IyaebeTheGreat:
When I get married, no husband of mine will dare this. There are things I won’t ever forgive a husband for e.g Having illegitimate kid/kids outside our matrimonial home, taking another wife and going physical on me. I won’t ever forgive these things and I would hold you in my heart forever

Have you every committed an abortion ?

Vawulence everywhere

9jaRealist:


Exactly! ‘Heaven’ is instead for men who cheat on their wives, have kids outside the matrimonial home, and beat/abuse their wives…
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Heaven is for those who forgive easily. Like the way small children do. Be like Stephen in the Bible, he forgave those people who were stoning him to death. To enter heaven no easy o.

ferhyntorlah:


Uncle sir,

This your analogy is for those with money problems.

For someone who is financially solid, using money as inducement won't work. It's the content of the man's character that will stand him out.

There are different category of money. The category of money that Dangote has for instance is above mine. Hence he can easily intimidate me with money. I can also intimidate someone else with money.

When it comes to marriage, the most influential factor is money. Forget all the talks about character and Christian principles. A man's money will cover all his bad characters.

If Obi Cubana decides today that he wants to marry a second wife, even our pastors who preaches that polygamy is a sin will lobby him to marry their daughter.

A woman ( poor or wealthy ) will prefer to be the Second wife of a rude man living in a mansion in Banana Island than being the only wife of a good man living in a room apartment in Ajegunle.

superCleanworks:
LOL. she threw the peace away.

Peace dey dey pologamy?

Trust me both of them don fuccck same dick before, so as she wan come follow fuccck this one again the first wife provoke and said never again

DEROX:
i thought they said as long as there is money they can share man

Na wa for what they tell us ooo!

So what are you saying, that Muslim men shouldn't marry multiple women?

I mean if you can't stand the heat, leave the kitchen, or even better, don't get married to a Muslim man.

IyaebeTheGreat:
I understand but I can’t just imagine it, it hurts so deep.

It's the tradition, they must chop better beatings before being qualified...

Even though I'm not a Muslim, I know that such things are much more common within the Muslim communities.

So there's nothing new here, if the woman was a Christian, then I'd understand, but she's a Muslim, so she should just accept the situation and move on.

fkj950ax:


It was her best friend who was secretly dating her husband and he decided to marry her.

One Nigerian woman is enough headache already #TeamOneWife

If she was forced into the marriage, then why would she fight her sister wife when she should be happy that now her husband is finally gonna be focusing more of his attention to the new wife?

Meaning she'll get to have more time to herself.

valentineuwakwe:



Do you knw if the first wife was forced into the marriage?

kingslj:



A woman will do this if it was her former friend.

You have said it all bro. Na her very closed friend.

olasaad:


As in I don't know why most men go for a liability for a second wife. And according to the story, it was the woman that invest her father inheritance for the man to succeed and after everything the man went for her best friend as a second wife.

But they are besties na

Shouldn't they get along?

IyaebeTheGreat:
When I get married, no husband of mine will dare this. There are things I won’t ever forgive a husband for e.g Having illegitimate kid/kids outside our matrimonial home, taking another wife and going physical on me. I won’t ever forgive these things and I would hold you in my heart forever

Na thier religion now

IyaebeTheGreat:
When I get married, no husband of mine will dare this. There are things I won’t ever forgive a husband for e.g Having illegitimate kid/kids outside our matrimonial home, taking another wife and going physical on me. I won’t ever forgive these things and I would hold you in my heart forever

If he does any of these it's best u leave him for good and look for another husband.You look like the acid pouring gang.Besides be a good wife to your husband to reduce the possibility of the man to look outside.You can't be Terrible and expect him to be loyal.My piece of advice

IyaebeTheGreat:
When I get married, no husband of mine will dare this. There are things I won’t ever forgive a husband for e.g Having illegitimate kid/kids outside our matrimonial home, taking another wife and going physical on me. I won’t ever forgive these things and I would hold you in my heart forever

Make enough money I mean be very rich and marry one small boy Yiu can control.....

olasaad:


As in I don't know why most men go for a liability for a second wife. And according to the story, it was the woman that invest her father inheritance for the man to succeed and after everything the man went for her best friend as a second wife.

It doesn't mean he no longer loves his first wife. It may be her pussy is now too wide...

IyaebeTheGreat:
I know what I can and can’t accept

Hope u will be good Ur self.We might have severe flaws and expect others to treat us right.If u have any serious flaw work on it first

Seat down there

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It only “happens” if you allow it to…

Hope you lot are not raising daughters…
Because it sounds as if you believe women should have no say over their own lives. SMH
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See wetin dick dey cause

vastolord4:
I guess their man was busy sipping his 40 year old "brukutu" when it was happening..
Moral of the story: marry a stronger woman as a second wife

That is what you learnt fron the whole fiasco

Are you saying he should have married someone else who's not also a liability?

olasaad:


As in I don't know why most men go for a liability for a second wife. And according to the story, it was the woman that invest her father inheritance for the man to succeed and after everything the man went for her best friend as a second wife.

Are you serious

IyaebeTheGreat:
When I get married, no husband of mine will dare this. There are things I won’t ever forgive a husband for e.g Having illegitimate kid/kids outside our matrimonial home, taking another wife and going physical on me. I won’t ever forgive these things and I would hold you in my heart forever

SIONKPO1:

Every Man is Polygamous in Mature,my advice for Ladies are Be Prayerful,Have Good Character,Be Economically Viable,Love your In-laws,Work on your beauty

Speak for yourself bro

Samantha124:
Even though I'm not a Muslim, I know that such things are much more common within the Muslim communities.

So there's nothing new here, if the woman was a Christian, then I'd understand, but she's a Muslim, so she should just accept the situation and move on.

I am sure there is no study or research or even beer parlor gist or hair salon gossip on what you just said to be common amongst a population.

Even though it’s okay for everyone to make comment online and in public, we should try and be factual while at it.

It is not common amongst the Muslim communities for men to marry their wife’s best friend.

She isn’t against her husband marrying a second wife. She acted on the anger and betrayal of her best friend possibly dating her husband way before marriage came into the picture.

IyaebeTheGreat:
I know what I can and can’t accept

God help you.
If you eventually married a man who happened to committed one of the stated offence, what will you do?
Kill him?

Crazy MOFOS everywhere!

MikeofAfrica:


Many women sharing their spouse with another woman made your kind of comment before marriage. Many women who are second wives also made your kind of comment.

Money is the most powerful weapon in the world. If an intelligent wealthy man decides today that you will become his second wife, you cannot stop him.

Knowing that you will likely turn him down, he will come through your family.

He will start by understudying your family needs. Once he identify a problem in your family, he will step in while hiding his real intention.

Assuming your mother has an ailment and your family cannot afford the treatment, he will pay the hospital bill. Hence when he declare his intention to marry you, the only way you can turn him down is repaying him .

This strategy can only work if the lady is from a poor home that don’t have integrity

kingslj:



A woman will do this if it was her former friend.

Probably she felt betrayed.

Shedrack777:
i love this kind of marriage, they'll all be treating you like god by trying to outdo each other

Until one of them decides to take you out.