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Ngozey:
I don't have money for a lawyer unless it is free of charge 😭😭😭

You're very naîve if you're even considering a Lawyer. Kuku calm down your blood dey hot. You don't have means of taking care of yourself not to talk of a baby and you want custody. So you're not happy that your sister is helping out? Kuku finish the work you're learning. Negotiate with her to visit. Period

frozen70:
But do you have a means of feeding and providing for that child assuming you take over the child

No 😭😭 but my life is completely shattered without her i don't really want to have her custody , i just wish she could give me visitations right even if it is once a year I will be so happy

IgiveLadiesBj:
You're very naîve if you're even considering a Lawyer. Kuku calm down your blood dey hot. You don't have means of taking care of yourself not to talk of a baby and you want custody. So you're not happy that your sister is helping out? Kuku finish the work you're learning. Negotiate with her to visit. Period

I don't want a lawyer i want visitation rights

IgiveLadiesBj:
You're very naîve if you're even considering a Lawyer. Kuku calm down your blood dey hot. You don't have means of taking care of yourself not to talk of a baby and you want custody. So you're not happy that your sister is helping out? Kuku finish the work you're learning. Negotiate with her to visit. Period

There is nothing naive about considering a lawyer in her situation given that she is not aware of the real intentions of her sister, the husband and the supposed father of the child. Yes, it is best for her to get herself grounded before she can approach one but going through a lawyer is the best way to go about this if she wants to get her baby back regardless of the intentions of the other party.

Ngozey:
I don't want a lawyer i want visitation rights

Your baby should be walking now and I believe she's in good care. Moreover no be only you get the baby. Why not call your Sis that you want to come for weekend. Assuming she no send you money now, can you afford the transport?

Ngozey:
I don't want a lawyer i want visitation rights

Has your sister, her husband and the brother given you that right yet? If not, then you need a lawyer on your side.

Kobojunkie:
There is nothing naive about considering a lawyer in her situation given that she is not aware of the real intentions of her sister, the husband and the supposed father of the child. Yes, it is best for her to get herself grounded before she can approach one but going through a lawyer is the best way to go about this if she wants to get her baby back regardless of the intentions of the other party.

I don't know where you live but this is Nigeria
This is pure jargons and out of reach. She was a minor when she had the baby and as it is she can't take care of the baby.

The only thing you should be advising her is to liaise with the sister to be visiting from time to time. By the way she's not the sole owner of the baby. They did her a great gesture tbh

Kobojunkie:
Has your sister, her husband and the brother given you that right yet? If not, then you need a lawyer on your side.

Which kind thing you dey talk like this? What does she need a lawyer for? You want her to bite the fingers that's feeding her?

IgiveLadiesBj:
Your baby should be walking now and I believe she's in good care. Moreover no be only you get the baby. Why not call your Sis that you want to come for weekend. Assuming she no send you money now, can you afford the transport?

Yes she is now a big girl 2 years and 4 months, she hasn't spoken to me since april 2021 when I left her house. Even if I call her with using a different number, as soon as she hear my voice she will cut the call. I don't need her to send me money ,i only need visitations right ,if she allow me i will borrow money for transportation even if it she will not allow me inside her house , that's fine I can see my baby outside of her house . I don't mind spending the night on the street just to see my baby.

Kobojunkie:
Has your sister, her husband and the brother given you that right yet? If not, then you need a lawyer on your side.

The baby daddy has nothing to do with this , he was sent to the village in april 2020 he hasn't met the baby. My sister and her husband are the ones whose keeping my baby away from me

IgiveLadiesBj:
■I don't know where you live but this is Nigeria. This is pure jargons and out of reach.
■ She was a minor when she had the baby and as it is she can't take care of the baby.
■ The only thing you should be advising her is to liaise with the sister to be visiting from time to time.
■By the way she's not the sole owner of the baby. They did her a great gesture tbh

1. Right there in that same Nigeria there are equally many who consult lawyers to settle cases that involve family disputes, so I am not certain what you are attempting to say here.

2. Granted Op was possibly a minor when she had the baby but it is against the Law in that same Nigeria to take a child away from its parent. What her sister and the husband did amounts to kidnapping that child, and since there was no discussion with Op as far as their intentions, Op at least has right to demand they include her in the conversation as mother of the child since they have refused to even up till now.

3. Rubbish! Should we also go out there and deprive every other underage parent of their right to shoulder the burdens and consequences of their actions? No one has right to deprive those children that right to have and raise their burden on their own.

4. She may not be the sole owner but according to her story the ones who took the baby from her aren't even owners. They are, by law, no different from kidnappers.

Ngozey:
The baby daddy has nothing to do with this , he was sent to the village in april 2020 he hasn't met the baby. My sister and her husband are the ones whose keeping my baby away from me

Your sister and her husband committed a crime here.

IgiveLadiesBj:
Which kind thing you dey talk like this? What does she need a lawyer for? You want her to bite the fingers that's feeding her?

Her baby was kidnapped -- taken away from her without her consent-- and so it is her right to demand the baby be returned to her.

Fingers feeding her? So because the fingers feed her makes it OK for the fingers to deprive her of her rights as a human and mother?

Kobojunkie:
Your sister and her husband committed a crime here.

Yes they've kidnapped my baby 😭😭😭 but to Nigerians it seems as they are doing me a favour because i am hopeless.

Ngozey:
Yes they've kidnapped my baby 😭😭😭 but to Nigerians it seems as they are doing me a favour because i am hopeless.

The only good you can do yourself at this point is to get yourself established and then get you a good lawyer and go demand your baby back. You are 20, maybe you should study to represent your own self and go get your baby back..

Ngozey:
Yes they've kidnapped my baby 😭😭😭 but to Nigerians it seems as they are doing me a favour because i am hopeless.

I think I understand how you feel...there is nothing like a mother's love for her child. Make noise to your parents, your sisters husband parents, go to their house and make noise, find human rights activists and make noise through them. Cause a lot of trouble and watch them hand your child to you...

But, it means you will solely be responsible for your child. You would have taken away the privilege of better education, feeding, housing, clothing, health and exposure for the child. Think about it well.

Ngozey:
Yes they've kidnapped my baby 😭😭😭 but to Nigerians it seems as they are doing me a favour because i am hopeless.

Your hopelessness has little to do with what they did but the fact that you chose to have a child without first making sure you had the wherewithal to provide for yourself first, and then the child is order to protecting it. So the opening to all this was created by you and not your sister and her husband. So you need to begin using your head at this time, if you haven't already begun to.

Ngozey:
No 😭😭 but my life is completely shattered without her i don't really want to have her custody , i just wish she could give me visitations right even if it is once a year I will be so happy

Ok but no matter how bad you think your life is

Try and engage yourself with something meaningful and then from there you can afford to transport yourself to see your child

Kobojunkie:
Your hopelessness has little to do with what they did but the fact that you chose to have a child without first making sure you had the wherewithal to provide for yourself first, and then the child is order to protecting it. So the opening to all this was created by you and not your sister and her husband. So you need to begin using your head at this time, if you haven't already begun to.

Reality on ground is that she is going to be 20 while the child's father will be 19 this year and have been sent back to the village, like she was based on her thread 2 years ago. They had their baby when they were 17 and 16 respectively and still yet to get their footing, to provide for the child though it does not discount the fact that they are the child's parents.

She needs to get someone to mediate between she and her sister, work out how she can spend some time with her daughter while she straightens her life.

Mindlog:
Reality on ground is that she is going to be 20 while the child's father will be 19 this year and have been sent back to the village, like she was based on her thread 2 years ago. They had their baby when they were 17 and 16 respectively and still yet to get their footing, to provide for the child though it does not discount the fact that they are the child's parents.

She needs to get someone to mediate between she and her sister, work out how she can spend some time with her daughter while she straightens her life.

and she will be billing who for the visits? She can't take care of the kid herself and she is probably not fending for herself as is. So, who would she be billing for the visits she is requesting at this point?

Kobojunkie:
and she will be billing who for the visits? She can't take care of the kid herself and she is probably not fending for herself as is. So, who would she be billing for the visits she is requesting at this point?

She is a full blown adult and should earn her fare and related expenses that such visits would gulp because it is not enough missing her child and wants to visit, if she is not earning.

She must have to work extra in the village and save for such visits, else she shouldn't disrupt the child who doesn't need inconsistency in her young life.

Mindlog:
She is a full blown adult and should earn her fare and related expenses that such visits would gulp because it is not enough missing her child and wants to visit, if she is not earning.
She must have to work extra in the village and save for such visits, else she shouldn't disrupt the child who doesn't need inconsistency in her young life.

My point exactly! So, it's best she waits until she is able to at least take care of herself — put food on the table for herself and pay the cost of transportation in addition to all expenses necessary either for the visit or getting her child back before she goes making demands.

Contact NAPTIP.

Ngozey:
I don't have money for a lawyer unless it is free of charge 😭😭😭

Ngozey:
Hello guys please help me out , my siser husband brother impregnated me 😢😭 i gve birth in october2020, i have only breastfed her👩‍👦 😔😟🙁😥 for 6 months before my sister sent me back to the village without my baby 😢😭😢😭, I have been in the villa since april 2021 and i havnt seen my baby again because my doesn't want me to visit them. I missed her so much i dont even know what she looks like now , i really want her back and i strongly believe my sister is suffering her because she always use to refer her as a bad luck 😭😭😭. I missed her so much and I desperately want her back. 😩 what should I do to have my baby back please help me out 😭😭😭🙏

You don't have wnough to take care of yourself?
You don't have money to take care of your daughter?
You don't have money for a làwyer?
So you want to take away this baby from a stable home and provide her with what?

You do not need to see her right now.
Go and find your feet and come back for her when you have something to offer.
There is a reason why Moses' mother allowed him drift away in thr Nile to be raised up by a princess of Egypt.

Kobojunkie:
■ Get a lawyer
■ Get proof that you had a baby from the hospital where you had the baby
■ Have your lawyer inform your sister, her husband , and the brother that if they don't return your baby, you will take them to court in addition to having to pay you damages

Haba!!!
Bros be calming down

I understand how you feel and i also understand how your sister feels too but i don't think a lawyer now will solve anything. You said your mom is late but you guys must have a female character that can talk to your sister and her husband to atleast let you see your child from time to time since you're not financially buoyant to take over the responsibility yourself.

Shokoloko:
You don't have wnough to take care of yourself?
You don't have money to take care of your daughter?
You don't have money for a làwyer?
So you want to take away this baby from a stable home and provide her with what?

You do not need to see her right now.
Go and find your feet and come back for her when you have something to offer.
There is a reason why Moses' mother allowed him drift away in thr Nile to be raised up by a princess of Egypt.

I want visitation rights 😭😭😭

IkeIgboNile:
I understand how you feel and i also understand how your sister feels too but i don't think a lawyer now will solve anything. You said your mom is late but you guys must have a female character that can talk to your sister and her husband to atleast let you see your child from time to time since you're not financially buoyant to take over the responsibility yourself.

Unfortunately the female character is in support of her😭😭😭

Ngozey:
Unfortunately the female character is in support of her😭😭😭

I can feel your pains and they're indeed great!
However I won't condemn your Sister - She did whats best for you, and most especially for the Baby!
Please I'll strongly advise you to convert all these emotions into making yourself a better mother first, I am sure your sister and your baby would appreciate you more if you can spare them all the emotional distraction your visit will stir up.

Ngozey:
I want visitation rights 😭😭😭

In Nigeria, rights come with money which you don't have.
You are focusing on the wrong thing.
You are wishing, and wishing cannot help you now.

Use this pain and anger to propel yourself to greater heights so that when you finally decide to take your daughter, she will not be ashamed of you.

Same baby you wanted to abort here

https://www.nairaland.com/5751460/im-pregnant-sisters-brother-in-law-im

Shokoloko:
In Nigeria, rights come with money which you don't have.
You are focusing on the wrong thing.
You are wishing, and wishing cannot help you now.

Use this pain and anger to propel yourself to greater heights so that when you finally decide to take your daughter, she will not be ashamed of you.

Ok thanks