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OChimex:
But Bill Gate wife leave am. Jeff Bezos wife leave am, na lack of money make them leave too?
These are amongst the 4 Richest men in the world.
What you said is called, fallacy of generalization.
There are still many good women who are not all about money, same as good men who are not all about sex.

Are they Nigerian abi wetin you dey talk?

We dey the same situation I beg focus on yourself first just do like say dem no exist.

Like me I no even fit communicate with my wife and kids. Make your life better first.

Like me I don japa when I no even expect to japa and my life is better now.

But there will always be regret which am living with but with a better life to some extent.

Wande22:
Sister abeg manage am for me

How you take know say na bag dey for my top buck list?

Thank you.

This is how the circle of poverty begins. I doubt you're an igbo person. How can you be thinking about marriage when you're not financially stable Oga better go and look for a job to do and leave that girl alone until you are capable enough to feed them.

garriAndsugar:
you just have to concentrate and learn the job so you can be useful to yourself and family.
hustle so that when she returns you can also add another wife incase one goes the other one will remain

Lol 😂 😂😂 guy you bad oooo

Kobojunkiee:
Was it love from his end when he married her and had a baby on top all while under the shackles of poverty?

Abeg, make una una try dey understand love separate from your libidos.

The matter tire person

Concentrate on the job and take off ur mind from there, but that doesn't mean u will abandoned her ooo, just try and concentrate on the learning, when she's tired definitely,she will call u to sort things out..be safe, wish u d best

Nwoke
Let me advise you as an elder
You wrote you are from Enugu and I think it is probably Nsukka
She is from Imo state and maybe again Mbaise

"Oburu eziokwu mara na alum di'na nwunye adighi adabar'ha abuo;

That said, you need to get focused in what will give u instant day to day cash and maybe join solar classes by weekend or whenever your oga get job to install.
CCTV and solar are the easiest skills to learn, the panels and accessories are mostly fixed in the manufacturing companies your own na to just install as directed,we reach this skill in less than 1 week, fast ones lean in 3days if we are willing to expose the rudimentary to you.


The easiest job to engage in Enugu is transport business, get KEKE NAPEP and replicate the dedication and commitment you put in your security job and see the difference in result ,
These building skills are in top search in Enugu too for your consideration and guide when u save reasonable money to build a skill and carreer
Plumbing
Aluminium windows
Welding and fabrication
Tilling
Roofing
Screening and painting

Thanks you

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

You are the architect of your misfortune........ Why would you not know, how much your wife brings into the family pot ......

It's meant to be a partnership relationship, not a slavery zone ....... You should have made her contribute her quota, towards running the family expense.......

Man and wife, MUST financially contribute....... Now she is gone, wait for 2 years, get her divorced, look after your daughter, marry another, only this time, share the family financial burden .........

You are 26 so I 'll assume u married at 24 or so. I never understand why a 24/25 yr old is in a rush to marry especially a struggling one. You barely have enough to cater to yourself let alone a family. A man should be working on being the best version of himself in his 20's so that by 30 he 'll be ready to go. Assuming your wife left you becos you couldn't provide, what exactly has changed in your situation for her to come back to you and besides why would you want her back if that truly is the reason she left? Am guessing there is more to the story since you said she is good wife but her absconding with you guys child and unable to see the kid debunks that theory. Your sole focus should be on your solar training and trying to earn a steady and good income. Go through the legal process to get your rights to your kid 'cos she has no right to just abscond with the kid.

qtguru:
You women naturally give men headache, maybe you guys should try being the breadwinner and we'd see how you cope

😆😆😆 You know within yourself that some women are actually the bread winner in their families.

Giving you headaches, but some men are ready to marry up to 5 headaches 🤣🤣🤣

EriMma1:
Money go, woman go. When I was warning you guys in my post that a woman needs to be taken care of if you want your marriage to last, some empty skull said I too like men matter. Now see.

This skill is what you ought to have learnt first, then build your financial security before talking about marriage but You men like putting the cart before the horse.

Number 2, marriage is not for children. Forget the general opinion that it's better to marry a younger girl. mature ladies are still far better in terms of managing hard times and handling tough situations unlike your 23 yr old who has not been through lifes hurdles or surmounted challenges on her own. Prolly she just moved in with you from her parents house where everything is being done for her.

As long as you're still broke and can't meet her needs yet, no amount of begging will make her come back cos that was why she left in the first place.

Focus and complete your skill training. Make sure you learn it very well and start sourcing for jobs.. Also keep looking for a regular job to sustain in the meantime. Forget about her but try to send upkeep for your child

If you hammer tomorrow, look for a mature lady and marry.

All this 20 yr old ladies without tangible source of income rushing into marriage with average Nigerian guys, I pity all of you. You people think marriage is childs play. Make una dey play.

You're correct 100%

Stevenbright:
You were earning 75,000 naira and normally give her 40,000 naira for upkeep.

She works too as a private school teacher but you don't know how much she earns which means she didn't tell you and hence not even open about her finances and she has mind to be angry at you who is open about your finances and giving a moderate sum to the home considering your earning power!

You were not miss using the rest of your funds as you saved a part of it and probably used some to meet your personal effects and transportation fares.

You have not done anything wrong but next time maybe you can be more open by clarifying what your remaining funds is meant for and also demand to know her financial status.

Again, she realizing that after the lost of your job, your savings came in handy should have made her to respect and regard your stand and opinions if she actually loves you.

But for now, focus on yourself, finish your skill acquisition, launch a career on the acquired skills and work at it to regain your lost time and finances. After which, you can decide if you still want her or someone else.

A teaser--- "[b]What if she is with another man right now"?

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Even maybe he's not the father of the daughter 🙄, just saying tho

Stevenbright:
You were earning 75,000 naira and normally give her 40,000 naira for upkeep.

She works too as a private school teacher but you don't know how much she earns which means she didn't tell you and hence not even open about her finances and she has mind to be angry at you who is open about your finances and giving a moderate sum to the home considering your earning power!

You were not miss using the rest of your funds as you saved a part of it and probably used some to meet your personal effects and transportation fares.

You have not done anything wrong but next time maybe you can be more open by clarifying what your remaining funds is meant for and also demand to know her financial status.

Again, she realizing that after the lost of your job, your savings came in handy should have made her to respect and regard your stand and opinions if she actually loves you.

But for now, focus on yourself, finish your skill acquisition, launch a career on the acquired skills and work at it to regain your lost time and finances. After which, you can decide if you still want her or someone else.

A teaser--- "What if she is with another man right now"?

You are funny, where do you expect her to be. Na with spirit. She left him to hoe around and provide for the kids. It’s normal. Rule number 1. Never marry a lady without a father , it save ls alot

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

Youre even calling her back, do you have the money to take care of them? I'll advise you focus on that job, because is your lack of money that drove her away.



Take your time and learn that work.

Otilor

Klass99:
But I thought you people said you are logical and not emotional, and women bring nothing to the table except sex?

Again, I mean no offence to you I couldn't help myself . You will be alright OP, in fact all of una go dey alright las las.

Wetin this one they talk


Mtchewww

OloyeVIII:
How una take dey marry while earning less than 100gs! I make 50gs from my biz weekly(though 20gs is pure profit) and i no even dey reason woman. Currently i came to see a land where i plan to build a hostel to rent out in my home town.. Make money first bro, everything else is secondary... Even my so called babe sef, she started misbehaving since saturday and i no send her mama cos i know what i'm worth.. This sh!T ain't free.

Leave babe for now and focus na

Well ur wife doesn't have any iota of love for you,so don't force tins at this stage since she move without ur knowledge d only tin dat should matter to u now is to go to her family n inform dem,do dat with an elder from your family n pass a msg dat nothing should happen to ur daughter.go n work on ur self n build urself,make money n make sure ur daughter is ok but rem never force tin in life especially love from a woman.allow those tin to come naturally dat is when a woman will love to endure with u knowing fully well dat d future is bright.dont forget work on ur self.

Nice2023:
U created a new account to appear innocent.

U were earning 75k and u went and married and u think she wouldn't run like Ben Johnson.

U should saved money and invest it to provide u with a passive income but na marriage u follow.

I don't think u love yourself,if u really do,u would not marry a woman whose income u do not know.

Na only u enter that marriage...and that is why u are begging ur mother in law and also begging your wife.

Advice:
Start earning income and see ur wife come with full force.

Pls,in ur next life,do not marry semi liability as a wife and for women out there,do not settle for a man who can't take care of u.

U can abuse me i don't care but let us join hands in reducing poverty in our land.

Marriage needs money and without it,na trouble u dey look for.

Wish u the best in all u do.

Fact

garriAndsugar:
you just have to concentrate and learn the job so you can be useful to yourself and family.
hustle so that when she returns you can also add another wife incase one goes the other one will remain

lolz, adding another wife is not the issue, he should keep hustling so that when his levels has changed, then she will come back to her senses.

Lexusgs430:
You are the architect of your misfortune........ Why would you not know, how much your wife brings into the family pot ......

It's meant to be a partnership relationship, not a slavery zone ....... You should have made her contribute her quota, towards running the family expense.......

Man and wife, MUST financially contribute....... Now she is gone, wait for 2 years, get her divorced, look after your daughter, marry another, only this time, share the family financial burden .........

It was a mistake marrying at that time.I didn't have foresight.Let me just focus on getting better.It has been wearing me down but it will not break me.i will keep managing myself while doing the apprenticeship.

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

Look for another woman who would build with you from the scratch.Your wife is selfish and doesnt love you one bit.Marriage is all about uplifting each other.

If your wife should meet obodo oyinbo bloke,she will dump you without battling an eyelid.

I think your wife once reported you on Nairaland about coming home with a special needs child from another woman.She left your home for her brother's house in Abuja b4 relocating to the village to do hairdressing work.

Louisboy22:
Concentrate on the job and take off ur mind from there, but that doesn't mean u will abandoned her ooo, just try and concentrate on the learning, when she's tired definitely,she will call u to sort things out..be safe, wish u d best

Ok bro

Lexusgs430:
■ You are the architect of your misfortune........ Why would you not know, how much your wife brings into the family pot ....It's meant to be a partnership relationship, not a slavery zone ....... You should have made her contribute her quota, towards running the family expense.......

Man and wife, MUST financially contribute....... Now she is gone, wait for 2 years, get her divorced, look after your daughter, marry another, only this time, share the family financial burden .........

This one sounds like a case or medicine after death. The man already chose hypogamy and has a kid in it too and katakana don burst finish on top that one wey him never even know how to resolve. Na to come ask the woman on top of that say she must find work for the marriage to work you dey?

GeorgeForeman:
It was a mistake marrying at that time.I didn't have foresight.Let me just focus on getting better.It has been wearing me down but it will not break me.i will keep managing myself while doing the apprenticeship.

That's what you have to do ....... It was obvious, she married for money, not LOVE ........

Make yourself better and kick her out of your life ......

Focus in yourself bro. The only way you can win your wife is if you win in life. My wife respects me a lot today cos I provide for her and our daughter. If I can't, she won't respect me. No woman respects a man that can't provide so just find out if she's okay and the child is okay, once you know that, just stay focused, learn your skill, establish yourself and once things settle down, go and give her mother an expensive gift, na she go call you herself.

cocolacec:
■ Look for another woman who would build with you from the scratch.Your wife is selfish and doesnt love you one bit.Marriage is all about uplifting each other.

1. Look for another woman? Ontop say OP currently has a child with no stable employment to care for that one? Some of you are simply void of compassion at your core.

Kobojunkiee:
This one sounds like a case or medicine after death. The man already chose hypogamy and has a kid in it too and katakana don burst finish on top that one wey him never even know how to resolve. Na to come ask the woman on top of that say she must find work for the marriage to work you dey?

She was working, but refused to contribute (since her husband, did not bother asking her to contribute).......

It's about time, this mentality of only the man contributing towards the family expenses, become extinct........

Lexusgs430:
■ That's what you have to do ....... It was obvious, she married for money, not LOVE ........ Make yourself better and kick her out of your life ......

1. Did Op who married her and had a child all while severally shackled to poverty himself marry her for love or for his libido and convenience? Abeg make una reason well before una post abeg!