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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Georgejeez: 6:49pm On May 16, 2023 |
just prepare to start new family from scratch , those ones don leave you behind .. For wife to give you those reasons , e clear say she don get better options ,,, e go shock you when you investigate and discover wetin Lekki and VI boys when God go soon purnish (In Gordon's voice) de carry your wife do since . |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by okoroemeka(m): 6:51pm On May 16, 2023 |
promisedwealth:I think the best thing to do is to plan for a week short holiday and go and visit your wife and kids,just be cutely and cuddles,pet her,call her pet names,make mind blowing love to her and you might be surprised what may happen,but sincerely you are at a disadvantage because of poor finance and I am afraid It seems your in-laws are better off,you guys can work something out,you can visit then and next turn she will visit you,the absence of your wife and kids is a good opportunity to double and redouble your hustle,it is well |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Jennifer89(f): 6:52pm On May 16, 2023 |
Poster go and make money go and hustle. Na money dey make love sweet. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Adexgentle005(m): 7:04pm On May 16, 2023 |
Chummynoni:Bro I’m talking from experience. I also know of a family that have multiple source of income, that really helped them to get back on their feet when things went sour for them. |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by TFeminist(f): 7:19pm On May 16, 2023 |
okoroemeka:poster, I supput this, but don't see urself as disadvantaged. Misfortune can happen to anyone and I like thatg u send them upkeep when u get something. Keep praying dear. God would perfect all that concerns u |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by holuhseun(m): 7:37pm On May 16, 2023 |
Pray and let God give you wisdom on hiw to handle it. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by DissTroy(m): 7:45pm On May 16, 2023 |
Except your financial situation picks up, your woman would have contempt for you when you financial power reduces. If you are self-made, before deciding to marry, for only for the woman who was with you during the forging process. No, not just with you but aided your growth. Too many men settle for less, offering comfort and commitment on a platter of gold to women who'd obviously not do same when the roles are switched. Even if you have the financial power, some months pretend there's a downturn in business then take note of her attitudinal change. Most of you buy expensive gifts for women who buy you just singlets and have never taken you out on dates. Women spend on what and who they care for. Commitment is a weapon like women have weaponised sex - use it. Give and withdraw as rewards and punishment. Giving her too much easily is something men always regret. Always. ---- And OP, if she's behaving the way she is - she's being goaded by her mother to leave you. Heck! She's already sleeping with other men while hoping she irritates you enough to leave her so she can play the victim's card of the abandoned wife who had to pick herself up. Leave her still. She's opened her legs for another man. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Nobody: 8:04pm On May 16, 2023 |
promisedwealth:When kids are involved it changes everything. Clearly you still love her as it bothers you her behaviour is different but you cannot force love. Marriage vows is for richer for poorer so business being tough is not enough reason for her to up and leave to teach in her family school except you have consent then. Have an honest conversation then make a decision from the outcome. I wish you positivity and all the luck in the world plus hope you still have your family as everyone deserves love and companionship. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by ledaman: 8:18pm On May 16, 2023 |
Baronthecelebri:He needs advise not insult. Modafoker |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Saintinoo(m): 8:48pm On May 16, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Like I said bro, it is either you are still young or you are from a tribe where cultural values are not respected. |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Saintinoo(m): 8:50pm On May 16, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Do you know the worst form of immaturity and lack of privacy? It is going to marriages councillor or pastors to settle marriage disputes, because those people are total strangers. |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Gerrard59(m): 8:50pm On May 16, 2023 |
franchasofficia: E dey Bible sef. Once the financial aspect is cracked, life is glorious! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:44pm On May 16, 2023 |
Saintinoo:Actually, from where I see, your Ummuna are no different from going to a pastor with one's problems. It is pretty much the same except in your Ummunna case, rather than one person, you seem to mean a crowd is involved. As a professional marriage counselor, the counselor rather acts as a monitor to supervise and steer discussions between the man and his wife in order that they reach the intended goal. The resolution comes from the husband and wife, as they decide for themselves which way forward. That in no way compares to your pastor's or Umunna's approach in no way or form. |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:45pm On May 16, 2023 |
Saintinoo:Well, I am not young and I certainly do not subscribe to the culture of men. I make my own as I go. |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by ShaqFu: 10:01pm On May 16, 2023 |
DissTroy:personally I've long told myself never to take any woman who doesn't spend on me serious. |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Nobody: 10:54pm On May 16, 2023 |
DissTroy:That she has problems with her husband does not mean she has opened her legs for another man.I am not sure the sort of women you have been mingling with. |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Killermamba: 11:11pm On May 16, 2023 |
hopeforcharles:Best advice. Follow this bro, you will be glad you did 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Ilekokonit: 11:16pm On May 16, 2023 |
promisedwealth: Your wife is not under a spell. Its just that she does not love you any more and she is honest in telling you. Don't try to force her to stay in a marriage with you when she has shown you that she is no longer interested in being your wife. As for the kids, they will be all right after all there are kids who survive with no mother and no father. Allow her stay with her mother in Lagos, block her number and her mothers number to avoid distraction and spend all your waking hours looking for ways to better your financial situation. Life is too short to want to live it with a wife that clearly no longer respects nor loves you. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by imustsaymymindo: 1:12am On May 17, 2023 |
Save yourself first. Before thinking of saving your marriage. Get your life and acts together. And you'd end up having options just as your wife currently does. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Vietnaminfo(m): 2:27am On May 17, 2023 |
It is important to focus on personal growth rather than solely attempting to regain your wife's affection. It is true that women generally prefer a comfortable and secure environment over one filled with suffering. Like a cat pursuing a rat, they gravitate towards comfort. Women often associate themselves with wealth, success, and fame. Therefore, it is beneficial to invest time in self-improvement and work on enhancing your own circumstances. If your wife becomes aware that you have achieved financial prosperity, own a comfortable house, possess a car, and have a substantial bank account, she may be the one pursuing you, expressing her desire to reconcile. Consider the following question: Why do young and beautiful women sometimes marry individuals significantly older than themselves? The answer lies in the allure of money and fame. The more you attempt to win back her love during this stage, the more she may resent you. Money and success are integral components of a loving relationship. Understanding this concept will bring you peace. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by purehustle101(m): 4:25am On May 17, 2023 |
thesicilian: Only when your married to a stupid woman. As a man what you need to make your life meaningful is money.. women are everywhere, if your wife decides to fall in love with another man tomorrow support her and get lid of her, never be in a position of begging any woman to be with you for your own sanity.. develop your self and make money then enjoy your life on earth because we all die alone.. stupid love only ends here . 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by purehustle101(m): 4:35am On May 17, 2023 |
Vietnaminfo: When I see write ups like these I always refer it as a typical disadvantage of modern marriage. Are you trying to say that our parents never had money issues in there marriages then. No man goes into marriage with the mind set of not providing for the family.. what happened to partnership and working together as couples, anywoman that leaves a man because of trying times shows that your only paying her to stay with you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by BlueAir: 10:14am On May 17, 2023 |
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Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by DissTroy(m): 11:15am On May 17, 2023 |
ShaqFu: I've never been committed to any woman who didn't spend on me too like I do on her. I understand her purchasing power might be lower than mine, but she has to spend on me too. You can't just keep demanding without giving. It's another reason men must avoid unemployed women. You shouldn't even gift her sex just like that 'cause if the roles were reverse, she'd think you beneath her and not worthy of her body. I want to be 'spoilt' too. The thing is, the women who spend know they are rare so would tell you, "You think it's every woman who spends on her man too like me? I'm rare." Well, maybe. But if she leaves, you'd find others same way you found her. Just be a valuable man and demand she does her part too. I'm no Prince Charming - no sweeping her off her feet. Play your part too, madam. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by thesicilian: 11:23am On May 17, 2023 |
purehustle101:Lol. Can't argue with that 🤣 |
Re: How Do I Save My Marriage by Vietnaminfo(m): 9:17pm On May 17, 2023 |
purehustle101: Marriages in the olden days lasted longer due to various factors. Technological advancements and communication have introduced new challenges, such as social media temptations and distractions. Economic factors played a role, with traditional gender roles creating interdependence and shared responsibility, while modern societies face the complexities of balancing work, family, and personal lives. Understanding these factors can help navigate the challenges faced by marriages today. So in essence, there is no love without money in today's marriage. Know this and know peace. |
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