Richy4:


In that case your sister have to prepare her mindset...

<<The man have kids.... So she should be willing to accommodate them at any given time. just the way he will accommodate hers...
That's where a lot of ladies have issues... they always knew that and when the reality comes, they act like it came as a surprise.. Remember it is challenging to tolerate and accommodate someone else's kids... Especially the ill-behaved ones... they will return someday...

<< The ex-have something in common with the Man (ie kids) so she should not look or sound jealous when they come together for the welfare of their kids..

<< I don't think there are surprising pro and cons in a relationship anymore because it is full of baggage....All one needs is someone with the lighter baggage...Single men and women have their own, divorced have their own. single parents have their own... The ability to tolerate the baggage that comes with a relationship is what counts.

hmmm… okay would relay this to her…

Saintmary:



Isn't there any other man proposing to your sis?


Divorced men are a minefield in my opinion.


Marriage is a big deal o, every problem in the relationship will be amplified in marriage.


If it were my sister, I would ask her to wait a bit.

My sister is not really the outgoing type, just home-work home… I was surprised when she even met this one… I think I agree with you on ‘waiting a bit’… would tell her

frozen70:


Your mum is an experienced mother so she knows and understands better

Hmmmm moms eehn… funny thing is my mom is always right, her instinct doesn’t go wrong… I have tried going against her instinct once Omoor it landed me in trouble…

Lamanii22:



Hmmmm moms eehn… funny thing is my mom is always right, her instinct doesn’t go wrong… I have tried going against her instinct once Omoor it landed me in trouble…

Being a mom comes with lots of life challenges both in marriage and outside marriage

Those things gives her lots of experiences to guide herself and people around her especially her children

Lamanii22:


My sister is not really the outgoing type, just home-work home… I was surprised when she even met this one… I think I agree with you on ‘waiting a bit’… would tell her

She should try and go out a bit, so that she can have options to choose from.


It's easy to think that a bird in hand is worth ten in the bush.

If she insists on going ahead, she should brace up for rude shocks coming her way.


Good luck to her.

Real talk...

oldienavie:

A single mother that has been looking for who to marry for 10 years, she con see divorced man you say make she nor marry am. Oya now, provide man for her to marry.
Some of you on this forum just write like kids.

Lamanii22:
hmmm… okay would relay this to her…

Why was your sister a baby mama in the first place......
Did she fall for personality of bad guy.....

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BigDick70inch:


Why was your sister a baby mama in the first place......
Did she fall for personality of bad guy.....

I don’t really know but it’s more like he betrayed her…

Lamanii22:
yea he does… but they live overseas….

Hmmm… there are many men that have their families abroad who are still in naija with all the “japa” syndrome currently going on.

Your sister needs to really confirm that he is divorced before she go turn second wife overnight.

eniolorunfe:


Hmmm… there are many men that have their families abroad who are still in naija with all the “japa” syndrome currently going on.

Your sister needs to really confirm that he is divorced before she go turn second wife overnight.

Okay, I think this is what my mom dreads… the man lives overseas too… he came back cause of her though…

Is your mum aware that ur sister is a single mom? What kind of audacity is this?

So she want your sister who is a single mum to get married to a guy who has no kids or who hasn't previously married.

I blame the guy, he doesn't know his worth.

pocohantas:
Your mum should remove the speck in her own eyes first. I am sure if the man had written your sister off for being a single mother, we won’t be having this conversation.

Exactly....I don't even understand what the issue is. As long as the man is actually responsible and sincere, what then is the problem. The mother needs to understand that her daughter got her own baggage of being a single mother

Red02:
Single mother and divorced man.....

Its a tough derby

Let me wait for late comers

I'm telling you. A tight one. Those that rushed to comment didn't read till the end.

One man's meat is another's poison. They both might just connect very well.

frozen70:


Being single parent and being a divorced man is not a curse

Whom soever the children are staying with, the man knows that he has children some where and must divide his attentions with them, including your sister

The only disadvantage there is that, in the near future, those children the other wife had for him, if any, will bring their mother back home and by that time, their father won't have an option because they may be so comfortable to build a house their mum will be staying

So they will now have a voice of their own and speak for their mum

Once they succeed of which they will succeed

Your sister will be the second wife by default

I think i will prefer your sister to get a widower if she can't get a bachelor for peace of mind

Divorced. Not separated.

So, if the bride price has been returned and court also did theirs ( if any court weeding took place) then it's okay.

But if just separated without the above, then she's automatically a second wife

oldienavie:

A single mother that has been looking for who to marry for 10 years, she con see divorced man you say make she nor marry am. Oya now, provide man for her to marry.
Some of you on this forum just write like kids.

I wonder the way people think. So na single man go come marry baby mama.

Intergrated:
I wonder the way people think. So na single man go come marry baby mama.

Is it a curse to be a single mom? You can't marry a single mom but can marry a woman who has slept with tens of men and probably also slept with an animal. Change your mindset. Tueh!

We4all:


Is it a curse to be a single mom? You can't marry a single mom but can marry a woman who has slept with tens of men and probably also slept with an animal. Change your mindset. Tueh!

did you read the story at all or body just dey pepper you?

Intergrated:
did you read the story at all or body just dey pepper you?

I read the story and your comment as well. You demeaned a single mom because her mom had reservations about her getting married to a divorced man.

First of all try locate the ex wife he divorced and find out what actually happened

We have divorced men and we have divorced men.

If the divorced man is like Israel DMW, Davido's Aide who put his now ex-wife through hellfire in just one year of marriage and came on social media to play saint, then u are in for it big time.

I come in peace.

Inside life

Why Mama is objecting despite her daughter being a single mother ? She should be happy after all !!!!

slimjohn2k5:
A lot of cons
because u only heard her side of the story on y she got divorced.

Also, a second marriage is mostly more turbulent than the first

3rd u deal with step children and their father's visit

You cannot complain because many people warned you before u went in, so u die in silence.

Better chose your battle wisely

your answer is upside down 👇👎

Single mother get choice too . E shock me

Lamanii22:
So guys, my sister met a man like a year ago that is divorced, right now he wants them to take it to another level, like wedding level…. My sister is a single mother though, educated, working class, successful…. But my mom doesn’t agree to it, she’s only seeing the bad side…


So I would like to know if there’s anyone who has gotten married to a divorced man before.. I would also like to know the pros and cons…

This said man has been truthful so far though…

Waiting for comments! Thank you…

I'm divorced, I want to marry you, Yes you.

Lamanii22:
So guys, my sister met a man like a year ago that is divorced, right now he wants them to take it to another level, like wedding level…. My sister is a single mother though, educated, working class, successful…. But my mom doesn’t agree to it, she’s only seeing the bad side…


So I would like to know if there’s anyone who has gotten married to a divorced man before.. I would also like to know the pros and cons…

This said man has been truthful so far though…

Waiting for comments! Thank you…

he that divorce his wife makes her commit Adultery, he that marries he/she that is divorced commits Adultery.
That's biblical.

Their package always come with excess baggages you have to deal with.
His/her former spouse
His/her present children
His/her former experience in marriage
His/her former inlaws
His/her spiritual baggages as a result of the former marriage

And much more.
This is still applies for marrying a widow as well as marrying a widower

oldienavie:

A single mother that has been looking for who to marry for 10 years, she con see divorced man you say make she nor marry am. Oya now, provide man for her to marry.
Some of you on this forum just write like kids.

they write without sense

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Ogisbaba:
Why Mama is objecting despite her daughter being a single mother ? She should be happy after all !!!!

Why?

It's harder to marry a single mother than a divorced man.

Most single mom will put their children above the man the end up marrying ..on your case, your sister will want her to be husband to love her kids above the kids from his previous marriage....

I ain't praying for bad....but the children will be the most affected of they do get married. Except they are both matured enough to attend to the kids emotional needs .. all the best to them


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