cococandy:


Over kill. Just because he wasn’t doing his homework?

anthonyuncle:
partners should really have an agreement on how to be disciplining their children before marriage.

JohnBullMySon:
If it has to be in the news then it is not common. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, just that it's not common as you say.

Let's even assume it is common, it does not automatically mean disrespect. It depends on the context.

MrBrownJay1:
today flogging a child is considered abuse, even though majority of us are great human beings today because of these same "abuse". .. so make sure that you A) have kids with a woman who follow your school of thought and B) live in a country where flogging is allowed-

no wonder kids in the UK (and all over the world) are now out of control!

1stGenAmerican:


Right, Cococandy! This wasn’t that child’s first beating so if he wasn’t doing his homework, that is proof that beating a child doesn’t really work. Brutalizing a child makes them fear and hate the adult but it doesn’t necessarily make them do the right thing. You’re a medical professional so you know that bruises and cuts that still weren’t healed when the mom returned could’ve meant that the child had internal injuries that could’ve silently killed him. The mom did the right thing because if anything would’ve happened or the someone else would’ve noticed the child in pain then she would’ve been thrown in jail for not reporting it. Then, the POS husband tried to call her a liar and place blame on her.
I am really shocked by the amount of people who think it’s ok to beat kids with metal pipes over computer use and homework.

blaquemyc:
The bible they brought to us said "spare the rod and spoil the child".

Kobojunkie:
This a man that supposedly moved abroad in 1990 and should have known better abeg!This is nothing about an agreement but a man who simply refused to adapt to the laws in his new environment even after so long.

abbey621:


Funny.....Upon all the talking and loving, being their friend and having an open mind, guess what? Kids living in the USA and the UK are 50 times more disobedient and wayward than Nigerian kids, this is pure undiluted fact! When all things are equal in terms of shelter, food and attention, Nigerian kids are angelic compared to those American kids calling their mom and dad, Joe & Betty!

Let's forget 9ja and focus on black Americans, households where at least one parent is a disciplinarian are often better off than one without a disciplined parent. You'll hear a black kid tell his friends, "my mama don't play that, big mama will slap you upside your head if you misbehave!"

Kobojunkie:
1. There is no evidence for any of the claims you keep making in your desperate attempts to compare Nigerian kids to American kids, so die that nonsense altogether.

As for the former, well, my folks stopped hitting me at 14, as I previously explained, however, I have friends whose parents did not stop until even their 20s. Many of them rebelled eventually going down the wrong path. Most of them even to this day are still spinning wheels as far as who they are mentally.

2. Yet again, there is no evidence of this at all. It is simply a myth you have been fed that you lot hold to without really reasoning for yourselves.

1stGenAmerican:
■ The man wanted to live in a civilized country while acting uncivilized and treating his children like animals. He is lucky that they didn’t give him more time for the evidence they had of beating the other children. I’m sure this animal abused his wife in a similar manner then, after lying on her, he was stupid enough to send a text message threatening her and the other child.
Good riddance, let him go pick fights with men his size in jail.

EdiskyHarry:
Rubbish.
I read a news in America, how a pupil shot a teacher with a pistol over an argument.
All these stupid stupid laws no dey help in all aspects.

jedisco:
■ When you say disobedient and wayward, it's good to see the larger picture.
The best way of grading the kind of discipline a child gets is to grade the adult and society it produces. Police folk asking for bribe at every stop, immigration folk asking for bribe at airports, villages being raided and hundreds killed while the nation remains silent. All these rampant atrocities were done by adults who were fully disciplined.
■ What is driving all the atrocities we see in our nation if flogging is the answer? Were these adults not flogged enough?

maasoap:


You didn't become a great human being because of the beatings but right guidance. Throughout my life, I hated physical punishments, beatings especially.
There is no way kids won't make mistakes but parents and guardians shouldn't see the beatings or punishments as the only or first corrective measure.
You can actually raise your kids properly without beating them at slight mistakes or shouting at them unnecessarily. Thank God that I discovered this approach before my first born clocked four.
I don't beat my kids, I don't shout at them and they're turning out great.



That's how they were raised too. Majority of them have been conditioned that that was why they turned out okay and useful. Only few of us among those who were raised in this way were able to see the flaw in the approach.

jedisco:



When you say disobedient and wayward, it's good to see the larger picture.
The best way of grading the kind of discipline a child gets is to grade the adult and society it produces.
Police folk asking for bribe at every stop, immigration folk asking for bribe at airports, villages being raided and hundreds killed while the nation remains silent. All these rampant atrocities were done by adults who were fully disciplined.

abbey621:
■ You keep citing examples of your own little bubble (Abi what do you mean by friends, 2, 5, 10 even 50? Does that equate to majority?)
■ yet when I cite my own opinion you shout NO EVIDENCE....You people are funny, even when it stares you in the face you love playing the denial card......It is well, let each person act according to his or her experiences, I can only share my own analysis having experienced Nigerian and American parenting styles and the consequent results......PEACE!

richmond500:
between Nigerians and the UK, which people do u think have zero respect for adults?

MrBrownJay1:
today flogging a child is considered abuse, even though majority of us are great human beings today because of these same "abuse"... so make sure that you A) have kids with a woman who follow your school of thought and B) live in a country where flogging is allowed-

no wonder kids in the UK (and all over the world) are now out of control!

Ulunne777:
But the wife Sha.
If she didn't want the man to punish the child,why didn't she do the appropriate punishment instead of reporting to the husband.
It makes the man now look as the abuser whereas he was trying to instill"discipline" of course overboard in a woke country. She Still took him to hospital where they will see the strokes well instead of giving paracetamol .
A child you paid for online classes is playing computer games.

blaquemyc:
The bible they brought to us said "spare the rod and spoil the child".

Kobojunkie:
The man really dug his own grave on this one. I can't believe someone who emigrated as far back as 1990 could still make such a silly mistake. It is almost like he didn't bother to work on adapting at all.

abbey621:


If your parent physically disciplining you is considered abuse then 90% of Nigerian kids are abused and guess what? Overall they are still much more well behaved than American or European kids.

abbey621:


Are you saying all those people represents the majority of Nigerians? All the folks you mentioned, are they up to 2 million? It's just like saying the police killing black folks, the white supremacists, the mass murderers, the hoodrats, the drug dealing elegbon in the USA all represents the parenting style of Americans......We all know that's only part of the picture and not the entire picture!

maasoap:
■ This is coming from a woman, shocking! Those countries are not like Nigeria where treat malaria, typhoid, even cancer in our rooms until the patient gives up the ghost.

1stGenAmerican:
■ Yes he did dig his grave and by sending threats over text messages, he basically provided proof of his guilt. Idiot. Even if they would’ve lied for him, I’m sure he would’ve found a random reason to get angry and beat them soon afterwards.
I’m sure he seemed to adapt outwardly and in ways that benefitted him and him alone. I’m sure he did a great job of putting on appearances for others while terrorizing his wife and children! I hate those types of people. A few years ago in Texas, there was a Nigerian couple who looked perfect but they had brought an adult female over to this country to use as househelp and they were barely feeding her and beating her, basically holding her prisoner. On the outside, they looked like the perfect, upstanding citizens and can you believe that other Nigerians who knew the couple were interviewed and were trying to justify them beating and mistreating this woman?

1stGenAmerican:


I really admire you. When you learned better you did better and that’s something the animal in the story didn’t do. You recognized the flaws
in your own upbringing and made a concerted effort to raise your children differently.
Maasoap, do you know why your kids are turning out great and you’re able to govern them? Because instead of fearing you, they respect you as a parent—children who respect their parents without fearing them do their best to please their parents and give them respect in return. Again, I really admire you.

jedisco:
■ Every nation has it's delinquent. It's one thing to have a rough few and another to have a police force that appeals for bribe openly at every juncture. That aside, if the goal of beating children is to make better adults and hence society, can you use Nigeria as an example and show us how that has worked out for our society?

MrBrownJay1:


you people are mistaking something fundamental here....just because you flogged a child doesnt mean he will end up the best citizen out there, it just means that WHILE LIVING UNDER YOUR ROOF, THEY WILL OBEY YOUR HOUSE RULES AND REGULATIONS!

majority of us didnt end up as looters, did we?!

maasoap:


This is coming from a woman, shocking! Those countries are not like Nigeria where we treat malaria, typhoid, even cancer in our rooms until the patient gives up the ghost.

abbey621:


If your parent physically disciplining you is considered abuse then 90% of Nigerian kids are abused and guess what? Overall they are still much more well behaved than American or European kids.

MrBrownJay1:
today flogging a child is considered abuse, even though majority of us are great human beings today because of these same "abuse"... so make sure that you A) have kids with a woman who follow your school of thought and B) live in a country where flogging is allowed-

no wonder kids in the UK (and all over the world) are now out of control!

maasoap:


Thank you.
I searched the internet for alternative approach to our parents/teachers way of raising/correcting kids. Then I leant that shouting is as bad as beatings. It wasn't easy for me in the beginning (four kids) but I was determined. Their highest punishment when my patient was pushed to limit was kneeling down but with no raising up of hands though.
One just told me now (like 10 minutes ago) that tomorrow is her birthday and she made her request which is; I should double her pocket money tomorrow because it is her birthday. Lol

Kobojunkie:
1. The reason is simple, there are still no larger works to show that flogging in fact works or does not work in Nigeria, and I would rather assume that it works when I know from my experience that it does not necessarily work. I mean my classmates in high school. We all belong to a Whatsapp group, well, at least those of us who are still alive and able to connect to date.

2. Your opinion was meant to counter mine, was it not? You cannot counter my opinion born on my experience with your opinion. This ain't rocket science.

Now if you are instead referring to your lame attempts at suggesting, without evidence that Nigerian kids are better behaved than American kids, then I suggest you go back to your logic text to understand how that absolutely can't work without researched evidence to show this for a fact.