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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by ednut1(m): 1:15pm On May 16, 2023

90% of marriages in Nigeria are purely transactional. Once a man loses his income the marriage is over. Mr man at this point only thing that can save you is to get money

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Victor2707: 1:15pm On May 16, 2023

Lessons for men:

Your In-laws are not your relatives.

Your wife is not your relative too. She is the mother of your children.

Stay away from your mother in-law. Leave your familiarity to greetings. The moment she encroaches your boundary, she will terrorise you and scatter your marriage.

For OP:
Leave your wife alone.

There is nothing you can do to bring her back.

Her mother is poisoning her mind.

Her mother should never have allowed her to stay.

Her mother has not business in her daughter's martial issue. She is probably divorced or not staying with her husband.

Open a bank account for your children where you save for them.

Only call them to communicate with your children and pay your children's bills (school fees and the likes). Don't ever call to your bring wife back again.

When your children are old enough, your children will look for their father.

Right now, you need to focus on yourself only.

Ignore your wife.

Stay away from alcohol and smoking.

Don't move to Lagos, if it is not part of your plan.

Be a man.

*Don't worry about your children grow up in a broke home, Just focus only on building your business.*

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Nobody: 1:16pm On May 16, 2023

Find a work and prepare for the future, Man. She will come begging when you are well off.

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by sageb: 1:16pm On May 16, 2023

yrhuhfy113:
WOW....

Your wife is not under a spell, and you did NOTHING wrong.

what is happening is called LIFE. People's mind change when they see a better life or better people.... what is popularly known as THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE effect.

sadly they do not know that THE GRASS IS ONLY ACTUALLY GREENER WHERE IT IS WATERED. Your wife doesn't want to SUFFER with you anymore, she is wishing she was always in lagos so that she could have married someone better.... This is common when people migrate from sub-urban areas to metropolitan cities like lagos. kindly understand that its NORMAL... it is HUMAN NATURE.

I know it hurts and its not easy BUT you need to handle this matter with wisdom. Can you send someone to check on your wife's activities to be sure she is not cheating or over religious and some randy prophet is not confusing her?

Now once you have established that NO MAN is entertaining your wife... then you need to find areas in lagos according to your budget. There are places in lagos where you can pay monthly rent of between 7-11k . And there are places in lagos as high as 230k monthly... so you need not worry yourself... you can relocate to lagos based on your budget... also you need to check yourself spiritually, what could be the cause of your downward turn in business... check and solve it.

NEXT, you need to skill up sir, your current business may tie you down in the east if you do not expand your abilities mentally. THERE IS A MAJOR OPPORTUNITY SIR IN THIS ISSUE, the good news about it is that, it gives you room to reinvent yourself and grow. So don't let your wife and her mother mess up your mind sir, detach and work on yourself.... if you can learn soft skills using a laptop, it will help. If you can change your appearance and style physically, it can also help, YOU NEED TO PACKAGE YOURSELF PROGRESSIVELY.

YOU WILL COME OUT OF THIS SITUATIONS FAR BETTER SIR, but for now, for the sake of the children, this is the little wisdom you need sir to save your home. PLS VISIT LAGOS OFTEN... it is a sacrifice you will have to pay.... TRY TO MONITOR YOUR WIFE.... you can do this by cloning her whatsapp and reading all her chats or spying on her phone, so that from the east you can read all her messages, chats, get voice record of her phone calls....IT IS NECESSARY... these days, you can not just let your spouse go without some form of tracking or remote accountability .... else they will lie to your face and hurt you, then you will feel bad. So I hope these few points will help you know where to start from and what to do

You nailed it

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by djon78(m): 1:17pm On May 16, 2023

hopeforcharles:
Pay a visit to her see things yourself, discuss about your marriage if you see that her mind is made up don't force her,
Go back to base try and improve your finances take care of your children.
She might have moved on.

That's the fact

She might have moved on

Men need to start equipping there minds that the Nigerian modern woman is just like there counterparts in the West

Many of them now have divorce at the back of there minds

Most of we men don't even contemplate or think such but many of our women do.

So any little thing they want out
And once a woman contemplates that, I am sorry that marriage is as good as gone

So Nigerian men must start equipping there minds concerning divorce. Because we men are the most affected, the divorce issues always comes as a shocker to many men and if they are not on hold of themselves, they will get ruined for life.

Also men must double there hustles

Anything you are making, leave some substantial part to take good care of yourself

I had an uncle that was all these I love my wife
Was spending everything on wife and children
When things got somehow
Them no send am

He later died after suffering stroke that hit him, with regrets on his dying bed

Hustle, take care of your family
But also leave something very good for yourself to fall on when shi.t hits the fence

Equip your mind that the game has changed
You are dealing with the most ruthless species of modern women that can be very unpredictable, unreliable, to do and undo
So be very guided

This is my advice to every man out there

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by kestolove95(m): 1:18pm On May 16, 2023

Divorce her

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Nobody: 1:18pm On May 16, 2023

promisedwealth:
Good morning Great people and wonderful family, please just like the saying a problem shared it's a problem half solved.

I have been married to my wife for over 6years now we have been through all together we have two kids 4 and a year old .

my business since late 2021 has been rough I lost some money trying out a different business I'm based in the eastern part of the country.

Early last year my mother in law told my wife to come stay with her in Lagos till I can find my self again, they left imo to Lagos on feb. 2022 I have been I contact with them ever since sending money across also it happen that my wife started bringing the idea of myself joining over there in Lagos ( my in law has a little school in Lagos that has been where my wife has been teaching since she left) .

Concerning the relocation I told her it's not easy as I have to look for money to get accommodation, shop to start a business also the money will be much which I can't afford for now during someday last year I told her to come back during one of our discussion she told me she it's not coming to east again I got angry.

I noticed the mother will never allow her leave her school so I kept mute about coming back since I was neither ready yet do we kept on going no issues.

Just this april she changed, hardly pick my call,stop calling me by the pet name she does.

I tried to find out what happened, she told me she wanted a break. I was confused I tried to guess why she came up with that. she needs to seek and know if it's the will of God for our union that's after two kids .

I was lost also I have tried to restore this woman sanity since then till now I have spoken to the mother she it's not saying anything than what ever she decides it's best for her the only once telling me not to worry at the brothers but I'm worried honestly .

I don't want my kids to grow in different homes.

I also tried to make her see this same reason she told me the kids will be fine she's not looking at anything making her decision please I need advise it's my wife under a spell or what.

I don't want to raise ny kids this way please advice please....

You lost it man when you allowed her and the kids to move to her mother's side. The separation space in marriage is always very dicey. You should not have allowed her go. But now you have to take back your authority but first are you now ok? Can you care for them now? If yes just go to where they are and bring them back. If your wife is still adamant then know that it's over she is seeing someone else maybe that period or space that both of you were separated. I wish you luck bro but you should have not taken the baite

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Etiyin: 1:18pm On May 16, 2023

promisedwealth:
Good morning Great people and wonderful family, please just like the saying a problem shared it's a problem half solved.

I have been married to my wife for over 6years now we have been through all together we have two kids 4 and a year old .

my business since late 2021 has been rough I lost some money trying out a different business I'm based in the eastern part of the country.

Early last year my mother in law told my wife to come stay with her in Lagos till I can find my self again, they left imo to Lagos on feb. 2022 I have been I contact with them ever since sending money across also it happen that my wife started bringing the idea of myself joining over there in Lagos ( my in law has a little school in Lagos that has been where my wife has been teaching since she left) .

Concerning the relocation I told her it's not easy as I have to look for money to get accommodation, shop to start a business also the money will be much which I can't afford for now during someday last year I told her to come back during one of our discussion she told me she it's not coming to east again I got angry.

I noticed the mother will never allow her leave her school so I kept mute about coming back since I was neither ready yet do we kept on going no issues.

Just this april she changed, hardly pick my call,stop calling me by the pet name she does.

I tried to find out what happened, she told me she wanted a break. I was confused I tried to guess why she came up with that. she needs to seek and know if it's the will of God for our union that's after two kids .

I was lost also I have tried to restore this woman sanity since then till now I have spoken to the mother she it's not saying anything than what ever she decides it's best for her the only once telling me not to worry at the brothers but I'm worried honestly .

I don't want my kids to grow in different homes.

I also tried to make her see this same reason she told me the kids will be fine she's not looking at anything making her decision please I need advise it's my wife under a spell or what.

I don't want to raise ny kids this way please advice please....

Why is it that it's mostly the men that run here for marital advice?

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Emmbanny(m): 1:22pm On May 16, 2023

Na your money the woman Love,
Why woman will leave because you have challenges in your business

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by dododawa1: 1:22pm On May 16, 2023

You go just DIE on simple matter,oga life goes on.
You duty now is your children life,forget that woman.

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Starhearts: 1:24pm On May 16, 2023

promisedwealth:
Good morning Great people and wonderful family, please just like the saying a problem shared it's a problem half solved.

I have been married to my wife for over 6years now we have been through all together we have two kids 4 and a year old .

my business since late 2021 has been rough I lost some money trying out a different business I'm based in the eastern part of the country.

Early last year my mother in law told my wife to come stay with her in Lagos till I can find my self again, they left imo to Lagos on feb. 2022 I have been I contact with them ever since sending money across also it happen that my wife started bringing the idea of myself joining over there in Lagos ( my in law has a little school in Lagos that has been where my wife has been teaching since she left) .

Concerning the relocation I told her it's not easy as I have to look for money to get accommodation, shop to start a business also the money will be much which I can't afford for now during someday last year I told her to come back during one of our discussion she told me she it's not coming to east again I got angry.

I noticed the mother will never allow her leave her school so I kept mute about coming back since I was neither ready yet do we kept on going no issues.

Just this april she changed, hardly pick my call,stop calling me by the pet name she does.

I tried to find out what happened, she told me she wanted a break. I was confused I tried to guess why she came up with that. she needs to seek and know if it's the will of God for our union that's after two kids .

I was lost also I have tried to restore this woman sanity since then till now I have spoken to the mother she it's not saying anything than what ever she decides it's best for her the only once telling me not to worry at the brothers but I'm worried honestly .

I don't want my kids to grow in different homes.

I also tried to make her see this same reason she told me the kids will be fine she's not looking at anything making her decision please I need advise it's my wife under a spell or what.

I don't want to raise ny kids this way please advice please....

God saves ur life 4rm untimely death ...
U came online here disturbing d peace of pple.
Be happy with urself
Don't panic
She will surely comes back.
And again have it back of ur mind dat someone is servicing her kpekus now

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by rickleye: 1:26pm On May 16, 2023

promisedwealth:
Good morning Great people and wonderful family, please just like the saying a problem shared it's a problem half solved.

I have been married to my wife for over 6years now we have been through all together we have two kids 4 and a year old .

my business since late 2021 has been rough I lost some money trying out a different business I'm based in the eastern part of the country.

Early last year my mother in law told my wife to come stay with her in Lagos till I can find my self again, they left imo to Lagos on feb. 2022 I have been I contact with them ever since sending money across also it happen that my wife started bringing the idea of myself joining over there in Lagos ( my in law has a little school in Lagos that has been where my wife has been teaching since she left) .

Concerning the relocation I told her it's not easy as I have to look for money to get accommodation, shop to start a business also the money will be much which I can't afford for now during someday last year I told her to come back during one of our discussion she told me she it's not coming to east again I got angry.

I noticed the mother will never allow her leave her school so I kept mute about coming back since I was neither ready yet do we kept on going no issues.

Just this april she changed, hardly pick my call,stop calling me by the pet name she does.

I tried to find out what happened, she told me she wanted a break. I was confused I tried to guess why she came up with that. she needs to seek and know if it's the will of God for our union that's after two kids .

I was lost also I have tried to restore this woman sanity since then till now I have spoken to the mother she it's not saying anything than what ever she decides it's best for her the only once telling me not to worry at the brothers but I'm worried honestly .

I don't want my kids to grow in different homes.

I also tried to make her see this same reason she told me the kids will be fine she's not looking at anything making her decision please I need advise it's my wife under a spell or what.

I don't want to raise ny kids this way please advise please....

There are always 2 sides to a story . Since we don’t have her part and going on yours . Life sometimes throws us lemons and you’re got to make the best of it . So I know you want to save your marriage but a bird can’t fly with one wing nor can you row easy with a single pedal.

Visit with someone and make sure that the kids are in a better place than what you can provide now and secondly that it is actually over - the marriage ( without the mother present )
Once you accept that it’s over then head back to your base and focus on your business. You can negotiate video call in the evening to check up on your kid and also send money monthly on upkeep of the child.
The kids will be okay once they feel love and not animosity between you two.
Good luck

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by frozen70(f): 1:29pm On May 16, 2023

promisedwealth:
Good morning Great people and wonderful family, please just like the saying a problem shared it's a problem half solved.

I have been married to my wife for over 6years now we have been through all together we have two kids 4 and a year old .

my business since late 2021 has been rough I lost some money trying out a different business I'm based in the eastern part of the country.

Early last year my mother in law told my wife to come stay with her in Lagos till I can find my self again, they left imo to Lagos on feb. 2022 I have been I contact with them ever since sending money across also it happen that my wife started bringing the idea of myself joining over there in Lagos ( my in law has a little school in Lagos that has been where my wife has been teaching since she left) .

Concerning the relocation I told her it's not easy as I have to look for money to get accommodation, shop to start a business also the money will be much which I can't afford for now during someday last year I told her to come back during one of our discussion she told me she it's not coming to east again I got angry.

I noticed the mother will never allow her leave her school so I kept mute about coming back since I was neither ready yet do we kept on going no issues.

Just this april she changed, hardly pick my call,stop calling me by the pet name she does.

I tried to find out what happened, she told me she wanted a break. I was confused I tried to guess why she came up with that. she needs to seek and know if it's the will of God for our union that's after two kids .

I was lost also I have tried to restore this woman sanity since then till now I have spoken to the mother she it's not saying anything than what ever she decides it's best for her the only once telling me not to worry at the brothers but I'm worried honestly .

I don't want my kids to grow in different homes.

I also tried to make her see this same reason she told me the kids will be fine she's not looking at anything making her decision please I need advise it's my wife under a spell or what.

I don't want to raise ny kids this way please advice please....

I think her mum is behind her guts

You need to visit them all and let them know that you want uoir family back so that you can plan along with her

But if she or your owfe refuses

Just inform your family about their intents

Then start seeing your self as a single parents who have no access to his family

What next
Start planning on how to bounce back to life and when you think you can afford to handle uoir family, you go back to request fir them to come back again

If they refuse this second time, just follow your heart, you can't kill yourself

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Nobody: 1:29pm On May 16, 2023

The main problem here is that you're not doing well... That's the reality of things wether you like it or not,if you can work on yourself personally and make some money,do well....Baba,you will see prettier angels you cannot see now running after you....By then na your ex go dey call you dey say she just wants to check on you.

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by sasalihu8: 1:30pm On May 16, 2023

God will surely see you through

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by GOSPELTRUTH31: 1:31pm On May 16, 2023

promisedwealth:
Good morning Great people and wonderful family, please just like the saying a problem shared it's a problem half solved.

I have been married to my wife for over 6years now we have been through all together we have two kids 4 and a year old .

my business since late 2021 has been rough I lost some money trying out a different business I'm based in the eastern part of the country.

Early last year my mother in law told my wife to come stay with her in Lagos till I can find my self again, they left imo to Lagos on feb. 2022 I have been I contact with them ever since sending money across also it happen that my wife started bringing the idea of myself joining over there in Lagos ( my in law has a little school in Lagos that has been where my wife has been teaching since she left) .

Concerning the relocation I told her it's not easy as I have to look for money to get accommodation, shop to start a business also the money will be much which I can't afford for now during someday last year I told her to come back during one of our discussion she told me she it's not coming to east again I got angry.

I noticed the mother will never allow her leave her school so I kept mute about coming back since I was neither ready yet do we kept on going no issues.

Just this april she changed, hardly pick my call,stop calling me by the pet name she does.

I tried to find out what happened, she told me she wanted a break. I was confused I tried to guess why she came up with that. she needs to seek and know if it's the will of God for our union that's after two kids .

I was lost also I have tried to restore this woman sanity since then till now I have spoken to the mother she it's not saying anything than what ever she decides it's best for her the only once telling me not to worry at the brothers but I'm worried honestly .

I don't want my kids to grow in different homes.

I also tried to make her see this same reason she told me the kids will be fine she's not looking at anything making her decision please I need advise it's my wife under a spell or what.

I don't want to raise ny kids this way please advice please....

If a woman is no longer interested in a marriage or relationship then it's Dead.

Move on with your life
Allow her to enjoy her life and be wise to let her go.
Begging a woman to change her mind is foolishness.
Tho from your post
We can understand how your lack of provision might have made her change
But pls don't you ever think that any advice will bring her back to you
The only thing that can bring her back to you is if you can bounce back to the level she met you and if her heart gets broken by the new toaster around her
In my own wisdom let her go
You too should learn to give her less attention too
It's not a sin
Be wise

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by franchasofficia: 1:32pm On May 16, 2023

The greatest battle for a man in life is the battle for financial freedom.

Once a man wins the battle of financial freedom, the only thing he needs to be asking from God on daily basis is good health and long life and the world is his cool

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Fiscus105(m): 1:32pm On May 16, 2023

promisedwealth:
Good morning Great people and wonderful family, please just like the saying a problem shared it's a problem half solved.

I have been married to my wife for over 6years now we have been through all together we have two kids 4 and a year old .

my business since late 2021 has been rough I lost some money trying out a different business I'm based in the eastern part of the country.

Early last year my mother in law told my wife to come stay with her in Lagos till I can find my self again, they left imo to Lagos on feb. 2022 I have been I contact with them ever since sending money across also it happen that my wife started bringing the idea of myself joining over there in Lagos ( my in law has a little school in Lagos that has been where my wife has been teaching since she left) .

Concerning the relocation I told her it's not easy as I have to look for money to get accommodation, shop to start a business also the money will be much which I can't afford for now during someday last year I told her to come back during one of our discussion she told me she it's not coming to east again I got angry.

I noticed the mother will never allow her leave her school so I kept mute about coming back since I was neither ready yet do we kept on going no issues.

Just this april she changed, hardly pick my call,stop calling me by the pet name she does.

I tried to find out what happened, she told me she wanted a break. I was confused I tried to guess why she came up with that. she needs to seek and know if it's the will of God for our union that's after two kids .

I was lost also I have tried to restore this woman sanity since then till now I have spoken to the mother she it's not saying anything than what ever she decides it's best for her the only once telling me not to worry at the brothers but I'm worried honestly .

I don't want my kids to grow in different homes.

I also tried to make her see this same reason she told me the kids will be fine she's not looking at anything making her decision please I need advise it's my wife under a spell or what.

I don't want to raise ny kids this way please advice please....

Oga that marriage is gone, her mother had succeeded in turning her back against you, infact, she has new bobo that crazing about him now

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by yinkeys(m): 1:32pm On May 16, 2023*

You lost some money or your business crumbled shocked

Over 95% of Nigerian women operate on survival not romantic love O
You still don’t know female nature
O ti lo
Lose your money or leg overnight and see how the disrespect & monkey branching starts
Women don’t care when making careless decisions
I pity the kids

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by danzaki63: 1:34pm On May 16, 2023

You sent money, how many bags of D..k did you send her? my friend go to Lagos spend few days with her, get her pregnant and her brains will be reset. Thank me later.

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by DeShineShine(m): 1:35pm On May 16, 2023

No doubt, some guys are already talking sense to her; reason her change of attitude. Please if you still want your family together, come to Lagos to be with them while you sort out yourself if not forget that woman. Women need money and so it is easy for her to forget you easily if there is man who has time for her and even giving her money to take care of your children. Whatever you have left in the east, pack everything and come to Lagos to be with your wife and children if not you'll lose them to another man.

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Blackman101: 1:36pm On May 16, 2023

Travel to see your family and have a talk with your wife. she may have a reason why she said you should come over.

if after that, she refuse to see things from you own point, call a general family and take a decision on it, after praying about it.

best of luck

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by faithfull18(f): 1:37pm On May 16, 2023

God's will after 2 kids grin

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by UmuMuhsinah(f): 1:40pm On May 16, 2023

thesicilian:
A marriage without money is like a house built upon the sand - any little wind will always shake it to it's foundations.

Not if it was built on the fear of God and love. I meant pure and undiluted love, it's better u grow with your penniless man than looking for a cooked soup that can burn once tongue

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Nobody: 1:45pm On May 16, 2023

UmuMuhsinah:
Not if it was built on the fear of God and love. I meant pure and undiluted love, it's better u grow with your penniless man than looking for a cooked soup that can burn once tongue

Love without money be like kaikai ogogoro wey dey burn chest as e dey go down ohh.
No woman can tolerate a penniless man for 1month sef talkless of more.

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by stevups(m): 1:45pm On May 16, 2023

kingthreat:
Guy na you I go blame. Not for your financial issues which can happen to anyone. But for you to let your wife and kids leave you under the advice of your mother-in-law. See in this life, do not let anyone give you an advice on your marriage. Even if they give, stubbornly reject it. It is your marriage and you decide not the marriage of one manipulative older woman.
Another mistake you made is abandoning them there and not going to see them. See Lagos is crazy, boys dey toast married women constantly. Marriage vows are just words. I will advice you go to Lagos and stay there for some while and if you can take one of your children with you to the East do it. Else you will lose everything.
Last thing, guy upgrade yourself. Money is everything.

Don't worry, stay strong. She will come back. Life has happened to her. What she experienced in your house was different from what you promised before marriage. Although it's not your fault, but things happen. Don't call her again. Pretend as if you care not.

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by nedekid: 1:46pm On May 16, 2023

Oga, move on with your life. She has moved on with hers Anyway you look at it.
She is not comming back to the east, you are not going to Lagos, she now says she needs a break. The signs are glaring.
Never wound yourself over a woman.

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Maxilight: 1:47pm On May 16, 2023

Hope u legally married the mother of ur two kids? If no, go and pay her dairy.

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by MONEY247: 1:50pm On May 16, 2023

Marriage... huh

Is it really worth it.....
Hmmm

May God guide you and establish peace as you thread this paths....

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by 4tomandchi: 1:51pm On May 16, 2023

You're such a dumb ass why did you allow them go in the first place. Most people just rush into this thing called marriage after sexing for 3 months then you realize that marriage is beyond sex. When the real issues start coming up you start share responsibility.

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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by MrDoGood(m): 1:52pm On May 16, 2023

hopeforcharles:
Pay a visit to her see things yourself, discuss about your marriage if you see that her mind is made up don't force her,
Go back to base try and improve your finances take care of your children.
She might have moved on.

Very simple and very difficult as well.

Don't force anything

Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Noble4life(m): 1:55pm On May 16, 2023

yrhuhfy113:
WOW....

Your wife is not under a spell, and you did NOTHING wrong.

what is happening is called LIFE. People's mind change when they see a better life or better people.... what is popularly known as THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE effect. May day, May day!! Do not monitor your wife. It's very dangerous... You will end up more heart broken. My 2kobo advice

sadly they do not know that THE GRASS IS ONLY ACTUALLY GREENER WHERE IT IS WATERED. Your wife doesn't want to SUFFER with you anymore, she is wishing she was always in lagos so that she could have married someone better.... This is common when people migrate from sub-urban areas to metropolitan cities like lagos. kindly understand that its NORMAL... it is HUMAN NATURE.

I know it hurts and its not easy BUT you need to handle this matter with wisdom. Can you send someone to check on your wife's activities to be sure she is not cheating or over religious and some randy prophet is not confusing her?

Now once you have established that NO MAN is entertaining your wife... then you need to find areas in lagos according to your budget. There are places in lagos where you can pay monthly rent of between 7-11k . And there are places in lagos as high as 230k monthly... so you need not worry yourself... you can relocate to lagos based on your budget... also you need to check yourself spiritually, what could be the cause of your downward turn in business... check and solve it.

NEXT, you need to skill up sir, your current business may tie you down in the east if you do not expand your abilities mentally. THERE IS A MAJOR OPPORTUNITY SIR IN THIS ISSUE, the good news about it is that, it gives you room to reinvent yourself and grow. So don't let your wife and her mother mess up your mind sir, detach and work on yourself.... if you can learn soft skills using a laptop, it will help. If you can change your appearance and style physically, it can also help, YOU NEED TO PACKAGE YOURSELF PROGRESSIVELY.

YOU WILL COME OUT OF THIS SITUATIONS FAR BETTER SIR, but for now, for the sake of the children, this is the little wisdom you need sir to save your home. PLS VISIT LAGOS OFTEN... it is a sacrifice you will have to pay.... TRY TO MONITOR YOUR WIFE.... you can do this by cloning her whatsapp and reading all her chats or spying on her phone, so that from the east you can read all her messages, chats, get voice record of her phone calls....IT IS NECESSARY... these days, you can not just let your spouse go without some form of tracking or remote accountability .... else they will lie to your face and hurt you, then you will feel bad. So I hope these few points will help you know where to start from and what to do

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