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Nazgul:
During that era, women were strictly forbidden to work. Their primary job was stay at home, give birth and groom the kids.

There were no schools, no universities, no expensive house rents...just build a tent and you're good.

Our era is much more different. You have to send the kids to school, you must provide for them, pay house rent...etc.

That same new testament said women shouldn't talk in churches, they should be quiet and allow men do the talking. Why aren't women respecting that command? Most of those words were for their era.

If you fold your hands as a wife and throw the whole responsibility on the man, even God would be angry with you, cos you were created to be the helpmeet of the man and not to become a burden to him.

Yea,Helpmate to him Spiritually, Emotionally,and even physically but not financially because we women have our own major role we play in the home so men should plays theirs by providing for the home.

Kobojunkie:
The book doesn't say that at all. Instead, it is Paul's opinion that that ought to be the case but opinions are what again?

ok ohh, when it comes to money,women starts shying away

virginprincess:
Supporting him Emotionally, spiritually, physicality but not Financially.

It a man full responsibility to take care of the financial needs of the home just like it a woman's full responsibility to take care of the kids and the house chores.

Please, which law are you quoting from?

Postinor:
so when you get married u are ready to be a full time house wife so that u can perform this duties u are listing efficiently right

Of course not,I will work but he will still provide for every single thing even if I work.

udeh3:
Please, which law are you quoting from?

The laws of Nature.

virginprincess:
I aren't married so I don't expect any man to take care of me now but when I get married I will become my husband full responsibility whether any one likes it or not.

Full responsibility like what exactly? Do anything you ask from him bah? You want him to be your puppy??

virginprincess:
The laws of Nature.

No law of nature says marriage is one-sided... Marriage is very interesting when both parties understand in the confer of communication their defined duties and abilities as it relates to them

Marriage has no formula... The only formula is the couples determining what works for them.
Even in Europe or the western world, responsibilities are shared, men cook and also wash too.

The more you think financial responsibility is solely for the men, the more you hurt yourself as a lady.

Relationship is responsibility and as a lady, get something doing first before venturing into one

Kobojunkie:
1. Where is the neighbor's wife? Does she contribute financially to what is her own family? Or is she simply sitting as a "dignified" babymaker/house help in the marriage, watching as her own babies suffer while she sits helplessly around?

You this junkie. You didn’t read the post well

Postinor:
ok ohh, when it comes to money,women starts shying away

Well, the same Paul never in fact said a woman is not to earn a living for her own family, so you can't use his opinions to argue for any side of this back and forth here. hence it is best for folks to stay away from the book entirely.

Islandboi:
You this junkie. You didn’t read the post well

oh, my mistake!

PointZerom:
It is not only in marriage that money plays major roles.
One need money even to make more money.
Without money, human is useless.

it’s needed more in marriage. No marriage for me if there’s no substantial amount of money

virginprincess:
Yea,Helpmate to him Spiritually, Emotionally,and even physically but not financially because we women have our own major role we play in the home so men should plays theirs by providing for the home.

Proverbs 31:10-31
10 A good wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.

11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.

12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

13 She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands.

14 She is like the ships of the merchant, she brings her food from afar.

15 She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and tasks for her maidens.

16 She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

17 She girds her loins with strength and makes her arms strong.

18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night.

19 She puts her hands to the distaff, and her hands hold the spindle.

20 She opens her hand to the poor, and reaches out her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes herself coverings; her clothing is fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them; she delivers girdles to the merchant.

25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.

26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

27 She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”

30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.

Read this passage above.

According to God, there's nothing like men's role and women's role. The two have become one. So it's the responsibility of both of you to keep the home running.

Verse 16 says she buys a field...this means investment. You can't expect your marriage to succeed if you can't invest in the man you claim to love.

If you say you're a Christian, I'll advise you to stop reading the Bible upside down. Cos God made it clear that a man would leave his home and be joined with his wife and both shall become one.

This means whatever was yours now belongs to both of you, and whatever was his before he married you now belongs to both of you. If you choose to buy a land and build a house for both of you, you're not wrong cos heaven sees you two as one.

If you keep separating yourself from him and expecting him to take care of you, the devil would destroy your home and heaven would hold you responsible. Because you broke your own union. So stay away from social media's interpretation of marriage and follow that of God.

virginprincess:
Of course not,I will work but he will still provide for every single thing even if I work.

hmm,na the man wey go marry you I pity, but sha I know everything u are saying is just cruise

Kobojunkie:
Well, the same Paul never in fact said a woman is not to earn a living for her own family, so you can't use his opinions to argue for any side of this back and forth here. hence it is best for folks to stay away from the book entirely.

yes, the woman should be a full house wife

Postinor:
yes, the woman should be a full house wife

Paul never said that. Many of the women Paul encountered on his own journey were not housewives.

The book doesn't say that at all. Instead, it is Paul's opinion that that ought to be the case but opinions are what again? The book doesn't say that at all. Instead, it is Paul's opinion that that ought to be the case but opinions are what again? ...

Zonefree:
Love is just a word used by two fools to deceive themselves.

Any man going into marriage or relationship with a Nigerian girl because of Love is being unwise and foolish.

When dealing with women, remove love cos they can't give you love. Love was never meant for them. Even the Bible can attest to that by saying "Let Brotherly Love continues"

There's nothing Love of a Nigerian girl can do for you that Money can not do, even better.

This is deep.

Ilekokonit:
This is deep.

Is it new to you or what? You no be redpiller again?

Better remove the notion of love from your head. Choose respect instead. Then value and virtue, and finally your legacy.

Islandboi:
Yes I said what I said. That thing called marriage is not for guys that are still struggling. 3 of my neighbour pikin are not going to school again as I speak. The man is even owing 7 months house rent and it’s draining him.

Landlord don come house use vex throw them outside. His wife is working as well but the money is just not enough. Love is just never enough. It’s really a tough one on them.

Note : I’m not using my neighbour predicament to laugh or anything. I’m only stating the fact and to advice young men out there not to venture into marriage when you don’t have money.

Good advice, for he go has ears.

Islandboi:
Yes I said what I said. That thing called marriage is not for guys that are still struggling. 3 of my neighbour pikin are not going to school again as I speak. The man is even owing 7 months house rent and it’s draining him.

Landlord don come house use vex throw them outside. His wife is working as well but the money is just not enough. Love is just never enough. It’s really a tough one on them.

Note : I’m not using my neighbour predicament to laugh or anything. I’m only stating the fact and to advice young men out there not to venture into marriage when you don’t have money.

Yet the African richest man married and remarried, still not be able to hold on to a woman in 60s.

virginprincess:
There is nothing like leeching in marriage, any woman you are married to is now your full responsibility so it is expected of you to take care of her well even if she works and earn her own money.

No doubt... in the culture where a man is supposed to take care of his wife and family... be the breadwinner ... what is the wife supposed to do? Isn't it take care of the children and home?
If she is also working then she is not upkeeping her responsibility ... she also becomes a breadwinner. How can you now expect a breadwinner to take care of a breadwinner? He must upkeep his responsibility but not she? I know you can explain ... but with this kind mentality that marriage will soon crash.

virginprincess:
Even the bible is against broke men going into marriage, so stop blaming girls.

It is also against the bible for women to be who.res ... Non virgin in scriptures were stoned to death ...
Abi did you not see that in your own bible? ...

Also in addition to Deu. 22:20 - 21, read Prov. 31 and see what a real woman looks like ...

Not to worry Sha...
You're still a youngling, you'll grow ...

virginprincess:
I aren't married so I don't expect any man to take care of me now but when I get married I will become my husband full responsibility whether any one likes it or not.

E be like say a no go married you again.. you dey scared me

segcymoor:
E be like say a no go married you again.. you dey scared me

Where you planning to marry me before .

virginprincess:
Of course not,I will work but he will still provide for every single thing even if I work.

Nawao..see reason..... every single thing

segcymoor:
E be like say a no go married you again.. you dey scared me

No marry her oh...she dey US...she go collect your money and kids and leave you with nothing.

Ilekokonit:
This is deep.

New to you? 😂

Even in giving responsibilities to both, men have been told to love, while women submit.

Little wonder it doesn’t always end well when we decide to love! 😢🤧🥱

Islandboi:
Yes I said what I said. That thing called marriage is not for guys that are still struggling. 3 of my neighbour pikin are not going to school again as I speak. The man is even owing 7 months house rent and it’s draining him.

Landlord don come house use vex throw them outside. His wife is working as well but the money is just not enough. Love is just never enough. It’s really a tough one on them.

Note : I’m not using my neighbour predicament to laugh or anything. I’m only stating the fact and to advice young men out there not to venture into marriage when you don’t have money.

When there is no money, the man of the house LOOSES ALL RESPECT.
Heck some men even loose respect for them selves for not being able to meet their responsibilities as the head of the house (but we do have some shameless ones that shift the blame to their wives), Some marriages are only able to survive cos of the wealth that is keeping the couples comfortable.

nothing but reality

Islandboi:
Yes I said what I said. That thing called marriage is not for guys that are still struggling. 3 of my neighbour pikin are not going to school again as I speak. The man is even owing 7 months house rent and it’s draining him.

Landlord don come house use vex throw them outside. His wife is working as well but the money is just not enough. Love is just never enough. It’s really a tough one on them.

Note : I’m not using my neighbour predicament to laugh or anything. I’m only stating the fact and to advice young men out there not to venture into marriage when you don’t have money.

It depends on so many circumstances and situations

In your neighbor's case,

He needs money more than love to be happier in that marriage

Nazgul:
Exactly. Money is as important as love if you want a successful marriage.

If one of both of the two are missing, there would be problems.

I say marriage be like jollof rice.....all the ingredients must complete for it to have a tantalizing taste