₦airaland Forum

GodWrites:
Lol. Harmless looking guy indeed. Those are the ones that are most dangerous oh. Don't be deceived by appearance. Those ones that look dangerous, you will be surprised that they are as harmless as a butterfly.

very true but the environment does not favor mad men unleashing their desires. Armed mopol are everywhere

GloriousGbola:
billions - making crazy men eccentric

see also elon musk

lmao bro I refuse to believe you can have that volume of money and be normal. It's impossible . Elon is a classic case of an eccentric billionaire . That guy has some screws lose but if all the screws are in place you can't be a billionaire. It's impossible .

Tonytonex:
why did you change it?

bro I absolutely had nothing to do with that. It's the mods lmao

sukkot:
how so ?

Start thinking outside the box that's how i live my Life

sukkot:
streetz done red finish bro

I dey tell you.
We all came alone and we all are going alone.

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

You are completely right. Nigerians have that bad habit of entitlement. It's a curse and it's everywhere from North to South. You even read it online how some workers, families or even domestic staffs kill their employers or families all on this entitlement mentality. It has even permated every aspect of our society ranging from politics to churches or mosques. Everybody feels entitled such that the minute they stop receiving from you, you can't begin to phantom the level of disdain and hate. They don't like to call it what it is, Extortion whether through coercion or sentiments.

That's one of the bane of this country's growth and development. Thus one own entitlement mentality is professional extortion caressed with lip and eye service which eventually adds to the already pilfering of our resources and corruption that fills up our political space. Afterall, those praising the emilokans mentality are like your security guy. Let their entitlement mentality be disappointed, you will see their true colors...

Nuisance country

otipoju:
When I visited my mum, she was upset and asked why I was dressing like that and not like a diasporan...I told her you don't know what Nigeria has become. I even book like 3 hotels staying in one for not more than a week...so the receptionists don get too familiar. One told me the quality of the simple t-shirt I wore gave me away.

I grew up knowing the streets and I still stay current My driver was frustrated one day and said why don't I go out in the night to enjoy life like other people. I sey were want make I drink and dey vulnerable and easier to kidnap.

Many Nigerians are devil incarnate. Once I finish wetin dey carry me come...I won't visit for a very very long time.

Good decision, I completely agree with all you wrote, your safety and security is more important than anything called blind patriotism, some diasporans went back to Nigeria and got Burchard by killers and most of the killing is linked to either a family member, friends or close associates

No matter d evil ahead,I will continue HELPING and GIVING.

sukkot:
i can't even find 1sharon comment but yeah it's a good deed. Maybe I overdid it but it's a spiritual thing for me. I use these acts to build good karma

You can't see my comment? 😧

PeterTinubu:
I rather burn my money than help any human being again.

Help? That syllable ain't in my Dico 😩

I used to be the nicest guy alive until I got betrayed & backstabbed by one of my closest disciples whom I helped so much in life.

Human beings don't deserve help, everyone should struggle for him/herself.

Life is a jungle and only the strong survive ❗

Haha please have mercy

Exodus15v11:
With an ingrate like him, if you are to recount all the food you've bought for him or given him, he will ask you what have you given him or what have you done for him? That's why you've to be careful who you're kind to, especially with the entitlement mentality of many Nigerians and their stubbornness when it comes to appreciating what people do for them. Secondly, unless the person utterly deserves it, showering someone undeserving with kindness after kindness isn't a good idea, because they won't value it, will take you for granted, will come to expect it all the time, and will act like you're the bad guy when you're no longer doing those things for them.

True

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

read the warning "do not feed the animals" when out of food , they turn on you

@sukkot same thing too with the securities at my place and some others who are around you only because of what they can gain from you.

They are never there for you , it s all about themselves and ass licking . Once the sweets disappear, they will free you .

Once they stop getting free drinks , outings , food , money from u just know they will move into the next and they may even say bad things about you to people.

Just stop smiling unnecessarily from now on .

You gave someone a goat but refused to release the rope, have you given him the goat
Whenever you gave out something don't expect a reward, either by kind or cash. Do it from the bottom of your heart.
Given and started regretting show that you re not doing it from the bottom of your heart.

It it like you wishing some good morning and the person did not reply you back or say anything, then you're offended. At that point you have withdrawn you're Good wishes from him.

Again you re also discouraging the good people to stop being benevolent to others because of your own experience .

A generous man is a generous man any time any day, and can never be changed from it.
If I became wicked because of you, then I'm a wicked person from onset I was only pretending all these while.
Character is a character, and can never be changed. God bless you.

Innomach:
All professional and past time beggars are ingrates. You becomes their enemy anytime they don't get what they want from you. Just try and be helping people that needs help. Those ones hardly have the courage to ask for help. Anyone that shamelessly walks up to you to ask for one form of help or the other, is a beggar. I might be wrong though!

Everybody is a beggar. Only that we beg different things at different times, but begging is begging. Do you know someone can walk up to you and asked for favor but he is well dressed, do you know that when you declined that offer, he might get home and hanged himself. Do you know what that person is going through that your Litle help can make him to change his mind.
Listen if anybody ask you for help, if that person have that courage to ask you for help, don't look at their dressing if you have it give it to him. It has a way of prolonging your life and mind you givers never lack.

A group of hired assassins visited a family to kill a man, but met his wife, the woman was very nice to them gave them good food and drinks , they patiently waited for her husband, finally the man arrived enter into the seating room and saw visitors wandering in his heart he never knew them. They greeted the man and told him to thank his wife, for being kind to them that otherwise they would killed him, that he married a good woman, that they are hired assassin hired to taminate his life. That's how they spared his life.

My dear charity is good, it will saves a man from danger, and they will never plan evil against you, you can not know who is inside a
masquerade but a man wearing a masquerade knows you.

God bless you.

Sablexxxtoons:
Oga why u getting all emotional cos of front page..

pardon my asking no offense o.. are you Nigerian national born? The name Sukkot sounds Indian

I don't think any Indian would type a write-up as good as he did. I don't want to generalise, but it would hard to find an Indian that's good with English.

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

Na you cause am, next time do your charity away from home and mind your business. Honestly, you were trying to do the right thing but people have a way they assign a help to a responsibility, just ignore that guy like he never existed after a few days watch him run to you with apologies the ghost him finally.

I think it is how one does those acts of benevolence that matters.


.Do not make it everyday or consistently.


Then vary the quantity and quality of giving.


Then use style to tell them not to expect gifts always.

sukkot:
Keep in mind this guy is just one very skinny looking harmless looking guy is why I went overboard with the help. He doesn't look dangerous. He just looks like a lost young guy who is trying to do the job to survive

Never judge a book by its cover. Most of us do this but will claim we don't. A well dressed guy with fresh hair cut is almost always seen and readily accepted as a good ehmmm ..... responsible guy .... while another one well dressed with dreadlocks?... and tattoo.... he is almost always branded irresponsible and shunned.

My advice .... if you need to help people .... help random people who you know need help. Begging these days is an occupation for many ... how can you determine who need and who want? There is a whole lot of working people who are really in need .... never write them off your who to help list. You may see a nurse with worn out shoes .... split at the back ... and you can see it was split before and repaired ..... that nurse needs help. If you feel like you want to help a particular person ... bear in mind ...

it is better to teach one how to fish than give hime fish daily.

Choose one who want to learn to fish .

Regarding the entitled security guard .... if I were you I'll ask for a change. That guy may be plotting to have you robbed ... I wouldn't trust him. Maybe start dropping him foodstuffs again so he would call off his plot if any .... and when moved he wouldn't think you had a hand in it.

I once met a guy who voiced out that " if you like give me present every day the day u refuse giving me,I will forget all ur previous good deeds" isn't that insane?

sukkot:
nice insight from you as usual Chief. The human animal ? Lmao. Well I guess a spiritually inactivated soul is an animal lol. Salute. Oh and I am not fearing that guys activities. I am covered and protected . I have been cooked in the pit to prepare me for the palace. Am well cooked bro lol

Oh I know... You have it all figured out.

Divoc19:
Am still getting self... I taya
Am trying to protect my kids from their/our venom
Don't know how possible that is

It's almost nearly impossible!. If you stay with them it's worse.. if you don't, you'll see them once in a while and your kids will bond with theirs that's if they haven't poisoned their kids with toxicity.. best option is to educate your kids in time about it or make peace with them.

But your never told us how the guy become your sworn enemy, is it because he refused to take your trash to the bin?

Mind you, he is your security guard at the gate, not your domestic servant, it is within his right to reject taking your trash.

Oga this your story is one sided, aside the security job there are other thing the guy does for you which although you don’t want to mention. Am sure He washes your car, run errands, take out your trash (which you unknowingly mentioned) besides how much do you think His company pays him ? You want him to do extra work for u instead of adding some tips you want to blackmail him as a typical Nigerian that you are. Tufiakwa

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

Just thinking about your area... Igbos don't behave like that. Every igbo man knows that everyday no be Christmas. Any hustling guy appreciates little things and 5k is even too much. If he is bigger than that, he would find a way to resiprocate your kindness with more than 5k. I don't really understand your environment or the people living around you

sukkot:
yeah lmao . Well no more. So many people would scheme to make you their work chop. Especially security guards. I saw the snake this morning unsolicitedly washing the BMW of the Neighbor. He has transferred to another person. I trust that other guy he is not civilised like me. You can wash his car 7 days a week and he will not drop shishi. Rich people are very stingy

Rich people are not stingy I think they are wise ignoring the lower rungs of d society.i hv similar encounter at work with d securities their I gv them money alot even their oga but they turned it to something else like u must give us but d oga with d bags hv not given them shishi but I know later that it's for his peace of mind not to start what he can't finish.these guys beg irritatingly n don't hv time frame awareness.u gv them money in d morning by evening they are asking how far bros again.its better to lock up and be tag as stingy than feel sorry for them.their sense of entitlement is irritating

PeterTinubu:
I rather burn my money than help any human being again.

Help? That syllable ain't in my Dico 😩

I used to be the nicest guy alive until I got betrayed & backstabbed by one of my closest disciples whom I helped so much in life.

Human beings don't deserve help, everyone should struggle for him/herself.

Life is a jungle and only the strong survive ❗

Imagine if your real name was peter tinubu..lol
U are angry because u expect your reward from man, GOD will reward so keep being a generous soul and watch him bless u

sukkot:
most are . That's how you stay rich

Where did you get this statistics? How many rich men do you know?

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

Boss, if I were in your shoes, I would find a way to get rid of the guy ASAP. Someone like that having any form of responsibility over your well being is a clear and present danger. Talking from experience.

sukkot:
See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.

But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.

So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.

Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.

Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.

But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.

Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.

It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.

So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.

For me, there is nothing bad in giving your house guard food. What kind of food am I talking about?

Whenever you prepare prepare food for breakfast, launch or dinner at least try and serve him one plate a day. Regardless whether been paid salary or not.