Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

IyaebeTheGreat:
The man is selfish and toxic, even on doctors advise he's still adamant. I didn't remember insulting him . I only used the right words for my statement.

Olowoeko11:
stop acting like a kid, all your reply are absolute nonsense. So you rather watch your wife suffer just prove what? I myself don’t like maid but in this case it’s necessary for her wellbeing which should be understandable.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Won't ever marry a man that thinks with his penis, maybe you are referring to your sisters as the olosho

IyaebeTheGreat:
Won't ever marry a man that thinks with his penis, maybe you are referring to your sisters as the olosho

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

Tallesty1:
It's important to remember that even though this man may be wicked and selfish in your opinion, he is still someone's husband and likely the love of her life. He is someone who is respected by his wife and they have committed to spending their lives together.

Regardless of what may be going on in their marriage, insulting him will undoubtedly affect his wife's feelings, so it's important to be mindful of that. Respect him for her please.

This is not just about a disagreement between a boyfriend and girlfriend or two politicians, but rather a married couple who have made a commitment to each other.

Compliant:


Funny enough, I have three kids age 6, 4, and 1.

My wife does the house work and still goto her shop, I told her I am getting house help male or female for her, madam refuse o.

Now I wake up by 5am daily to do the cleaning of the house and also bath and dress the children for school, then by 6:30am I am off to work.

All families cannot be thesame

grandstar:
Xerona

It is sad that there are men who don't realize that taking of a baby in itself is a full time job.

It is best you bring this matter up with your parents and in-laws. Let them be the ones to talk sense to your husband.

I would also suggested if you could, abandon the kids with your husband for a full day and let him see what you face. Hin eye go clear.

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

IyaebeTheGreat:
Hmm that your wife is strong ooo maybe she has spiritual househelp. But it's good you are helping out sha, but ain't you tired of doing all those things by yourself? It will affect your input in other areas

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I k next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

randymirrors:


I see that you've been carefully selecting weak women for relationship/dating all your life. That's why you're still flapping wings anyhow, yapping nonsense about how you treat your woman. Surely, you've never been with a woman who will deflate your overbloated ego in one fell swoop. I like dealing with men like you. You will eat your own shit if we cross paths. Nonsense!

Compliant:


To be honest with you, she is very strong.

As for me, it does not affect me in anyway as I resume work 8am and once I leave the house by 6:30am before 7am I am already in the office.

IyaebeTheGreat:
So she should continue till she collapse, why must everything be centred on replacement as if her life depends on the marriage. Anyways if you marry someone who has sense and affectionate he'll even be the one to suggest a help because he won't be blind to your struggles in meeting up with the homefront.

almarthins:


Coming from a mature woman.?

I want to believe in your case, reason doesn't warm emotion, it is the other way around. That your
position in this matter is suggestive( calling the head a home wicked etc) is disheartening.

Perhaps, the wife should ask why is her husband objecting the request. Instead of fanning the ember of life time woes. Advice the woman in manner that won't make her destroy her home in flash of uncontrolled emotion.

We know the times, and don't pretend to be ignorant.

We were seven in my family, and my mother never had house help. This get just 3 he wan collect house help because doctor said. Make she go marry the doctor na

Zooposki:


I had to scroll up to check your ID and I was right about your ethnic group. You know she works 8-5pm, right?

komzy589:

I can bet my balls that women like you are ugly!😂😂

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

IyaebeTheGreat:
You are a potential insensitive husband. You knowingly dodged the part affecting her health. Wicked soul

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

Compliant:


Funny enough, I have three kids age 6, 4, and 1.

My wife does the house work and still goto her shop, I told her I am getting house help male or female for her, madam refuse o.

Now I wake up by 5am daily to do the cleaning of the house and also bath and dress the children for school, then by 6:30am I am off to work.

All families cannot be thesame

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

Jashub:
Get a house help and see how easily your husband will replace you. Nonsense