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armyofone:
The lady is working hard and should be allowed to sleep or grab help from course mates if she can. Maybe he is a team member - better to have engaging team members than one you can't get a hold of for their part.
They may be working on spreadsheet for the coming presentation and husband is upset. He should know going to college is very stressful and help madam. You don't want her to fail the course!
If you are international student and you fail/ don't meet the standard set for you, you can be sent back home - oga you too.

Lol, see sarcasm!!

ldon444:
■ Well from your write up, I can deduce that ur this kind of person that feels your own perception of life and what suts you should also be the same thing that applies or should apply to every other person.
■Excuse me madam, life aint like that. I am a decent, respectable but a no nonsense man. Kindly state from my post what seemed like my wife is being imprisoned?
■ Common!! you have your own rules, dont mean the same applies to me, this is my family and I have every right to protect mine when the need arises. I have never from day 1 showed or expressed any sort of ish towards their friendship, not until it started getting to some extent, and as a man with 3 kids for youkay, I have to protect my space and my family. Besides you dont even know her to know the kind of person that am dealing with.
■ My other answer to you now is, its a different ball game when it comes to the involvement of a man or a woman. In a situation where the man is the subject matter, it is in my best interest to see that I quickly correct and set standards that will not get my wife carried away, the said gentleman I dont know him, and I dont know his mind set, and I definitely will not trust a stranger that I have never met or get to know
■ You lots are talking about meeting the man, abeg na wetin i come uk come do be that? Like u guys dont know how busy it is here. If the subject matter were to be a woman, most definitely the issue wouldn't be as highlighted as it is, since I have never seen a trait of her being a lesbian in her over the last 10 years. But I definitely would complain when she starts scheduling off time for them to meet. Besides when a man starts to call my wife at odd hours and scheduling time that suits his own convenience for them to meet thereby affecting the home based on what we are suppose to do collectively is a big deal to me, might not be for u, but it is to me.

1. I am afraid you didn't deduce any of that from my posts as I made it point and clear that I do not believe in asserting control over the lives of others.

2. Not saying that you did but when you assert that she must do as you command or face consequences, what do you think that implies?

3. So you do indeed see this man as a threat to your marriage then? Why not come out and say it like that instead of going around in circles making it seem you are not jealous? You feel threatened because he is a man, which is exactly what I had asked you about 3 comments ago, but you pretended that was not the case at all.

4. So, in your mind, your wife does not have good enough standards as far as meeting up with her colleagues and coursemates is concerned. You need to be the one correcting and setting that standard for her, then?

5. You don't have time to meet your wife's friend but you seem to have more than enough time to correct and craft out standards she must abide by in order to please you. You don't want to maybe get involved in understanding her life but you want to make sure that everything she does revolves around you. Are you nothing what I am seeing here at all?

ldon444:
■ You are gradually crawling out from that heated cave aided by the person you quoted. Dont be scared, just express how you feel. Nobody go beat you, I already knew how disgusted you feel based on your own selfish thought of how you feel I should act and handle the situation. With all your . I knew already that feminism isnt far from your main personality.

So, saying that marriage should talk to your partner as you would a fellow adult is wrong and of feminism? So, she is instead someone beneath you that you ought instead to force and control then?

You have not taking time to get to know this person you are fight your madam over.
Nothing wrong asking the guy to bring his family over so you know who he is.
He might be a woman sef with male voice but see you already carried that ojuju imaginary fighting spirit to London

Relax - show support to wifey.

ldon444:
What has countering an irrelevant point of trying to make me feel there can never be nothing between them jealousy? I weak! Did you read my post at all?

Make I invite older man come for dinner..lol Come do you work? Are u always busy??

Now let me clear you on your last line. It happened that my wife claimed the guy was the most intelligent guy in their class, who even charged her 2k pounds to help with her assignment. When she couldn't afford it or felt the amount was outrageous, i linked her with someone in Nija whose job is to help with assignment and he gets paid. He charged way less than what the older man charged. On the long run, the older man sef got the connect from madam and started paying the guy to do his assignment for him. So I got confused like why is the most intelligent person now paying someone else to get his ish done? So from what I was able to confirm, they just do assignments together based on paddy paddy, its not like the man is offering any help or adding extra knowledge to what they do.

Kobojunkie:
1. I am afraid you didn't deduce any of that from my posts as I made it point and clear that I do not believe in asserting control over the lives of others.

2. Not saying that you did but when you assert that she must do as you command or face consequences, what do you think that implies?

3. So you do indeed see this man as a threat to your marriage then? Why not come out and say it like that instead of going around in circles making it seem you are not jealous? You feel threatened because he is a man, which is exactly what I had asked you about 3 comments ago, but you pretended that was not the case at all.

4. So, in your mind, your wife does not have good enough standards as far as meeting up with her colleagues and coursemates is concerned. You need to be the one correcting and setting that standard for her, then?

5. You don't have time to meet your wife's friend but you seem to have more than enough time to correct and craft out standards she must abide by in order to please you. You don't want to maybe get involved in understanding her life but you want to make sure that everything she does revolves around you. Are you nothing what I am seeing here at all?

Aunty abeg rest!

armyofone:
You have not taking time to get to know this person you are fight your madam over.
Nothing wrong asking the guy to bring his family over so you know who he is.
He might be a woman sef with male voice but see you already carried that ojuju imaginary fighting spirit to London

Relax - show support to wifey.

Lol, kobojunkie second handle. Who dey fool who. Abeg go and rest.

ldon444:
Lol, kobojunkie second handle. Who dey fool who. Abeg go and rest.

Nigeria mentality won't work in the west. Have an open mind - give room for growth (stop stunting your lady's future) - she is in school so don't add stress.
Be 100 percent sure before making mountain out of molehill.
Stop casting aspersions on the innocent wife.
Don't be those men who cause rain to fall inside their house and then cry wolf about the western system favor women.
Show support of your madam educational pursuit.

ldon444:
Lol, kobojunkie second handle. Who dey fool who. Abeg go and rest.

Kobojunkie, are you me

See where your mind went already

Excel spreadsheet

ldon444:
Lol, see sarcasm!!

Get your act together. Don't push ya madam away and don't let the system chew you.

armyofone:
Kobojunkie, are you me

ROFLMAO


You need see how the conversation quickly began devolving as soon as he finally accepted that it all had to do with the course mate being a man more than anything else.

armyofone:
See where your mind went already

Excel spreadsheet
Get your act together. Don't push ya madam away and don't let the system chew you.

Na like this e dey take start a lot of the times.

Kobojunkie:
Na like this e dey take start a lot of the times.

Yeah - using suspicions to create an unwelcome home.

ldon444:
You are gradually crawling out from that heated cave aided by the person you quoted. Dont be scared, just express how you feel. Nobody go beat you, I already knew how disgusted you feel based on your own selfish thought of how you feel I should act and handle the situation. With all your . I knew already that feminism isnt far from your main personality.

I don’t know what you want by opening this thread because you’re arguing with everyone who gives you a different perspective.

You know who you are and what you can and cannot take so follow your own path and let us rest.

I’m a jealous person and I could never be with any woman who has male friends. That shit can only happen when women are young and inexperienced in life but it has no place in a marriage imo.

A married woman with children has no business befriending any man. If you felt the same then you wouldn’t be in this situation right now. You’re a keyboard warrior so flex those muscles on her!

Brandiebird:
I don’t know what you want by opening this thread because you’re arguing with everyone who gives you a different perspective.

You know who you are and what you can and cannot take so follow your own path and let us rest.

I’m a jealous person and I could never be with any woman who has male friends. That shit can only happen when women are young and inexperienced in life but it has no place in a marriage imo.

A married woman with children has no business befriending any man. If you felt the same then you wouldn’t be in this situation right now. You’re a keyboard warrior so flex those muscles on her!

Lol, am not a keyboard warrior boss, just that sometimes no matter how old you are or experienced, you will still need to seek advise or get knowledge on way forward reason for this thread. You can go through my posts, I didnt argue with everyone, just those that wants to impose the unimaginable on me.