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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by marsup: 10:57pm On May 25, 2023
The problem isn't your wife, you have conditioned your mind to serve your dick to the community.
Don't hurt her anymore.
Let her go now, before you damage her.

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by WantsandMore: 10:58pm On May 25, 2023
Mokole2023:


Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?
have you ruled out psychological & clinical factors?
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by ZOT2023: 10:58pm On May 25, 2023
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.i have a solution for you which cant be divulged here,it looks awkward but i bet you would be running around your wife for sex everytime.you can drop your whatsapp contact,i will chat u up,cheers.

Many thanks,
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by felixtare(m): 10:59pm On May 25, 2023
Kobojunkie:
You already abandoned your wife so why do you care if she thinks you are impotent or not? undecided

You already abandoned the marriage and have yourself so many other women lined up so why are you trying hard to make us believe you care a lot about about your wife? Are you waiting to get her pregnant and tied down or what? Why not tell her the truth of what you do so she can find her way at this point? undecided

Let mature n responsible person contribute if you dont hv any meaningful thing to say.abaya

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by djon78(m): 10:59pm On May 25, 2023
LLSAINT:
I think OPs, you are the problem.
First of all, welcome to the institution called marriage.
S$x starts with the mind. If you lose it, you lost it.
If other girls call and your dickkie comes alive, it simply means you have already engaged them in your mind before the very act.
Work on your mind and communicate more with your wife.
Cuddle her on bed still you sleep off.
Let the thoughts of other girls leave your mindset for you to get focused.
Her 'doughnut' is not different from the ones you fantasize.
Wetin dey sweet man for outside, easy to kill am o!


Until you get into his situation you will not write this thing you wrote

Honestly churches preach against testing your partner well before tying the knot

But many marriages are having this problem.

I don't know what to advise
But sexual problems is causing big problem in marriage
Especially Mostly from those wey no taste well we'll

But you will those wey taste well well, even impregnate there wife before wedding not having this problem

It's just a very big mystery to me honestly

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Maliqcious: 11:00pm On May 25, 2023
Are you still treating the hbp if yes, talk to mama
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by vickydevoka(m): 11:01pm On May 25, 2023
Samantha124:
Tell her the truth and if possible, get a divorce and move on with those other ladies that you're already cheating on her with.

Set her free while she's still young and you guys don't have a child... The sooner you do it, the easier it's gonna be for her to move on.
Those he have dw finances ti start another marriage. Like say dem de dash woman.
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Saidfx(m): 11:02pm On May 25, 2023
Nah people wey like nacking go full this thread
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by djon78(m): 11:10pm On May 25, 2023
Angelfrost:


Sexual compatibility, you say??! Lol!

It's never that cut and dried!

A lot of couples were highly sexually compatible and attractive to one another prior to marriage... As soon as they got into the union, the attraction for sex went down!

My grandfather used to describe such situation as the "Over-familiarity crisis"! Meaning, what you get so easily and daily becomes quite regular and average for a lot of men!

My advice is that there be more than just sexuality in every marriage, and both partners learn to make out time to spice up the union!

The worst hit are usually the men! A lot of them get more aroused by women outside their marriages and seemingly beyond their reach than their wives...! Some guys will argue against this point; some will even pretend that they don't experience this in their marriages! Lol!

Las las, marriage will uncover and expose all bullshits!... grin


But this is a very big mystery
Other women outside will turn a man on but his wife won't

I personally feel that many couples are not open to each other sexually
A man may want his wife to do it this way, the woman will say she no be harlot

But those chicks outside will be damn nasty as in whatever

As a married man I have read up where marriage counselors advise couples to find out time and explore each other's body to know what turns there partners on
This way the two parties will mutually enjoy each other

Or some wife's will just lie like a log of wood. These things inhibit the whole sh.it

Sexual problem is a very very big issues in today's marriages

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by djon78(m): 11:14pm On May 25, 2023
GistFullGround:


She is from the marine world; her "husband" won't allow you enjoy her. She needs deliverance!


Hmmm another angle
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by greggng: 11:17pm On May 25, 2023
Mokole2023:


Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?

Is spiritual...go for deliverance and you will be free.only the devil will give you urge with other women but deny you the same with your wife . He wants you to be a master of adultery.

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by twosquare(m): 11:19pm On May 25, 2023
Can't a percentage of it also be spiritual?
Angelfrost:


Sexual compatibility, you say??! Lol!

It's never that cut and dried!

A lot of couples were highly sexually compatible and attractive to one another prior to marriage... As soon as they got into the union, the attraction for sex went down!

My grandfather used to describe such situation as the "Over-familiarity crisis"! Meaning, what you get so easily and daily becomes quite regular and average for a lot of men!

My advice is that there be more than just sexuality in every marriage, and both partners learn to make out time to spice up the union!

The worst hit are usually the men! A lot of them get more aroused by women outside their marriages and seemingly beyond their reach than their wives...! Some guys will argue against this point; some will even pretend that they don't experience this in their marriages! Lol!

Las las, marriage will uncover and expose all bullshits!... grin
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by phidipe(m): 11:19pm On May 25, 2023
You are very stupid and crazy. One year old marriage you are already cheating because of the problem you brought up on yourself. You are mad

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by twosquare(m): 11:21pm On May 25, 2023
What is the possible danger or what such ladies carry based on experience...then the aftermath of such union?
PrinceMajestic:
I know what's wrong with you, you have inherited a certain power from your Fathers of Time that detects wrong signal in women, you're even endangering your life the more u try it with her. I have that too, well I can't say anything else because you already married her. The issue is with her not you but I will advice you to birth your children secretly from other female, good luck

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Liverpoolfc(m): 11:23pm On May 25, 2023
Which antihypertensive drug are you taking?
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by djon78(m): 11:23pm On May 25, 2023
Spiritualsdeeps:
Are you new on this Forum? I think if you have been on this forum for a while, you wouldn't have wasted your time reading kobojunkie comment at all, you even went to the extent of replying his or her Comments..

Next time, Just Ignore immediately you see it.


The guy is new
I avoid that moniker like a plague
The reply from there really turns my belle

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by djon78(m): 11:26pm On May 25, 2023
vickydevoka:

Pretty and fair doesn’t make some one sexually attracted. I used to think like this until I me an ugly black lady with a tight pxy and soft body. If you don’t have as a lady you don’t have it. Some ladies only look them go look you , you go arouse

That's funny
Sometimes those ones we guys call ugly, carry high sexual attraction

That's why you will see a man married to a very beautiful woman but a very ugly woman, the man is falling crazily for

All these are mysteries

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by vickydevoka(m): 11:32pm On May 25, 2023
djon78:


That's funny
Sometimes those ones we guys call ugly, carry high sexual attraction

That's why you will see a man married to a very beautiful woman but a very ugly woman, the man is falling crazily for

All these are mysteries
Ya. It's natural. I remember one slim babe that year. Omo I empty my account for the babe. Her current na 100 percent. Small nyash o. Body soft like today bread. I hardly get sexually aroused with short girls. Not all but most.
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by galantjoe(m): 11:34pm On May 25, 2023
Mokole2023:


Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?

Use Vega 100 and thank me later
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Jibwillz: 11:36pm On May 25, 2023
Sit your wife down and discuss this with her.
This might even be from her own end.
I was having a discussion with 2elderly about the level of indecency young girls exhibit and I got to learn that some parents put some sort of a charm on their daughter as a protective measures from boys. That no matter how hard the guy tries, he will never be able to penetrate until she’s ready to marry and it will be taken off.
Mind you it was confirmed when I made further enquires that the girls are usually not informed or aware of this practice that has been carried out on them. (Too bad I forgot the name)
So it’s better to explore all options before making rash decisions.
Anyone can verify this from the elderly for better understanding too.

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Jeandewest(m): 11:37pm On May 25, 2023
First of all u re a disgrace.
You're married then u went on to test another women to know ur capabilities..
After discovering now u re telling us how u feel.
How u feel about ur wife was the first action before testing another man wife..
This is totally a lot witchcraft behavior.

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by adecz: 11:40pm On May 25, 2023
That's the problem when you decide
to marry a nice, quiet, wife matter girl from
a nice background Who doesn't set your
system on fire🔥🔥🔥

Secsxual attraction and compatibility is the
glue that holds a wedlock together. If the
compatibility is There, you'll see that you
easily overlook many other negatives in
the union.

Sad to say, but this union may have a
short lifespan.. ☝️☝️☝️


But, what do I know😐😔😞😟

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Doctortest: 11:41pm On May 25, 2023
OP PLS LISTEN TO ME LET ME EXPLAIN EXACTLY WHAT IS HAPPENING TO YOU:
Your wife caused it:
This has happened to me : before before my babe who is so beautiful pretty but guess what anytime I wan nack her my dick go flop ‘ e no half rise and quench mid way. But other girls e go hard like Zuma rock .
This happens when a woman Dey deny person sex too much ‘ when a woman who claims not to like sex and you have over time been beeginf ‘ pleading for it .The result is your nervousness/anxiety has been tagged on your wife . She caused it ….your feeling when u want to bang her is different from others who give u a freeway. There is no solution unless u guys redigg from d root and she has to promise to give u nack any gaddamn time u need it .
The truth is there are some women ( wife ) who the only way u can have peace is to cheat on them continuously because that’s d only way baba . Do not pity the woman go out and bang until she knows her position

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Tyktoker: 11:45pm On May 25, 2023
Tell yourself the truth!
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by scobaba: 11:48pm On May 25, 2023
Samantha124:
Tell her the truth and if possible, get a divorce and move on with those other ladies that you're already cheating on her with.

Set her free while she's still young and you guys don't have a child... The sooner you do it, the easier it's gonna be for her to move on.

Single lady does not understand.
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Kobojunkie: 12:03am On May 26, 2023
brainycaleb:
■ Are you serious
Serious about what exactly? undecided
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Kobojunkie: 12:07am On May 26, 2023
twosquare:
Use cialis instead...it appears you have side effects of viagra... As for cialis, like any other aphrodisiac, take it before you eat so it can enter your bloodstream quickly.
Side-effect that only works against his wife? Come on! This is something psychological and does not seem linked to the drug at all. undecided
Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by psalmson001: 12:13am On May 26, 2023
Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

See, this is simply a psychological thing.

If you are not one of those "dirty sex is a sin person," have a lot of fore-play with your wife, live out your fantasies. Get her sexy outfits you like to see on other ladies.
You guys can even try role playing with several forms of intimacy and sexual acts.

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by djon78(m): 12:14am On May 26, 2023
vickydevoka:

Ya. It's natural. I remember one slim babe that year. Omo I empty my account for the babe. Her current na 100 percent. Small nyash o. Body soft like today bread. I hardly get sexually aroused with short girls. Not all but most.


That's why people should not lie to themselves when it comes to marriage

That woman that gives a man very high sexual attraction current

That's whom he should marry

A lot of painful mistakes are being made now by people in marriage

Sexual problem is the number one problem in today's marriages

I also believe easy availability of pornography also adds to the problem

Men before had no knowledge of sexual acts except when doing it practical
Now even kids know deep knowledge of sex because of porn

It's damaging many people

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Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by mariahAngel(f): 12:24am On May 26, 2023
Mokole2023:


Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?

The problem is not in your brain, it is in your heart.
You're trying to have sex with your wife, instead of making love to her.
Learn to love your wife, and make love to her wholesomely.
She's not some random girl, she's your wife.

One problem with the black man is that they don't know how to love. 🙄

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