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OnlineArchitect:
Pay attention to words said jokingly. It's always the purest form of truth

When men joke it’s a joke. When women joke it’s true. Please pay attention to it. Buh I love her for telling you now. It will make you to get prepared

do4luv14:
Buh no be you be Open nau

Lol, shame nor go let who open ask

achimendy:
I can tell you boldly that she meant it. When you get married to her you'll see the real her.

That kind of woman is not needed in your family, when she gets in she'll tear it into pieces. She's jokingly telling you her mind, don't take her words for granted.


Be warned.

Chaiii,
You are near the truth of the matter,

Onucs:
Na 2023 b dis try get sense na. Leave all this gossip and pursue money.

Gbamsulotely, well said, end of thread, which kind yarn dem dey carry come nairaland.com, people are talking about hunger and petrol scarcity in Nigeria and this mugu dey yarn irrelevant stories

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

Woman power my foot . I read it as a creed to my wife when our marriage was taking off . I told her never to wade into any matter concerning my family or my friends. She has kept to it because, she wouldn’t recognize me if she dares . She told you that because she had already seen your brother as a very weak fellow

swiych:
Lol, shame nor go let who op ask

😀😀😀😀😀

Ndubuisipaul1:
am Just here to get help , it obvious you don't have what I seek . instead of you to keep mute you are trying to it make difficult for people who has the answers to what I seek to help me, by calling me a liar.

please I didn't offend you in anyway .

Bia nwokem, d earlier u send that woman where she belongs to d better for u and ur family. If such a woman could utter such words like "Power of a woman" it shows that u hv overlooked all d red and yellow flag all these while. it shows that she dun see u finish, it shows that what happebed to Samson would be a child's play.
Also it shows that u hv over pampered her for too long.
Then, for her to say such, it shows that u are never man enough, either ur father failed to train u as a man or u deviated from d training ur father gave u.
Men are becoming too weak and soft dis day, anywhere i go i see fucking weak men, pussy ass niggars everywhere

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

since your brother won't be staying with you permanent then the whole thing is still a joke. After all your brother can't spend more than a week with you on visitation or your brother won't have his own family?

Nothing serious here

obinnazy:
No girl, I repeat no woman can separate me from my younger brother, nonsense

WE ARE BREEDING WEAKLING DIS DAY IN FORM OF MEN. GONE ARE D DAYS WHEN U SEE A MAn U KNOW THAT U HV SEEN A REAL MAN, WEAK GENERATION OF GUYS

SaintNegro77:
The heart of a man is desperately wicked and deceitful, no one can know it all. I tell you my brother, she's not joking. The truth is even my wife can't stand between me and my brothers and mother. I will treat her and her people with utmost respect and love but she dare not try to put a rift between I and my siblings.

Persin u no know, neva see b4 or anything, and you're already judging PERSONALLY?

You fvccked up, those type of questions don't deserve a specific answer, she's gonna resent you for that

Ballzproblem2:
senseless from ,your end , instead of you to calm things you are even fueling it more ,your brother shouldn't be placed above your wife ,if na mumsi I fit try understand,but brother/sister is a no wether seniority or not , nevertheless,both are wrong , better start creating peace ,cause the way I'm seeing it your marriage is heading towards a rock.


side note:- your senior brother has no right to send your fiancee/wife on an errand,if he wants something,ask politely,if she can't ,let him do it himself

Omor this your side note get K leg abeg, hw can you say that, your side note advice is very wrong plz, dont give such advice to any man. Note that yout first advice is very on point but u just spoil it with the side note.

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

Anotehr finished man

The problem is all of una dey crase together

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.


Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

St. Paul pray for you.

There was no need to tell her you will chose your brother. And your brother can't be sending her on errands, she is a married wife.


Brief, no need to fear - Just go and pray a Novena to St. Joseph to be a real man and to do 90% things right.

Book Novena mass too and attend at least one. You are 90% to go.



Pray Novena Before Marriage with your wife (9 days). You are 100% to go. At this point, no weapon fashioned against you etc.

Yea she was wrong, but your brother clearly started it. He said when you two get married, he will be sending her on errands. What kind of thing be that?

Your fiancé was also very wrong, but your brother provoked the whole thing. But her reply was too viscous though.

Sometimes people need to learn to point fingers at the person that caused the drama in the first place

Na you think say
She dey joke......
Na inside joke, truth dey....
Bet me on this
SHE GO DO AM EVENTUALLY BUT GRADUALLY

Sixfeetbelle:
Abegii! Book which nonsense space? There's no disclaimer like that on Nairaland so deal with it.

I did not lie.

Every time, you guys will quickly rush here to post about perceived wrong the women in your life did while neglecting the good they do. The poor widow your mother helped today, where is the post? The lost little boy your sister helped locate his parents, where is that post? What about the post of how your aunty dodged marrying a married man nko?

Nope, none of those exists. It's only topics like "My ex said my boss is her spec", "My girlfriend asked me for money", "My babe punna is wide" una sabi. Nonsense.

You're 34? So what? Somehow you're above making up stories to bash women? Abegii 🤨🤨

Na that 34yrs finish everything sef.

Foolish 34yrs old man with no brain.

See a 34yr old jonzing himself this beginning of a new year.

Ballzproblem2:
senseless from ,your end , instead of you to calm things you are even fueling it more ,your brother shouldn't be placed above your wife ,if na mumsi I fit try understand,but brother/sister is a no wether seniority or not , nevertheless,both are wrong , better start creating peace ,cause the way I'm seeing it your marriage is heading towards a rock.


side note:- your senior brother has no right to send your fiancee/wife on an errand ,if he wants something,ask politely,if she can't ,let him do it himself

You are right. But that woman's response was way off and calls for concern.

But na which kind play go reach that point.

priceactionx:
Oga Paul, she is right. Please define a marriage. If you can genuinely define it, then you will be matured to handle what may come your way. Yours is to protect her especially a young marriage. She does not have a problem with your brother until your brother insist he would be sending her on an errand. Who does that? As for say na him marry her or assistant husband? You too dey support nonsense. He is a brother not your mum for Christ sake.
when you married, and you want peace, you first of all separate family members coming to stay from those that just coming once in a while.
No matter what your brother might have done for you, he can always come like a visitor and your marriage will have peace. If you want him to always be around you, let him get his apartment close to you and get an house help to do the running up and down, and you can always visit each other.
once she is married to you, she won't allow someone sending her up and down for no reasons. She is not a house help but your own help mate talk less of being an errand girl for another person that is not feeding her.
Baba.. Reason am na.
if you can't abide by simple marriage code that can bring early peace, no need to marry at all. It's that simple.

NO WOMAN HAS A SAY IN MY HOUSE


a woman ought to follow the rules of the husband in the family and not the other way round.

Any man being control by his mother, sister, wife, girlfriend or any woman at all is not fit to be called a man. But a SIMP



Even Jesus Christ para when Mary told him the turn water to wine

Red flag

It looks like a joke but I bet you it is not. She has told you everything: she is going to separate 2 of you. So begin right away to make the choice between her and your brother

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

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Nothing to worry.

Your wife and your brother's wife will probably separate both of you. By the way, your brother should know not to visit and stay more than two days after you get married. Is he jobless?

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Thanks to God you were courageous enough to make her know family is first before anything.

But also know that when you marry her, she is first before your brother. Because she is now immediate family (first family).
But build in her that spirit of loving your father's family.

Let me also tell you this, tell her she has equal right in your father's family as anyone based on her position in your father's family. So by age, she sits below your brother, and by been your wife she stands above your brother.

Let her be wise and use both to her advantage and to serve the good of the family.

Everything no be quarrel... Wisdom is profitable to direct.

If you can accept your brother's own as joke I see no reason why you shouldn't accept her own as joke

I stopped at "he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her". You are a buffoon

No favoritism here.

If you are the sibling to your to-be fiancee, what would be your reaction, if she reported such statement to you? Your brother is wrong for that statement.

As a man , once you realized you are matured enough, it's expected to read books on Human Psychology, Female Psychology and How to be the Man of the day, because everyone you'd ever meet in life will directly or indirectly play psychological game on you.

Your lady reacted both as a human and a woman, but not as a wise one.

Her Power is Emotional manipulation (Your default weakness as a man) & if truly she's a woman, then she must be darn good at it.

Your brother spoke from a place of entitlement, and that's why you found it difficult to scold him because you are indebted (Vulnerability Sighted)

Your bro, has the right to request for her help, but he doesn't have the authority to do so.

Let them know that both family are to treat others with love and respect.

It's your manliness that's being tested.

Get books on Marriage, Human, and Female Psychology.

Pray for Wisdom.

My 2 $hillings.

Godoverevery:
She has a right if she the one who married the man and paid the groom price.

And PS I don't think the OP and 90% of nigeria men will agree with you on that right.

no woman has a right in a man's house.
Her right ended in her father's house



A woman belongs to the kitchen, the bathroom and za ozzzza room

Anything that crosses that boundary belongs to the man and him alone.

Women have no say in life, that is why they seek men that have a say in the society



When a woman is young they listen to their father, when they get married they listen to their husband

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

Which kain story be this ... If you have a strong bond btw your siblings you should know by now that no one can separate you

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

From the content of the heart the mouth speaketh. A good woman would not even harbor that taught.

If she was a good woman she wouldnt repeat it, trust me. She would of felt conviction and tried to die it off.

Given the chance, the girl will do it. I had one mgbeke tell me to take away the car i gave my brother. I abuse the living hell out of her, right there and then. If my brother was there, she would of packed her things and get out instantly. No woman power owns me

Ndubuisipaul1:
My fiancee told my younger brother that she will send him out of my house if we get married. She was joking, but it didn't sound like a joke to me.

Let me tell you how this started. My younger brother told my fiancee jokingly, that he will be sending her on errand anyhow, when she marries me. Although he went too far for saying he will be sending her on errand anyhow. But he has every right to send her on errand because he senior her. She then replied that if my brother do anyhow, when we get married she will ask me to send him away from my house. At this point I stop seeing the whole discussion as joke. I asked her to repeat what she said, she repeated it again (take note: she was saying everything jokingly)

I told her right away that if my brother comes visiting when we get married, she will not send him away. She said she will use her woman power to make me send him away.

She went further to ask me, that if they ask me now to choose between her and my brother who would I choose. I told her I would choose my brother (she could see the seriousness in me).

And I really meant it, any girl that will separate me and my brother will have to use jazz .

This my younger brother established the business that I am doing today. Has done countless number of things for me.

We don't joke with each other, and she knows that.

So am really scared, could this be a joke ? even though it a joke. How can a woman joke that she will separate two brothers ?

Nairalanders, please help a brother with your advice. is this a red flag ?

Why would your brother say he will turn her to his errand girl when you guys get married? Can’t he run errands himself?