WantsandMore:
Yo why is this moniker on your mention though?

Are we having problem with that?

SawD007:


Bro, you've got the best advice and inssight s from @frozen70... When u already read a wise advice like that, don't go look further for more confusion. As she said, talk to your Dad about your observation, you'll get more insights.

Thanks

SawD007:


You're incredible and a wise woman. When they say all naija girls are useless, I know there are exceptions to all this opinions. Your intelligent quotient is IDAN.

Thanks dear
Lol @ IQ 😂

God will uplift you and your siblings for recognizing that your mother is not homely to your daddy, women love money too much and can fake love when money is available, you guys should call her to order before she frustrate the good man. I know a woman who only call her husband sir whenever he dashes her money.

OvertheTop:



NO, You mean: when they are continuously Abused, Unappreciated for all their Previous efforts....

When you marry a wicked woman the day you stop providing , that the day you start digging your grave.

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Try this;
Get some money. Buy your mum a nice dress or gift and send it to her. When she receives it, she’ll be glad to say many things to you. In the course of this, tell her you understand how she feels, but you want both of them to be alive in good health to see and carry your kids when the time comes. You can dish out advice to her, not like a direct advice, but telling her how it hurts you. Every time she sees that gift, she’ll remember that conversation.
Call your mum. Have a long phone conversation with her. Always appreciate her for being your mother. Send her recharge cards. Just be her talk partner. She may have some burdens she’s only expressing but can’t say.
Don’t attack her verbally. Another trick is, if you have good pictures of your dad and mum together, put it up on your social media handle a few days in a month. You can even make it a constant dp. Someone did this and got her mum breaking down into tears, when she was complaining of being fed up with her marriage.
Your mum deserve a hug and a peck. Some assurances of love and “it’ll be alright” whispers. A mother was once became bitter with her husband and everyone else in the house. It was later discovered that despite her strong personality as a very physical woman, she was very mad at her husband for not having said “I love you” to her for the past 7 years in their marriage.
Life is complex. Lov is all it needs. Cherish and build what you have.

U better talk to dat woman u call ur mother before u lose ur father

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Please if I may ask what kind of job does your mother do?
Reasons she could be idel.
Like the saying goes an idel mind is the devil's workshop.
Your Dad could be really be very stressed at this age and may not be able to
Perform bedroom duties some women can be furstrated when it comes to this.
Please pardon me . Is best you find out quickly so much nagging
From time to time reduces a man life span.
I come in peace.

You are now a man bro and I'm happy you are concerned. Been a man is not easy but I have one advice for you.


Call your mum out separately and tell her the possible outcome of her rash behavior towards your dad, that if this man breaks down eventually and dies untimely, the burial day will be the last she ll see of u and your siblings.

That she should be nice, she doesn't have another husband

Charx122:


Please if I may ask what kind of job does your mother do?
Reasons she could be idel.
Like the saying goes an idel mind is the devil's workshop.
Your Dad could be really be very stressed at this age and may not be able to
Perform bedroom duties some women can be furstrated when it comes to this.
Please pardon me . Is best you find out quickly so much nagging
From time to time reduces a man life span.
I come in peace.

She's idle atm

Sanguine:


I don't think you have to be insultive to make your point. Silly people everywhere!

Don't marry if you know you don't have the capacity to love and care for another human being. If you as a man treat your wife like trash in the presence of your children, and vice-versa for the woman, your children will grow up to resent you.

Yes, whatever you sow, you reap. So the onus is on you to mind the kind of seeds you sow because you will surely reap it in abundance!

And your point is?
I don't argue against infantile emotions. If you feel my position is untrue, then shift.

transient123:
Most women are very ungrateful and has toxic tongues, albeit there is always consequences for these 2 terrible behaviours.

However, I advice you guys should singularly talk to your mum against bad mouthing your dad, if that didn't work, make it a collective one, if that fails, please threaten her with wisdom by saying if anything happens to your dad, that will be be held responsible and everyone made.to know she is a reason he died.

More importantly, pray and seek guidance before embarking on this.

Never severe the ties of motherhood or fatherhood through this. God hears the prayer and curse of parents in favour of against children. Be careful.

A curse that is causeless does not affect anyone. You do something wrong and i call you out, but instead of apologising and making amends you go ahead and pretend you curse me. Where will that one go?

Amumaigwe:


And your point is?
I don't argue against infantile emotions. If you feel my position is untrue, then shift.

Good luck sir or ma, whatever is your gender!
Have a blessed, productive day this day... Week, this week.

SawD007:


Are we having problem with that?

Yep. Unqoute.

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

i can feel your situation. thats how some women are wired. even if you talk heaven earth she won't change. first thing you need to do, hear from your dad first. let him tell you the whole story of why your mum is such an aggressive individual, hear from him, he might not have complained to you, but you being the first son, when ever he calls you on phone again, stylishly ask him how far, him and your mum. once he tells you fine, then proceed by telling him what your lil brother told you, from there he can open up about the attitude of your mum and how he has been managing her character, you will be amazed about the things he will tell you.

if you know waitin men dey bear inside marriage especially when it comes to women's attitude towards certain issues.

Amumaigwe:


A curse that is causeless does not affect anyone. You do something wrong and i call you out, but instead of apologising and making amends you go ahead and pretend you curse me. Where will that one go?

A curse that isn't warranted will surely go back to the sender. It will not disappear into thin air.

What I am saying is, engaging her could lead to fisticuffs if care isn't taken, she might cease that opportunity to make one of you guys go overboard, then, she pounces and curse, if she traps anyone amongst u and you go overboard and she plays the womanly gimmick and curse..oh God, that will be 2 wrongs...that is what am saying.....never give room for that, if it's all pointing to that, you guys should walk away. Parents no matter the provocation must never be shouted at, not to talk of hitting any of them.....

SawD007:


Are we having problem with that?

unmention buddy, there's no basis quoting a moniker you're not going to reference.

It's only a foolish child that sees a parent maltreats the other and does nothing about it. This shit will play out in the presence of your visitors. funny thing is that these visiting friends will be silent about it but it will become insults to you later. They are thinking it they ain't saying it.

1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

WHENEVER A WOMAN MISBEHAVES SOMETHING MUST HAVE CAUSED IT; BUT IF IT'S A MAN, THE MAN IS THE CAUSE WHAT RUBBISH RUBBISH RUBBISH RUBBISH RUBBISH RUBBISH ARE YOU SAYING

OvertheTop:


She Treats him Badly many times... is Enough Observation.
Oga , Stop Discrediting the Guy.

badly how??

Don't bother calling your mom to order....it will be as if you're the one fighting for your dad which will only make your dad look more.weak...to the extent of needing his child to speak up for him...to his own wife...

it's your dad you should call and have a talk with...ask him if there's a reason he bears the insults your mom dishes him... without rebuking the woman.

If there is.... maybe he will tell you...but if there isn't try empowering him emotionally and then financially to get his confidence back ..and your mom will sit up once she notices he's regained his self-esteem.


But something tells me he's probably bearing it because of something that's between them both but which he doesn't want disclosed to you guys.... another family perhaps....or a stupid financial move
...I guess the former....buy we'll see

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

The fact that a so-called “first son” thinks it’s okay to yell at her mother and “give her a serious scolding” in respect of marital relationship between grown folks that is strictly none of his business (and has actually received over a hundred ‘likes’ on Nairaland) aptly typifies just how SEXIST AND MISOGYNISTIC most Nigerian cultures inherently are! SMDH
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aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

What does he want? A cookie?!
Shows how MESSED up our societies are when a married man who doesn’t cheat is considered exceptional! SMDH
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aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Are you sure he satisfys her sexually?

aidameoryou:

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Simply Advise Your Dad to Stop Simping for Your Mom ....

Your Mom is not the Problem, Your Dad is the Problem... If You Approach Your Mother to Avenge Your Dad, Your Mom will Only Joined You in Her Battles with Your Dad & Your Life shall Declined Like Match Stick Lit on Fire ...

Call Your Dad Aside & Advise Him to Step Unto Your Mothers with Matching Orders.... Travel Go Somewhere & Avoid Her For Months !

A Man Must "Manned" His Woman!!

obaidan:

Na for matter wey common sense fit resolve una go dey push for divorce, I am an advocate of divorce in a loveless marriage or one where there's no respect but this one can be resolved with ease. It's on the children of the woman to subtly threaten the woman with what's most valuable to every woman(the love of their children)....they should make her know if that man is not happy and not showing sign of happiness, the she gets no love no respect from them.

Sympathy love or fear-fear love is what you are advocating.

If she still loved the guy, she won't be treating him that way in the first place.

SisterAnn:
Sympathy love or fear-fear love is what you are advocating.

If she still loved the guy, she won't be treating him that way in the first place.

I get your point but u know age changes the dynamics of these things. I probably would give a different advice if the couple are still young. With their age I'd prefer to first explore the option of the woman repenting...she doesn't need to love him, just treat him with the respect he deserves. You can respect someone without loving him or her and that's what I am saying the children should demand for their father. Respect not love. For the sake of his children that i believe she loves too

Octopusssy:
I don't usually get involved in parental drama. The kids can chook mouth once in a while o, but for the most parts we don't get involved. They have been together before we were born so they know each other better than we ever can.

Speak to your mum, express your displeasure at her attitude towards your dad in the most respectful, heartfelt way possible, and leave it that. They will sort themselves out.

I hope you'll repeat this same advice when the woman is the victim