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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by komzy589(m): 4:31pm On May 10, 2023 |
Teema4720:Madam, women like you are very rare. You’re a typical example of what a woman should be. This Lady in question is not even working o. Or did I miss where she mentioned that! Young girls of nowadays are so impatient and lazy. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by isabi2lof: 4:31pm On May 10, 2023 |
Do the little you can . From the comments here , men only thing about their dicks . If na me that man go replace tire , I drop 2 pikin for am . |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Ellasure: 4:34pm On May 10, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: please remove wickedness from the issues. the lady surely need a house help asap as yesterday. some men and women too lacks empathy and failed to understand situations because they are feeling it at the surface. it will be good for the madam to raise it as a very serious issue with the husband and she should speak out her mind and her resolutions should the husband failed to heed and provide suitable help for her in the home. taking care of three underage children is not a small task. |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Nobody: 4:37pm On May 10, 2023 |
Ellasure:I use that word because he remained adamant even after doctor's advise. That woman is obviously tired and he's so insensitive to her plight. It's very sad |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Zooposki(f): 4:37pm On May 10, 2023 |
komzy589: Whether she is lazy or not is not the issue, she needs help since she cannot cope. She is not sleeping since someone has to be constantly watching the kids at all times. Lack of sleep is very dangerous as she might just lose her senses all to find out she has murdered all her kids when she regains them. Post partum depression is dangerous. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Coolsphinx: 4:38pm On May 10, 2023 |
When issues like this occur it will be very cruel of anybody to judge without hearing from the other party, 2 people are involved here. Thank God her husband is not violent, as she has not made mention that she was battered by her husband. If her husband should come up with his side of the story, i am sure you will change your stand. As a person i will never judge or come to a conclusion by hearing one side of a story as long as 2 people are involved. IyaebeTheGreat: |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by grandstar(m): 4:39pm On May 10, 2023 |
komzy589: From her tone of voice, I doubt it has to do with the cost of employing a house help. Some people just don't like it. It seems the husband is one of those people. Most women, if not all, would appreciate help when raising a baby. That's why moms or mother in law would come and spend time with the baby for months at end or even send a family member like a sibling or relative. In many rich countries, where there's no assistance with raising babies, they have very low birth rates. On the other, countries where there's generous government sponsored day care for children, at times up to the age six, einrn tend to have more babies. |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Zooposki(f): 4:39pm On May 10, 2023 |
obinna58: That was someone else, my bad. Still it does not negate the notion that she needs help and fast. Stressed mothers sometimes lose their senses and murder their kids. Lack of sleep is really dangerous. |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Nobody: 4:42pm On May 10, 2023 |
Coolsphinx:He should have soft-pedal after the doctor's advise but he remained adamant which means he care less about his wife's health |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Gee64: 4:42pm On May 10, 2023 |
Better for you oh. Some are kidnappers, witches, thieves etc. Some can even lure your husband to bed an break your home. |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by komzy589(m): 4:44pm On May 10, 2023 |
obinna58:I don’t know o. A whole 24hours to do domestic chores and you’re complaining. She’s not even working o! Wow! 😱 |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Compliant(m): 4:48pm On May 10, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: Nop. Abuja 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Nobody: 4:50pm On May 10, 2023 |
Compliant:wow great. I hate Lagos ehn and I keep wondering how these married women cope in Lagos. |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Efinem006(m): 4:52pm On May 10, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat:Why can't you just slide pass this post if you don't know what to comment?? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Mom007(f): 4:53pm On May 10, 2023 |
There are other sources of help besides a house help. A house help is another responsibility o, especially depending on the age. My first n only experience with house help had me running for the hills. Seek help elsewhere. You can invite a member of your family over for an extended holiday just so you can rest abit. Don't fight your husband over this. |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Nobody: 4:53pm On May 10, 2023 |
Efinem006:She came to seek advise from us |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by just2endowed: 4:54pm On May 10, 2023 |
Foodqueen: best option and its workable |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by cococandy(f): 4:56pm On May 10, 2023 |
Jashub:you sound moronic 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by cococandy(f): 4:58pm On May 10, 2023 |
meum: Y’all are so xtupid. I just can’t. How did she cope with the other kids? How do you imagine it’s the same now that another kids infant has joined the family? My gosh! |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by A2Gfather: 4:59pm On May 10, 2023 |
Sincerely, your husband is trying to protect you and your marriage if you don't know. 1. We have hard of many news where house help has turned to wife and make sure the real wife is chased out of the house. 2. We have hard a series of case where house help matreat children when their parents are not around. 3. We have hard numbers of news where house help has connived with either thieves or kidnappers to collect ramsom from their Boss. I think your view might be different from that of your husband. Try to convince him and ask more why he refuse house help. My suggestion is: If you have a brother or sister that can stay with you to help why you sponsor him or her education..... I think this can reliefs you a bit. |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by obinna58(m): 5:00pm On May 10, 2023 |
Zooposki:Do you really think a man wouldn’t know his wife is trying, a man working day and night trying to provide and make sure his family is living fine, all the wife has to do is take care of the kids and she’s demanding extra unnecessary expense for a house help Our mothers didn’t do this, when slay queen got tied down by marriage here’s the outcome. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by okerekingsley90: 5:01pm On May 10, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: 😄 |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by komzy589(m): 5:02pm On May 10, 2023 |
babywhite:Did you miss the part where the woman doesn’t have a daily job? She has 24hours to do the domestic chores alone o. 5year old and 2year old goes to school. With a house help, she does nothing else in the house. Haba! The husband is a very nice man to not be pissed |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Smith414: 5:02pm On May 10, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat:You self enh, why e be say anytime you comment, you nor dey ever make sense 🤦♂️ 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Dbestbrest: 5:04pm On May 10, 2023 |
Different folks with different challenges. I saw my wife in your condition when we even had one child and I suggested to her that we hire an house help to take off some of the house chores from her, she rejected the offer. I was surprised because this is a woman that can change her child's cloth more than 7 times in a day and she will still wash them same day and took care of all other house chores. Whenever I came up with the same suggestion she will reject the offer, then, I let it slide. She was the person that later brought my awareness to many atrocities that these house helps carry out and nobody told me when I began to buy things I knew could ease her works. I saved to buy watching machine for her. I made it a point of duty to help her out on weekends. We used Saturdays to cook soup and beans we know can stay in the freezer and will still be good whenever we want to eat them. As the children began to grow, fortunately for her, my siblings were coming during holidays to stay with us and they relates very well and nobody outside our homes knew that they were not hers with the way they relate. She was the one that ensured that whenever they finished school before going for NYSC they must come and stay full time with us just because they NEVER let her does any house chores again because those ones too love helping her all the time. Now to your present situation. Your husband must help you on weekends. Let him buy washing machine that you can use to watch the children clothes (and yours too). Let him not include his dirty clothes as part of what you must do. Let him also help out in ensuring that you don't cook everyday. 2 of you can adopt the system of preservation by cooking what you will eat the following week on Saturdays. Let your younger ones also come for a visit during holidays until the children start schooling. By doing this, you can keep your sanity. If you hear the atrocities these house helps commit, you will run away with a long spoon from them. He may have his reasons for not employing house help |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by okerekingsley90: 5:04pm On May 10, 2023 |
Jashub: Easy bro |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by IamMobisola(f): 5:06pm On May 10, 2023 |
Xerona: Sorry to say but your husband lacks empathy and isn’t the caring type. He is a contractor and yet all he knows how to do is get you pregnant everyday and leave you alone with the burden of taking care of the kids and at the same time doing house chores with no one to help. If his mother is still alive, then call her or an elderly female in his family and talk to them they would understand better 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by SLOVFO(m): 5:09pm On May 10, 2023 |
Jashub: It depends on the kind of women you sorround yourself with. Women are helpmates... they make life easier for you. If you have ever tried looking after kid, you will understand that it's a full time job |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Midadeola(f): 5:16pm On May 10, 2023 |
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Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by Oju4190: 5:17pm On May 10, 2023 |
Xerona:Three kids and u are complaining.....U are just been lazy.....U want to leave ur children to ur househelp and u will b doing what? Gossiping abi. Nonsense 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by esthel(f): 5:17pm On May 10, 2023 |
ugodson:if she ends up dead from the stress will he not replace her. He is unreasonable if he cant give her options. I have just one and i know how it has taken toll on me without help. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn't Want Us To Get A House Help by purpleicious(f): 5:17pm On May 10, 2023 |
Your husband loves you dear. With the way the times are, am sure he's protecting you from something. Communication is the key. I would suggest you remain calm while pouring out your mind to him. He can even help you out sometimes when he's chanced but di impose it on him. I know it's hectic caring for 1 let alone 3 but you can find your way around it: don't always try to meet up with the chores, my sister, house chores no dey finish. Work at your own pace and try as much as possible not to duplicate chores. |
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