It's obvious your female cousin is the one who cajoled her cousin into having sex with her.

She's obviously a nympho. Got pregnant as a preteen by a much older guy then goes to her cousins house and they have sex. All these girls who got deflowered in their early teens are usually sex maniacs. They can't stay for long without looking for a dick to fvck. She was obviously the one that seduced the poor boy.

Jeez! I don't why this op fell for her lies. You noticed your male cousin whom share a room with is a druggie yet you didn't report to his parents? He cajoled you for sex, you didn't resist him or report him? You willingly agreed to fvck? What a lying bitch!

Op, she's lying through her teeth. I'm sure she's the who lied that the guy is into drugs, just to paint him black. The only thing that will settle this case is for you people to involve Amadioha or Ogun or Sango and she will tell the truth by force.

Her inability to defend herself shows she is as guilty as hell. Cos, if she were innocent she would have long gone to sue the boy for defamation.

Jimbadly:
It's obvious your female cousin is the one who cajoled her cousin into having sex with her.

She's obviously a nympho. Got pregnant as a preteen by a much older guy then goes to her cousins house and they have sex. All these girls who got deflowered in their early teens are usually sex maniacs. They can't stay for long without looking for a dick to fvck. She was obviously the one that seduced the poor boy.

Jeez! I don't why this op fell for her lies. You noticed your male cousin whom share a room with is a druggie yet you didn't report to his parents? He cajoled you for sex, you didn't resist him or report him? You willingly agreed to fvck? What a lying bitch!

Op, she's lying through her teeth. I'm sure she's the who lied that the guy is into drugs, just to paint him black. The only thing that will settle this case is for you people to involve Amadioha or Ogun or Sango and she will tell the truth by force.

Her inability to defend herself shows she is as guilty as hell. Cos, if she were innocent she would have long gone to sue the boy for defamation.

She's the one advocating for oath swearing now.


Someone not sure of herself wouldn't do that.

She has gotten the guys number to confront him. His mother was there when she called, and she collected the phone from him and blocked my cousin immediately.


The mother definitely knows something

Klass99:


I believe the girl and not because she is female like me. I believe her because the truth is always consistent - twice her story was the same and it never changed, when she first confessed to the pastor and later confided in her cousin. When people lie their tales are often inconsistent, they say one thing today and another thing tomorrow but that hasn't been the case with this girl.

I also believe her because I know numerous male children like the one in this story - they start misbehaving at a young age, experimenting with drugs, alcohol, sex and in extreme cases blending into cults. They can't keep up with school, are very good at lying, stealing and other atrocities. Boys and men in general have a physical strength we cannot match, so how exactly did a teenage girl rape a teenage boy who was already into drugs? Did she punch him and hold him down like male rapists do? Why didn't the idiot shout for help if he was really being raped? Or was he passed out from a drug overdose during the rape? If yes, then he wouldn't have known he was raped na.

Teenage pregnancy doesn't necessarily mean a girl is a wayward slut. It can simply mean one major mistake/error made out of naivety, made as a result of being misled by an older person who should have used protection or shielded her from the consequences of pre-marital sex. We were once young and 16, did we know most of what we do now? Getting knocked up at 16 doesn't make her an evil person, agreeing to consensual sex with a cousin was naive/stupid but afterwards she took steps to turn her life around, while the boy has only continued in his NFA ways.

God bless you for this.


My cousin has no reason to lie. The same thing she told the pastor is what she told me.

If she wanted to protect her reputation, she could have easily lied to me that she was raped.


And she's even the one advocating for oath swearing now having shown her this thread.
Someone not sure of herself wouldn't do that.

She has gotten the guys number to confront him. His mother was there when she called, and she collected the phone from him and blocked my cousin immediately.


The mother definitely knows something

Forrkke:


She's the one advocating for oath swearing now.


Someone not sure of herself wouldn't do that.

She has gotten the guys number to confront him. His mother was there when she called, and she collected the phone from him and blocked my cousin immediately.


The mother definitely knows something

Hmm.

In that case let her vigorously pursue and demand for that oath swearing from the boy. That's all she can do to clear her name. Let her inform all the elders in the family to prevail on the boy's parents to bring him out to swear an oath.

Failure to do so, then the boy should tender an unreserved apology to her.

Klass99:


Based on what you said here and what you know, why don't you advocate for your cousin, speak up for her and share what you know with both families or maybe just her family alone.

Explain calmly and in a logical manner, citing the time/date when you first became aware of the incest, if possible get the pastor she initially confessed to involved as well to support her. In the mouth of two witnesses a thing is established.

If I were your cousin I would try hard to make my case and afterwards sever ties with both families, move to a new location and start a new life. I say this because at 16 most of us (both male and female) were young and stupid, we didn't know better but her own parents failed by sending her away. Her aunty also failed by forcing an abortion then putting a male and female teenager together in one room.

Her aunty is extremely stupid for that living arrangement, including the parents who couldn't guide nor help a young and naive child in one of her worse moments. When I say motherhood and fatherhood is not for everyone some dimwits still love to argue the point. Parenting goes beyond straffing to procreate children, when will some people understand this?

With time people may soon learn that the boy lied. I am sure even the parents of the wayward boy know deep down in their hearts that their child is lying, given his past and current lifestyle. But welcome to our crazy world where most parents think their child is a saint who can do no wrong.

Very insightful take, thanks.

This is me sending your message to her

Klass99:


But you sef na wetin you been suppose do since na (i.e. speaking up for her to say what you knew) act on my message don't just send it to her. I hope that pastor is still alive and willing to cooperate.

You know this issue is stemming from her father's family.

I'm related to her through her mother, who's my dad's sister. I really don't have a say where her father's family are concerned.


And, yes, we've contacted the pastor, and he has agreed to bear witness when the need arises.

Klass99:


Please talk to her mother and father plus the rest of her immediate family including the brother who has cut her off as well. Forget her father's family for now and focus on her own family, you can request a meeting with them and if possible go with your father or a sibling to this meeting to say your piece. If the pastor can go with you that same day too all the better sef.

I've spoken with the elder brother, but he's insisting he doesn't want to have anything to do with her. He even said she's lucky that he's not in Nigeria at the moment... that he'd have dealt with her so badly.


He's the one that told me to tell her to Apologize to every single person in their dad's family before he can even consider talking to her.

And when I tried explaining her own side of the story, he said I shouldn't even go there.


So I just told my cousin to let him be and forget about him for now.

Klass99:


Write him an email or text - there is no way he will not read it before deleting. If you can keep your message short and simple, being matter of fact about it, that will be great. Since the brother is not on board yet try and engage the parents na.

Valid question - did your cousin carry on a promiscuous life after the pregnancy/incest issue? Why is her family so quick to believe the boy over her nd take sides without hearing her out?

The person who deflowered her got her pregnant.

She basically didn't have a relationship with her family after the pregnancy and before she came back to Lagos in December last year.


Imagine 7 years of no relationship with your family. How will that kind of family stand for you in any situation?

Her siblings were not calling; her mother barely called, and her father only forgave her in 2019.

She was schooling from her aunt's house, so she wasn't free to have a proper campus life.

Klass99:


Write him an email or text - there is no way he will not read it before deleting. If you can keep your message short and simple, being matter of fact about it, that will be great. Since the brother is not on board yet try and engage the parents na.

Valid question - did your cousin carry on a promiscuous life after the pregnancy/incest issue? Why is her family so quick to believe the boy over her and take sides without hearing her out?

My cousin and I are already arranging with the entire family.

We've asked an elder to ensure the boy and his mother are present.

Let's see how it goes

Klass99:


Na wao! They did all of this because of a mistake/teenage pregnancy? There has to be more to this story which you are not telling or you are unaware of, because I can't wrap my head around this.

I don't doubt you though I am just saying her mistake/pregnancy are not enough reasons or justifiable reasons to have treated her like this. Omoh I bow and tremble for this kind family o. Some people will continue to shout blood is thicker than water and family is everything, even when reality says otherwise.

I said it as it is.


My dad even tried to talk to her dad when the pregnancy happened, but he wasn't having it, saying she brought shame to the family by getting pregnant.



My aunt, her mother, didn't even say anything to her. Everybody just abandoned her... to he honest

Klass99:


I believe the girl and not because she is female like me. I believe her because the truth is always consistent - twice her story was the same and it never changed, when she first confessed to the pastor and later confided in her cousin. When people lie their tales are often inconsistent, they say one thing today and another thing tomorrow but that hasn't been the case with this girl.

I also believe her because I know numerous male children like the one in this story - they start misbehaving at a young age, experimenting with drugs, alcohol, sex and in extreme cases blending into cults. They can't keep up with school, are very good at lying, stealing and other atrocities. Boys and men in general have a physical strength we cannot match, so how exactly did a teenage girl rape a teenage boy who was already into drugs? Did she punch him and hold him down like male rapists do? Why didn't the idiot shout for help if he was really being raped? Or was he passed out from a drug overdose during the rape? If yes, then he wouldn't have known he was raped na.

Teenage pregnancy doesn't necessarily mean a girl is a wayward slut. It can simply mean one major mistake/error made out of naivety, made as a result of being misled by an older person who should have used protection or shielded her from the consequences of pre-marital sex. We were once young and 16, did we know most of what we do now? Getting knocked up at 16 doesn't make her an evil person, agreeing to consensual sex with a cousin was naive/stupid but afterwards she took steps to turn her life around, while the boy has only continued in his NFA ways.

Hmmmm....quite something up there. But I still have my doubts because I once had a teen like her in my household. Ypu may be right though but young girls could be crazy too.

1. The pastor didn't come out to tell us what she told him. It was part of her story as told to bestie cousin.
2. She didn't tell her closest cousin until about 2yrs ago or so. Probably after the boy made contact again with her and threatened to tell.
3. She had the chance to right her story with her parents but never came through until the boy spilled.
4. Yes teenage pregnancy could have been a mistake, but still tolling the line of seex with a cousin in the place she went to escape the stigma is well over the top. All he did was to convince her🙄 even though he's been on drugs for the 6months she's been in his room. Although, one would wonder why the aunty would put them in the same room.
5. Women rape men all the time too. There's been confirmed stories. It doesn't even required a lot of physical strength. Just saying No to sex is enough to make it rape even if there was no struggle.
6. She bottled it up from the adults and bestie cousin until atleast 5yrs later(for bestie cousin) and 7yrs for others. By the way, researchers believe that once you tell a story from your past once, you can easily make it your single truth.

Again you could be right but I have seen a teen spin everyone on her little finger to not see the holes in this story. There is an 11yo newphew I have whose paternity is still in doubt. My own little aunty played everybody when she had him at 17yo, till now, I havent even followed up to know the boy's father. She is an highly intelligent innocent looking and friendly girl o. It is easy to believe her. Prior to that, she's been way out of line since age 12yo....yes you read that right. We usually grown tall and bud fast. She took hers to the next level and willingly allow the predators no matter how much protection and caution given her. This babe went to a private secondary school that was paying school fees in half millions while we went to govt school o. Biko I dont still believe her. But then, who am I? They can have the story as they please.....

All in all, the Aunty who took her in has more responsibility than anyone else in the whole tale. She clearly slacked in monitoring her wards especially given that atleast one of them had an history.

Klass99:


Na wao! They did all of this because of a mistake/teenage pregnancy? There has to be more to this story which you are not telling or you are unaware of, because I can't wrap my head around this.

I don't doubt you though I am just saying her mistake/pregnancy are not enough reasons or justifiable reasons to have treated her like this. Omoh I bow and tremble for this kind family o. Some people will continue to shout blood is thicker than water and family is everything, even when reality says otherwise.

It's not new na. My mum faced the same thing when she got pregnant with me. She was forgiven by her dad about 1 year ago..

Cloudflare:



Madam, it was the girl that told the guy that they should have sex. Na she seduced and initiated the knacking mood. It was obvious she knew what she was doing back then. The girl is extremely loose, damage and highly wayward. She simply manipulated the OP into believing her.

Did you ever read where the Op said this girl told him about this....long before it became open?

People like you will always judge her and would never believe in her because of her mistake of getting pregnant at younger age.... And that is why, she won't feel easy speaking up in any case. What makes you think that the guy can't initiate the sex and seduce her as well?

OdefaGirl:



Did you ever read where the Op said this girl told him about this....long before it became open?

People like you will always judge her and would never believe in her because of her mistake of getting pregnant at younger age.... And that is why, she won't feel easy speaking up in any case. What makes you think that the guy can't initiate the sex and seduce her as well?

Don’t mind him

I honestly don’t know how some people reason on this platform.

The same way it’s easy for you to think that girl initiated is the same way you should consider the possibility of the boy initiating it.


I personally think that boy is a very useless person and is just looking for someone to blame for his wrong decisions in life.

You didn’t speak up all this while, but it’s after 7 years when the girl has moved on and turned her life around that you know you’re guilty/depressed


If the girl were my sister, I’d so deal with that boy, even though I’d also reprimand my sister for indulging in such act. But I won’t let some make such huge allegations against her and get away with it.

Never!

Jimbadly:
It's obvious your female cousin is the one who cajoled her cousin into having sex with her.

She's obviously a nympho. Got pregnant as a preteen by a much older guy then goes to her cousins house and they have sex. All these girls who got deflowered in their early teens are usually sex maniacs. They can't stay for long without looking for a dick to fvck. She was obviously the one that seduced the poor boy.

Jeez! I don't why this op fell for her lies. You noticed your male cousin whom share a room with is a druggie yet you didn't report to his parents? He cajoled you for sex, you didn't resist him or report him? You willingly agreed to fvck? What a lying bitch!

Op, she's lying through her teeth. I'm sure she's the who lied that the guy is into drugs, just to paint him black. The only thing that will settle this case is for you people to involve Amadioha or Ogun or Sango and she will tell the truth by force.

Her inability to defend herself shows she is as guilty as hell. Cos, if she were innocent she would have long gone to sue the boy for defamation.

You are one of reasonable Nauralanders on this thread. If you see how one lunatic were quick abusing me just because I had contrary opinion on this same issue. They cant reason well, and when you try to let them reason, they start abusing you.

sisisioge:


Hmmmm....quite something up there. But I still have my doubts because I once had a teen like her in my household. Ypu may be right though but young girls could be crazy too.

1. The pastor didn't come out to tell us what she told him. It was part of her story as told to bestie cousin.
2. She didn't tell her closest cousin until about 2yrs ago or so. Probably after the boy made contact again with her and threatened to tell.
3. She had the chance to right her story with her parents but never came through until the boy spilled.
4. Yes teenage pregnancy could have been a mistake, but still tolling the line of seex with a cousin in the place she went to escape the stigma is well over the top. All he did was to convince her🙄 even though he's been on drugs for the 6months she's been in his room. Although, one would wonder why the aunty would put them in the same room.
5. Women rape men all the time too. There's been confirmed stories. It doesn't even required a lot of physical strength. Just saying No to sex is enough to make it rape even if there was no struggle.
6. She bottled it up from the adults and bestie cousin until atleast 5yrs later(for bestie cousin) and 7yrs for others. By the way, researchers believe that once you tell a story from your past once, you can easily make it your single truth.

Again you could be right but I have seen a teen spin everyone on her little finger to not see the holes in this story. There is an 11yo newphew I have whose paternity is still in doubt. My own little aunty played everybody when she had him at 17yo, till now, I havent even followed up to know the boy's father. She is an highly intelligent innocent looking and friendly girl o. It is easy to believe her. Prior to that, she's been way out of line since age 12yo....yes you read that right. We usually grown tall and bud fast. She took hers to the next level and willingly allow the predators no matter how much protection and caution given her. This babe went to a private secondary school that was paying school fees in half millions while we went to govt school o. Biko I dont still believe her. But then, who am I? They can have the story as they please.....

All in all, the Aunty who took her in has more responsibility than anyone else in the whole tale. She clearly slacked in monitoring her wards especially given that atleast one of them had an history.

You’ve already presumed in your mind that a girl who got pregnant at the age of 16 must have been the one who initiated such act. There’s no evidences presented that will change your mind

So there’s no point arguing with you

Mustiboy:



You’ve already presumed in your mind that a girl who got pregnant at the age of 16 must have been the one who initiated such act. There’s no evidences presented that will change your mind

So there’s no point arguing with you

Well...a lot of people still fail english comprehension in school. So no surprise

Forrkke:



What are you saying?


Can you communicate in the way of humans?

Just ignore the idiot.



You guys should settle that thing in a family way. The girl's dad should call for family meeting so they can settle it. But that your cousin is loose o, just dey open leg anyhow.

Klass99:


Hmm......but were her siblings and mother that cold and standoff-ish too? I can sort of understand a man/father doing that, but when siblings and a mother join in too, it makes me wonder.

You're actually right, now that I think of it, her mum didn't shun her. But, her parents were already divorced. Her caretakers, those who were raising her since her father couldn't handle the responsibility, cut her off completely. The only condition was to abort my stubborn head, which she chose not to do. Lucky me!

OdefaGirl:



Did you ever read where the Op said this girl told him about this....long before it became open?

People like you will always judge her and would never believe in her because of her mistake of getting pregnant at younger age.... And that is why, she won't feel easy speaking up in any case. What makes you think that the guy can't initiate the sex and seduce her as well?

First of all, a girl getting pregnant at younger age wasn't a mistake. Mistake is when she was raped or forcefully made to have sex with a man. For as long as the above scene didn't happen, Madam it was a mistake!!!!!! She purposely went and opened her legs wide and had sex and then got pregnant. Stop misusing that word "mistake" because that wasn't a mistake.

Besides, the girl was the first to confess to the OP. This simply means she was afraid and didn't want her male cousin to say it first so she quickly manipulated and lied to the OP that it was the cousin that demanded for sex, whereas it was she that seduced the young man and asked him to fvck her.

Madam, that girl is loose and wayward. Girls like that cannot control themselves. Their Toto too dey scratch them. I know you're like her