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Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Eriokanmi: 8:15am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo:Are you living elsewhere or still in same Nigeria? Na today teacher dey flog girls for buttock? What's so special about it? The difference in disciplining children nowadays is what you see in the society today. Can you compare today's youths with those in the 80s/90s in behaviour? |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by dodorima147(m): 8:16am On May 17, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:wat hapund to Solomon with |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Judolisco(m): 8:19am On May 17, 2023 |
It depends... Know when to flog.... Not everytime u Don carry cain... D pikin go jst grow tough skin |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Fearyourcreator: 8:20am On May 17, 2023 |
diogo23:Person wey dey madt |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bjdon: 8:22am On May 17, 2023 |
Itohanmiwa:Utter Nonsense. We have been using the rod for decades what has it got us? A lawless, corrupt society. The nations that do not flog are some of the most developed and richest. I know which one I would rather live in |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bong4(m): 8:23am On May 17, 2023 |
LeyeWrites: Well, in my opinion, you would have been corrected in several ways other than being flogged. You were just being punished rather than being disciplined. Flogging only made you fear the person who flogged you and not making you aware or conscious of the actual reason why you should obey, do assignments, be punctual etc. I hope if the government wakes up tomorrow and says workers who resume late at work will be flogged, we will clap for them, or anyone who throws dirt out of vehicle windows, if caught will be flogged. You can imagine pastors flogging congregation members who are late for church service. Well, just as you mentioned later, you are entitled to the way you choose to raise your child. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by being(m): 8:24am On May 17, 2023 |
NO. The flogging would have already given them the ability for SELF-CONTROL. They would be used to not doing the habit already. And they wouldn't need to esp if you have told them why it is not good. Also, when they become adults, they have come into some understanding on why some habits like laziness or stealing are bad.. at that point they don't need to start fighting those habits-- they are already dealt with. PS: Widespread corruption in Nigeria is majorly because the system provides the opportunity and it seems highly rewarding. But if u don't beat or somehow get stealing out of a child, as an adult even in the face of the gun/prison, he doesn't have a self-control against it. bepositive11: |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by SEALL(m): 8:24am On May 17, 2023 |
Parenting is deep and one needs all methods to bring up a child in a goodly and God-fearing way, one thing is sure, u can't do without spanking a child but it must not be at all times. many cases of the issue raised on a child been beating and still going rogue is mostly attached to the fact that the family is disintegrated. if it's possible to look through a family with such, you will realize that it's as a result of the image the parent poses to the child. you cant be beating your wife as a man or the woman not giving the man adequate respect in the house and you think beating a child will make him good, NO. All religious book shows that one must beat a child but how you do matters. You solve the issue, one must know when to beat when to advise and when to pray for the child, and also when to take other actions but most importantly, the father and the mother's attitude towards the child and towards people around is key in parenting. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bjdon: 8:25am On May 17, 2023 |
SirLakes:Another nonsense post. If guns were freely available in Nigeria, you would see even worse than the US. Do we not have cults in Nigerian universities that butcher fellow student with cutlass and axes? Why did all he flogging not prevent that? |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Crafteck1: 8:26am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo: You are the one sexualizing the girl, you are the actual pervert, most people just saw a kid being disciplined but you see a kid being touched. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Crafteck1: 8:31am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo: You are right, and theres no punishment for parents spoilt kids that go and shoot in schools because they didnt have their way. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by SirLakes: 8:34am On May 17, 2023 |
bjdon: Go and do background check on them.... you'll find out how the house they came from influenced them Air your opinion and geddifok off my mention... you are exhibiting a nonsensical behaviour here |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Kingju: 8:39am On May 17, 2023 |
OP just dey talk him own, after primary 6 I go use cashew draw tattoo for hand, the beating my papa give me that day ehn, till today I no fit forget am. That beating make me no try tattoo again even though I like tattoos, I no fit do am 4 my body, I fit only admire am. Beating dey correct stupidity |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by michael1508: 8:42am On May 17, 2023 |
Benjaniblinks:Don't mind the sexist fool Indi ara Women right advocate |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by stevnwigw1: 8:43am On May 17, 2023 |
By this question, it shows you are not a Christian, even Bible boldly wrote about it |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by LeyeWrites: 9:15am On May 17, 2023 |
bong4:List the ways brother. Don't be generic. List how someone who refuses to do assignment can be corrected List how someone who consistently makes noise can be corrected List how someone who is always dirty can be corrected I'm waiting. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Nobody: 9:26am On May 17, 2023 |
Funny enough, as a child I was also cautioned against watching movies consisting of a parental guidance of 16VSN... Up until this day, I check the movie's parental guidance first before I could watch it because I still like sticking to movies consisting of a parental guidance of 13VL or ALL... Maybe that's why I still watch cartoons.. The only movies that I remember watching that surpassed 13VL is Doctor Strange in the multiverse of madness because apart from Venom, I love marvel movies, but I later regretted it because it consisted of horror and I don't watch horror... And another one is Power series because I love African American gangster movies. Apart other things, I found it interesting.. I had to read what was it about before watching it... But with most movies, immediately I see 16 or 18 as part of the parental guidance, I move.. And before I could also leave home for the University for the first time, my entire family members sat me down and told about the importance of the 7 B's( Books Before Boys Because Boys Bring Babies)... You may not believe this but I stayed single throughout my University days until I did my finals, I only got into a relationship during the later stage of my final year and it was with the same guy my parents separated me from when they took me away to a university that was far from home, we're now engaged. I could've decided to fight them because I wanted to go to the university that was close to home, but I didn't because I knew they were only trying to do what was best for me... They only allowed me to do a transfer to the one close to home on the same final year. And my mother is not the religious type, but she told me to look for a church I can go to when I get to the university, which I did and it kept me disciplined because even though I had friends who partied, had multiple boyfriends, and drank alcohol, I didn't do any of those things because I remembered that I made a promise to my family. And my parents didn't have to shout at me, flog me, or threatened me in order for me to listen... All they did is adviced me. There are a lot of other things they taught me without raising their hands. wehdone: |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Nobody: 9:27am On May 17, 2023 |
At least I'm a disciplined one... Musisco01: |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Incrediblekutty(m): 9:31am On May 17, 2023 |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Benjaniblinks(m): 9:34am On May 17, 2023 |
suxkill:I don't think punishment is good either. My teacher made me pick-pin for long for making noise. Since that day, I can't stand for a long time without my legs shaking badly Asif I'll collapse ๐ |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by tiswell(m): 10:02am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo:stop chestbeating. Nor be by mouth dem dey beat pesin |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by MechanicMike: 10:04am On May 17, 2023 |
gannod: You babarick uncivilised backward stoneage monkey..and then u get upset when white people call u monkey ...there is a reason why CHILD ABUSE NOW EXIST...get education!!!!( no oofencssece) |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by tiswell(m): 10:08am On May 17, 2023 |
Samantha124:And we can see that ya pare-nts fai-led. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Domistar5(f): 10:13am On May 17, 2023 |
gannod: The rod there is discipline not corporal punishment. My Mom never for once raise her hands on I my siblings since the day we were born till the day she passed out last year. Am an not now, so whole life my Mom never sparked me. That didn't stop I and siblings from good kids. Quit different from the crowd. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by gannod(m): 10:13am On May 17, 2023 |
MechanicMike: ๐๐๐ you just proved to me that your parents made mistake of not flogging you. Imagine the nonsense a 'so-called' adult spewed on a platform such as this! Now, if you have any problem with 'spare a rod and spoil a child' take it up with God. It is in the Bible and I align with it. Take your frustration to your parents who failed to train you well..cheers! |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by gannod(m): 10:20am On May 17, 2023 |
Domistar5: Whatever suit your narative. Why not respond to the Op's question instead of trying to explain things to me.? I am not the Op who asked a question, I only responded to the question.."Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him"( proverbs 22:15) |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by DCONE1(m): 10:31am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo:but it's okay to beat a boy ? |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by okrikaboi: 11:00am On May 17, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:Best comment of the week |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by gannod(m): 11:10am On May 17, 2023 |
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.(proverbs 13:24 NKV) The OP asked a question and I gave my opinion. The essence of a platform like this is to learn but as usual, some uncultured children whose parents failed to tran properly, decided that insulting their parents is nothing.. Even if your parents failed to train you well, must you display their inadequacy on a platform like this? I think the moderators should censor posts/comments from kids. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by komzy589(m): 11:16am On May 17, 2023 |
Jakumo:What is your problem. Boy or girl, they are both children. If flogging is allowed in a school, the two best parts of the body to flog a child without inflicting too much pain are either on the hand or on the bum bum. |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 12:46pm On May 17, 2023 |
Have you ever heard stories about people being killed and having their parts cut out in the West? How many times have you heard of it in Nigeria? What makes people that heartless? So Nigeria doesn't have cultists, gang members and drug addicts? Another thing is you can't compare Western kids and African keeps only based on flogging. There is so much more that goes into parenting. Whether African or Western, kids who are brought up in healthy and non abusive environments are the best behave. You don't need to physically or psychologically abuse a child to make them behave well. There are many non abusive forms of discipline. Do you know how brutal the Bible was centuries ago? We know a lot more now. We understand child psychology better now. Just like how you say man should not beat woman or woman should not beat man, adults should not beat children. Period. Staphylococcus: |
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 12:51pm On May 17, 2023 |
The stubborn children I know never changed because their parents beat them. They still did what they wanted to do. They just hid it from their parents. No amount of flogging can teach a child self control. If you want to teach a child self control, start by controlling yourself. All you people keep saying flogging is discipline. But the truth is that you are taking out your anger on that poor, helpless, and vulnerable child. being: |
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