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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Allisgud: 4:54pm On Jun 14, 2023
The answer is very clear,it's like wearing a particular cloth everyday,eating same kind of soup, watching same movies everyday,only what will make me tire of a woman is if she's lazy not wanting to do anything work or bizness

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by MightySparrow: 4:55pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:


This their case and most of the ones I've seen is not money. The men have clearly lost interest.
You'll see them sitting with other people outside gisting and laughing while their wives will be alone sitting all by herself. So sad.

You just suddenly discover that the woman you were dying to marry because of beauty has nothing upstairs. Most times, the woman abandon those values that endeared her to you and start to talk about home video and some useless stuffs. Besides, nagging make men mad. Many men don't want the day to end to avoid comments that would destroy whatever is left from hassles of the day.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Oluwadarasimi19(m): 4:58pm On Jun 14, 2023
Giving us some context will actually help cos I feel like this question is vague.
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by OZIOGU1: 4:59pm On Jun 14, 2023
That was the best thing that ever happened to me brother
PDJT post=123794751]

-Ten years marriage, and you already have 4 kids? You don't Television? grin[/quote]
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Electrochemistry(m): 5:01pm On Jun 14, 2023
Jman06:
They should keep fit and shed all the fats. Do everything to avoid having potbellies.

There are sexy outfits that can be worn to turn a man's head. They should avoid granny panties and wear sexy lingeries. Above all, they should understand their man's sexual fantasies and take advantage of that.

Most African women do not take exercises either because they are lazy or they are hindered by chores.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by PDJT: 5:02pm On Jun 14, 2023
OZIOGU1:
That was the best thing that ever happened to me brother
PDJT post=123794751]

-Ten years marriage, and you already have 4 kids? You don't Television? grin

-You and your wife are quite active. Would both of you like to join swingers club?
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by JaskanFactor: 5:06pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:
I've been observing this for some time now. Once a couple has lived together for ten years,
the closeness between them reduces. As in.. the man no longer sits with the wife to gist or even play. Meanwhile, you'll still see the woman trying to bond and wanting her man to always be around her.

I noticed this in one couple. In fact they are pastor and Mrs. The woman always follows the man every where and wants to sit where he's sitting but the man would clearly avoid her and go out of sight completely when the tailing becomes too much and only come back when the woman is no longer in sight. Why?

No man born of a woman will try such with me, I'll blank you like you're not there.

Women, you too should wise up and stop making yourselves too available. Make yourself a bit scarce and they'll value you.

no man is above it, if its too available its less valued.

In olden days the woman mainly went with the company of her female friends and relatives , it was not the place for man and woman to be friends in detail. Marriage is a working relationship weather you like it or not.

Its the people in western world that wanted to destroy marriage that decided to put a load on marriage that is sure to make it collapse, that is asking husband and wife to be friends in detail , but male and female animals are far from the same.
That is why Hollywood started all the love story movies , in order to make people ask of marriage what does not belong in marriage.

Husband and wife are not friends, its a working relationship , thats what the ancestors used to do, and they never ever had divorce, such a thing was unheard-of, until so called western love entered marriage, then divorce entered the vocabulary.

In olden times even husband and wife lived in separate adjacent apartments in an extended family compound .

Anything you do to follow oyinbo lifestyle will lead. you astray.

Dont forget it was your ancestors that civilised the oyinbo who used to be called the gothic barbarian wild man. And now you fall for his love story. Its a lie that ends marriage needlessly.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Sunmolar(m): 5:08pm On Jun 14, 2023
walexbiz:


Thank you my brother, you must be married to understand that in marriages people change especially women. When you see a man avoiding a woman it's because of unnecessary wahala from the woman. If she joins you in a conversation she would always seek clarification later about what you said earlier. Some it would mean the beginning of another malice after a just resolved conflict. Every man cherishes peace of mind and in so doing he doesn't want anything that would affect his peace of mind so avoidance is best appreciated.

Yours sincerely
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Busybrain2233: 5:08pm On Jun 14, 2023
frozen70:


Any couple you find in this categories are actually living as flat mates and not husband and wife

Though men wants to taste what other women have out there and once they get it especially the ones that are ready to give him hot hot, the one at home becomes less relevant to him

While she is still faithful and looking forward to being with him and Stay close to him at home, he is busy avoiding her because he got a big fish outside

By the time she discovers that he is not giving her the attention she wants, she will face her directions towards the children who will never ignore her and find solace in them

By the time the man is getting old, he starts coming close to the wife, meanwhile she is already done with him but still living with him

That's when the man will become lonely while he is married to his wife

You can only harvest what you sow that's what this life will offer you

Well said bro, but that's if the woman doesn't get older in appearance than the man.🤔
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by ViceGovernor: 5:17pm On Jun 14, 2023
It's the law of diminishing marginal utility that's at play.

As a consumer consumes more and more unit of a particular commodity, satisfaction will increase up to a certain point whereby decrease in satisfaction will set as a result of the continuous consumption of additional unit of the same commodity.

After 10 or more years it may vary according to taste and some other factors....the husband must have reached the pinnacle of enjoyment he gets from the union from that point forward the marriage can only retrogress.
It's happening right in my own house but divorce is not an option and I am closely learning from my parents 😌 I am very good at observing.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Nobody: 5:17pm On Jun 14, 2023
Evidences That Show The Power Of God Is At Work In Your Life.

Apostle Joshua Selman.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH0zKmX8X1U

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by treatise: 5:18pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:
I've been observing this for some time now. Once a couple has lived together for ten years,
the closeness between them reduces. As in.. the man no longer sits with the wife to gist or even play. Meanwhile, you'll still see the woman trying to bond and wanting her man to always be around her.

I noticed this in one couple. In fact they are pastor and Mrs. The woman always follows the man every where and wants to sit where he's sitting but the man would clearly avoid her and go out of sight completely when the tailing becomes too much and only come back when the woman is no longer in sight. Why?

No man born of a woman will try such with me, I'll blank you like you're not there.

Women, you too should wise up and stop making yourselves too available. Make yourself a bit scarce and they'll value you.

The cases I know are/were induced by FIERY tougue of the wives .

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by spiceadole: 5:19pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:
I've been observing this for some time now. Once a couple has lived together for ten years,
the closeness between them reduces. As in.. the man no longer sits with the wife to gist or even play. Meanwhile, you'll still see the woman trying to bond and wanting her man to always be around her.

I noticed this in one couple. In fact they are pastor and Mrs. The woman always follows the man every where and wants to sit where he's sitting but the man would clearly avoid her and go out of sight completely when the tailing becomes too much and only come back when the woman is no longer in sight. Why?

No man born of a woman will try such with me, I'll blank you like you're not there.

Women, you too should wise up and stop making yourselves too available. Make yourself a bit scarce and they'll value you.


Idleness is not good.
Find a job or handwork that will make you productive so that you will take your eyes off other people's businesses.

Marry your own husband first before you brag.

Women like you are treated like thrash.. Because you cling too much.
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Jeezuzpick(m): 5:22pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:
I've been observing this for some time now. Once a couple has lived together for ten years,
the closeness between them reduces. As in.. the man no longer sits with the wife to gist or even play. Meanwhile, you'll still see the woman trying to bond and wanting her man to always be around her.

I noticed this in one couple. In fact they are pastor and Mrs. The woman always follows the man every where and wants to sit where he's sitting but the man would clearly avoid her and go out of sight completely when the tailing becomes too much and only come back when the woman is no longer in sight. Why?

No man born of a woman will try such with me, I'll blank you like you're not there.

Women, you too should wise up and stop making yourselves too available. Make yourself a bit scarce and they'll value you.


Really?

I didn't know o!

As for me, I always want my wife around me all the time. I ask her to take strolls with me and I hold her hand as we walk.

We're close to 50 and have been married for some time.

She's not the same slim, sexy babe I married, but, DAMN! she's a whole lot better!

After all, I'm not the same young stud, so why not enjoy who enjoys me?

Men wey dey lose interest, those new babes don't love you.

"Madam" does.

Make her your Babe again.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by caseone(m): 5:22pm On Jun 14, 2023
Once you marry a woman and after child birth they feel they have gotten what they want so they become unattractive in every area but if you come marry spirikoko he don set for you some women want you to do everything even think for them they longer bring value table you must do everything cos you are the man when you advise them they figth back so all these make it unattractive for men
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Sprints3: 5:23pm On Jun 14, 2023
Life is such a stage u get to lose interest in what you like if you don't see improvement over a long period. It is just like having a app that hasn't drop update for a long time but you refuse to download others because of the love for it. But as times goes by u will be tempeted to download and use it. Such is life.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Awesome01(m): 5:25pm On Jun 14, 2023
In some cases, apart from the above reasons, another reason is love sharing formula.

Immediately after marriage a woman's love is 100% for her hubby, but Immediately after childbirth, her attention to her hubby reduces, the hubby has to step back a little because he becomes second in the subconscious mind of the woman. I'm not saying that is wrong but as an understanding man, he has to give his wife enough space and time for the child or children as the case may be.

As a consequence, the man starts to spend some of his time alone and possibly away from home, thereby gaps starts forming . Sometimes, all attention a man can get will be "Welcome dear, this is your food, the landlord ask of you, and I'm tired, leave me alone, haha ha sex sex sex, that's all you know, Good morning, I need money o, bye bye, my baby is crying."

During all these, the man would have developed a new set of hobbies and acquaintances to while away the time.

After going through this time and time again, you expect him to just switch back after 10 years to being the same guy you just married once you eventually have his time. E no easy like that.

So it takes effort from both quarters to rekindle that spark and fire🔥 back into the marriage, if not they will just be living together, they will love each other, and tolerate one another but the marriage will still be very boring.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by b3llo(m): 5:27pm On Jun 14, 2023
Socratiz:
Your assertion here is replete with conjectures. You saw one family where the husband is avoiding the wife and you assume it's the same with all families. Even if this is prevalent where you stay, it doesn't mean it's the same everywhere.

There are couples who don't avoid each bother after many years of marriage. In fact, the longer their marriage, the stronger the bond between them.

Couples whose marital bond weakens after a few years must have inherent issues which either they are not aware of, or they choose to ignore. They could also be battling with character flaws.

If you expect your marriage to be peaceful and joyfu, that is what you will experience. But if you leave the back door open, the you will find reason to backtrack and use the door.

The type of marriage you chose to build is the type of marriage you will have.

By the way, I have been married for over 32 years and neither myself not my wife has lost interest in each other.
everything drips wisdom
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by EriMma1: 5:28pm On Jun 14, 2023
korede181:

oooh. you're actually the problem but seem not to know because you dont pay attention.. the man is now wishing he had you as his wife and not the actual wife only if the wife can be as good as you..... see woman... na that pastor wife go pour you acid .. you go say i talk am

Back to you.
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by vickydevoka(m): 5:31pm On Jun 14, 2023
Sunmolar:
Most problems in marriage is money related.

A married man maybe rich and decides to flirt around. Thus, infidelity can bring problem if found out by the wife
A married man maybe be broke and be disrespected by the wife. Thus, when the man becomes rich he may feel that the wife is not needed since there was no respect without money
In uk, it money related that’s the fact. I don’t know of Nigeria. They only way a marriage can last long is of the man pays almost all de bills. If you earn 1 million and she earns 1 million. Just sacrifices to pay 80 percent of the bills . That gender you see are not normal. If you want clean all the house , change diapers in as much she’s paying 50 percent, she will disrespect you. They use their money to build houses for Their parents and send their brother to outside the country. Rather as a man take an extra job, if she will agree. Some women here will also want to do full time work , If de do you can have an extra job. Marriage outside country is hell for a man. E.g. It will take your sister less than 5 years to build house and sponsor family, it might take a man 2 decade to achieve that

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Dangrace01: 5:31pm On Jun 14, 2023
JaskanFactor:

no man is above it, if its too available its less valued.

In olden days the woman mainly went with the company of her female friends and relatives , it was not the place for man and woman to be friends in detail. Marriage is a working relationship weather you like it or not.

Its the people in western world that wanted to destroy marriage that decided to put a load on marriage that is sure to make it collapse, that is asking husband and wife to be friends in detail , but male and female animals are far from the same.
That is why Hollywood started all the love story movies , in order to make people ask of marriage what does not belong in marriage.

Husband and wife are not friends, its a working relationship , thats what the ancestors used to do, and they never ever had divorce, such a thing was unheard-of, until so called western love entered marriage, then divorce entered the vocabulary.

In olden times even husband and wife lived in separate adjacent apartments in an extended family compound .

Anything you do to follow oyinbo lifestyle will lead. you astray.

Dont forget it was your ancestors that civilised the oyinbo who used to be called the gothic barbarian wild man. And now you fall for his love story. Its a lie that ends marriage needlessly.





Word bro
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Abagworo(m): 5:31pm On Jun 14, 2023
In Nigeria the women cause it by employing "leg lock" as tactics. Once that happens the man will seek alternative and loss of interest follows .

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by vickydevoka(m): 5:32pm On Jun 14, 2023
vickydevoka:

In uk, it is money related. that’s the fact. I don’t know of Nigeria. They only way a marriage can last long is if of the man pays almost all de bills. If you earn 1 million and she earns 1 million. Just sacrifices to pay 80 percent of the bills . That gender you see are not normal. If you want clean all the house , change diapers, cook join, in as much she’s paying 50 percent, she will disrespect you. They use their money to build houses for Their parents and send their brother to outside the country. Rather as a man take an extra job, if she will agree. Some women here will also want to do full time work , If de do you can have an extra job. Marriage outside country is hell for a man. E.g. It will take your sister less than 5 years to build house and sponsor family, it might take a man 2 decade to achieve that
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Busybrain2233: 5:32pm On Jun 14, 2023
In my own case though, the biggest off for men is dirtiness, yes I said dirtiness, go tink abt it.🤔
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Nobody: 5:34pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:
I've been observing this for some time now. Once a couple has lived together for ten years,
the closeness between them reduces. As in.. the man no longer sits with the wife to gist or even play. Meanwhile, you'll still see the woman trying to bond and wanting her man to always be around her.

I noticed this in one couple. In fact they are pastor and Mrs. The woman always follows the man every where and wants to sit where he's sitting but the man would clearly avoid her and go out of sight completely when the tailing becomes too much and only come back when the woman is no longer in sight. Why?

No man born of a woman will try such with me, I'll blank you like you're not there.

Women, you too should wise up and stop making yourselves too available. Make yourself a bit scarce and they'll value you.



It's interesting how people seek to create problems where there is none. Men and women are made differently, naturally. It is unwise for either gender to observe the other gender acting differently and just conclude that there is a problem.
This is part of the advantages of a complete family structure for children. Most children who grew up in a complete family would easily understand the dynamics between husband and wife.
Women naturally want to share a lot with their spouses. It's the natural aproko in them. And it's okay. Most men on the other hand are not so inclined to gossip, aproko. And it's okay too. It's just what it is.
So matured couples should be able to understand these differences and work with it. It's okay if the man is trying to dodge plenty talk every now and then. The woman should understand and just flow with it. The man too should understand the woman's need to talk and every now and then, he should oblige her by listening to her, even if it's only absent-mindedly.
It doesn't mean the man loves the woman any less.
And another noteworthy point, what most ladies do to try to prove a point, only ends up creating more problems and complicating things. So trust me, that "make yourself scarce" move will almost certainly end in quality tears.
Most ladies nowadays don't understand that men require some alone-time, just the same way the men should know to give ladies some aproko-time.
UNDERSTANDING!!! Not love, not affection. UNDERSTANDING. That is how relationships and marriages work. Even you, the woman, is it the same way you saw your man after one year that you'll see him after 10 years? Some things happen naturally. No need to make it a big deal.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by EriMma1: 5:36pm On Jun 14, 2023
Tayorshd87:


Happening to me presently ..
If not for society i feel like sending the bull away 😡

Hmmm.. let those saying I'm generalizing come and see. It's a thing with the men. Forget. Majority are just pretending or lying to themselves. They are tired!!!!

Please don't send her away. Na you chop her reach like that. So stay with the remnant, ogar.
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by vickydevoka(m): 5:39pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:


This their case and most of the ones I've seen is not money. The men have clearly lost interest.
You'll see them sitting with other people outside gisting and laughing while their wives will be alone sitting all by herself. So sad.
I think women loose interest most

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by vickydevoka(m): 5:41pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:


I want to believe this the cause because one day the woman approached me and said I should make the cream I'm using for her saying she wants her color to come out. I was shocked cos I felt she's dark and don't know which color she wants to come out again. Or is it because the man is always jokingly calling me girlfriend... I don't know but I suspected she was feeling less attractive or what? Hmmm....
If you bleach your skin because of a man , He will end up with a dark skin lady and leave you. He will see every light skin lady as fake bcus of you
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by isabi2lof: 5:42pm On Jun 14, 2023
Jman06:
Because women go out of shape once married due to excessive eating and laziness that hinder them from exercising and keeping fit.

Before you know it they become potbellied, oversized and unattractive. So it is natural for the man to lose interest in her.

Abegi, even men with pot bellies without given birth are also talking, what of the ones with good shape undecided

That's how your lot body shame women and allow them to go under the knife , hence leading to some death cases.

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by Sunmolar(m): 5:42pm On Jun 14, 2023
vickydevoka:

In uk, it money related that’s the fact. I don’t know of Nigeria. They only way a marriage can last long is of the man pays almost all de bills. If you earn 1 million and she earns 1 million. Just sacrifices to pay 80 percent of the bills . That gender you see are not normal. If you want clean all the house , change diapers in as much she’s paying 50 percent, she will disrespect you. They use their money to build houses for Their parents and send their brother to outside the country. Rather as a man take an extra job, if she will agree. Some women here will also want to do full time work , If de do you can have an extra job. Marriage outside country is hell for a man. E.g. It will take your sister less than 5 years to build house and sponsor family, it might take a man 2 decade to achieve that

Bro!
Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by BigName101: 5:43pm On Jun 14, 2023
EriMma1:


This their case and most of the ones I've seen is not money. The men have clearly lost interest.
You'll see them sitting with other people outside gisting and laughing while their wives will be alone sitting all by herself. So sad.
it's nature that's why it's said that you shouldn't marry who you love but love who you marry, according to the bible. Take myself as an example, I've always fantasised about dating a white girl until eventually I got one and we've been together for a couple years now but what if I told you that I have completely lost interest but just trying to keep the fire burning? There are time in a week we wouldn't even have sex cos the urge isn't there for me anymore. So it's normal

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Re: Why Do Married Men Suddenly Lose Interest In Their Wives and try to avoid her? by vickydevoka(m): 5:43pm On Jun 14, 2023
Jman06:
Most women become unattractive once married. That's why married men cheat.

Imagine seeing one hippopotamus with oversized grandma panties everyday. The man is bound to lose interest in her. If not for children and what the society would say, most married men would chase their wives away after few years of marriage.
Imagine your papa chase your mama bcus of this. How will you feel. Asking respectfully

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