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Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Eriokanmi: 8:15am On May 17, 2023
Jakumo:
That picture of a man beating an underage girl on her ass just makes my blood boil. I would love to face that man in hand-to-hand combat to see how well such a sick sexual pervert can handle himself against a real man versed in martial arts
Are you living elsewhere or still in same Nigeria? Na today teacher dey flog girls for buttock? What's so special about it?

The difference in disciplining children nowadays is what you see in the society today. Can you compare today's youths with those in the 80s/90s in behaviour?
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by dodorima147(m): 8:16am On May 17, 2023
Yugoslavia247:


So you think David flogged prince Solomon. Lol
wat hapund to Solomon with
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Judolisco(m): 8:19am On May 17, 2023
It depends... Know when to flog.... Not everytime u Don carry cain... D pikin go jst grow tough skin
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Fearyourcreator: 8:20am On May 17, 2023
diogo23:

Pretenders , And you have never see it before? White man wanna be
Person wey dey madt
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bjdon: 8:22am On May 17, 2023
Itohanmiwa:
[quote author=gannod post=123162145
Utter Nonsense. We have been using the rod for decades what has it got us? A lawless, corrupt society. The nations that do not flog are some of the most developed and richest. I know which one I would rather live in
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bong4(m): 8:23am On May 17, 2023
LeyeWrites:
Discipline and learning are two different things.


When I was a child I had asthma. My dad would tell me son don't go and play football, it triggers your condition. I'll go and play football. Then when I come back I got asthma attack. My parents would be unable to sleep throughout the night. The next couple of times I did, my dad start flogging me and it helped.

When I was a student in secondary school, we were flogged for many things. Late coming: that taught me punctuality. Noise making: that taught me I'm partly responsible for the efficiency of any team I'm in. Assignments: that I should meet deadlines on whatever tasks I'm given.


Would you had rather students don't do assignments? And teachers rather talk to them on it? Have you been to northern Nigeria schools?

Look, the benefit of discipline through flogging outweighs whatever medical junks you've been fed by the West.

As far as I'm concerned, I'll discipline my kids the way I was disciplined to make me a better person. You can treat yours the ways you want. But you folks should stop trying to impose your views on a longstanding culture of parenting that have stood the test of times.

Of course, you lots want Nigeria to have young adults like those in West who are now homosexuals and gun shooters.

Well, in my opinion, you would have been corrected in several ways other than being flogged. You were just being punished rather than being disciplined. Flogging only made you fear the person who flogged you and not making you aware or conscious of the actual reason why you should obey, do assignments, be punctual etc.
I hope if the government wakes up tomorrow and says workers who resume late at work will be flogged, we will clap for them, or anyone who throws dirt out of vehicle windows, if caught will be flogged. You can imagine pastors flogging congregation members who are late for church service.

Well, just as you mentioned later, you are entitled to the way you choose to raise your child.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by being(m): 8:24am On May 17, 2023
NO. The flogging would have already given them the ability for SELF-CONTROL. They would be used to not doing the habit already. And they wouldn't need to esp if you have told them why it is not good. Also, when they become adults, they have come into some understanding on why some habits like laziness or stealing are bad.. at that point they don't need to start fighting those habits-- they are already dealt with.
PS: Widespread corruption in Nigeria is majorly because the system provides the opportunity and it seems highly rewarding. But if u don't beat or somehow get stealing out of a child, as an adult even in the face of the gun/prison, he doesn't have a self-control against it.
bepositive11:


If you want your child to believe that flogging is the consequence for their bad actions, what happens when you are not there? They will do those bad actions because you are not their to flog them so the consequences you made them believe don't exist.

If you child or woman flogged you for making mistakes, would you like it? Why flog them if you know that you won't like to be flogged?
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by SEALL(m): 8:24am On May 17, 2023
Parenting is deep and one needs all methods to bring up a child in a goodly and God-fearing way, one thing is sure, u can't do without spanking a child but it must not be at all times. many cases of the issue raised on a child been beating and still going rogue is mostly attached to the fact that the family is disintegrated. if it's possible to look through a family with such, you will realize that it's as a result of the image the parent poses to the child. you cant be beating your wife as a man or the woman not giving the man adequate respect in the house and you think beating a child will make him good, NO. All religious book shows that one must beat a child but how you do matters. You solve the issue, one must know when to beat when to advise and when to pray for the child, and also when to take other actions but most importantly, the father and the mother's attitude towards the child and towards people around is key in parenting.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bjdon: 8:25am On May 17, 2023
SirLakes:
Stupid Africans copying the Whites

You think a well trained child will carry his fathers gun and go shoot others in school grin grin

Reason we now have many useless, mannerless, good for nothing children, teens and adults roaming the streets of Nigeria today grin

Me oooo, I will whooop the spirit of homosexuality, stupidity, rottenness, good for nothing and uselessness out of my children.

Spare the rod and face the consequences grin grin
Another nonsense post. If guns were freely available in Nigeria, you would see even worse than the US. Do we not have cults in Nigerian universities that butcher fellow student with cutlass and axes? Why did all he flogging not prevent that?
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Crafteck1: 8:26am On May 17, 2023
Jakumo:
That picture of a man beating an underage girl on her ass just makes my blood boil. I would love to face that man in hand-to-hand combat to see how well such a sick sexual pervert can handle himself against a real man versed in martial arts

You are the one sexualizing the girl, you are the actual pervert, most people just saw a kid being disciplined but you see a kid being touched.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Crafteck1: 8:31am On May 17, 2023
Jakumo:


No chit Sherlock. Just be ready to spend time in jail when you murder a child with your mindless violence.


You are right, and theres no punishment for parents spoilt kids that go and shoot in schools because they didnt have their way.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by SirLakes: 8:34am On May 17, 2023
bjdon:

Another nonsense post. If guns were freely available in Nigeria, you would see even worse than the US. Do we not have cults in Nigerian universities that butcher fellow student with cutlass and axes? Why did all he flogging not prevent that?

Go and do background check on them.... you'll find out how the house they came from influenced them

Air your opinion and geddifok off my mention... you are exhibiting a nonsensical behaviour here
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Kingju: 8:39am On May 17, 2023
OP just dey talk him own, after primary 6 I go use cashew draw tattoo for hand, the beating my papa give me that day ehn, till today I no fit forget am. That beating make me no try tattoo again even though I like tattoos, I no fit do am 4 my body, I fit only admire am. Beating dey correct stupidity
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by michael1508: 8:42am On May 17, 2023
Benjaniblinks:

But the underage boy flogged on the ass is okay right?
Don't mind the sexist fool
Indi ara
Women right advocate grin
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by stevnwigw1: 8:43am On May 17, 2023
By this question, it shows you are not a Christian, even Bible boldly wrote about it
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by LeyeWrites: 9:15am On May 17, 2023
bong4:


Well, in my opinion, you would have been corrected in several ways other than being flogged. You were just being punished rather than being disciplined. Flogging only made you fear the person who flogged you and not making you aware or conscious of the actual reason why you should obey, do assignments, be punctual etc.
I hope if the government wakes up tomorrow and says workers who resume late at work will be flogged, we will clap for them, or anyone who throws dirt out of vehicle windows, if caught will be flogged. You can imagine pastors flogging congregation members who are late for church service.

Well, just as you mentioned later, you are entitled to the way you choose to raise your child.
List the ways brother.


Don't be generic.

List how someone who refuses to do assignment can be corrected

List how someone who consistently makes noise can be corrected

List how someone who is always dirty can be corrected


I'm waiting.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Nobody: 9:26am On May 17, 2023
Funny enough, as a child I was also cautioned against watching movies consisting of a parental guidance of 16VSN... Up until this day, I check the movie's parental guidance first before I could watch it because I still like sticking to movies consisting of a parental guidance of 13VL or ALL... Maybe that's why I still watch cartoons.. grin grin grin

The only movies that I remember watching that surpassed 13VL is Doctor Strange in the multiverse of madness because apart from Venom, I love marvel movies, but I later regretted it because it consisted of horror and I don't watch horror... grin grin grin

And another one is Power series because I love African American gangster movies. Apart other things, I found it interesting.. I had to read what was it about before watching it... But with most movies, immediately I see 16 or 18 as part of the parental guidance, I move.. grin grin grin

And before I could also leave home for the University for the first time, my entire family members sat me down and told about the importance of the 7 B's( Books Before Boys Because Boys Bring Babies)... You may not believe this but I stayed single throughout my University days until I did my finals, I only got into a relationship during the later stage of my final year and it was with the same guy my parents separated me from when they took me away to a university that was far from home, we're now engaged.

I could've decided to fight them because I wanted to go to the university that was close to home, but I didn't because I knew they were only trying to do what was best for me... They only allowed me to do a transfer to the one close to home on the same final year.

And my mother is not the religious type, but she told me to look for a church I can go to when I get to the university, which I did and it kept me disciplined because even though I had friends who partied, had multiple boyfriends, and drank alcohol, I didn't do any of those things because I remembered that I made a promise to my family.

And my parents didn't have to shout at me, flog me, or threatened me in order for me to listen... All they did is adviced me.

There are a lot of other things they taught me without raising their hands.
wehdone:



There are quite a number of misdemeanors that I was corrected for as a kid by flogging. Truth is... Decades down the line, whenever I want to do them, I remember they are wrong things to do. I once received the flogging when my mom saw me hanging a smoked cigarette butt on my lips. Till this day, I don't and can't smoke (even though I get the urge to try it out sometimes).
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Nobody: 9:27am On May 17, 2023
At least I'm a disciplined one... grin grin grin
Musisco01:




Spoilt brat
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Incrediblekutty(m): 9:31am On May 17, 2023
Yugoslavia247:


So you think David flogged prince Solomon. Lol





What if he does??
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Benjaniblinks(m): 9:34am On May 17, 2023
suxkill:
Omo Na flogging reset my brain. My mum will even tie us up and apply pepper or raw yam water that will scratch you so that you can't defend ones self while the beating is going on.

Thank God for her beating, maybe l for don be nuisance. Btw I'll might not apply that same method to my kids.

I personally think punishments are better.
I don't think punishment is good either. My teacher made me pick-pin for long for making noise. Since that day, I can't stand for a long time without my legs shaking badly Asif I'll collapse ๐Ÿ˜”
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by tiswell(m): 10:02am On May 17, 2023
Jakumo:
That picture of a man beating an underage girl on her ass just makes my blood boil. I would love to face that man in hand-to-hand combat to see how well such a sick sexual pervert can handle himself against a real man versed in martial arts
stop chestbeating.
Nor be by mouth dem dey beat pesin
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by MechanicMike: 10:04am On May 17, 2023
gannod:
Yes. Spare the rod and spoil the child.


You babarick uncivilised backward stoneage monkey..and then u get upset when white people call u monkey
...there is a reason why CHILD ABUSE NOW EXIST...get education!!!!( no oofencssece) angry
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by tiswell(m): 10:08am On May 17, 2023
Samantha124:
The one time a teacher flogged me, he ended up getting suspended.. grin grin grin

And few years back my cousin hit me and she ended up in a police van.. grin grin grin

So I don't think flogging a child solves any problems, it just makes matters worse.. My parents never did flogged me.

One thing about me is that if you lay your hands on me or insult me in the name of instilling discipline, you'll only be bringing the worst out of me... But if you hit me with facts, I will be humbled and listen... I've always been like that.
And we can see that ya pare-nts fai-led.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by Domistar5(f): 10:13am On May 17, 2023
gannod:
Yes. Spare the rod and spoil the child.

The rod there is discipline not corporal punishment.
My Mom never for once raise her hands on I my siblings since the day we were born till the day she passed out last year.
Am an not now, so whole life my Mom never sparked me. That didn't stop I and siblings from good kids. Quit different from the crowd.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by gannod(m): 10:13am On May 17, 2023
MechanicMike:



You babarick uncivilised backward stoneage monkey..and then u get upset when white people call u monkey
...there is a reason why CHILD ABUSE NOW EXIST...get education!!!!( no oofencssece) angry



๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ you just proved to me that your parents made mistake of not flogging you. Imagine the nonsense a 'so-called' adult spewed on a platform such as this! Now, if you have any problem with 'spare a rod and spoil a child' take it up with God. It is in the Bible and I align with it. Take your frustration to your parents who failed to train you well..cheers!
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by gannod(m): 10:20am On May 17, 2023
Domistar5:


The rod there is discipline not corporal punishment.
My Mom never for once raise her hands on I my siblings since the day we were born till the day she passed out last year.
Am an not now, so whole life my Mom never sparked me. That didn't stop I and siblings from good kids. Quit different from the crowd.



Whatever suit your narative. Why not respond to the Op's question instead of trying to explain things to me.? I am not the Op who asked a question, I only responded to the question.."Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him"( proverbs 22:15)
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by DCONE1(m): 10:31am On May 17, 2023
Jakumo:
That picture of a man beating an underage girl on her ass just makes my blood boil. I would love to face that man in hand-to-hand combat to see how well such a sick sexual pervert can handle himself against a real man versed in martial arts
but it's okay to beat a boy ?
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by okrikaboi: 11:00am On May 17, 2023
Yugoslavia247:


So you think David flogged prince Solomon. Lol
Best comment of the week grin
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by gannod(m): 11:10am On May 17, 2023
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.(proverbs 13:24 NKV)
The OP asked a question and I gave my opinion. The essence of a platform like this is to learn but as usual, some uncultured children whose parents failed to tran properly, decided that insulting their parents is nothing.. Even if your parents failed to train you well, must you display their inadequacy on a platform like this? I think the moderators should censor posts/comments from kids.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by komzy589(m): 11:16am On May 17, 2023
Jakumo:


Hopefully, you will still have this view if and when your own daughter or kid sister is clubbed on the head by a lunatic.
What is your problem. Boy or girl, they are both children.
If flogging is allowed in a school, the two best parts of the body to flog a child without inflicting too much pain are either on the hand or on the bum bum.
Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 12:46pm On May 17, 2023
Have you ever heard stories about people being killed and having their parts cut out in the West? How many times have you heard of it in Nigeria? What makes people that heartless?

So Nigeria doesn't have cultists, gang members and drug addicts?

Another thing is you can't compare Western kids and African keeps only based on flogging. There is so much more that goes into parenting.

Whether African or Western, kids who are brought up in healthy and non abusive environments are the best behave. You don't need to physically or psychologically abuse a child to make them behave well. There are many non abusive forms of discipline.

Do you know how brutal the Bible was centuries ago? We know a lot more now. We understand child psychology better now. Just like how you say man should not beat woman or woman should not beat man, adults should not beat children. Period.

Staphylococcus:


Thatโ€™s why western nation are churning out gang members and drug addicts faster than any continent on Earth.

In the name of freedom and right, kids go wrong and they keep enrolling them in therapy classes, what a hot slap could have fixed.

You cannot take discipline away from Africa, I know how it goes in the West and will never support any move to abolish flogging.

Even the Bible made mention of it in several chapters, books and verses, and even though If I ignore religious beliefs, you will still find it nature. Animals spank their kids. They set boundaries and rules for them.

Please donโ€™t act westernized, you know what such laws as done to kids from that side.

Kids be talking to their trash to their teachers in language as that should have been corrected at home, and still would be termed as rights, because they donโ€™t reset them.

Re: Is Flogging A Part Of Good Parenting ? by bepositive11: 12:51pm On May 17, 2023
The stubborn children I know never changed because their parents beat them. They still did what they wanted to do. They just hid it from their parents.

No amount of flogging can teach a child self control. If you want to teach a child self control, start by controlling yourself.

All you people keep saying flogging is discipline. But the truth is that you are taking out your anger on that poor, helpless, and vulnerable child.

being:
NO. The flogging would have already given them the ability for SELF-CONTROL. They would be used to not doing the habit already. And they wouldn't need to esp if you have told them why it is not good. Also, when they become adults, they have come into some understanding on why some habits like laziness or stealing are bad.. at that point they don't need to start fighting those habits-- they are already dealt with.
PS: Widespread corruption in Nigeria is majorly because the system provides the opportunity and it seems highly rewarding. But if u don't beat or somehow get stealing out of a child, as an adult even in the face of the gun/prison, he doesn't have a self-control against it.

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