1stGenAmerican:


That’s really wonderful, sir. I like that you can admit that it was hard it the beginning but determination saw you through. If you did it, others can do it. You’re an example that more parents should follow. It’s very obvious that the punishment you received as a child affected you as an adult and you wanted better for your kids. Blessings onto you.
Do you know what else you can look forward to? You can look forward to them giving you good treatment in your later years simply because they’ll feel you deserve it. They won’t see you as a burden and resent you nor will they be the kind of adult children who will avoid you or cut you out of their lives.
Please tell your daughter happy birthday and make sure that you don’t forget about her request! 😁

Thank you.

Kobojunkie:
That story was a very stupid one abeg! Two fully educated individuals doing that here in the U.S. They were just wicked individuals abeg!

Kobo, can I tell you that I couldn’t get their evil faces off my mind for weeks? They promised to send this woman to school when she first arrived and if I’m not mistaken, they were both doctors and living in a city surrounded by community colleges and trade schools with cheap tuition but what did they do? Abuse her and beat her like an animal. Just wicked! And the wicked people trying to justify their actions, even more wicked.

1stGenAmerican:


What you’re saying is that kidnapping, cultism, Yahoo/fraud/419, theft, misogyny, cultism, killing, sexual abuse, and everything that goes on is considered being well-behaved, right?
Take this board as an example. According to the statistic you gave us, 90% of the monikers on this board were abused as children and many of them can’t participate in a simple discussion about a regular topic without cursing, insulting, threatening, terrorizing, and wishing hurt on people that they don’t agree with or who don’t agree with them. A story about something such as a weather event or a pageant will result in replies filled with death threats, curses, insults about a person’s parents, and so much more. That’s isn’t well-behaved and it definitely isn’t normal.
I know plenty of adults who were born there and migrated here as children or teenagers and a large majority of them suffer from PTSD and are in counseling due to the abuse they faced as children. I have a close friend who moved here when she was 12 and her father beat her so bad from the time she could walk until she left his house, her grandfather gave her beatings, and her brothers were allowed to beat her. If that wasn’t enough, her brothers, cousins, and an uncle molested her when she was a kid and even after spending years in therapy, she refuses to date Nigerian men because she lives in fear of being abused the way she was as a child by every Nigerian man that should’ve protected her. Really sad.
Nothing is normal about abuse and abused children do not turn out to be well-behaved.

I'm sorry to say but you're not being objective you're comparing a public forum with what exactly? How about you go on foxnews.com and check out their forum, if you spend more than 1 hour there before feeling enraged or sad, I'll bend! I'm going to explain this again this time slowly, I'm talking about overall results not just a micro evaluation.

You know plenty that migrated and are suffering from PTSD, please quantify! 10, 20, 50, 100 or 1000? Now compare it to the average American or European kid suffering from the same from drug use or traumatic experience.......You lot love to talk about your own microscopic experiences but refuse to weigh it against the overall stats.

The truth is majority of kids and adults that migrated from Nigeria to the U.S or Europe are well behaved, law abiding, hardworking people, there's nothing to suggest otherwise. Do not be deceived by sensationalism!

abbey621:
■ You love arguing baselessly so it is nothing new to most of us on this forum, on one hand you provide your own opinion based on your experience and you expect it to be accepted, on the other hand you say I cannot counter it base on my own experiences even though I've lived in both environments, isn't that hypocritic?
■ I'm not going to bore you too much with my methods, just pick any of the top 20 high schools in the USA and check out their top 10 students, you would see minorities dominating the list especially Asian and Africans. Another angle, what percentage of kids in the USA got physically violent with their parents? 5-22% , if you believe it is the same or worse in Nigeria then you need to start acting comedy
You want research, please read these: Kennair, N., & Mellor, D. (2007). Parent abuse: A review. Child Psychiatry and Human Development, 38, 203–219. doi:10.1007/s10578-007-0061-x.
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/11/29/777295848/when-teens-abuse-parents-shame-and-secrecy-make-it-hard-to-seek-help A 2008 study by the U.S. Justice Department found that while most domestic assault offenders are adults, about 1 in 12 who come to the attention of law enforcement are minors. In half of those cases, the victim was a parent, most often the mother.
Finally, it is really not my job to educate you so how about I let you believe what you will and you let me do the same.....DEAL?

1. Rather, that seems more like your area of expertise.

2. Again, this all amounts to meaningless gibberish given that there are no definitive studies to show that abuse is more rampant in the U.S. or that Nigerian kids are better raised overall than their American counterparts.

1stGenAmerican:
■ Kobo, can I tell you that I couldn’t get their evil faces off my mind for weeks? They promised to send this woman to school when she first arrived and if I’m not mistaken, they were both doctors and living in a city surrounded by community colleges and trade schools with cheap tuition but what did they do? Abuse her and beat her like an animal. Just wicked! And the wicked people trying to justify their actions, even more wicked.

1. I was simply disgusted by the fact that they were both professionals in that story. It wasn't as though they weren't making enough money or something. it was just a ridiculous case of two wicked people to me.

Mindlog:


But they don't turn out as youths that snatch ballot boxes nor into ritual killings to make money....over the decades, it has always been said, they are wayward but some of them are today, the adults running their economy that many Nigerians who were better raised are doing everything possible to relocate to!

it is not always like this.
One thing about abroad is that they have imbibed some political culture over many years. But you see their kids? They are the tattoo wearing, vape smoking, every weekend nightclub going kids. Most can't keep a job for 2 consecutive years. All they want is to have fun. But when it comes to politics, they only allow the calm-headed ones to lead unlike Nigeria

techbroX:
Well, it seems more like abuse than beating cos he was reported to have beaten his kid with a "metal stick."

At the same time, the mother and the child should be ready to take care of themselves without the husband because that man may not forget that incarceration... It's not gonna be easy to reconcile after 3 years in prison.

I don’t think she intends to continue marrying him after the prison sentence. It is very obvious. She is getting back at him because he was not cooperative in getting her the citizenship she wanted so that she could bring her family to UK. She probably has grownup children she was planning to bring to Uk with her citizenship which the man blocked, perhaps for some reason known to him.

jedisco:


Every nation has it's delinquent. It's one thing to have a rough few and another to have a police force that appeals for bribe openly at every juncture.

That aside, if the goal of beating children is to make better adults and hence society, can you use Nigeria as an example and show us how that has worked out for our society?

Even the police force that you mentioned, the majority of them do not collect bribe openly. The ones on the roads represents less than 10% of the force. Using Nigeria as an example is easy, just look at majority of people that jaapa to foreign countries, what percentage of them are law abiding, hardworking citizens? In the USA, over 70% end up not only excelling in school but they go on to have a very good career.

I tell you honestly now, let Nigeria fix it's insecurity, lack of stable electricity, unemployment, you would see more positive actions from people overall. There's a saying that you never really know the true character of a man until he's backed against the wall, this is the reality of most Nigerians, people doing anything just to survive. Even that policeman on the road is a victim as well but you can't see that because you're not in his shoes

Kobojunkie:
1. Rather, that seems more your area of expertise.

2. Again, this all amounts to meaningless ramblings given that there are no definitive studies to show that in fact, abuse is more rampant in the U.S or that Nigerian kids are better raised overall than their American counterparts.

Oga I gave you links, the Least you can do is READ.....,READ!!! Stop this laziness!

cococandy:


If a parent needs to beat their children for them to respect them , then they never had control over them in the first place.

Our kids even when they are stubborn and disobedient (which is normal) still need to be able to have respect for us without the threat of violence. Your kids need to be able to look at , your presence, the way you carry yourself etc and feel a sense of respect and reverence for you. If violence is the only way to get that from them, there are baseline issues that need to be resolved

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Valid argument.
When your kid mixes up with the wrong crowd in a Junior High School, let me see how you control that with your presence.

Right now the most dangerous group in US is 13-15 years who shoot without questioning and brag about spinning the block looking for opps. From Chicago, Memphis, Bowie to parts of Indiana, it is a shooting expedition.

If you don’t earn enough to move to the suburbs but reside in the inner city, chances are high that your kids will end up suspects or victims.

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BeLookingIDIOT:

Still your country is a shithole,and you're running to live and raise your kids in those not well behaved countries

Your point? Point of correction, dual citizen here so what do you mean by your country? Ji ma sun!

JohnBullMySon:
If it has to be in the news then it is not common. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, just that it's not common as you say.

Let's even assume it is common, it does not automatically mean disrespect. It depends on the context.

How is it not disrespectful for your child to be calling you by your first name?!

There must be boundaries if you want your child to see you as an authority figure in the home

I don’t know the kind of beating you think will make a 15 year old who didn’t previously respect you to start respecting you. If the foundation is right, you won’t need to beat them at that stage

InvertedHammer:

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Valid argument.
When your kid mixes up with the wrong crowd in a Junior High School, let me see how you control that with your presence.

Right now the most dangerous group in US is 13-15 years who shoot without questioning and brag about spinning the block looking for opps. From Chicago, Memphis, Bowie to parts of Indiana, it is a shooting expedition.

If you don’t earn enough to move to the suburbs but reside in the inner city, chances are high that your kids will end up suspects or victims.

/

Kobicove:
■ How is it not disrespectful for your child to be calling you by your first name?! There must be boundaries if you want your child to see you as an authority figure in the home

1. If a mother and father train their kids to address them by their first name, how can it be considered disrespectful? Isn't it up to individual parents to decide what is respectful and what is not as far as the relationship between them and their own kids?

techbroX:
Well, it seems more like abuse than beating cos he was reported to have beaten his kid with a "metal stick."

At the same time, the mother and the child should be ready to take care of themselves without the husband because that man may not forget that incarceration... It's not gonna be easy to reconcile after 3 years in prison.

The woman wanted the man out.

That's why she kept on bringing evidences (the kid's injuries at the hospital, the text message from the husband, etc) that she knew would implicate the man and put him in serious trouble. She's probably targeting child support payments from the government.

You'll be shocked at the number of marriages that have dissolved because of benefits payments from the government.

abbey621:


I'm sorry to say but you're not being objective you're comparing a public forum with what exactly? How about you go on foxnews.com and check out their forum, if you spend more than 1 hour there before feeling enraged or sad, I'll bend! I'm going to explain this again this time slowly, I'm talking about overall results not just a micro evaluation.

You know plenty that migrated and are suffering from PTSD, please quantify! 10, 20, 50, 100 or 1000? Now compare it to the average American or European kid suffering from the same from drug use or traumatic experience.......You lot love to talk about your own microscopic experiences but refuse to weigh it against the overall stats.

The truth is majority of kids and adults that migrated from Nigeria to the U.S or Europe are well behaved, law abiding, hardworking people, there's nothing to suggest otherwise. Do not be deceived by sensationalism!

Not only is this a generalization, it’s an outright lie. I don’t fall for sensationalism, instead I base my thoughts/feelings on life experiences and facts. It’s funny that you think that American and European kids are the only ones using drugs or suffering from traumatic experiences when there is an equal amount of African kids (including Nigerian kids) on both the American and European continents suffering from trauma and self-medicating with drugs. The difference? Americans and Europeans don’t hide their shit from their families or the outside world while most Africans(including Nigerians) who are experiencing the same damned things with their children will go to the ends of the earth to hide what’s going on from their families and other Nigerians. Don’t say I’m wrong because I‘m half Nigerian myself and grew up in America around Nigerians and other Africans and witnessed them locking their kids away, beating them into submission, sending them back to Nigeria or whatever part of Africa they came from and bribing poor relatives with money to house/raise them, marrying them off to be someone else’s trouble, or just turning a blind eye and not caring as long as no one they knew found out.
You probably also don’t know that when many of these Nigerian/other African kids grow up, they cut their parents off and live life permanently estranged from them. I’m not saying all but I’m saying many and some of the ones that don’t cut them off harbor deep resentment towards their parents and see them as a burden.
Chinere Ogazi and other YouTubers are good examples. She speaks about being physically, mentally, and emotionally abused by her Nigerian father and while she and her brother were walking around in America with holes in their shoes, her father was boxing up new clothes to send home to family in Nigeria along with most of the family’s money. Another one speaks about being abused by every male member of her family. You're going to hear more and more stories because unlike older generations, younger generations realize that abuse is not normal are speaking up and calling their elders out on their bullshit.
I disagree with the top 20 students all being immigrants because that’s a myth but let me tell you something funny. If you gain the trust of some of the Nigerian-American youth who excel in school, they’ll tell you in confidence that they’re doing well in school and working hard so that they can get the hell away from their parents ASAP. It’s not a rarity for them to purposely attend schools and settle clear across the America from their parents. Children with good sense grow up to hate their abusers. 😏
And those stories about Nigerian women migrating to the West and divorcing their husbands? They’re tired of getting beaten like animals and drop their abusers like the rotten, dead weight they are. 😀
Obviously, you and I won’t agree on any of this so my discourse with you on this subject is done. Goodbye

Razgas:
it is not always like this.
One thing about abroad is that they have imbibed some political culture over many years. But you see their kids? They are the tattoo wearing, vape smoking, every weekend nightclub going kids. Most can't keep a job for 2 consecutive years. All they want is to have fun. But when it comes to politics, they only allow the calm-headed ones to lead unlike Nigeria

Are oblivious the youth in Nigeria who also wear tattoos, vape and indulge in drugs, go to nightclubs and hotels every weekend, and only care about getting rich quick and having fun? Most can’t keep a job for a few consecutive months and aren’t interested in doing honest work to earn a living.
I laugh when I hear Nigerians, even those in my own family, talk about baby mama and a baby daddy culture herein theWest when there’s plenty baby mamas and baby daddies back home.
Nigerians=the Emperor’s New Clothes

Kobojunkie:
1. If a mother and father train their kids to address them by their first name, how can it be considered disrespectful?

If you train them to address you by your first name they will see you as an equal and think they have a right to disobey your instructions at will without any consequences

Someone up there said I was unintelligent for saying that

1stGenAmerican:


Right, Cococandy! You’re a medical professional so you know that bruises and cuts that still weren’t healed when the mom returned could’ve meant that the child had internal injuries that could’ve silently killed him. The mom did the right thing because if anything would’ve happened or the someone else would’ve noticed the child in pain then she would’ve been thrown in jail for not reporting it. Then, the POS husband tried to call her a liar and place blame on her..

Wire caning might be extreme but thank God for u for that. Otherwise u would prolly have been a terrible nuisance to ur society

Kobojunkie:
Both of them are fking inhumane!

You can tell I am still traumatized from having seen the effects of wire-caning from my childhood...

1stGenAmerican:


Not only is this a generalization, it’s an outright lie. I don’t fall for sensationalism, instead I base my thoughts/feelings on life experiences and facts. It’s funny that you think that American and European kids are the only ones using drugs or suffering from traumatic experiences when there is an equal amount of African kids (including Nigerian kids) on both the American and European continents suffering from trauma and self-medicating with drugs. The difference? Americans and Europeans don’t hide their shit from their families or the outside world while most Africans(including Nigerians) who are experiencing the same damned things with their children will go to the ends of the earth to hide what’s going on from their families and other Nigerians. Don’t say I’m wrong because I‘m half Nigerian myself and grew up in America around Nigerians and other Africans and witnessed them locking their kids away, beating them into submission, sending them back to Nigeria or whatever part of Africa they came from and bribing poor relatives with money to house/raise them, marrying them off to be someone else’s trouble, or just turning a blind eye and not caring as long as no one they knew found out.
You probably also don’t know that when many of these Nigerian/other African kids grow up, they cut their parents off and live life permanently estranged from them. I’m not saying all but I’m saying many and some of the ones that don’t cut them off harbor deep resentment towards their parents and see them as a burden.
Chinere Ogazi and other YouTubers are good examples. She speaks about being physically, mentally, and emotionally abused by her Nigerian father and while she and her brother were walking around in America with holes in their shoes, her father was boxing up new clothes to send home to family in Nigeria along with most of the family’s money. Another one speaks about being abused by every male member of her family. You're going to hear more and more stories because unlike older generations, younger generations that realize that abuse is not normal are speaking up and calling their elders out on their bullshit.
I disagree with the top 20 students all being immigrants because that’s a myth but let me tell you something funny. If you gain the trust of some of the Nigerian-American youth who excel in school, they’ll tell you in confidence that they’re doing well in school and working hard so that they can get the hell away from their parents ASAP. It’s not a rarity for them to purposely attend schools and settle clear across the America from their parents. Children with good sense grow up to hate their abusers. 😏
And those stories about Nigerian women migrating to the West and divorcing their husbands? They’re tired of getting beaten like animals and drop their abusers like the rotten, dead weight they are. 😀
Obviously, you and I won’t agree on any of this so my discourse with you on this subject is done. Goodbye

Again you just don't get it, you can argue all you want but it does not change anything. Please look up top 20 high schools in the USA based on SAT scores or whatever educational criteria you like and then come back here to explain that minorities are not dominating that list. I said dominating I did not say all!

So let me get this straight based on your own life experience you can generalize but my own life experience is considered a taboo? The nerve of you people on this forum . You're right, we'll never see eye to eye.....PEACE!

being:
Wire caning might be extreme but thank God for u for that. Otherwise u would prolly have been a terrible nuisance to ur society

I know kids who were wire canned into their adulthood and have the scars to prove it, but yet ended up in prison in the end. So how does that factor in as far as your conclusion?

I was not wire canned. I instead saw the scars left on others as a result of wire-caning. My parent stopped flogging me after an incident at about age 14 by the way.

Kobicove:


If you train them to address you by your first name they will see you as an equal and think they have a right to disobey your instructions at will without any consequences

I know of a young man who addresses all of the elders in his family and every adult with much respect by their proper names— he even bows before some of them. That same young man has stolen from his grandmother and aunt multiple times before being given an opportunity to come to the US. A few months after he arrived in his family member’s home, a family member he addressed by his proper title and name, the young man ordered credit cards in his family member’s name and wrote fraudulent checks from the family member’s account. The family member sent him back, I think he should’ve sent him to jail, and he’s back in Naija calling everyone including his parents by their respective titles and acting humble and respectful—but he’s rotten and evil to the core.
The way a child or youth addresses someone doesn’t mean he respects or doesn’t respect them.

Kobicove:
■ If you train them to address you by your first name they will see you as an equal and think they have a right to disobey your instructions at will without any consequences

There is no truth to that at all.

Kobojunkie:
There is no truth to that at all.

No, there really isn’t.

1stGenAmerican:
■ I know of a young man who addresses all of the elders in his family and every adult with much respect by their proper names— he even bows before some of them. That same young man has stolen from his grandmother and aunt multiple times before being given an opportunity to come to the US. A few months after he arrived in his family member’s home, a family member he addressed by his proper title and name, the young man ordered credit cards in his family member’s name and wrote fraudulent checks from the family member’s account. The family member sent him back, I think he should’ve sent him to jail, and he’s back in Naija calling everyone including his parents by their respective titles and acting humble and respectful—but he’s rotten and evil to the core.
The way a child/youth. addresses someone doesn’t mean he respects or doesn’t respect them.

I think we all know grew up knowing someone like that boy.

abbey621:


Even the police force that you mentioned, the majority of them do not collect bribe openly. The ones on the roads represents less than 10% of the force. Using Nigeria as an example is easy, just look at majority of people that jaapa to foreign countries, what percentage of them are law abiding, hardworking citizens? In the USA, over 70% end up not only excelling in school but they go on to have a very good career.

I tell you honestly now, let Nigeria fix it's insecurity, lack of stable electricity, unemployment, you would see more positive actions from people overall. There's a saying that you never really know the true character of a man until he's backed against the wall, this is the reality of most Nigerians, people doing anything just to survive. Even that policeman on the road is a victim as well but you can't see that because you're not in his shoes

Let's not make excuse for bad behaviour. It is still thesame adult Nigerians that'd fix Nigeria.

As you glorify beating as the ultimate means to making better adults, two things worth pointing out are

1. As someone who's travelled wide, the group of Nigerian kids who get the most beating are almajiris. The koboko each receives in a day, your average city child might not receive in month. How do they turn out? Hooked on drugs, rading villages, raping and killing people.

2. As a nation, one effective way of instilling discipline which we have failed at is holding those in authority to higher standards. Having a drug dealer in leadership makes it extremely difficult to make young ones shy away. Same way giving justice to one thieving politician is more effective than flogging thousands of kids. The streets of our highbrow areas are dominated by our ladies selling their body openly to our politicians. No repercussions.

In summary, there are different ways of guiding kids to be better adults. While some argument can be made for some form of corporal punishment in some instances, there are more effective ways of achieving same end goal.

1stGenAmerican:


Are oblivious the youth in Nigeria who also wear tattoos, vape and indulge in drugs, go to nightclubs and hotels every weekend, and only care about getting rich quick and having fun? Most can’t keep a job for a few consecutive months and aren’t interested in doing honest work to earn a living.
I laugh when I hear Nigerians, even those in my own family, talk about baby mama and a baby daddy culture herein theWest when there’s plenty baby mamas and baby daddies back home.
Nigerians=the Emperor’s New Clothes

but the difference is that the Nigerian kids have church/mosque and culture which prevents them from being rude to parents, teachers and elders for the most part. In Australia where I live, the kids can't be controlled by their parents

abbey621:


Again you just don't get it, you can argue all you want but it does not change anything. Please look up top 20 high schools in the USA based on SAT scores or whatever educational criteria you like and then come back here to explain that minorities are not dominating that list. I said dominating I did not say all!

So let me get this straight based on your own life experience you can generalize but my own life experience is considered a taboo? The nerve of you people on this forum . You're right, we'll never see eye to eye.....PEACE!

I’m a member of a national organization that gives close to a million dollars in merit scholarships to graduating seniors that belong to minority groups every year, matter of fact we’re announcing winners next week, and I help to analyze data to pick the recipients—nothing you tell me will change my mind about what I know. There are literally hundreds of thousands of non-immigrant Black children excelling and attending college just as there are those with immigrant backgrounds. I’m damned proud to be of Nigerian descent but I’m not one of those with the we’re perfect, always wearing blinders Nigerian-elitist mindset.
You want me to look up SAT scores which has nothing to do with anything but why don’t you look up some of the shit our Nigerian youth are doing in America and getting caught. Those stories almost never make it back home.
We’re surrounded by glass and need to recognize that instead of just throwing stones.
Goodbye.

Razgas:
but the difference is that the Nigerian kids have church/mosque and culture which prevents them from being rude to parents, teachers and elders for the most part. In Australia where I live, the kids can't be controlled by their parents

Church/mosque culture? Do you consider it a good thing to be very respectful to parents, teachers, and elders while disrespecting, bringing harm to, and scamming other people’s parents, elders, and society as a whole? If church and mosque culture mattered, would there be so much crime in the country or would there be so many leaving the country to commit crimes in other countries? Are you aware of some of the things that go on behind the closed doors of these churches and mosques that the members depart and re-enact on others?
There are huge cities in different countries where there’s a church or a mosque on every corner and in those same cities, there are youth and adults committing crimes and sins everywhere between those corners. Show me any religious leader with kids and I can pick out one of those kids that’s living an unholy, wayward life that’s being kept under wraps.
There’s a moniker on here who talked about defiling his young female cousin behind a mosque and in the family’s compound and he was called out by several other monikers for his filth. Religious culture didn’t stop him from raping his young cousin and he probably speaks very respectfully to his parents and elders. Matter of fact, there are multiple monikers who speak of doing heinous acts in one thread while being holy in other threads—how respectful they are to parents and elders doesn’t matter because they are evil, rotten people.
Church/mosque culture nothing to do with it anything because if they did, your country and many other countries would be extremely safe places.

Shokoloko:

Majority of us have not had the opportunity to loot.
The average Nigerian is criminal minded and will loot if given the opportunity.
Try and load a machine that is supposed to pay out N500 with N1000.
No single person on the line will walk into the bank to alert the bankers.

the above problem is due to POVERTY, not bad parenting... as a great leader once said:" a hungry man is not a free man!"

matm:
The kids over there carry guns to school and shoot teachers and their fellow children, and u dare not touch them.
That's really a curse on the whites from God, as they raise monsters who cause them sleepless night.
No one can be wiser than God who said, spare the rod and spoil the child.

yep, in the US these are the exact same kids (with no boundaries) that will get upset and shoot up the whole school and/or murder their own parents.

maasoap:
You didn't become a great human being because of the beatings but right guidance. Throughout my life, I hated physical punishments, beatings especially.
There is no way kids won't make mistakes but parents and guardians shouldn't see the beatings or punishments as the only or first corrective measure.
You can actually raise your kids properly without beating them at slight mistakes or shouting at them unnecessarily. Thank God that I discovered this approach before my first born clocked four.
I don't beat my kids, I don't shout at them and they're turning out great.

i became a great human being due to the BOUNDARIES that my parents put in my life... and the corporal punishments i received when i stepped out of line and/or disregarded my parents rules and regulations. a child allowed to have NO BOUNDARIES at home is just a time bomb!

1stGenAmerican:


Church/mosque culture? Do you consider it a good thing to be very respectful to parents, teachers, and elders while disrespecting, bringing harm to, and scamming other people’s parents, elders, and society as a whole? If church and mosque culture mattered, would there be so much crime in the country or would there be so many leaving the country to commit crimes in other countries? Are you aware of some of the things that go on behind the closed doors of these churches and mosques that the members depart and re-enact on others?
There are huge cities in different countries where there’s a church or a mosque on every corner and in those same cities, there are youth and adults committing crimes and sins everywhere between those corners. Show me any religious leader with kids and I can pick out one of those kids that’s living an unholy, wayward life that’s being kept under wraps.
There’s a moniker on here who talked about defiling his young female cousin behind a mosque and in the family’s compound and he was called out by several other monikers for his filth. Religious culture didn’t stop him from raping his young cousin and he probably speaks very respectfully to his parents and elders. Matter of fact, there are multiple monikers who speak of doing heinous acts in one thread while being holy in other threads—how respectful they are to parents and elders doesn’t matter because they are evil, rotten people.
Church/mosque culture nothing to do with it anything because if they did, your country would be an extremely safe place.

white people scammed the world with colonialism. Scam is what people do to change their circumstances if they have the heart. The thing though is that you are checking it from the perspective of Nigeria vs the west. Why not Africa vs the west. Cos I can tell you now that Nigeria, Ghana and Cameroon are the only African countries scamming and committing crimes abroad.
The western changing culture is changing the way their kids behave. You see it from mass shootings, from overtly promoting sex and sexuality. Drug using.
It is never a bad culture for kids to respect parents and teachers. Never.