Justicemy8:
in our imo state its the man that pays for everything and it is mandatory u do so

Hambivert:
I have always wondered why an introduction should involve a ceremony, if it's not that we are wired to always like fanfare amidst plenty and even lack.

You do a ceremony for the introduction, same for the bride price list collection, traditional wedding, white wedding (religious wedding) and after that still do a ceremony (reception) after the white wedding.
yeah, we like to eat and pariiii

In all these, what annoys me most is the white wedding. Do you sparogtively have to be married again to be sure you were actually married? Because often times I wonder what was the traditional wedding for?

OBTOREPA:

That's what I'm seeing,you have the traits much. If the right opportunity comes, give it a trial,you'll make it good.

candyguyofficia:


😆 🤣 been it's the first time hearing it I said I should look it up.

You mind us connecting via mail

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!

EriMma1:
Guy if you hold money, that thing na small thing. You can cater for it and bone.

When my eldest sister did hers, na the guyman give her bah wey she take buy some things for the introduction. We just gathered ourselves (the girls) as pro cooks that we are and cooked all the food.

Popsy organized drinks and some other venue arrangements. The guy tried abeg. Na man him be. Till tomorrow I still dey dolf my hat for that my in-law. Though he's an engineer and was working with Julius Berger.

Make una dey try dey hold bah before una do marriage to avoid all this shalaye.

PerfectStranger:
If her family solely depend on you the inlaw for everything, my brother na red 🚩

DonBenny77:

You dey answer person with entitlement and sugar daddy mentality.

ikdaddy01:
Na the man oh. Any other thing is complimentary

Samantha124:
South Africa.

sniperr007:


Okay

What tribe are you?

Are you from natal?

Samantha124:
What's natal?🤣🤣🤣

sniperr007:


Kwa Zulu natal

Samantha124:
Much better.. I thought you would get it wrong so I can laugh some more..🤭🤭🤭

I'm from Limpopo, but I am currently based in KZN.

sniperr007:


Oh

I am Very familiar with South Africa.

Where in KZN are you based

CalabarPikin:
The one I witnessed in my house, my parents took care of everything.

But this practice of so called marriage rite in Africa truly need to stop, except we'll trash the one we borrowed (white wedding)

Bro, I know a guy who is still paying for the loan he collected to marry even after the marriage has ended long ago.....wtf


I went to a friend's wedding yesterday, while dressing the groom and getting ready for the program to start, a young man walked in to see the guy, baba said he was there to collect 15k for village youth footballers.....while I was still watching the whole thing, I was made to understand the girl in question is not even from that village, that they already made the payment to the youth of her village (maternal + paternal) totaling 30k. We just told guy to leave us before we vex.....cuz it was getting me angry already, baba said he was going to call other youths to come, we forget say na church wedding we come, I said your papa....follow bring your grandpa.....idiot...
Just marriage rites alone suck my friend dry like hell....

This money they keep tasking this guys is enough to help them start up a small business and build their family gradually, but Africa especially southern Nigeria say NO...
Even villagers that barely know how the child was raised the ginger for their cut.....it's damn annoying

Samantha124:
Umhlanga.

Enice:
Stop asking silly questions. The man pays for everything once it involves a woman.

Lovelydaisies:
My husband took care of that.

The introduction was just he, his friend and my parents and my brother.

The bride price entertainment was handled by him but we, the ladies handled the cooking.

BmAe:
During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.

The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or support since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

worldclass68:
My sis just did her intro las week...
We foot the bill ..since they were coming as guests.



Although the groom-to-be gave my sis little token to support....

But nah the bride's family they carry that one....
for Yoruba side sha....


For some other tribes, nah the man go still carry that one, which is too bad..... I knw of a guy presently in that situation, cuz his babe is from Down-south, his babe insisting he will foots everything....he's already thinking about ending the whole thing

sharone21:


Thanks for being truthful.... Even wedding wife's family HELP the man as if without that the man no go fit cope.... This is where 50:50 marriage started from( Hard fact!)

But, SE and SS for introduction the woman's family can prepare things though the man can send some money especially if he is boxed up... Some people do introduction which never gets to proper wedding level so, who bears the loss? Wife's families are beginning to have 2nd thoughts on this

For wedding, same thing: your culture helps the man, that is why boys in their 20s who are still living in parent's houses are emboldened to marry unlike in SE SS where, if u never ready, na u Sabi.... Wife's side and friends can support in SE SS .

BmAe:
During an introduction or let me say bride price negotiation and payment, the man will bring drinks, bring gift then carry his people down to his woman's house and then pay money for the wedding.

The question now is will he be the one to also pay for the food that the woman and her parents will cook when he and his people visit?

Will the man pay for the food or support since he is coming as a visitor with his people.

Samantha124:
Okay...

But just because I know much about my tribe doesn't necessarily mean I'll make a good wife material, not that I'm saying I'll make a bad one.

I'm a Pedi and I did Sepedi as a home language from primary till high school, it's only fair that I know about it.

Muffassa:

That's why Dem say make una no dey date them broke girls she especially should be the one to take care of it if she's gainfully employed and reasonable, mine should just be an addition volunterily. When we still have wedding to plan.
CAll me broke ass idc.
Maybe tribe literally plays out in this thing idk I'm a Yoruba my friends intro I attended so far the bride takes care of the foods and drinks. We only take some necessary stuffs including drinks.

BmAe:
uhmmm because probably you told him you don't have. Because at first he never said he was coming to eat.

BmAe:
uhmmm because probably you told him you don't have. Because at first he never said he was coming to eat.

Jennyclay:
The man is expected to send the lady money to take care of the food & drinks and every other expenses before his people arrive.

Biko, you broke men should stay away from marriage & relationship if you don't have money!!