Vanilla4:
Looks like a R/ship hunter, they put them in a friendship position but trying to hunt a partner... Don't be confused, you've broken up already... That was quite fast... What to do? Make yourself happy. You have to try.

I’m just so pained that I’m now an option to her someone she met at February and both of us has been since august even tho we started counting the relationship from October.
Maybe the guys cares for her more than me or shows her he loves her more than me?
that’s what I’m thinking but again I can’t be an option to her if she values me I’m seriously hurt even tho I love her

GreatVocalist:

It's not about her, it's about him.

If you present a gift to someone, on the basis that they'll remain loyal and then decide to take back that gift because they didn't meet your expectations, it means you didn't genuinely present it in the first place.

Nor be say na borrow you borrow am, you give am. Na so e reach, forget heartbreak. Let him move on, forget about the babe and the phone, and focus on adding more values to his life. When her eyes clear, na she go dey regret whenever she see say person wey give am phone don advance.

Collecting the phone won't make him feel better, trust me.

U describing giving in a general context...if i give to the poor or needy...i dont have to take it back...thats a gift

giving in a relationship is different cos it is tied to emotions ..its not an humanitarian gesture
...he gave her the phone because she made him feel she's someone dear to him while fvcking someone else.....its deception....he should get it back.....
Young girls of nowadays are just crooks...on a normal day if a babe betrays ur love and dumps u...they will return any significantly expensively thing u gave them without being asked. ...but now.....pple are just shameful and greedy...... babe went to sell engagement ring after she said she's not dating and marrying the guy again.....is that not witchcraft

If ur lover give u anything... u got it because u are in the office of a lover ...when u are not ..its not a bad idea to return it...

Thats why i am an advocate of give and take so no one feel used... u buy me iphone 13 ..i buy u PS4... u buy me gold chain...i buy u gold watch....if we break up the chances u will come and ask me to return what u gave me is next to zero

Bigboy2221:


Maybe the guys cares for her more than me or shows her he loves her more than me that’s what I’m thinking but again I can’t be an option to her if she values me I’m seriously hurt even tho I love her

Mumu....u are still blaming urself.....thats the result of the manipulative words she used on by telking u its ur fault she loved someone else...u cant see u never meant anything to her..if u did someone she met few weeks back wont just come and rake her heart..m
....oga ade...she's a user .... she doesnt deserve ur tears or love.... if i hear u say u love her gain ...i go swear for you

advanceDNA:


Mumu....u are still blaming urself.....thats the result of the manipulative words she used on by telking u its ur fault she loved someone else...u cant see u never meant anything to her..if u did someone she met few weeks back wont just come and rake her heart..m
....oga ade...she's a user .... she doesnt deserve ur tears or love.... if i hear u say u love her gain ...i go swear for you

Have broken with her yerstaday never wished that but I had no choice even tho I love so dearly I’m thinking of taking back the cell phone as you said

Is hard for me but I believe I’m gonna be fine with time

Bigboy2221:

I’m just so pained that I’m now an option to her someone she met at February and both of us has been since august even tho we started counting the relationship from October.
Maybe the guys cares for her more than me or shows her he loves her more than me?
that’s what I’m thinking but again I can’t be an option to her if she values me I’m seriously hurt even tho I love her

Totally normal to feel that way. I wouldn't go long term with someone's partner, likely a person can take that partner from me.

Vanilla4:
Totally normal to feel that way. I wouldn't go long term with someone's partner, likely a person can take that partner from me.

So you agree with breaking up with her right?

Bigboy2221:


So you agree with breaking up with her right?

Do she insist?

Vanilla4:
Do she insist?

No I decided that

You are provoking me, some people will just allow girls to mess them up, you better dump that gold digger immediately.

There's no relationship in this chat anymore bro, just move on

Vanilla dear, I love u already, take me to NC let marry

Vanilla4:
If someone likes me and changed their mind, I will ask questions that wouldn't put pressure on myself. You totally like your GF, you didn't ask the right question.
Your girl says she likes someone else, play cool and start with, What is the guy like? Where did you guys met? Did he knows you have a BF? And the questions that keeps her in an almost checkmate position, You like him, does he likes you? You don't let someone feelings drown while it is still fresh. What are you going to do about it?
Her reactions and answers tells you if she is totally into him.
Love is not a competition, don't put yourself in such position of an option instead delete yourself from the picture. If someone loves you, you are second to none.
She is still in that early phase, that puppy love phase. Do something...

Which kan bigboy be this op self, na only one GF you have? Remove that bigboy.

Brownshoe:
Vanilla dear, I love u already, take me to NC let marry

What happen to Las Vegas if you want something crazy! 😜

Vanilla4:
What happen to Las Vegas if you want something crazy! 😜

then let go there together.

leave her

A woman you’ve been spending heavy one for 4 years can leave you just because of 5 minutes argument lol na woman be that for you bro

Brownshoe:
then let go there together.

Nevada is miles away, that could be my second longest trip from here.

Bigboy2221:
My girlfriend of 7 months just told me that she now like another guy and is confused between the both of us

That she developed feelings for him when we were having issues he was her emotional support

She said I should give her some space to sort herself out and this girl has been giving me attitude resurrecting old issues we had not knowing is because of this

I thought Nairaland was wrong when they said girl are loyal to their feelings now I have experienced it first hand

Please folks in the house what should I do?

At all times you must hold your guard. Do not be emotionally involved with a woman. Be it your wife, or your girlfriend. The trick here is that your girlfriend is loyal to her feelings/emotions. In other to counter this, you should be loyal to your reasoning. Once you get a female in your life, always look out for what will benefit you. If you asked her out because of sex, endeavor to always have sex with her at least everyday. She will never hesitate to drain from you whatever reason that made her date you.
Furthermore, always let her know that your love and feelings for her are dependent on what you gain from her. If she asks for 5k, please knack her very well before giving her that money. She may say that it's only sex you know, remind her that it's only money she knows.
The hard truth is that the new guy done knack your babe, maybe the guy knack her wellla. Please look for her sister or her best friend to date and knack. An eye for and eye.
In the end, we all know what we are doing.

free her

Jonzing level ..as a Top G never lay your eggs in one basket ..

Bigboy2221:


Said they haven't knavked but she likes him

Lol and you believed that.
I dey shame for you😂

Let her go. I bet you, she will come running back to you. But bang and dump her if she dose.

Bigboy2221:


What do you advice I do bro?

Dump her and move on! Her heart is not with you again

She asked for a break so she won't feel guilty sleeping with the new guy. She may return to you after she's done with him or move on with him.

My advise is kill whatever feelings you still have for her and focus on your life.