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Noblemanonpoint:
Hey guys. I really need advise on how to resolve this issue with my woman with whom i am already planning marriage with.

So let me start with the root cause here. I am a very reserved person but can be quick to anger even over trivial issues, this is something my woman is very aware of and I'm trying so hard to change but she's okay with it, especially as i could never bring myself down to hitting a her in a fit.

There was a misunderstanding btw the two of us earlier and i abruptly called the relationship off and left her. I was so pissed due to external factors that made me angry all day.

She later sent me some msgs and we talked. I realized once again that i was actually the one at fault because i didn't pay attention. I noticed she was deeply hurt by my words and was accusing me of always causing fights. She cries easily and i was hurt seeing her in that state.

I have apologized to her and promised to go for anger management but she's still resenting me for saying that.

Please, what do I do here?

It's like i broke the trust and she still resents me and acting so cold for making that childish move. I honestly don't want this to linger, else the relationship would be over. She thinks i want freedom with other girls that have been hovering.

How do i truly extend the olive branch and get on a clean slate here guys?

Baba... keep your woman on her toes as you love her....

. love bomb her today ..... be mysterious and a hard nut to crack tomorrow..... this keeps the relationship on a rollercoaster ride.... if a woman is too sure of ur love....she go must use you catch trips...na u go dey beg up and down...
over time....na u go lose...

“I have apologized to her and promised to go for anger management”

I like this though.. You don’t need any anger management…Just try to tame your temper..

Bro, you don dey old, you no need to dey vex anyhow….e no dey necessary at all…

Noblemanonpoint:
Hey guys. I really need advise on how to resolve this issue with my woman with whom i am already planning marriage with.

So let me start with the root cause here. I am a very reserved person but can be quick to anger even over trivial issues, this is something my woman is very aware of and I'm trying so hard to change but she's okay with it, especially as i could never bring myself down to hitting a her in a fit.

There was a misunderstanding btw the two of us earlier and i abruptly called the relationship off and left her. I was so pissed due to external factors that made me angry all day.

She later sent me some msgs and we talked. I realized once again that i was actually the one at fault because i didn't pay attention. I noticed she was deeply hurt by my words and was accusing me of always causing fights. She cries easily and i was hurt seeing her in that state.

I have apologized to her and promised to go for anger management but she's still resenting me for saying that.

Please, what do I do here?

It's like i broke the trust and she still resents me and acting so cold for making that childish move. I honestly don't want this to linger, else the relationship would be over. She thinks i want freedom with other girls that have been hovering.

How do i truly extend the olive branch and get on a clean slate here guys?

Simple!
To extend the Olive branch [/b]just get a cutlass, cut down one long branch, hold it on this end and stretch it out to her.

I hope she's wise enough to know you can still call the relationship off even on the wedding day…

Noblemanonpoint:
Hey guys. I really need advise on how to resolve this issue with my woman with whom i am already planning marriage with.

So let me start with the root cause here. I am a very reserved person but can be quick to anger even over trivial issues, this is something my woman is very aware of and I'm trying so hard to change but she's okay with it, especially as i could never bring myself down to hitting a her in a fit.

There was a misunderstanding btw the two of us earlier and i abruptly called the relationship off and left her. I was so pissed due to external factors that made me angry all day.

She later sent me some msgs and we talked. I realized once again that i was actually the one at fault because i didn't pay attention. I noticed she was deeply hurt by my words and was accusing me of always causing fights. She cries easily and i was hurt seeing her in that state.

I have apologized to her and promised to go for anger management but she's still resenting me for saying that.

Please, what do I do here?

It's like i broke the trust and she still resents me and acting so cold for making that childish move. I honestly don't want this to linger, else the relationship would be over. She thinks i want freedom with other girls that have been hovering.

How do i truly extend the olive branch and get on a clean slate here guys?

If pride is your problem then you still have a long way to go

But you really have to work on your anger because marriage itself have the main anger triggering agent

So how do you intend to cope with that, couple with when you have children that will still trigger your anger

You can see that it's a long thing

The lady in question understands you and your behavioral attitude and she is willing to cope with it

But your keep using naughty words to worsen a case that she is trying to deal with

If you don't find your way to bring her back, the next relationship you will enter may not tolerate such from you and that will make things worst

So the best option for you is to go to her and this time around tell her to assist you on how to control anger and there after let her accompany you to a counselor who will talk sense to you

frozen70:


If pride is your problem then you still have a long way to go

But you really have to work on your anger because marriage itself have the main anger triggering agent

So how do you intend to cope with that, couple with when you have children that will still trigger your anger

You can see that it's a long thing

The lady in question understands you and your behavioral attitude and she is willing to cope with it

But your keep using naughty words to worsen a case that she is trying to deal with

If you don't find your way to bring her back, the next relationship you will enter may not tolerate such from you and that will make things worst

So the best option for you is to go to her and this time around tell her to assist you on how to control anger and there after let her accompany you to a counselor who will talk sense to you

This is the first time i ever used hurtful words on her and called it off. The other instances have just been quarreling over trivial stuff but we never said hurtful things.

I'm trying so hard to control this and i apologized the moment i knew i messed up.

She said she has accepted my apology which i doubt because she's changed and i just can't bear it.

Noblemanonpoint:


This is the first time i ever used hurtful words on her and called it off. The other instances have just been quarreling over trivial stuff but we never said hurtful things.

I'm trying so hard to control this and i apologized the moment i knew i messed up.

She said she has accepted my apology which i doubt because she's changed and i just can't bear it.

Ok then

Give her time, she may come back to you

But keep checking on her on social media platforms

While you work on yourself

But the ability to stop getting angry any how is in you

If you believe, you will change it

Mtcheww

advanceDNA:


Baba... keep your woman on her toes as you love her....

. love bomb her today ..... be mysterious and a hard nut to crack tomorrow..... this keeps the relationship on a rollercoaster ride.... if a woman is too sure of ur love....she go must use you catch trips...na u go dey beg up and down...
over time....na u go lose...

Until she ends up resenting him forever.Everybody wants to be toxic because of redpill.

You really need to manage your anger issue. Anger is not something anyone should brag about, it has no benefit at all, all it does is to cause havoc. If you can manage at least 85% of your anger issue, your whole relationship problem is solved

Noblemanonpoint:
Hey guys. I really need advise on how to resolve this issue with my woman with whom i am already planning marriage with.

So let me start with the root cause here. I am a very reserved person but can be quick to anger even over trivial issues, this is something my woman is very aware of and I'm trying so hard to change but she's okay with it, especially as i could never bring myself down to hitting a her in a fit.

There was a misunderstanding btw the two of us earlier and i abruptly called the relationship off and left her. I was so pissed due to external factors that made me angry all day.

She later sent me some msgs and we talked. I realized once again that i was actually the one at fault because i didn't pay attention. I noticed she was deeply hurt by my words and was accusing me of always causing fights. She cries easily and i was hurt seeing her in that state.

I have apologized to her and promised to go for anger management but she's still resenting me for saying that.

Please, what do I do here?

It's like i broke the trust and she still resents me and acting so cold for making that childish move. I honestly don't want this to linger, else the relationship would be over. She thinks i want freedom with other girls that have been hovering.

How do i truly extend the olive branch and get on a clean slate here guys?

First off you need help not a lady necessarily, a classic sign that someone is under a super natural influence is quick anger and damaging words. You first need to sought this out personally and that through prayer until you can trace the root cause and get help of severance from that influence. Else you'll leave that lady more damaged than you met her.

Anger management class is good but what is ailing you cannot be solved by mere talk and channeled behavior.

The best way to manage anger after prayer is to deprive it of expression. When you're angry, hurt the anger feeling by keeping totally mute. Do not say anything or do anything at that boiling moment despite people calling you a foool for not responding promptly to provoking occurrences. If you do that over a period of 3 months, you will be a noticeably changed person, especially because you've taken the first bold step by admitting that you have a weakness which you must overcome. Many people won't admit that.

If you can't outrightly keep mute, you can start by saying only half of what you used to say when you're angry, then graduate it to keeping mute later. Whatever has expression becomes stronger but whatever lacks expression becomes weaker and fades out.

jimmychang:



Until she ends up resenting him forever.Everybody wants to be toxic because of redpill.

Toxic?? Its like u just heard that word and u just want to use it....
...what has redpill or being toxic got to do with balancing leverage in relationships.... if u dont maintain ur leverage side of the relationship..u will lose urself and the relationship weda man or woman...

.its a basic relationship principle...because humans tend to abuse leverage/power once we know we have the bulk of it in any situation

First of all, I don't think you guys are a great match... You're hot tempered and she's sensitive, that alone is not good.. A hot tempered person requires someone who doesn't easily get offended and a sensitive person requires someone who's always calm.

Maybe it's best you just let the relationship end and if you still want to have fun with other girls, you can do that without having to worry about any girlfriend in your life... When you're then tired of playing around, you can look for someone you're compatible with and settle down.

But if you still want to stay in your current relationship and argue all the time, then the choice is yours.

Same thing happened to me this year, like there's no single differences here. She left me too. I begged her, my brother begged too but she said she can't cope with me any longer, I had to let go when I found out she's seeing someone already. Try to move on bro, I know it's very hard to do cos I'm still going through the pain rn. but you just have to accept it that way. If you are meant for each other she will come back to you.

advanceDNA:


Toxic?? Its like u just heard that word and u just want to use it....
...what has redpill or being toxic got to do with balancing leverage in relationships.... if u dont maintain ur leverage side of the relationship..u will lose urself and the relationship weda man or woman...

.its a basic relationship principle...because humans tend to abuse leverage/power once we know we have the bulk of it in any situation

Take your power dynamic to your future relationships.Nobody is 100 percent in control of the relationships all the time it depends on your partner.If you like to have a partner that you have to manipulate e everytime good for you.

Imagine doing running your business and coming home and still thinking of how to manipulate your wife lol.Get a good woman you won't hear.

jimmychang:


Take your power dynamic to your future relationships.Nobody is 100 percent in control of the relationships all the time it depends on your partner.If you like to have a partner that you have to manipulate e everytime good for you.

Imagine doing running your business and coming home and still thinking of how to manipulate your wife lol.Get a good woman you won't hear.

U are just contradicting urself....the fact u mentioned that no one is perfect is why behaviours change and u need to constantly ensure ur relationship is fairly balanced...

see in reality... there is technically no good or bad in life(and i am.not talking about constitutional right or wrong) .....everyone does what favors them at the end of the day..thats why a woman will leave u when u are broke and not feel guilty about it...thats why u will gilt a woman for the one u love more and not feel evil about it...

people only apper to have done good to you only because what they do sit well with you...the day it only favors them...u say they did u dirty

..the law of nature is weak and powerful, low or high leverage.....same as the law in the wild........u only tip the scales to ensure its balanced or u get burned..... if u want to confuse the law of life with the chemicals in ur brain called love...na u sabi

advanceDNA:



U are just contradicting urself....the fact u mentioned that no one is perfect is why behaviours change and u need to constantly ensure ur relationship is fairly balanced...

see in reality... there is technically no good or bad in life(and i am.not talking about constitutional right or wrong) .....everyone does what favors them at the end of the day..thats why a woman will leave u when u are broke and not feel guilty about it...thats why u will gilt a woman for the one u love more and not feel evil about it...

people only apper to have done good to you only because what they do sit well with you...the day it only favors them...u say they did u dirty

..the law of nature is weak and powerful, low or high leverage.....same as the law in the wild........u only tip the scales to ensure its balanced or u get burned..... if u want to confuse the law of life with the chemicals in ur brain called love...na u sabi

Like I said it doesn't matter.It just depends on who are with.All these trying to be bla bla bla it doesn't.

jimmychang:



Like I said it doesn't matter.It just depends on who are with.All these trying to be bla bla bla it doesn't.

Wateva works for you man...