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Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Godoverevery:
Bro.....I think is just most women trait.

Check around......women family benefits more in marriages.

I understand what you are saying that why I want to nip it on the board now so her family no I won't tolerate such

dmostcheerful:
Your aunt could have done it.
A bag of rice can only feed 50 people.
That's if someone didn't eat 2 plate or take home.
How much is a bag of rice?
40-50k
Tomatoes is how much?
How much is meat?
You said aside rice she will cook other things right.
Go and sit the fûck down.
I can see other things up there with rope dangling in between there legs, most of them don't even know how to on a stove talk more of boil water, they are the ones advising you.
Abge get out.

Godoverevery:
Thanks bro.....I think women are just naturally selfish.

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.



She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

michaelwilli:
Your mistake was pricing her quite low for her service. Now she expects you to repay the favour for her dad. You don't know if she also used her own money to augment the food for your mom. Even if you are the one taking care of her, you are doing that willingly.

Dem no dey mix love with business. It's a recipe for disaster.

Victor2707:
Correct 💯

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

dmostcheerful:
Your aunt could have done it.
A bag of rice can only feed 50 people.
That's if someone didn't eat 2 plate or take home.
How much is a bag of rice?
40-50k
Tomatoes is how much?
How much is meat?
You said aside rice she will cook other things right.
Go and sit the fûck down.
I can see other things up there with rope dangling in between there legs, most of them don't even know how to on a stove talk more of boil water, they are the ones advising you.
Abge get out.

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Deepocean:
Can't you read or comprehension is your problem?

At least you saw where the guy said she was boasting of extra N30,000 profit she made after the cookies. So how did she augment to prepare the food?

Or what nonsense are you trying to form?

michaelwilli:
The original post has been edited. That information wasn't there in the beginning. Your blood too dey hot.

Deepocean:
Sorry, I didn't know the original post was edited.

Pardon my hot blood.

Gracias

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Tutu82:
From your first paragraph you have already formed an opinion and the worry is that you call this lady your fiancée.One person offended you it and it is now women will hardly make sacrifices, that is a weird generalisation.

When and if you get married is this the kind of arguments you would be having at home exchanging harsh words and being memory bank for something that already happened concerning common food?.

One of the reasons for break down in a relationship is finances and inability to let go of the past not falling out of love.
You want to pay her back for what she did when church and state should never mix?.cooking is her business not her hobby so she should make her money out of it.In the same way installing something for her dad and buying the equipment from your pocket,you will be running at a loss.I am sure you can sit that one out and get a colleague to sort it and that does not make you a bad “potential son Inlaw”

You did not have to lie to your mum about who cooked the food.

I will advise you,do not call her mum to explain anything so you do not complicate the situation then when in a better mood sit down with your fiancée and have an honest conversation.

I wish you good luck in all of this.

Godoverevery:
If everyone is too stick to rule and standards there won't be anything like friendship or relationship trust me.

If knowing my financial situation at that time and she could still not do me a lil favor why won't I pay her back??

Shebi no family and friends in business......let all stick to that and see which gender will try manipulate and bend that rule.

I laff when peeps write this "sit down and have honest conversation " like you think we haven't done that??infact countless time.

My dear one truth have come to realise is most people are not honest and they are in your life with hidden motives.