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morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

gaby:
Na their way.

This isn't limited to just one gender.

Born idiots are generally resident-idiots.

I no even dey get their time if na me.

The way people get fixated and obsessed with money/material stuff over being humane and wonder why they still don't get enough of the money/material stuff to be happy or satiated beats my imagination.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

easyflex:
I might be wrong, but I think you are taking this too personally. It's a rule of thumb that if you want to carpool, you should offer to chip in on the cost of gas. It's part of Oyibo culture. If I were in your shoes, I'd offer to pay her what you typically pay for bus ride. You should know that gas is expensive in the UK. You might be helping her today but she may save your life tomorrow.

It's lways better to build bridges than to burn them. An eye for an eye and the whole world will go blind . Aspire to always be the bigger person.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

akwesenana:
Don't they conduct language tests before opening gates in uk?

morinto:
It Is not gate. It is border.

NonsenseRubbish:
You sure say na UK you dey work because this your grammar sef get as e be.

CaveAdullam:
1. Your rule for engagement when dealing with people: value for value.

It may be unequal, but it is necessary.

2. As humans, we border between altruism and selfishness - a higher percentage of selfishness, however.

3. You deal with people because you have something to gain. Or, you don't want to lose. No matter how much we think we're altruistic, selfish tendency flows in our veins. Being selfish may not be deliberate but it is there, a basic instinct controlling our daily actions and behaviors.

4. The people that'll appreciate you more are those you're in a symbiotic relationship with. There is an overlapping of competence, integrity, intelligence, accountability, and responsibility. Since there's an exchange, both parties will endeavor to play their parts effectively.

5. Women especially have a short-span memory when it comes to kindness. For it to last longer in their memory, you must constantly fill them with luxuries, love, and kindness. Once there's a default, previous kindness begins to fade into oblivion.

6. But things can't always be rosy. You'll waste away your life, energy, time, and resources in an adventure to satiate the vacillating sentiments of a woman.

A mature adult (woman) should be able to think and build with you if they/she are interested in any relationship with you.

7. It takes wise and intelligent people to stay with you in both good and bad times.

Dumb people flee when things go south. They never loved you, they are sycophants who wanted a taste of you. They are neither loyal nor competent. They are weak people capable of sabotage.

8. It's expensive living in the UK. But common sense should tell her that asking your colleague for transport fare payment because you drove him in your car just to offset some of her bills reeks a higher order of ignorance and foolishness.

She was thinking short-term, pursuing short monetary values. All of a sudden she forgot your past deeds. Her behavior is pathetic and parasitic.

9. You don't need to feel guilty man. It does happen though, empathic or good people always feel guilty when they go against their norms. However, this is necessary at a moment like this. If you don't go against the norm, you open yourself to being further manipulated and exploited.

10. Since she has turned help and kindness into a commodity to be traded, it is time to also place monetary value when rendering help. If you can't, completely ghost her. This is the way you treat dumb and myopic fellows.

11. This shouldn't stop you or anyone from assisting people in the future. But you must be able to identify the kind of people you're dealing with so that you'll not throw your pearls before ingrates and swine.

Thanks.

CaveAdullam:
Your rule for engagement when dealing with people: value for value.

10. Since she has turned help and kindness into a commodity to be traded, it is time to also place monetary value when rendering help. If you can't, completely ghost her. This is the way you treat dumb and myopic fellows.


Thanks.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

NomzyJust:
She owes you no favour. Grow up o, na abroad u dey.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

easyflex:
I might be wrong, but I think you are taking this too personally. It's a rule of thumb that if you want to carpool, you should offer to chip in on the cost of gas. It's part of Oyibo culture. If I were in your shoes, I'd offer to pay her what you typically pay for bus ride. You should know that gas is expensive in the UK. You might be helping her today but she may save your life tomorrow.

It's lways better to build bridges than to burn them. An eye for an eye and the whole world will go blind . Aspire to always be the bigger person.

NomzyJust:
Do you buy fuel for her?
Do you know how much it costs to go from acquiring a driving license to getting a car and maintaining it in the UK?
Do you know if she has more bills and responsibilities than you?
What makes you think you are entitled to get a ride in her car for free?
Do you know how much stress she will save you by giving you a ride?
Both of you are going to work to earn income at the end so what's wrong if you invest £5 to your work? Probably you even earn more than her.
She can as well return the favour by covering you at work when you need when she gets used to the work. She's new, so give her a break. The more you teach her, the more you too learn. You were once new and someone had to cover for you at some point.

Ogbeni, keep catching the bus or buy a car.
Stop feeling entitled. She owes you no favour. Grow up o, na abroad u dey.

morinto:
It Is not gate. It is border.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

morinto:
There this new female lady who is a Nigeria that just got employ in my place of work in the UK. Omo this lady did not know the work very well because she is new and I have to cover for her so that the white people will nor use her to catch cruise because stylish racism is very common at my working place. So me and this girl vibe very well because we are Nigerian. After work this girl was going to my city and she drive unlike me that use public transport. So I told her to drop me in mycity base on say we are going to the same city. This girl told me that she can't carry me free and I have to drop 5 pounds and public bus dey carry me 2 pounds. Omo I told her say nor worry I go follow public motors.
Next day at work she want to get closer to me. Omo I just lock up. I nor send her again. When she was complaining that those oyinbo people are rude I just reply her saying what do u want me to do? I can't be saving your ass for place of work and u can't reciprocate the favour back. The thing she do me pain me die. How can u charge a person that is going to the same distinction with u and also the same person that help u at work?
Some people are just terrible. Am still in pain as I am typing because am feeling guilty of paying her back with evil but she force me to do that. Am not a wicked person but just have to do it.

Collins4u1:
You did very well, that's the way to go.

meanwhile my oga dey carry me for car come drop me for my doorstep and start going home. even when I tell him to drop me at the road side so I can just trek in.

Press her neck more, and you should let her know why you're doing that. she won't beat you!