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What You Must Know In Marriage by captaininiobong(m): 8:15am On Apr 13, 2023
In a marriage, there is nothing like,

1. "that's me for you take it or leave"

2. " I can't listen to him or her because he or she isn't making sense"

3. Malice keeping

4. "I will never forgive"

5. " I cannot control my anger"

I have seen a marriage that the woman was a lousy type but later got married to a gentle man, now she looks so gentle.

If there must be a good union, then there must be tolerance and that doesn't mean you keep repeating same mistake all over because it's your life. I came to learn from you, likewise you from me, no Mr or Mrs perfect.

Simple words like, "I forgive you" can cover all your flaws. If you aren't ready please don't go into it.

A woman needs be loyal and respectful, if for case of hurt or pain, communicate with your partner where necessary at his leisure. Don't spark a fight when the heat is much, you can go out and take a chilled wine in the heat of fight, come back and keep smiling, then he or she will be surprised.

Always take your partner out, don't stay all 365 days at home or office alone. take him or her out and spend quality time together.


I have seen that having a good marriage is significantly dependent on the effort of the two partners.

Avoid telling people about your marriage issue except it's out of hand and ensure its the right people.

Settle your differences together.

Cultivate the mentality of working to fend your needs, there is nothing like house wife or else you will become irritating to your partner.
Especially if he sees you everytime at home and he is the only one fending for the family. you work is to cook and have sex.(Sister get a job even though it's sewing)

learn to appreciate your partner when he or she does good excellently.

Use your own money to buy something inorder to appreciate them ( I have seen a marriage that the woman is a boss in her office and earns more than the man but will never touch her salary to support her man, or family instead she keeps collecting money from him to buy her undies)

Learn to use your IQ, that if he spends on you, try to appreciate him not by paying back using sex but also reciprocate what he did to you in a different dimension with that you have told him you can support.

Do not always be on the recieving end, this is where most women get it very wrong.

Be prayerful.

As he goes to work wish him good luck, speak positive words to yourself.

Sing songs for each other (even if you don't like the song , just behave and maintain as if you like it)

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Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Nobody: 2:58pm On Apr 13, 2023
What kind of songs must they sing to each other? grin grin grin

Or any music genre is okay?
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Nobody: 3:19pm On Apr 13, 2023
All duly noted.

Although there is something I don't pray happens "it is cheating" I may never be able to let go of that. grin . It's not intentional 🀷

As for song ehn ehn ehn ehn grin grin Can we sing hymns?
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Rokiat(f): 3:24pm On Apr 13, 2023
Just put God first and understand each other’s love language and speak it fluently.

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Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by virginprincess(f): 3:41pm On Apr 13, 2023
Samantha124:
What kind of songs must they sing to each other? grin grin grin

Or any music genre is okay?
I love you,you love me,we are happy family with a grateful heart and a kiss from me to you,won't you say you love me too.....i think that is a great song for couplescheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy.

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Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by ogkrakkid(m): 4:04pm On Apr 13, 2023
Samantha124:
What kind of songs must they sing to each other? grin grin grin

Or any music genre is okay?
So that's your attitude??πŸ˜‚
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Nobody: 4:09pm On Apr 13, 2023
Sounds like a kindergarten song..πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.. who's the artist?
virginprincess:
I love you,you love me,we are happy family with a grateful heart and a kiss from me to you,won't you say you love me too.....i think that is a great song for couplescheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy.
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by virginprincess(f): 5:05pm On Apr 13, 2023
[quote author=Samantha124 post=122492687]Sounds like a kindergarten song..
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by SyrusdeHansome(m): 5:08pm On Apr 13, 2023
So marriage hard like dis? Married pple i de cut cap 4 wuna
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by marlow1962(m): 5:59pm On Apr 13, 2023
captaininiobong:


I have seen a marriage that the woman was a lousy type but later got married to a gentle man, now she looks so gentle.



Dey play
no be only gentle, you for add jack na grin
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Kobojunkie: 6:53pm On Apr 13, 2023
SyrusdeHansome:
So marriage hard like dis? Married pple i de cut cap 4 wuna
Marriage is great if you are with a fun, easygoing person who understands and respects you as a fellow human being would and should. Without that mutual respect for each other β€” not the onesided nonsense Nigerian men suggest their right in marriage β€” marriage ends up nothing but a cage for at least one of the partners, eventually misery for both. undecided

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Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Nobody: 6:57pm On Apr 13, 2023
virginprincess:
I love you,you love me,we are happy family with a grateful heart and a kiss from me to you,won't you say you love me too.....i think that is a great song for couplescheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy.
Lol ...

You did not put the "muah" after "a kiss from me to you" grin grin grin
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by SyrusdeHansome(m): 8:13pm On Apr 13, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Marriage is great if you are with a fun, easygoing person who understands and respects you as a fellow human being would and should. Without that mutual respect for each other β€” not the onesided nonsense Nigerian men suggest their right in marriage β€” marriage ends up nothing but a cage for at least one of the partners, eventually misery for both. undecided
What's ur problem with Nigerian men?
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 8:19pm On Apr 13, 2023
captaininiobong:
In a marriage, there is nothing like,

1. "that's me for you take it or leave"

2. " I can't listen to him or her because he or she isn't making sense"

3. Malice keeping

4. "I will never forgive"

5. " I cannot control my anger"

I have seen a marriage that the woman was a lousy type but later got married to a gentle man, now she looks so gentle.

If there must be a good union, then there must be tolerance and that doesn't mean you keep repeating same mistake all over because it's your life. I came to learn from you, likewise you from me, no Mr or Mrs perfect.

Simple words like, "I forgive you" can cover all your flaws. If you aren't ready please don't go into it.

A woman needs be loyal and respectful, if for case of hurt or pain, communicate with your partner where necessary at his leisure. Don't spark a fight when the heat is much, you can go out and take a chilled wine in the heat of fight, come back and keep smiling, then he or she will be surprised.

Always take your partner out, don't stay all 365 days at home or office alone. take him or her out and spend quality time together.


I have seen that having a good marriage is significantly dependent on the effort of the two partners.

Avoid telling people about your marriage issue except it's out of hand and ensure its the right people.

Settle your differences together.

Cultivate the mentality of working to fend your needs, there is nothing like house wife or else you will become irritating to your partner.
Especially if he sees you everytime at home and he is the only one fending for the family. you work is to cook and have sex.(Sister get a job even though it's sewing)

learn to appreciate your partner when he or she does good excellently.

Use your own money to buy something inorder to appreciate them ( I have seen a marriage that the woman is a boss in her office and earns more than the man but will never touch her salary to support her man, or family instead she keeps collecting money from him to buy her undies)

Learn to use your IQ, that if he spends on you, try to appreciate him not by paying back using sex but also reciprocate what he did to you in a different dimension with that you have told him you can support.

Do not always be on the recieving end, this is where most women get it very wrong.

Be prayerful.

As he goes to work wish him good luck, speak positive words to yourself.

Sing songs for each other (even if you don't like the song , just behave and maintain as if you like it)


Very well said but most women in Nigeria are prostitute even the married ones. Nigerian men are just like zombies


Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Kobojunkie: 8:22pm On Apr 13, 2023
SyrusdeHansome:
β–  What's ur problem with Nigerian men?
1. I don't have a problem with Nigerian men. What I instead detest is the blatant lack of critical reasoning in processing life and living among Nigerians, including Nigerian men. It is disgusting considering many of these same were birthed in the information age. undecided
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Kobojunkie: 8:24pm On Apr 13, 2023
randymirrors:
β–  That's it. Mutual respect.
1. This ought to be common sense but as you can see, not a lot of folks understand this basic thing. undecided
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Blupen969(m): 8:27pm On Apr 13, 2023
E remain 5years for me to marry
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by captaininiobong(m): 10:10pm On Apr 13, 2023
[quote author=SUFFERInSMILIIN post=122497672]
Very well said but most women in Nigeria are prostitute even the married ones. Nigerian men are just like zombies


[/quote

Well idk
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by SyrusdeHansome(m): 10:28am On Apr 14, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. I don't have a problem with Nigerian men. What I instead detest is the blatant lack of critical reasoning in processing life and living among Nigerians, including Nigerian men. It is disgusting considering many of these same were birthed in the information age. undecided
This isn't only common among Nigerians, it's a global issue abeg.
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Fahvvy: 11:34am On Apr 14, 2023
OP say na "go out and take a bottle of chilled wine" lol grin...

When she hold your shirt and start shouting "if you're a man beat me, you're not going anywhere today" lemme see how you're go out na grin...

It's like you're not aware that the average Nigerian female is troublesome grin...

Either ways Sha...
It's a great post grin...
Re: What You Must Know In Marriage by Kobojunkie: 1:22pm On Apr 14, 2023
SyrusdeHansome:
This isn't only common among Nigerians, it's a global issue abeg.
Sadly, it isn't as global as you like to pretend. Look at the National record of other countries to give you a clue. undecided

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