During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.

The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or support since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

Na the man oh. Any other thing is complimentary

I think the bride takes care of the cookings groom might just support. Depends on both sides Sha

The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

If her family solely depend on you the inlaw for everything, my brother na red 🚩

In my culture it's the woman's family that will pay for the food and the drinks during an introduction.

Same thing applies during the bride price negotiations and the wedding.. Because we do two weddings where I'm from.. one on Saturday which will happen at the bride's parents' place and the other on Sunday which will happen at the groom's parents' house.

Each families pay for their own food and drinks.

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

it's just a question, some fathers fit no like am..... They will think is an insult... If you are coming to my house, even if you will carry millions and come.. I must still cook for you

BmAe:
it's just a question, some fathers fit no like am..... They will think is an insult... If you are coming to my house, even if you will carry millions and come.. I must still cook for you

You dey answer person with entitlement and sugar daddy mentality.

Should this even be a question? ...

Like I would come to visit you and I will send money so you can entertain me, how?

Did I come for a visit, abi I came for a show that I have to pay for? ...

Abeg o...
If the people I'm going to visit cannot entertain me, then it's fine, I'll take it to mean that that's how they treat their guest or that they're broke and/or stingy ...

DonBenny77:

You dey answer person with entitlement and sugar daddy mentality.

how sir

Where I am from, the woman family members take care of the food while the man take care of the drinks that is to be used during the introduction

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Urheadmaster:
Where I am from, the woman family members take care of the food while the man take care of drinks that is to be used during the introduction

that is how it is before in my place but now.. I dont know again. things have changed... Maybe is the hardship

The simp will pray

in our imo state its the man that pays for everything and it is mandatory u do so

Culture varies, shameless in-laws in collaboration with their olosho daughter will do otherwise

Introduction and bride price paying is btw two families and unwanted guest abi aliens ain't suppose to be there. But some ladies will invite all here friends, mother in-law to be will invite all her friends, neighbors and church groups so that groom will foot the bills

As a guyman, ask how the woman culture is and how things are done. Be armed with that, engage the father in gist and he will tell you things. Some daughters and mothers are jezebels.


Men, you need your stone heads during that period. Don't entertain any form of westernization


OR

Get her pregnant and bye pass all this headaches

Bride's family of course

Guy if you hold money, that thing na small thing. You can cater for it and bone.

When my eldest sister did hers, na the guyman give her bah wey she take buy some things for the introduction. We just gathered ourselves (the girls) as pro cooks that we are and cooked all the food.

Popsy organized drinks and some other venue arrangements. The guy tried abeg. Na man him be. Till tomorrow I still dey dolf my hat for that my in-law. Though he's an engineer and was working with Julius Berger.

Make una dey try dey hold bah before una do marriage to avoid all this shalaye.

Blupen969:
The simp will pray

The simp don turn pastor be that o



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Man now... who else?

Wife family might assist you.. but the man has the lionshare.

Young guys should know what gives them respect in the family.

I see Nigerian men forming a union to fight against marital extortion from brides families, I see men vowing not to get married, I see Nigeria churches complaining of marriage scarcity, I see mature ladies offering to pay groom price just to leave their father's house.

I see groom price inducted into the Nigerian constitution, I see guys forming for girls and becoming materialistic, I see guys demanding for iPhones, PS 5, clothes, shoes from girls, I see girls working hard to take send money to their men, I see men growing far on women's money.

This I have seen.

Peter Obi

Oga if you are not yet ready to marry, go and work hard to make money

The one I witnessed in my house, my parents took care of everything.

But this practice of so called marriage rite in Africa truly need to stop, except we'll trash the one we borrowed (white wedding)

Bro, I know a guy who is still paying for the loan he collected to marry even after the marriage has ended long ago.....wtf

I went to a friend's wedding yesterday, while dressing the groom and getting ready for the program to start, a young man walked in to see the guy, baba said he was there to collect 15k for village youth footballers.....while I was still watching the whole thing, I was made to understand the girl in question is not even from that village, that they already made the payment to the youth of her village (maternal + paternal) totaling 30k. We just told guy to leave us before we vex.....cuz it was getting me angry already, baba said he was going to call other youths to come, we forget say na church wedding we come, I said your papa....follow bring your grandpa.....idiot...
Just marriage rites alone suck my friend dry like hell....

This money they keep tasking this guys is enough to help them start up a small business and build their family gradually, but Africa especially southern Nigeria say NO...
Even villagers that barely know how the child was raised the ginger for their cut.....it's damn annoying

Normally from introduction to engagement and marriage proper are supposed to be carried alone, single handedly by parents of the bride, if we are to go by tradition from Yoruba fore-fathers.

But nowadays, it depends on how people involved are loaded financially.


In the olden day, father of bride would be the one to call people around to come and eat and dine for his daughter that is going to husband house, while groom people would only bring pride price and other things in marriage list.

The bride with a little contribution from the groom

I have always wondered why an introduction should involve a ceremony, if it's not that we are wired to always like fanfare amidst plenty and even lack.

You do a ceremony for the introduction, same for the bride price list collection, traditional wedding, white wedding (religious wedding) and after that still do a ceremony (reception) after the white wedding.
yeah, we like to eat and pariiii

In all these, what annoys me most is the white wedding. Do you sparogtively have to be married again to be sure you were actually married? Because often times I wonder what was the traditional wedding for?

Na the man dey pay oh! Nor just go there. The ladies family will be forming like they made the whole thing possible but I Don already send money to them to organise things before I and my family come.

If it's an Introduction, the girl's family are supposed to take care of it. Both food and drinks, though the man and his family still need to come with drinks.
But during the main Marriage Ceremony, the man takes care of it but the woman's family also supports him if they have...

Who initiated the marriage?

Who initiated the visit and introduction?

Who are those that will eat the food and drink the drinks?

If one does not ask for a visit or introduction would the other bother about cooking of foods and providing drinks?

Answer these questions objectively then you will know who is supposed to pay.

BUHARU should be the one to pay for everything because he is our Darling Daddy