Reminderz:
lol you think she's doing all those things for free abi? have you ever heard of an animal called chameleon? how they can change suddenly due to the situation they find themselves? that's women for you...

she's doing all that to trap you, and you see those free gifts that's she's giving you and that your friends that's also decieving you that you've hit jackpot, when shit hit the fan, they won't be there to save you... if she was single and still young without any kids, I bet she will never go that length to impress you... free things like this have led men to their doom

why didn't the man that left her stay with her since she's all nice and faithful? have you bothered to ask about her past relationship? how do you even know if the kids are not from different fathers? see ehn flee... are you guys having sex already, I guess you are... if you are, another method of trapping you faster? don't carry another man baggage...

Onyiiobi7735:

Be very careful and vigilant over this, because the unexpected can strike unexpectedly.
Most importantly,pray over the issue.Don't be swayed by sentiment and end up with everlasting regrets.

obinna58:
When it involves single mother I don’t waste time to click and read from a mumu man

Ask yourself Had it been she’s not a single mother of 2, do you think you’ll get such treatment
She’s desperate to tie you down so that you’ll assume your responsibility duties, I’m sure while taking care of her the two kids will benefit with no thanks.


You dare not find a single woman treat you so nicely, impossible

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Where did she get the money to be spending on you?

SundayNightGist:


Thank you for your advice. I will share what she told me about her past relationship this coming week here on Nairaland.
I have been trying to get her to do DNA test because of the boys but she has been saying don't I trust her? That with all the love she has been showing me why am I still asking for DNA, that what's my business with that since the children are not mine anyway... Don't you think she has a point? Abi this love thing don dey turn my head ni? Because normally I no be mumu but this single mother matter just get as e dey be me

ZINNYBANKS:
Sundaynightgist there are 10 reasons why marrying a single mom is a big problem.
Out of 10 you already mentioned 4 . marry her if you can cope with the remaining 6 problem..

Reminderz:

don't let her use "don't you trust me?" to manipulate you oo, many men have died due to that... and why are you trying to do DNA test on kids that ain't yours? has she conceived for you already?

SundayNightGist:


Beacuse I wanted to know if the two kids are hers, that's why bro
Or do you think that's going too far?

SundayNightGist:


But I love her, that's the problem
And she seems to love me too...

SundayNightGist:
It all started one bright Tuesday morning as I was rushing to my office at Egbeda from Igando. I happened to sit beside this beautiful young lady. From her looks, if anyone had told me the real identity of who I was seated beside, I would never ever have believed. This lady looked plum, fair, fresh, sexy, and classy- but most of all, she looked young- like someone in her late twenties.

As the danfo we boarded took off shakily due to age, I adjusted a little to balance well as I was seated by the door with the conductor hanging beside me. But I was uncomfortable still even after all the adjustments I made. The funny thing though is that this discomfort for me was coming from within and not as a result of the rickety bus I was in. And guess what? It was all caused by this beautiful angel seated right beside me.

So after so much fear of possible rejection and so many back-and-forths with self-talk within me, I finally manned up and decided to start talking to her. No, I did not say hi first. I simply used the popular traffic situation on that axis to make my entry.

Shockingly, she responded quite well! I was excited and continued chatting with her till I got to my bus stop at Pipeline. Our conversation went so well that it was unbelievably easy for me to collect her number. Somehow, I noticed she was happy to meet me too.

But funny me still found it hard to reach out to her afterward. It took me three whole weeks after we met inside that bus to sum up the courage to call her. To my surprise, she was not offended at all. In fact, she just laughed it off and made me feel so free talking to her over the phone.

One thing sha led to the other from there and we started seeing each other often. Only for her to confess to me that she is a single mom of two boys. She is twenty-eight. I have grown to love her so much as she pampers me a lot. In fact, she even spends her money on me at times, buying me gifts I never asked for. She wants to finish me with love. Anytime I try to refuse her gifts, stating that I am the man and the one who is even supposed to be spending more on her, she will get offended so much so that she might even not talk to me for days. I do feel pity for her doing all these but she seems to love me even more than I love her.

After dating her for a little over a year now, she's saying she wants us to settle down together but I'm having serious concerns about settling down with her.

In fact, my friends do tell me that I have hit the jackpot of true love and I'm tempted to believe them myself, just that I have reservations about her being a single mom. Now, before you judge me, here are the reasons why I'm worried about agreeing to settle down with her:

1) What if she's been pretending all along just to get me to marry her? What if what she really wants is a man who will train and provide for her and her two sons, hence the reason for her submission and endless show of love… Also, why did her baby daddy leave her if she has been the good woman she's assuring me of being?
2) What if her baby daddy decides to return one day and have his way again? Won't I be the one to lose out in the end? Okafor’s law on my mind right now
3) She may never have true intimate connection with me in the long-run
4) And her sons, what if they grow up to hate me?
5) What if she's just using me to get back at her baby daddy? (To make him jealous)

Or is something wrong with me? Is this an opportunity of a lifetime I'm about to throw away just like that? I'm seriously bothered. Please advise a brother.

SundayNightGist:


You no go like collect the lady phone number join?

SundayNightGist:


Ah! Oga did you just say everlasting regrets? Can it be that serious??

otusnora:
If it was just a child, I'd say fire down, but twooo? Boys? Hmmm. Well except the father of the children will take them n let d two of u start afresh. Besides that, iro o . Thanks.

Bellotelli:

I am actually facing similar dilemma.

Idaytesj29:


Add more to your comment, I think you have more wisdom to share. Thanks

Onyiiobi7735:

Yes, that's why you need to be very careful.The lady may be putting up an act, just to get your marrying her, and her true character might not be what you are seeing.

dontrulee:


Nope, I know about 3 single mothers who stay in Igando with two male children. So I wan confirm if she's part of them or not.

LIVINGICONREBOR:


See your mouth like love. Make I no vex throw you slap from here.🤔

Reminderz:

nothing concern you with that one na, even if she adopt am, that one nor be your problem since it's not your kids... why put another person wahala for your head? if she says they are hers, ehn na her wahala be that naa.. are you planning to get married to her ni?? hmm you better rethink wella

skj1377:
Hmm single mother with 2 boys. How will you cope.

SundayNightGist:
It all started one bright Tuesday morning as I was rushing to my office at Egbeda from Igando. I happened to sit beside this beautiful young lady. From her looks, if anyone had told me the real identity of who I was seated beside, I would never ever have believed. This lady looked plum, fair, fresh, sexy, and classy- but most of all, she looked young- like someone in her late twenties.

As the danfo we boarded took off shakily due to age, I adjusted a little to balance well as I was seated by the door with the conductor hanging beside me. But I was uncomfortable still even after all the adjustments I made. The funny thing though is that this discomfort for me was coming from within and not as a result of the rickety bus I was in. And guess what? It was all caused by this beautiful angel seated right beside me.

So after so much fear of possible rejection and so many back-and-forths with self-talk within me, I finally manned up and decided to start talking to her. No, I did not say hi first. I simply used the popular traffic situation on that axis to make my entry.

Shockingly, she responded quite well! I was excited and continued chatting with her till I got to my bus stop at Pipeline. Our conversation went so well that it was unbelievably easy for me to collect her number. Somehow, I noticed she was happy to meet me too.

But funny me still found it hard to reach out to her afterward. It took me three whole weeks after we met inside that bus to sum up the courage to call her. To my surprise, she was not offended at all. In fact, she just laughed it off and made me feel so free talking to her over the phone.

One thing sha led to the other from there and we started seeing each other often. Only for her to confess to me that she is a single mom of two boys. She is twenty-eight. I have grown to love her so much as she pampers me a lot. In fact, she even spends her money on me at times, buying me gifts I never asked for. She wants to finish me with love. Anytime I try to refuse her gifts, stating that I am the man and the one who is even supposed to be spending more on her, she will get offended so much so that she might even not talk to me for days. I do feel pity for her doing all these but she seems to love me even more than I love her.

After dating her for a little over a year now, she's saying she wants us to settle down together but I'm having serious concerns about settling down with her.

In fact, my friends do tell me that I have hit the jackpot of true love and I'm tempted to believe them myself, just that I have reservations about her being a single mom. Now, before you judge me, here are the reasons why I'm worried about agreeing to settle down with her:

1) What if she's been pretending all along just to get me to marry her? What if what she really wants is a man who will train and provide for her and her two sons, hence the reason for her submission and endless show of love… Also, why did her baby daddy leave her if she has been the good woman she's assuring me of being?
2) What if her baby daddy decides to return one day and have his way again? Won't I be the one to lose out in the end? Okafor’s law on my mind right now
3) She may never have true intimate connection with me in the long-run
4) And her sons, what if they grow up to hate me?
5) What if she's just using me to get back at her baby daddy? (To make him jealous)

Or is something wrong with me? Is this an opportunity of a lifetime I'm about to throw away just like that? I'm seriously bothered. Please advise a brother.

Geovanni412:


I get sth we wan check

Give her belle and become the next baby daddy .

You see baby mama.

U still find advice again on what to do!

matthewkotin41:
Bro run.

eDarlling:
Single mother?

Your bondage is loading

Tunagee:

Tunagee:

True talk. 'Maybe you'

Rokiat:


Please stop. This is childish reasoning. You love her and she loves you too so now you feel you can marry her and live happily ever after?

You could love her and she could be a narcissist, have anger issues, a bad mother bad wife, dirty, terrible homemaker, disrespectful, lack good communication skills, attitude problems, bad in bed/hate sex the list goes on but since you love her you will be happy right?

Smh

Kobicove:
What was the reason why she broke up with the father of her children?

seeker121:
Run ooo talking from experience most of dem pretend to get what they want.

Besides have you heard her own side of the story what led to their separation.

phorget:
OP have you ever seen any football match that starts with 2 : 0? Dont allow the lady to run you on an aggregate of 2 : 0 when it's just you that will be on the losing end.

If she's so angelic then her baby daddy wouldn't have abandoned her.