Mokole2023:
■ Honestly i feel u should just go back and read my first post with a more open mind.

I even quoted your posts there, did I not? Your primary concern in your OP is not the marriage but the fact that the woman thinks you are impotent ... read it yourself. Why are you living separately if she refused separation as a resolve from you by the way?

Kobojunkie:
I even quoted your posts there, did I not? Your primary concern in your OP is not the marriage but the fact that the woman thinks you are impotent ... read it yourself. Why are you living separately if she refused separation as a resolve from you by the way?

We work in different cities about 3hrs apart. Its not marital separation. My primary concern is my marriage, if it weren't I would have tried to father a child outside.

Mokole2023:
■ We work in different cities about 3hrs apart. Its not marital separation. My primary concern is my marriage, if it weren't I would have tried to father a child outside.

So imagine a scenario where this had been your wife writing this OP here, instead of you. And you happen to read it without realizing it was your own wife behind the keyboard. Would you consider believing that the woman behind this story was committed to her marriage? Or would you instead conclude that by stating that she had an extramarital affair for her ego's sake, and continuously keeping a daily log of men wanting to have sex with her, she probably downgraded the importance of the marriage to her?

Kobojunkie:
So imagine a scenario where this had been your wife writing this OP here, instead of you. And you happen to read it without realizing it was your own wife behind the keyboard. Would you consider believing that the woman behind this story was committed to her marriage? Or would you instead conclude that by stating that she had an extramarital affair for her ego's sake, and at the same time continues to keep a daily log of men wanting to have sex with her, she has probably downgraded the importance of the marriage to her?

I try not to be judgemental! Having erectile issues will deflate any man even a Priest! Its not even about ego cos its my marriage and wife in question here. I am not looking to be a porn star in bed, I just wanna be available when either of us wants it n moreso for child bearing. A limp rod cant produce "cream".

Mokole2023:
■ I try not to be judgemental! Having erectile issues will deflate any man even a Priest! Its not even about ego cos its my marriage and wife in question here. I am not looking to be a porn star in bed, I just wanna be available when either of us wants it n moreso for child bearing. A limp rod cant produce "cream".

1. You want to have a child with a woman you admit to no longer being sexually attracted to, why?

And the only reason you keep giving for wanting to do this is just so you can prove to her that you aren't impotent. I guess, I am skeptical about the idea of you thinking this marriage of yours makes sense even after admitting to us that you are ready to pack it up except for the impotence issue.

After you have impregnated her, then what? Do you continue striving to meet your 1-sex-a-week commitment to her for how much longer? Or do you intend at that point to basically abandon her so you can continue to get your kicks outside while she remains a dutiful wife and what not?

Now you can't finish what you started?🤣🤣🤣

Kobojunkie:
Never mind!

Samantha124:
Now you can't finish what you started?🤣🤣🤣

I honestly have no idea what you mean. I never said any of what you claimed so I don't know what it is you accuse me of starting.

Lol... All of a sudden she's now acting like a mental case..🤣🤣🤣

Kobojunkie:
I honestly have no idea what you mean. I never said any of what you claimed so I don't know what it is you accuse me of starting.

Samantha124:
Lol... All of a sudden she's now acting like a mental case..🤣🤣🤣

Toor! OK

Mokole2023:


Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?

The same reason you have been off and on with her before deciding to make it serious, look Mr Man, somethings can no be mitigated, what made you not take her seriously in the first place? Maybe the thing is coming up again, your answer might be there.

Again?
Marriage dey fear me nowadays oo

Here we go again.

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When some people write about some important topics they won't post them to front page, but call it this kind topic you see them hitting front page after 2 seconds they were created....🥺🥺🥺😏😏

Story story. I no the believe this kind story. A whole week you can't do one round with your wife. But you are horse rider or dragon rider for outside. U re only impotent for ur wife side. Hmmmmmmm

Your photo, else I don't believe

🙄😳😳🙄
You are diagnosed with high blood pressure and taking medicatiobs
Your problem is about how to knack like a IndecentStar 🤔🤔🤔🤔

Abi oooo the story is bullish.

canalily:
When some people write about some important topics they won't post them to front page, but call it this kind topic you see them hitting front page after 2 seconds they were created....🥺🥺🥺😏😏

I dont care what sanctimonious people say but you see sexual compatibility...Its very very very 'importanter'
There are guys who will instantly click sexually with OP's wifey without any fuss!

SunMusk:
Story story. I no the believe this kind story. A whole week you can't do one round with your wife. But you are horse rider or dragon rider for outside. U re only impotent for ur wife side. Hmmmmmmm

And he dey treat himself for hbp ooo

fyzaila:
Wait, sexual compatibility is something that shouldn't be ignored when getting married to avoid all this stories. You totally ignored all this while dating which isn't suppose to be. If i am in a relationship with a guy and his words alone don't turn me on and vice versa believe you me i am backing out of that relationship.

Because the integral part of marital bliss is good s3xual life and when that is compromised because of one issue or the other, that marriage is hitting the rock sooner or later. And that is where infidelity crawls in.

Op, as suggested, you two should see a therapist and see if you can find a solution to your predicament.

Sexual compatibility, you say??! Lol!

It's never that cut and dried!

A lot of couples were highly sexually compatible and attractive to one another prior to marriage... As soon as they got into the union, the attraction for sex went down!

My grandfather used to describe such situation as the "Over-familiarity crisis"! Meaning, what you get so easily and daily becomes quite regular and average for a lot of men!

My advice is that there be more than just sexuality in every marriage, and both partners learn to make out time to spice up the union!

The worst hit are usually the men! A lot of them get more aroused by women outside their marriages and seemingly beyond their reach than their wives...! Some guys will argue against this point; some will even pretend that they don't experience this in their marriages! Lol!

Las las, marriage will uncover and expose all bullshits!...

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Why is no one talking about the fact that Op cheated on his wife during marriage?

And then the Viagra and taking of High Bp drugs?

This story nor gel at all.

Well, you cannot be a master in something and married school cert. The compatibility is not there and when you find your wife not be attractive again, wahala wahala.

Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

try anal with her, use cream n enter 😎

The things that turn you on why not allow your wife to practice it too,for example if it's that cloth,their appreance ,the way they talk to you sexually,please tell your wife to start doing it too,so that you can stay long while making love to her.

folake4u:


Why is no one talking about the fact that Op cheated on his wife during marriage?

This story nor gel at all.

Is it not for someone with high blood pressure to be a jack hammer of towtow

I think you are not free around your wife so the anxiety may be causing the failure.

During courtship period you should have explored everything with her so you guy may be naked and feel unashamed

baralatie:

Is it not for someone with high blood pressure to be a jack hammer of towtow

The story get k-leg abeg.

Bleep around outside and commit to your duties as a husband to her. Birthing children is easy. She’ll help you do it. Since you signed the certificate, she is your legal wife.

Now, don’t disturb me again. You didn’t seek my counsel before marrying her.