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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by emmanuelpopson(m): 11:58pm On Mar 20, 2023
Sam119:
OP You are 100% correct
One was introduced to me by a friend for possible dating, but nothing to write home about character wise.

She is always looking for a man that is handsome with money, more money and plenty money irrespective of the fact that she earns well.

women marry up while men marry down.. so if u are opportune to meet a lady who is more successful than u in money.. it is her character that will determine what she will become

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by ifihearam: 12:42am On Mar 21, 2023
Saintinoo:


She had this sense of self importance, i am better than you type of mentality. This is a girl i vowed to support her reach her ambitions.

I think she felt she was more superior, because i could see signs of supremacy battle in the relationship.

Mehn, i japa, i know it will hurt me because i really loved her and made so many plans with her, but dating her means becoming her slave.

No she did not show you superiority, you showed inferiority.
You probably dont meet up to her financial standard or dont display it..trust me son, women respect money
Thats why a female professor can be a side or even 4th wife to an illiterate multi millionaire.
Women only have rules and standards for a poor man..when you are rich you will see all the rules are broken and humility comes naturally.

You displayed too much care, attention and affection towards her, you made her feel and know that she is all you have and cant have a better woman..your mistake was not showing her that you could get other women who are better and more beautiful than her.
sometimes in a relationship, let your woman know you could have other and better options but you chose her, always have back up plans with more beautiful,even as friends...above ll get money ooo

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by ifihearam: 12:47am On Mar 21, 2023
Nice2023:



Now let me tell u this.

When I was single,I dated ladies not for sex or romance ok.

What do u do for a living was basically what encompasses our discussions then. Life,money career and a little outing and as u can see,many of us still keep in touch till date because it was all about competition amongst us.

And today,I was also lucky to marry my wife, who is a great competitor to me...she earns more salary than me,but as a smart guy,I make more from my side business than her. Our gross earning per month is roughly 3.2million.

Now,she is planning on setting up a side business like me and I have told her that I will support her.

Lesson: the fulcrum of the matter is that,the family is at the core of this whole competition and that does not remove the love we had at the beginning,in fact we are waxing strong.

Everyone with his own reality.

Before u still doubt me,my wife is a group head of operations of a financial institution in Abuja and I was once a banker before I left to a government job.

Note: i don't want u to believe me ok.



LOL
Competition of any form is unhealthy..you will learn the hard way and regret this in future..

You even said we earn so and so montlhy lol

You will learn the hard way son.

She will size you and will ensure to surpass you..if you ere wise, you side hustle would have been your ace.

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by saladinnoir: 12:56am On Mar 21, 2023
This is a very interesting and uncommon discussion and it's being carried out with maturity. I hope this thread doesn't die.

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by ifihearam: 12:58am On Mar 21, 2023
Nice2023:



We have settled these cases for both of them more than 9 occasions.

I don't say what I am not part of...I didn't say,them say. I said it emphatically.

You are a bitch ass nigga..I can tell from all your write up

You will regret it in future.
You are taking side with our wife's friend because she does too..

You are saying the man is 100% wring?

What else does she do that initiated his recent actions?

I fear for you .

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by damzy88: 1:43am On Mar 21, 2023
Front page please. grin

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by placeofallure(f): 1:44am On Mar 21, 2023
blacksam01:
...jeez! this category is full of trouble

its either they are dragging my right, playing the silence game when iritated, never apologetic when wrong, weaponize sex,blame shifting, talking back in arguments, wealthy but very reluctant to assist u wen in need,stuborn and always making u feel they pitied u to be with u...

God! av never seen such awful lot like these people..

i wonder why men wont simply let these entitled ladies alone to marry themselves....

dont think its from who i dated...mind u i have dated 5 of them..same character especially gradaute good earning ladies....

i guees that why they marry late!

Well you could be right but not certainly all of us are like that.

I do caution my big sis at times when she's having little altercation with her hubby.

When I got married, I got to see first-hand how impossible you men can be at times.

We, hubby and I, don't run into problem often because naturally I'm your typical introvert.

Then the words of one of my pastors always reverberate - respect and submit to your husband, his stupidity or egocentrism regardless, the Bible didn't attach any clause or condition to it. I am very "churchy"

Many times, Men are not the wisest or the most tactful creatures, the woman's innate abilities must be expressed here to keep things sane.

Sometimes, I let things go awry so he can see my point without me necessarily engaging in an argument or scuffle. He'll make a detour with an apology.

Possibly, you could do a thorough self evaluation too. The problem may not be the girls.

🙏

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Sam119(m): 7:45am On Mar 21, 2023
women marry up while men marry down.. so if u are opportune to meet a lady who is more successful than u in money.. it is her character that will determine what she will become

Nice one. Often times the character becomes an offshoot of what they have eventually become and not something that is inherent.

And as for your assertion about women marrying up and vice-versa, the younger women (21-25) are the ones driving this notion and when they get older and realizes it too late, they subsequently migrate to feminism.

The truth of the matter is that, women are complex beings who are driven by emotions, achievements, status, peer pressure etc. Even the less sophisticated ones that lives in the slum will do everything to wanna belong(fake life) how much more those that are already there.

There are still some down to earth women, but statistically, the percentage is nothing to write home about.

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by ifihearam: 3:13pm On Mar 21, 2023
placeofallure:


Well you could be right but not certainly all of us are like that.

I do caution my big sis at times when she's having little altercation with her hubby.

When I got married, I got to see first-hand how impossible you men can be at times.

We, hubby and I, don't run into problem often because naturally I'm your typical introvert.

Then the words of one of my pastors always reverberate - respect and submit to your husband, his stupidity or egocentrism regardless, the Bible didn't attach any clause or condition to it. I am very "churchy"

Many times, Men are not the wisest or the most tactful creatures, the woman's innate abilities must be expressed here to keep things sane.

Sometimes, I let things go awry so he can see my point without me necessarily engaging in an argument or scuffle. He'll make a detour with an apology.

Possibly, you could do a thorough self evaluation too. The problem may not be the girls.

🙏

I totally agree with you in some areas because when a woman is too submissive to a man regardless of her financial status especially when she is well to do on her own, some men take this rare virtue for granted. However, a man would and cannot be right always, every sane man knows when to stand your ground no matter what, let it slide, and let her have her way, it does not make you less of a man.

BUT, its rare for a woman to be submissive and respectful to a man she is richer than, very very rare...Beyounce and Jzay are both multi millionaires but her respect still either comes from her personality/upbringing and the fact that her husband is way richer than her.

Women naturally see love as attention,security and meeting her needs while men see love as respect.

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by ifihearam: 3:15pm On Mar 21, 2023
@MOD

This is a front page material ..plese do the needful

if its snake and gossip now or Obi it will be on FP

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Polynek(m): 10:33pm On Mar 21, 2023
Saintinoo:


The OP said he has dated 5, i was dating one some weeks ago, understand what OP mean by educated, not just being a graduate, these are career ladies we are talking about.
Bcox He dated 5 dat means all educated ladies hv thesame attributes?
Is what u are insinuating bro? grin
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by ifihearam: 11:49pm On Mar 21, 2023
Polynek:

Bcox He dated 5 dat means all educated ladies hv thesame attributes?
Is what u are insinuating bro? grin
Keep fooling yourself..so 5 is not a good number to make your personal opinion?

If you buy 5 rotten mangoes at a shop 5 different times would you still go there?

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Polynek(m): 1:37am On Mar 22, 2023
ifihearam:

Keep fooling yourself..so 5 is not a good number to make your personal opinion?

If you buy 5 rotten mangoes at a shop 5 different times would you still go there?
You are one the fooling yourself bro, He is sharing only his personal experience.
Am currently working with a professor in a university, but u will never know dat Dix woman is a lecturer let alone a professor in EEE.
She doesn't need a maid in her house, even wen d husband opted she didn't agree, she does every house chores in the house whenever she returns from school.
As we are in farming season she bought 2plots of land that she wants to plant cassava and maize Dix year.
So now tell me after seeing all dix tinx she is doing, is it enough for me to come on SM and say educated women are loyal, hardworking bla-bla?
Is a matter of individual difference bro.
Don't use ur personal experience to generalize tinx pls

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Fiscus105(m): 2:08am On Mar 22, 2023
Polynek:
I don't like when someone generalize a behaviour simply bcox of his/her experience,
There are good educated ladies and there are bad one's.
That you met few bad ones doesn't mean they are all the same.

I know several illiterate or jobless educated ladies that are extreme difficult to control by man, at least I have dated two and by God grace married to employed educated,who she is not only humble, I also have access to all of her passwords,..... social media, bank app etc.

Though I hadly spend her money o

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Fiscus105(m): 2:13am On Mar 22, 2023
ifihearam:

Keep fooling yourself..so 5 is not a good number to make your personal opinion?

If you buy 5 rotten mangoes at a shop 5 different times would you still go there?


If I were you, I would question the character of the guy who dated 5 and all have same character, it says alot about the guy himself, but since you and the guy have same same character and defaulted way of reasoning, u believed him absolutely.
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Polynek(m): 9:08am On Mar 22, 2023
Fiscus105:


I know several illiterate or jobless educated ladies that are extreme difficult to control by man, at least I have dated two and by God grace married to employed educated,who she is not only humble, I also have access to all of her passwords,..... social media, bank app etc.

Though I hadly spend her money o
Now another good example from you.
Is not by being educated or non-educated. Is all about someone's lifestyle.
Thanks bro 4 ur contribution.
Wishing you a peaceful marriage
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by henndukwe18: 10:35am On Mar 22, 2023
Another reason why men go to villages in search of a humble wife since d ones in d cities feel they have equal rights with men

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by henndukwe18: 10:50am On Mar 22, 2023
Sometimes I feel like I don't want my wife to work, I just want to make money and marry ha so DT she will b a house wife, take care of d kids and the house, let me b doing d spending as d man of d house. house wives are very humble and submissive as long as d husband is a good, hardworking, trust worthy, God fearing and caring man. I know dt wives are supposed to assist their husbands financially in terms of d family, BT I would really love to get married one day, come back from work to see my wife and kids welcome me, my wife will now bring out d delicious food she prepared and I WL eat, then before going to bed, party after party

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by henndukwe18: 10:52am On Mar 22, 2023
Reasons why many female celebs don't marry

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by SPAMBOX7: 12:14pm On Mar 22, 2023
Saintinoo:


Wait, i'm i dreaming? Same character my own is exibiting, OP everything you listed here is same shit she does, to crown it all, she is a first class graduate.

She actually gave me a silent treatment for two weeks now, thinking i will come out and beg, she doesn't know that i have taken it as an opportunity to japa.

I just pity her, because i doubt if she can stay up yo one month with another man.

The last word i told her was this '' continue giving the silent treatment until you reach 30.

There was really no need for this. Just ghost the werey and find another replacement asap. It's not only the working class. All women are like that when they know they can't be replaced easily.
Get a replacement and see how easy you will forget about her. In two months max you will see her coming back to you. They usually come back with blame tactics.

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by SPAMBOX7: 12:21pm On Mar 22, 2023
Saintinoo:


It worked for you bro, just as it worked for a friend of mine, his wife, a nurse with a federal teaching hospital bought him a car, this guy earn 30k as a principal on a private secondary school but she submits to him like a house wife.

In all bad, there are still few good ones, but the truth is that majority of em career women are just like the OP stated.

Mind you, any man that condones a disrepectful wife is no longer a man, i don't know how you were brought up though.
Person wey dey answer "Nice" as name what do you expect

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by narite: 1:03pm On Mar 22, 2023
Nice2023:



My wife's friends who earns more than the husband till date has not had peace of mind. Despite the fact that the lady is humble.

Her husband is already intimidated,troubled and even want her to stop work for no obvious reason.

In fact,most men need to adjust seriously
Truly, the idea of marriage needs to be relearn. Especially now that we are living in a fast changing time.

In this modern time, It not uncommon to see a woman doing well in life (financially, career) far better than her husband. This idea of a woman during better than her husband makes some men very uncomfortable. I have a friend who just can’t live with it. His wife is currently during well than him and this infuriate him, he his deluded, paranoid and always trying to find fault in his wife and want to control her every actions, trying to let her know he his still the boss, though he his not aware of this, it is an unconscious thing for him.

He his always beating this woman over sįlly things. I am the one begging this woman to stay as she can no longer cope anymore. Seriously, men of today needs marriage reorientation
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by GreatAchiever1: 2:10pm On Mar 22, 2023
henndukwe18:
Sometimes I feel like I don't want my wife to work, I just want to make money and marry ha so DT she will b a house wife, take care of d kids and the house, let me b doing d spending as d man of d house. house wives are very humble and submissive as long as d husband is a good, hardworking, trust worthy, God fearing and caring man. I know dt wives are supposed to assist their husbands financially in terms of d family, BT I would really love to get married one day, come back from work to see my wife and kids welcome me, my wife will now bring out d delicious food she prepared and I WL eat, then before going to bed, party after party

Don't worry brother, you're not alone on this boat, I dey with you.
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Saintinoo(m): 5:54pm On Mar 22, 2023
SPAMBOX7:
There was really no need for this. Just ghost the werey and find another replacement asap. It's not only the working class. All women are like that when they know they can't be replaced easily.
Get a replacement and see how easy you will forget about her. In two months max you will see her coming back to you. They usually come back with blame tactics.

She has started it already, bringing up many tactics to reach out to be, blame tactics.
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by SPAMBOX7: 10:08am On Mar 23, 2023
Saintinoo:


She has started it already, bringing up many tactics to reach out to be, blame tactics.
Hahaha. I'd advise you swallow the redpill as much as you can. That's the only way you can handle ladies like that.
I have been there severally and currently still there. But this time I already see through her gimmicks and counters it before it escalates. Woman matter no hard na man dey do himself.
The rule is simple. She gotta submit 100% or you move to the next available chick. If that one too doesn't submit you move to the next till you find what you want. They are more women than men in the world.
Go to malls, parks, resorts, churches etc you will see tons of them.

Also rrmember at a time in your life you didn't know anyone like her existed and you was doing fine. So what makes you think you can't do better if she's not in the picture. She's like that cos she knows you can tolerate it and there is nothing you can do about it cos you can't afford to lose her. That's what her brains tell her.
Like I said men are the ones doing themselves

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by karkinase(m): 10:35am On Mar 23, 2023
I’m surprised you guys are just getting the memo.. working class ladies don’t freak me..
seems they have this common xteristics
Withhold sex, can easily check out of a relationship, bogus demand @ once, not emotionally available. Working class ladies go frustrate you ehn.

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by karkinase(m): 10:37am On Mar 23, 2023
henndukwe18:
Sometimes I feel like I don't want my wife to work, I just want to make money and marry ha so DT she will b a house wife, take care of d kids and the house, let me b doing d spending as d man of d house. house wives are very humble and submissive as long as d husband is a good, hardworking, trust worthy, God fearing and caring man. I know dt wives are supposed to assist their husbands financially in terms of d family, BT I would really love to get married one day, come back from work to see my wife and kids welcome me, my wife will now bring out d delicious food she prepared and I WL eat, then before going to bed, party after party
This is how Alpha role…coming home to meet ur Queen clean n neat

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by karkinase(m): 10:43am On Mar 23, 2023
ifihearam:


You are a bitch ass nigga..I can tell from all your write up

You will regret it in future.
You are taking side with our wife's friend because she does too..

You are saying the man is 100% wring?

What else does she do that initiated his recent actions?

I fear for you .
Leave that guy he’s a woman wrapper .. imagine doing joint earnings with his wife.. wife will see him finish

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Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by henndukwe18: 12:24pm On Mar 23, 2023
karkinase:

This is how Alpha role…coming home to meet ur Queen clean n neat
aswr
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by henndukwe18: 12:26pm On Mar 23, 2023
GreatAchiever1:


Don't worry brother, you're not alone on this boat, I dey with you.
I pray tins get beta by then
Re: How Do Men Cope With Educated Working Ladies..? by Reex12(m): 1:37pm On Mar 23, 2023
Jeferious:
Oga, na working class we dey find abeg. Wetin concern me and jobless girl? I no want person wey go use my own money buy me gifts on my birthday grin grin

As for the witch-like behavior,that one no be wahala. Me sef na emotional terrorist. Just tap the drums of war, and I'll hurriedly draw the battle line.

Boss, make I tell you...Dem dey use madness cure madness. Abeg give me working class girl anytime anyday
marriage not relationship been discussed for how long will you be folding fist to fight in your home when your meant to rest and cared for

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