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The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GloryGlory01: 2:08pm On Mar 18, 2021
When it comes to having a happy marriage, researchers have found that getting hitched between the ages of 22 and 25 seems to be the sweet spot. That’s just an average, of course, but the benefits outlined below mostly focus on “young” as being one’s early to mid-twenties.

You (and those you date) will be carrying less baggage.
When you marry young, you and your wife have less exes, old flames, comparisons, and retroactive jealousy of each other’s past relationships to deal with. You can start life together with more of the guileless freshness that lends itself to unabashed and lasting romance.

You’re more likely to marry someone with whom you’re highly compatible.
A lot of folks put off marriage so they can shop around longer, thinking that the more they look, the better chance they’ll have of finding someone who’s just the right match for them.

You’ll have more sex (even years after you marry).
Staying single may seem like a good way to keep the sexual good times rolling. Yet surprisingly enough, research has actually shown that married men have more and better sex than their single peers.

You’re more likely to describe your marriage as happy.
A 2010 study found that couples who married between the ages of 22 and 25 were more likely to describe their marriage as “very happy” than couples who got married in other age brackets. More sex may play a role as well.

You grow together.
It’s oft been noted that it’s more difficult to join two lives together when each party has been living independently for a long time, than when a couple starts out life together early on. There’s actually a neurological reason behind that observation.

When you delay marriage, not only do you become more set in your ways, but your brain’s a lot more set too. It’s definitely still possible to hack relational “us” pathways through the abundance of independent “me” trails that were deeply carved in one’s adolescence, it’s just harder to do.

You’ll have an easier time navigating your 20s, and can be more successful in reaching your professional and academic goals.
First, a spouse can be a vital support as you finish your schooling and embark on a career. During my undergrad years, Kate edited my papers and helped me study for the LSAT. During law school, she provided a much needed confidence boost when summer internship offers weren’t extended, or when I didn’t perform well on a final exam. In turn, I acted as a sounding board for Kate as she worked on her master’s thesis, helped her get organized and plan for her first teaching job, and provided a helping hand when she got stressed during both pursuits. Could we have made it through our 20s by ourselves? Sure. But having each other’s backs certainly made it a lot easier.

Marriage also helps you reach your career and academic goals by providing stability and fostering focus. Socializing and dating requires a lot of time, money, and emotional bandwidth. When you’ve found your partner-in-crime, you’re able to save your money and direct your energy towards your other life goals. Indeed, studies show that married men in their 20s drink less and work harder than their single peers.

Your financial picture may improve.
A lot of folks put off marriage until they feel their finances are sound, which in today’s world, is a goal that’s harder and harder to achieve. As we saw above, financial issues can indeed put a strain on young marriages. Yet such challenges can be handled with maturity, and what may be stressful in the short-term can work towards your long-term interests.

You’ll have an easier time having kids, increase their chances of being healthy, and be better able to keep up with them.
While modern advances have allowed folks to postpone having children, the reality is that both men and women have a biological clock and having kids gets harder and riskier the longer you wait. The research shows that children of older fathers have increased risks for several physical and mental disorders compared to children of younger fathers.

You don’t have to cram marriage, career, and kids into a few short years.
Many put off marriage and children to focus on their education and career, only to have all of these responsibilities simultaneously, and stressfully, collide in their 30s. Pursuing marriage, children, and career in successive phases, allows you to enjoy each season to the fullest.

Source:
https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/the-surprising-benefits-of-marrying-young/

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by Electrochemistry(m): 2:36pm On Mar 18, 2021
Everybody has their best time; there is no fixed age that people must tie the knot.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by bmdmix1: 2:48pm On Mar 18, 2021
no medicine for marriage marry wen u like, ever wonder why kids who grow with grand parents sometimes are better off being with their parents

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GloryGlory01: 2:53pm On Mar 18, 2021
Electrochemistry:
Everybody has their best time There is no fixed age that people must tie the knot.
Trust me, it is far better to marry young. Those problems you are trying to avoid in marriage, you will still encounter them whether you get married at fifty.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GloryGlory01: 3:01pm On Mar 18, 2021
bmdmix1:
no medicine for marriage marry wen u like, ever wonder why kids who grow with grand parents sometimes are better off being with their parents
The problem I have with your mindset is that you allow life to pass you by and then you put the blame on other people.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by James4358(m): 3:04pm On Mar 18, 2021
Marry when u r financialy stable. Trust me- that's d best time to marry. Maturiry also comes to play too, but that is secondary to a stable income.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by bmdmix1: 3:05pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:

The problem I have with your mindset is that you allow life to pass you by and then you put the blame on other people.
apparently glory as left u by go marry then n leave people alone u that have mind set that cant communicate with it mumu with monkey mind set

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by gbami(m): 3:12pm On Mar 18, 2021
Please, as a newly married man. Don't listen to this crap.
If you are not ready to marry. Don't do it.
If you are not financially stable to marry as a man, don't do it.

When you can't provide for your wife, that puppy love turns to resentment. If it lingers well enough hatred, then she will look for other means to get money. She go Bleep your landlord, wey go dey console and encourage you to work harder you since you no fit pay house rent.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by kalu61(m): 3:19pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:

The problem I have with your mindset is that you allow life to pass you by and then you put the blame on other people.
How old are you and are you married?

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GloryGlory01: 3:24pm On Mar 18, 2021
gbami:
Please, as a newly married man. Don't listen to this crap.
If you are not ready to marry. Don't do it.
If you are not financially stable to marry as a man, don't do it.

You called this "crap". Please my friend, how much money do you think can satisfy a woman. You are a learner.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GloryGlory01: 3:29pm On Mar 18, 2021
bmdmix1:
apparently glory as left u by go marry then n leave people alone u that have mind set that cant communicate with it mumu with monkey mind set
You see, I have no issue you personally. Something is wrong with our society today that is putting undue pressure on young men and it need to be change.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by bmdmix1: 3:30pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:

You see, I have no issue you personally. Something is wrong with our society today that is putting undue pressure on young men and it need to be change.
undue pressure wow apparently u cant read, u like dat slowpoke in d crowd yelling but doesn't know why he is there.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GloryGlory01: 3:33pm On Mar 18, 2021
bmdmix1:
undue pressure wow apparently u cant read, u like dat slowpoke in d crowd yelling but doesn't know why he is there.
Now I know who you are. Don't let life pass you by. Bye

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by providencia(m): 3:38pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:


You called this "crap". Please my friend, how much money do you think can satisfy a woman. You are a learner.
Pls are you a man or a woman?

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by gbami(m): 3:42pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:


You called this "crap". Please my friend, how much money do you think can satisfy a woman. You are a learner.
Let me guess.. you are not married.
When you get married and he can't provide make sure you remember me.
Guys listen. From a married man. Marriage no be fantasy island o. It is reality. Nobody expects your wife to contribute a penny in marriage unlike relationship. You go get High BP if you can't provide basic stuff for your family. Reality is different from "20 ways to make marriage work" written by one single woman.
If you can't provide basic for yourself and another person...no marry. Guys, Stand up, Draw your ears..Repeat after me.. "If I no fit provide basics for myself and another person, marriage motivators leave me". You can now sit down guys.

Sidenote. I have checked " My Mentions". A lot of the people that said they married poor are not being fair to you.
Providing Basics is quite different from poverty.
Basics.. Shelter ( even if na face me, I face).
Clothes..Even if it is bend down select( okirika)
Food..Even if is drinking garri.
Those are the BASICS I am talking about.
Not I married poor now I am rich. Your wife live for street?

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by bmdmix1: 3:48pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:
Now I know who you are. Don't let life pass you by. Bye
thansk it won't u too dont let mumu thinking be in ur mind, grow sense n talk wise.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GloryGlory01: 3:49pm On Mar 18, 2021
gbami:

Let me guess.. you are not married.

I am happily married with two boys. You see, I practise what I preach.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by gbami(m): 3:54pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:


I am happily married with two boys. You see, I practise what I preach.
Happily, yes right!

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by omodave(m): 4:27pm On Mar 18, 2021
gbami:

Let me guess.. you are not married.
When you get married and he can't provide make sure you remember me.
Guys listen. From a married man. Marriage no be fantasy island o. It is reality. Nobody expects you wife to contribute a penny in marriage unlike relationship. You go get High BP if you can't provide basic stuff for your family. Reality is different from "20 ways to make marriage work" written by one single woman.
If you can't provide basic for yourself and another person...no marry. Guys, Stand up, Draw your ears..Repeat after me.. "If I no fit provide basics for myself and another person, marriage motivators leave me". You can now sit down guys.


Those that have ear should listen to a wise counsel....

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by GeneralPula: 6:00pm On Mar 18, 2021
Marrying at young age was very cool in the Olden days, not these days..

Don’t dull yourself OP..

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by majemuoluwa45075: 6:13pm On Mar 18, 2021
Marry when u r financialy stable. Trust me- that's d best time to marry. Maturiry also comes to play too, but that is secondary to a stable income.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by RenaissanceGuy: 6:26pm On Mar 18, 2021
GloryGlory01:


I am happily married with two boys. You see, I practise what I preach.
You didn't tell us how much you're earning. N15,000?

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by kiddkash(m): 6:27pm On Mar 18, 2021
I really wish so
Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by Nobody: 6:30pm On Mar 18, 2021
gbami:

Let me guess.. you are not married.
When you get married and he can't provide make sure you remember me.
Guys listen. From a married man. Marriage no be fantasy island o. It is reality. Nobody expects you wife to contribute a penny in marriage unlike relationship. You go get High BP if you can't provide basic stuff for your family. Reality is different from "20 ways to make marriage work" written by one single woman.
If you can't provide basic for yourself and another person...no marry. Guys, Stand up, Draw your ears..Repeat after me.. "If I no fit provide basics for myself and another person, marriage motivators leave me". You can now sit down guys.

Gbam!

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by RunzMAN: 7:55pm On Mar 18, 2021
gbami:

Let me guess.. you are not married.
When you get married and he can't provide make sure you remember me.
Guys listen. From a married man. Marriage no be fantasy island o. It is reality. Nobody expects you wife to contribute a penny in marriage unlike relationship. You go get High BP if you can't provide basic stuff for your family. Reality is different from "20 ways to make marriage work" written by one single woman.
If you can't provide basic for yourself and another person...no marry. Guys, Stand up, Draw your ears..Repeat after me.. "If I no fit provide basics for myself and another person, marriage motivators leave me". You can now sit down guys.
lol

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by Firstorderwizard(m): 8:08pm On Mar 18, 2021
gbami:

Let me guess.. you are not married.
When you get married and he can't provide make sure you remember me.
Guys listen. From a married man. Marriage no be fantasy island o. It is reality. Nobody expects you wife to contribute a penny in marriage unlike relationship. You go get High BP if you can't provide basic stuff for your family. Reality is different from "20 ways to make marriage work" written by one single woman.
If you can't provide basic for yourself and another person...no marry. Guys, Stand up, Draw your ears..Repeat after me.. "If I no fit provide basics for myself and another person, marriage motivators leave me". You can now sit down guys.

Words on marble

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by Truthabulabula(m): 8:56pm On Mar 18, 2021
Stacyo

Accept me now I'm young and dumb.



Before menopause hits both of us. undecided

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by Favouredhero(m): 9:17pm On Mar 18, 2021
Well, everyone have right to their opinion. Life is not a programmed design, that turn out exactly how people want it. Life can be quite unpredictable, so many people would've loved to marry early if they had gotten good job early after school, or if they had made enough money in their business or if their partner had not disappointed them.

Hence, everyone know the benefits of early marriage but no one should get himself/herself pressured into marriage or feel bad for not getting married early.

Whereas, marriage is not even an achievement, it is a decision.

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Re: The Benefits Of Marrying Young Even If You Are Poor by inumidun2010(m): 11:11pm On Mar 18, 2021
Abi make I marry tomorrow ni?..but e be like say Pampers don cost ooo

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