Fahvvy:
Should this even be a question? ...

Like I would come to visit you and I will send money so you can entertain me, how?

Did I come for a visit, abi I came for a show that I have to pay for? ...

Abeg o...
If the people I'm going to visit cannot entertain me, then it's fine, I'll take it to mean that that's how they treat their guest or that they're broke and/or stingy ...

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Samantha124:
In my culture it's the woman's family that will pay for the food and the drinks during an introduction.

Same thing applies during the bride price negotiations and the wedding.. Because we do two weddings where I'm from.. one on Saturday which will happen at the bride's parents' place and the other on Sunday which will happen at the groom's parents' house.

Each families pay for their own food and drinks.

sageb:


2 weddings?
which state are you from?

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Samantha124:
In my culture it's the woman's family that will pay for the food and the drinks during an introduction.

Same thing applies during the bride price negotiations and the wedding.. Because we do two weddings where I'm from.. one on Saturday which will happen at the bride's parents' place and the other on Sunday which will happen at the groom's parents' house.

Each families pay for their own food and drinks.

okine4real:
when you won marry, marry enter family when get shame. If you come to my house, am to feed you, i cant come to your house and still be feeding you. its the wife's family that will feed ONLY the husbands guest, then all other guest invested by the husband, the husband will take care of his guest. eg John is marrying Susan, Susan's family is to take care of John's Family only. Then John invite about 50 friends, Its John's duty to take care of his friends. this is the Normal way before poverty come change everything. Till today, if i won cause wahala for house, i go remember the part her family play for our wedding, once i start, she go just change mood, me self go just shut up.

Sirchiboy:


Traditional and church

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

EriMma1:
Guy if you hold money, that thing na small thing. You can cater for it and bone.

When my eldest sister did hers, na the guyman give her bah wey she take buy some things for the introduction. We just gathered ourselves (the girls) as pro cooks that we are and cooked all the food.

Popsy organized drinks and some other venue arrangements. The guy tried abeg. Na man him be. Till tomorrow I still dey dolf my hat for that my in-law. Though he's an engineer and was working with Julius Berger.

Make una dey try dey hold bah before una do marriage to avoid all this shalaye.

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if eyou don't have money!!

dannykares:


Point of correction not in every Nigeria , simple say de place you from in Nigeria your culture a man carry every burden as you describe .

GboyegaD:


It is no shalaye and it is greed for any woman to expect the groom who is visiting to pay for the food they want to serve him. If what you have is ground it and garri, take pride in it and serve it. The visitors are not coming because of food and should appreciate whatever they are offered.

That said, I think our negative competition mentality is why people try to show off otherwise, why bother so much about food and drinks.

Samantha124:
In my culture it's the woman's family that will pay for the food and the drinks during an introduction.

Same thing applies during the bride price negotiations and the wedding.. Because we do two weddings where I'm from.. one on Saturday which will happen at the bride's parents' place and the other on Sunday which will happen at the groom's parents' house.

Each families pay for their own food and drinks.

Samantha124:
In my culture it's the woman's family that will pay for the food and the drinks during an introduction.

Same thing applies during the bride price negotiations and the wedding.. Because we do two weddings where I'm from.. one on Saturday which will happen at the bride's parents' place and the other on Sunday which will happen at the groom's parents' house.

Each families pay for their own food and drinks.

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Samantha124:
In my culture it's the woman's family that will pay for the food and the drinks during an introduction.

Same thing applies during the bride price negotiations and the wedding.. Because we do two weddings where I'm from.. one on Saturday which will happen at the bride's parents' place and the other on Sunday which will happen at the groom's parents' house.

Each families pay for their own food and drinks.

BmAe:
During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.


In my side, the feeding on introduction and list negotiation days are on the bride's family but na the drinks wey groom bring we de use.
The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or support since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

BmAe:
During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.

The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or support since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

Blissful45:
BUHARU should be the one to pay for everything because he is our Darling Daddy.
Nairalanders, today, God has blessed me with a brand new age. Pls show me some love. I am not Davido who has rich friends that contributed for his birthday, but I know I have nairaland family members who can do same. I have never known what it means to celebrate a birthday cos I have never done it. No matter how small, pls show some love so I can cook rice, stew and drink coke and pray. Thanks

BmAe:
During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.

The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or support since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

BmAe:
it's just a question, some fathers fit no like am..... They will think is an insult... If you are coming to my house, even if you will carry millions and come.. I must still cook for you

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

Samantha124:
South African.

id4sho:
Culture varies, shameless in-laws in collaboration with their olosho daughter will do otherwise

Introduction and bride price paying is btw two families and unwanted guest abi aliens ain't suppose to be there. But some ladies will invite all here friends, mother in-law to be will invite all her friends, neighbors and church groups so that groom will foot the bills

As a guyman, ask how the woman culture is and how things are done. Be armed with that, engage the father in gist and he will tell you things. Some daughters and mothers are jezebels.


Men, you need your stone heads during that period. Don't entertain any form of westernization


OR

Get her pregnant and bye pass all this headaches

greatiyk4u:


That's a beautiful culture, in my culture (Nigeria)is the groom that Carrie's all the burden except in cases when the bride family is wealthy/ comfortable and not greedy