Folafikemii:
Una Don forget election matter.. 😂

No time to check time...Otilo

This is where one will have to succumb either quit the job and move to the other place and start job hunting but if you wan do this, please and please never you quit your job and relocate, e no dey end well

Or you both can continue job hunting till it's successful..

As for me,I no trust myself neither do I trust women.... why I go marry con leave am for another state, no be marriage again na, who cooks and do the necessary things at home.. if this is what marriage is all about, I for don quit

I was once in a long distance relationship, it did not end well for me .

I have decided to move on with my life .

I can not can biko.

Long distance marriage ke!

Next topic please!!

The poor economy is partly responsible for long-distance marriages in Nigeria. Some couples eventually succumb to cheating because the bonds weakens and love dies.

If this type of marriage can be AVOIDED, please do. Especially marriages which the partners live states or countries away.

Except couples who deliberately choose this type of marriage; it is sad seeing couples staying apart for years in the name of making ends meet.

Many of us whose parents worked for paramilitaries and private companies where transfer is the order of the day highly dislike this type of marriage.

@Op Sir, a quick question, did you noticed this during dating or was it discussed and mutually agreed on?

Lamanii22:




I don’t agree with you… not like you’re both glued at home or something, you’d both go to work and back I think that’s enough space instead of not seeing each other a whole week or months… except you don’t really love each other… my husband and I don’t get tired of seeing each other…

That's true, en nothing but..the truth

concho:
Hmmmm

Women!!!! , who trusts em??

She was seeing people in Abuja prior to the marriage and I know she convinced you to believe that she is going to make it clear to them that she is married now right?

Women!!!! , even the religious extremists among them, hmmm!!!

Who no go nogo know.

For this marriage to work, one would have to make a compromise with his/her location.

This freedom you guys are enjoying now will backfire on the long run.

When mine happened, even the mum, siblings and friends swore that she couldn't do such, but I had evidence.

All women are not the same right?

Bro please can you give the full gist especially how you got the evidence.

Why can't a public health worker take transfer to the State you're residing

concho:
Hmmmm

Women!!!! , who trusts em??

She was seeing people in Abuja prior to the marriage and I know she convinced you to believe that she is going to make it clear to them that she is married now right?

Women!!!! , even the religious extremists among them, hmmm!!!

Who no go nogo know.

For this marriage to work, one would have to make a compromise with his/her location.

This freedom you guys are enjoying now will backfire on the long run.

When mine happened, even the mum, siblings and friends swore that she couldn't do such, but I had evidence.

All women are not the same right?

Exactly! @ the bolded.

You gotta make do, ✋ 🥒 💦 😂

stevebond007:
Phone seggz... perhaps

It hanst been easy

To be candid, your marriage is under threat if:

1. Your ex or exes reside in the same city with you.

2. Your wife's ex or exes reside in the same city with her.

Okosin:
I am an engineer working in Port Harcourt while my wife is a public health worker working in Abuja. May 2023 will make us two years in marriage. We are expecting out First child soonest.
Sometimes i just feel frustrated at the whole thing but then We still have to make ends meet. We have applied for jobs in each others location all to no avail. I am becoming tired of the whole situation especially with the coming of our child. I need meaningful advice on what to do.p

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I need a job

Na aproko you be.. You're going off-point comrade.. Stay on the picture we're painting

SSpeter:
Bro please can you give the full gist especially how you got the evidence.

It has shelf life of 3 years of faithfulness, after that forget it. Things start to unravel with cheating.

Okosin:
I am an engineer working in Port Harcourt while my wife is a public health worker working in Abuja. May 2023 will make us two years in marriage. We are expecting out First child soonest.
Sometimes i just feel frustrated at the whole thing but then We still have to make ends meet. We have applied for jobs in each others location all to no avail. I am becoming tired of the whole situation especially with the coming of our child. I need meaningful advice on what to do.p

Don't try it ,you may regret it. It is not easy at all.

Okosin:
I am an engineer working in Port Harcourt while my wife is a public health worker working in Abuja. May 2023 will make us two years in marriage. We are expecting out First child soonest.
Sometimes i just feel frustrated at the whole thing but then We still have to make ends meet. We have applied for jobs in each others location all to no avail. I am becoming tired of the whole situation especially with the coming of our child. I need meaningful advice on what to do.p

Long distance marriage can't be the best thing to happen to anyone, especially if you have been two peas in a bud for long. I don't even know how people cope with that. Now that mine's about to assume that status, I've been anticipating and anticipating. Ah! Temi bami in advance.

It's not advisable at all, my marriage crashed after 10 months as a result of distance marriage. Abeg find all means to unite with your family as it's still young.

[quote author=dreadsbee post=121320756]Many first time voters that came out for this election was because Obi

Peter Obi is not Desperate to be President. Bro

We are enjoying cheating on each other na abi waiting man go do

Okosin:
I am an engineer working in Port Harcourt while my wife is a public health worker working in Abuja. May 2023 will make us two years in marriage. We are expecting out First child soonest.
Sometimes i just feel frustrated at the whole thing but then We still have to make ends meet. We have applied for jobs in each others location all to no avail. I am becoming tired of the whole situation especially with the coming of our child. I need meaningful advice on what to do.p

Hi.

Don't think it's a big deal. You both should work it out in agreement. Focus on the goal and continue your plans and efforts to relocate.

This is our 9th year in marriage, and I left home since 2015 December to medical school. Currently a final-year medical student. In an entire year, I go home like three to four times. I hardly stay more than a week. But we are doing fine...with four wonderful children.

Be careful, you'd read a lot of toxic comments here, most are from unmarried males that may want to use this as an opportunity to inject evil thoughts into your marriage.

I honestly think long-distance relationships aren't big deals as far as both spouses understand each other perfectly.

Good luck, sir.

It's not worth it. My wife moved to American with my son for her Masters less than 3 months living in US, she started telling me about divorce that her siblings she is staying with can not keep taking care of her because she is a married woman. Currently ininky speak to my son only on weekends.

Okosin:
I am an engineer working in Port Harcourt while my wife is a public health worker working in Abuja. May 2023 will make us two years in marriage. We are expecting out First child soonest.
Sometimes i just feel frustrated at the whole thing but then We still have to make ends meet. We have applied for jobs in each others location all to no avail. I am becoming tired of the whole situation especially with the coming of our child. I need meaningful advice on what to do.p

Whoever earn less should stop working and move to the city the partner is. Sometimes in life, you have to way your options and sacrifice accordingly.

So so true bro

Love800:
Nd why are u afraid?

Money is the main tin in marriage.

Make ur money man nd dont care who bleeps her in ur absence or not. She is not ur wife but is just ur turn

Make arrangements to visit her once in a while. But try to visit her often times if u have the chance, because of ur child. So she will not overpamper him or her

Never u have a heart attack because of a woman

As uncouth as this sounds,I think it is true.
Trying to monitor what happens in your absence is unecessary headache and a waste of time.
And most tunes if you stay away for too long,one of these boys with long,curved dick must perforate your woman wotoporiously
Most people in this setting survived by taking these thoughts out of their minds ,not that it didn't happen.
Make peace with sharing your woman with some other people and you will be fine.

Karlifate:
To be candid, your marriage is under threat if:

1. Your ex or exes reside in the same city with you.

2. Your wife's ex or exes reside in the same city with her.

Exes most times shouldn't be your problem as they must have outgrown her and she must have also dropped superficially from how she use to be,
Your major concern should be small boys with curved prick ,ready to experiment.
Na them dey service madam them with away husbands pass
Men no like milf,but boys go bang anything
Buy your wife iron pants with you having custody of the padlock keys in PH as you dey engineer your engineer lol.

If you can create another alternative way of making ends meet for her I.e ( opening a store, or any other thing) then, it’s advisable she resign and relocate to your area, to build up her family.

Just an observation

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All this talk about infidelity can happen even if you live under each others noses. Sexual discipline and trust is vital to all couples whether you live far and near. Just be the best humans you can be and be committed to always do your best to bridge the gap. Find a way to turn the distance to a positive one and cherish the time you share. Support each other whether near or far. Dont let negative thoughts about each other cloud your mind and dont listen to rumour mongers. Put in the work to make it work and you both need that finances especially now you are having a child. Never think your situation is worse. At least it is better than having a jobless spouse for both your mindset and support. Have a set time you call each other in the evening and stick to it. Build that initial foundation of trust. At least the fact that you are concerned and trying to bridge the gap is a very good sign. Good luck in your marriage.

LoudlyMouthed:

You're still v.young in the lifelong learning institution.

For you, How much do you love n respect your wife?

Cos, ask yourself, if the opportunity comes for flirting, partying/clubbing, your hot ex, direct request for sex from a v.hot lady in your private apartment far away from home, what's gonna happen?

For her, How much do you know and trust your wife?

Cos, ask yourself, if the opportunity comes for flirting, girls chat, her ex, indirect request for sex comes from a hot guy or rich client in her workplace, what's gonna happen?

Haa,this so me right now,I married my wife this year January,after the marriage my wife got a job as a health worker(government hospital)in one of the state in Eastern part is f the country while I reside in Abuja.and am a government worker.Seriously is not easy just trying to make a beautiful future.Am so lucky because I married her as a virgin and I have never seen a chance to doubt her.