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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Ameduedwin: 9:00pm On Mar 11, 2023
ahnie:
He's not entirely useless now,I can cope with this type of non productive husband,at least he's useful in the home front by assisting with house chores.
Me and this type of person can live happily at home,na to carry my kids go eat for outside,or hide cook and stuff the kids stomach to the brim,eat or trash the remnant and let him do the dishes.when you do that to me at the time of adversary , when God bless me again, you will be the One to feed your self for the rest of the time we are going to stay together.


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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ahnie: 9:01pm On Mar 11, 2023
juman:
Be ready to leave him if he refuse to change.

There are men that never change till they die.
They remained lazy assss throughout their lives.
She should leave him right?just because he's jobless n an addict?

Nawa for you o.
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:02pm On Mar 11, 2023
ElijahIme1992:
■ U see life, just small time the wife don shoulder small responsibilities now the whole world don hear say the man dey jobless, but forgetting say na dis same man don dey foot the bills right from wen she be girlfriend den come turn wife including inlaws bill..
■ she don forget wen she self been no get job but the man keep quiet carry everything for him head... Madam if u wan divorce am go ahead no come here dey misyarn, na ur husband wey I blame, money wey him for carry invest him carry am go marry you.. by now him for don get better return of investment..
1. If the man chose to shoulder it all in marriage, that was his choice in the agreement that is his marriage. OP is complaining, and rightly so because she didn't choose to shoulder the burden all by herself and so this is an unfair burden placed on her by her husband. undecided

2. She didn't force her husband to submit himself to hypogamy in the first place. He made that choice for himself. That choice is not to meant to be shifted from one person to another in marriage unless the two parties in fact agree to it. undecided

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by BeardedmeatR(m): 9:02pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?
Is he a yellow Bar man?
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by richboy7(m): 9:02pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?

Stay married to him especially for the sake of the children. Talk him out of it.
Constant Communication is the key. You can't do it alone. look for friends and family members to help. It will be alright.
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by OBTOREPA(m): 9:02pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?
The truth is that you married him because of his money, now that the money is no longer coming, you want out forgotten that marriage is for better for worse till death do you part.
In times like this, he needs your prayers and encouragement. He will surely bowse back.
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ahnie: 9:02pm On Mar 11, 2023
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When I m not a liability cheesy : cheesy
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Olowosaudi(m): 9:03pm On Mar 11, 2023
Hmmm. Very typical of the average Naija women to think of jumping ship when her man is down but when the woman is jobless for years unending, the man would not make a public broadcast of her predicament but will still shoulder the responsibility and make her feel comfortable still. When a woman begins to find fault with her man, there is a man out there that seems to be catching her fancy and she wants to divorce him and move on to the next available man.

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by playerinc(m): 9:03pm On Mar 11, 2023
For better, for worse in the mud.

A man is only loved under the condition that he provides.

That man may need some time to get his life in order. He may be going through a mid-life crisis. He needs his wife to encourage and stand by him through this. The woman obviously has developed some hatred for him already because he isn't providing. He better get up and start making some money though. Nobody regards a broke man.

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by victorazy(m): 9:03pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?


grin MAN CAN FEED WOMAN FOR 20YRS AND NO ONE WILL HEAR ABOUT IT BUT WOMAN WILL FEED YOU FOR 20DAYS AND THE WORLD WILL KNOW ABOUT IT.

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by 6ixT8: 9:04pm On Mar 11, 2023
This life! sad
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:05pm On Mar 11, 2023
Davidgr8:
■ Going by your narrative most men should have divorced their wives long time ago. I guess if it's the man doing all this providing it is ok and normal.
1. You, folks, need to start reasoning abeg! If a man chooses hypogamy in marriage, that choice is his and not his wife's nor can it be offloaded off him and onto his wife whenever he gets tired. She needs to first agree to such an arrangement before you legitimately argue for it. undecided
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Ekpekus(m): 9:05pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?
Depression might be at play here... watch out for suicidal ideas or homicidal intent.
He needs help
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ridwintin89(m): 9:05pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
He can endure anything. No food, he will lay down there till there's food. Once there's raw food, he will go to kitchen and prepare and eat, but he can never buy them.
He know no matter what, I will buy few things in the house to avoid going to buy little little food items from neighbouring shops.
No close up, bathing soap, cream, everything, he will endure, till I replace them.
He's really annoying.
Madam,am a gambler as well and it has affected me in many feets. He is depressed right now,he wont even scare to die because of his condition.
He needs u now than ever.Talk to him,let him know that he can be better than this. Beg him to consider you and the future of your children. Make him happy and talk to him.
Addiction is very dangerous, it takes God b4 someone can be set free.But if you don't love him,divorce him as u wish.But know what u will tell your children about their father in the future.If u let them know u abandon their father when he has problem, they will hate you for life.

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ahnie: 9:05pm On Mar 11, 2023
The bitter truth is about 90% of marriages are dead n long gone.

It's the kids that are holding the separation strings.


Left to me....I can cope with the type of husband.

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by highchief1: 9:05pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?
in 2020 I lost my beloved sister to a husband like this.If u need money to leave the marriage dm me.I will provide all the necessary logistics like gov wike did to Peter obi.
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Billmos: 9:05pm On Mar 11, 2023
If he is hungry for a week without seeing who bring food to him he will wake up n hustle like a man.divorce is not an issue here,sorry to say this ur husband knows dat in everything u will bring home something for d family.so my advice is to move to ur family huse for months let him sleep n wake up n bath once hunger bite him for days he will leave d bed n get going.

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:05pm On Mar 11, 2023
victorazy:
■ MAN CAN FEED WOMAN FOR 20YRS AND NO ONE WILL HEAR ABOUT IT BUT WOMAN WILL FEED YOU FOR 20DAYS AND THE WORLD WILL KNOW ABOUT IT.
1. Was this man forced to feed the woman for 20 years or did the man, for the sake of his ego, choose this situation for himself? undecided
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 9:06pm On Mar 11, 2023
highchief1:
in 2020 I lost my beloved sister to a husband like this. If u need money to leave the marriage dm me.I will provide all the necessary logistics like gov wike did to Peter obi.
How abeg? undecided

all4zionlover
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Isabi4lov: 9:07pm On Mar 11, 2023
He's addicted to gambling, even though money enters his hand today he will still go back to his gambling lifestyle.

If he's not ready to change, there's nothing you can do about it .

A grown up adult that's behaving like an 18yrs boy undecidedb

With all what's happening in this country, some people don't want to have sense at all.

Don't be surprised the men here will support your husband but you're the one to use your head .

He's the head of the house, let him stand up for his responsbilities .

A man that gambles will also be cheating on you .

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by id4sho(m): 9:08pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?
Good for slay/OLOSHO/runs mamaa
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Cowbell521: 9:08pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?
You are nothing but a liability in his life. Please divorce him and free him from your leach you this problematic and dumboo woman without anything to offer.

If you don't divorce him, you're a pigg
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by benzion72(m): 9:08pm On Mar 11, 2023
Chai divorce him, who knows the number of years that man has been alive to his responsibility. Only for him to encounter a crisis and the next good woman can do you is to divorce him. You can go ahead
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by tellwisdom: 9:08pm On Mar 11, 2023
Nigerian women?? …tufiakwaangry
If you allow a woman to spend 1kobo on you, u are finished.
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Iykoto86(m): 9:09pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
Each time I talk to him about getting a job or his next plan, he always tell me. He have a plan. But I know he don't
I am a stake holder in the gambling buseness,that not withstandind.being lazy as a man is a whole different issue all tegether.
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by yusluvad(m): 9:09pm On Mar 11, 2023
Kingdollar28:



How do you know he doesn't have a plan?

He had money before bah?

But lost to gambling?

Sis, your husband is battling frustration/depression

Help him find his ways back

If you divorce him, na u loose

Mama I no fit lie you

I'm married and experienced
Great advice...

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Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DiamondNimi(m): 9:09pm On Mar 11, 2023
He needs counselling, probably suffering from depression
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Autobot05: 9:09pm On Mar 11, 2023
SmartyPants:


Which next time? cheesy

I dunno comrade cheesy
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by highchief1: 9:09pm On Mar 11, 2023
Kobojunkie:
How abeg? undecided

all4zionlover
how what?
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by tammie24: 9:10pm On Mar 11, 2023
Gloriagee:
Wat does she lose, Mr. Mama I no fit lie you?

good question 🤷
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Cleanworld(f): 9:10pm On Mar 11, 2023
all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?



WHY DID YOU THINK DIVORCÉ WILL BE THE SOLUTION IN YOUR LIFE? BUT I COMMENTED YOU FOR SEEKING ADVICE .

YOUR HUSBAND IS DEPRESSED AT THIS STAGE AND HE NEEDS YOU MORE THAN EVER.
LISTEN, HE'S NOT LAZY. ALL HE NEEDS HIS MOTIVATION AND SOMEONE TO BE IN CHARGE.
THINK OF YOUR CHILDREN FIRST WHEN MAKING LIFE DECISIONS . USE THAT STRENGTH THAT YOU WANT TO TAKE TO THE COURT AND LOOK FOR JOB FOR HIM THEN MAKE SURE THAT YOU ARE THE ONE RECEIVING HIS SALARY. DON'T FORGET TO WRITE UNDERTAKING WHEN DOING THIS.
AS LONG AS THERE'S NO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE OR FORNICATION DIVORCE SHOULDN'T BE AN OPTION.
TIE YOUR WRAPPER AND LEAD.MAY GOD SEE YOU.AMEN
Re: Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Cowbell521: 9:10pm On Mar 11, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. Was this man forced to feed the woman for 20 years or did the man, for the sake of his ego, choose this situation for himself? undecided
That doesn't change the fact that it's the truth.

Men, stop giving women your lives. They are problems. They are toilet papers. Don't marry them. Dispose them. Avoid them. They will ruin ur lives and move to the next victims

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