Aguiyimba:


This man loves his family and he knows his weakness.

Tallesty1:
It's important to remember that even though this man may be wicked and selfish in your opinion, he is still someone's husband and likely the love of her life. He is someone who is respected by his wife and they have committed to spending their lives together.

Regardless of what may be going on in their marriage, insulting him will undoubtedly affect his wife's feelings, so it's important to be mindful of that. Respect him for her please.

This is not just about a disagreement between a boyfriend and girlfriend or two politicians, but rather a married couple who have made a commitment to each other.

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

nabdeck:
Madam your husband may be right but you are not seeing things from his angle:
His reasons may be:
1. He may start having canal knowledge of the said house help
2. Some house help are witches and wizards
3. You may also start maltreating the girl thereby putting your husband into jeopardy
4. In the future she may be your co wife

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

randymirrors:


I see that you've been selecting weak women for relationship/dating all your life. That's why you're still flapping wings anyhow, yapping nonsense about how you treat your woman. Surely, you've never been with a woman who will deflate your overbloated ego in one fell swoop. I like dealing with men like you. You will eat your own shit if we cross paths. Nonsense!

IyaebeTheGreat:
Fact that is centred around your penis and how careless men should be with their penis is a stupid fact. Obviously your penis and your brain have exchanged position.

SLOVFO:


Oga calm down. You really need to work on your mentality...that a man is rich is no license to be "replacing" whatever at the slightest disagreement. Women go a through a lot to keep families. Whatever sacrifice you can afford or do to make it easier for them, make it.

egopersonified:


This is the 21st century. You should be able to tell your wife your fears and concerns about not wanting house helps. If, for example, it's based on lack of trust, she can look for someone to clean and she takes care of the kids herself. There are always other options to every situation. If she dies tomorrow, won't someone else look after the kids?

Jashub:
You're dull. It seems you don't understand that a man like her husband has options , and if he's the type earning well over 6 figures, he will replace her faster than you'll possibly imagine . And who in today's Nigeria will want to bear the burden of a single mother of 3 ? Better be wise

infohenry:
At what price, the ego will be bruised and he will start to keep his resentments to himself until it got to a breaking point, boom marriage is gone.

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

Johnhug66:

U just MUMU anyhow. If she dies, won't he still get the replacement you've been shouting as if ur life depends on it?. If she were to be ur sister, would you have said the same thing? . U this wild animal.

IyaebeTheGreat:
You are the dull and wicked one here that's basically thinking with his penis because all your response since is centred around how a man can be careless with his penis. Abeg shift

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

IyaebeTheGreat:
That's why you need more househelp so as not to overwork any of them, they have their own life to live as well.

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

Jashub:
Your emotional stupidity won't change the facts that she will be replaced once she starts misbehaving under her husband's authority.

tshtsh:

Then they should be paid properly and not treated like slaves. Most househelps I've seen in Nigeria are not too different from slaves. I know two women who had a househelp in Nigeria and moved to USA with their househelp after packaging the househelp as a dependent. In both cases the househelp left them within 3 months of arriving in washington and houston. All this stress she's complaining about may be a case of poor planning like have two kids within two years

IyaebeTheGreat:
He's a selfish husband. Two househelp no go do me sef because I won't have strength for any other thing aside breastfeeding my baby. He's a selfish and wicked husband

Odewaleadesoye:

Xerona:
I have considered all of the above... the truth is my mom has stroke and it affected her legs she's been taken care of, also I dont hv any family relative that can help ATM

Foodqueen:
Have you talk to him about non-live -in.

Maybe he doesn't want a stranger with his living with his family while he's away.


Check out for good domestic worker recruiters.

Look for one that will resume work in the morning and close in the evening.

obinna58:

Your husband knows you’re lazy which is why he’s trying to strengthen you up, in due time you’ll adjust

You have a whole 24hours to take care of kids and the house yet you think it’s stressful and wanting a helper, a work you can do for 4hours and have 20hours to sleep if really serious.
What about mothers that have 4-5 children and yet working and doing every chores

I’m sure it takes you 2hours to sweep ordinary room, please don’t teach your kids laziness