . women do. Because women nag, they have outlets to vent out frustrations and can re-charge. Men bottle everything up and end up becoming less productive on the long run.

WHY SHOULD A MAN TAKE ON THE SOLE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A BREAD-WINNER IN HOME? That will only work on a short term basis.
If a man continues that on the long run, he risks dropping dead within 10 of retirement, if he ever gets to retire.

To add to what I wrote earlier. All my friends and acquaintances in diaspora are sole bread winners. No due to their wishes but cos of the situation I mentioned earlier

Ifyz0001:
A guy will order uber for his girl friend and he, himself will use public transportation.

Categorically, Nigerian men over-pamper women at their own expense.

What do you think will happen?

His choice to order uber. Nobody forced him.

Maybe cos of expectation( sex), he forgot to use his brain.
Idiocy.

drnoel:
What you say is true but you are looking at it in line of the Nigerian setting, where you have family around and can employ a house help or a cleaning person.
Speak to Nigerians in diaspora and you will understand another point of view. For most families as long as the children are still young someone may have to either work shorter hours or stay at home

Understood.
I have one family member whose wife has abandoned him because he is 'stressed' from working. He stays on the internet arguing on social media platforms till he was fired from his job for 'online tradiing and gambling'! Now, he has high blood pressure and has moved in with another family member. The wife and children have relocated farrrrrrrr away from him to avoid further conflicts. The only son has copied his father's habits and sleeps online too, instead of obeying house rules concerning social media addiction.

Father addict. . .
Son addict. . .

I don't know ANY FAMILY HERE IN THE DIASPORA WITH ONE FAMILY INCOME. Or the father as a sole bread winner. The men will NOT EVEN ALLOW IT. . . unless they are dealing with 'newly imported spouses' or spouses with academic or medical challenges.

I DO NOT KNOW ONENIGERIAN MAN AROUND ME THAT IS A BREAD-WINNER. You cannot make it as an individual or as a family with ONE INCOME. It is NOT POSSIBLE IN THE DIASPORA. . . .It is even the wives that are mostly the bread-winners. Most of our NIGERIAN MEN have lost the zeal to maintain meaningful employment and really give up easily because of their love for 'get rich or die tryng' fraudulent mentalities!