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NOETHNICITY:
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@ damiandd, I’m twice your age. I am responsible for my parents 100% and more. I do so much more for them. Whenever I travel home during festivals with my family, my dad still quarrels about the time I come home which is usually between 8.30pm and latest 9pm. But I have never ever even for once showed or expressed my anger.
I’m one person who has never ever all my life expressed anger towards my parents till this age. And I’m proud of myself for this very reason. And my parents see me as the best possible person anyone can have a relationship parent.
Learn to kill the pride in you.
This pride is the very reason God has not deemed it fit to bless a lot of people. He knows they cannot handle riches. People become oppressive when they are rich. Learn and go kneel down to beg your father for forgiveness

LikeAking:
Nice!

You are a real man..

DamianDd:
Omoh I guess so, I'll apologize when the time is right.... Let's just give it time. I know him well

SangoOlukosoOba:
I must commend your dad for his patience. He is a real man!

If I was your dad, you will be on a wheelchair with no arms and legs. I will report myself to the police station when I am done with you!

You have a great dad.

DamianDd:
My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.

I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.

But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true

Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"

It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.

What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.



What's your thoughts on the matter?

kokorokoman:
baba, the thing pain me ehn, i just dey here just dey feel for him papa.
olonhun, if to say na my front the boy dey talk these things ehn, the kind better slap wey i for take reset the boy brain ehn.
wetin pain me pass for everything na dat ''i paid for packing''.
the werey still had to add the ''packing''.
these kind children wey dey form ''i am a man'' for their papa no dey fit look their age mate face to face for outside o.

DamianDd:
Omoh I guess so, I'll apologize when the time is right.... Let's just give it time. I know him well

Horerku:
I consider everybody here hailing you as idiots, lowlives, fools and senseless humans cos they have lost the little fear of God they should have. One of the greatest asset a man can have is/are supportive parents. You are meant to love and respect them. OP already figured out he did wrong by speaking back to his father the way he did, that shows the sign of someone with conscience.

LikeAking:
Don't have that mind set...


Just calm down, when you become a father no too carry children Matt's for head, just focus on your hustle...

Allow children once them turn 18, to get hustle, trade or skill like Op and live their lives.

If the child was in his own house will his dad's question him?

Will he even know what's happening?

kokorokoman:
baba you know say we done first get banter before sha.
even if you are 40 years old man and you are under your father's roof if you come home by 12 midnight every father have the right to question you not to talk of a teenager wey never know anythng for life sef.
not that the father was even harsh to him with words, what the dad even said to him were the kindest words any man can use to caution his teen child.
why my teenage son go come home 12 midnight i go come dey use mouth tell am about what neighbors will think, the action i go take againt am is better left unsaid. no be say na work you go, no be say dem send you message, no be say you even call home say you go come late.
i swear this kind yeye pikin cannot look directly into the eyes of his age mates o.
na your papa you wan take practice confidence, mugu.
i just a teenager with a bloated ego because of small small money wey he don dey see, the way he stated how much he earns and had to even mention that he paid for packing join house rent tells much about him, the one wey pain me pass na the packing wey he still go mention join.
for your info, an 18 year old in my neigborhood in benin city spent 6 million naira in treating his mum of cancer, had to fly her outside nigeria.
18 year olds don dey buy cars and build houses and you dey here dey talk nonsense.
the thing just pain me for body like say na me be him papa.

kokorokoman:
still no sense, so i should focus on my hustle and live my teen child that lives under my roof alone?
i am the first child of six, i lost my dad in 1999.
most of my junior siblings grew up under my roof both in naija and a neighboring african country, i mean male and female.
my immediate younger bro was far more than 18, making his own money and was very free, i mean i never for once encroached on his rights.
but that doesnt stop me from getting angry whenever he comes home at midnight, i go paro for am and he understands.
except i am aware he went somewhere or he called.
there are times my junior bro offsets my bills, sometimes he takes up the cooking expenses for months but never for once has he reminded me that he did this and that, if he try am e don done for am be that, he cant even say such in the first place because the guy get sense.
do you know what it means to attack a man's ego? your papa for that matter.
i still repeat, if to so i fit catch this op so, i for go flog am for him papa present till the old man go satisfy and ask me to stop.
the boy too arrogant and mumu.
abi you no see were he said ''i paid for house rent and packing'' na dat packing pain me pass.
this matter really pain me sha, i just dey imangine hoe the old man would have felt.

LikeAking:
He has to tell his dad's the bita truth, he is man, he can take care of him self..

We need more kids like Op in Nigeria..



Dem Tinubu Dem, get many children and they are very busy men... They don't have time for children mata..


U get..

Just focus on your hustle..

kokorokoman:
do you even know that these dem tinubu you are using as exmaple, their kids do not have the temerity cross their compound gate without an official approval from their dad, mum or whoever is in charge?
its just clear you are one mbeke forming woke.
you for just tell op make he carry olosho come knack for him papa bed na since we are in new generation na.
in all of this na the boy papa i just dey pity for.

lieutenantprime:
I Just Dey laugh reading this your story ooo.

Hahahaha. If na my papa you get mind talk to like that ehn?
haaaa... Bro... Haaaa.... Walai just go dig yah grave.

Because of 300k monthly wey you dey get? If you come dey earn Millions you go say make hin lie down turn am to rug carpet dey waka untop am? You no try ooooo.

Of recent i buy popsi benz of 8MIL, as i dey give am the keys, na my long nails him dey look, E make sure i cut am before, hin collect the keys.

Come see questions, food dey house, na loan you collect, how yah wife, you don pay yah children school fees, how work dey go, how business, you supposed use the money buy land, or add to your business, you dey lean oo, you no dey chop, wetin you dey think.....

Still on stil na to keep quite oo, i no fit talk back no matter what my brother. I respect that man bro. I do.
That man has been running my background needs since day one even at the expense of his own needs.

DamianDd:
My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.

I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.

But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true

Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"

It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.

What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.



What's your thoughts on the matter?

lieutenantprime:
I Just Dey laugh reading this your story ooo.

Hahahaha. If na my papa you get mind talk to like that ehn?
haaaa... Bro... Haaaa.... Walai just go dig yah grave.

Because of 300k monthly wey you dey get? If you come dey earn Millions you go say make hin lie down turn am to rug carpet dey waka untop am? You no try ooooo.

Of recent i buy popsi benz of 8MIL, as i dey give am the keys, na my long nails him dey look, E make sure i cut am before, hin collect the keys.

Come see questions, food dey house, na loan you collect, how yah wife, you don pay yah children school fees, how work dey go, how business, you supposed use the money buy land, or add to your business, you dey lean oo, you no dey chop, wetin you dey think.....

Still on stil na to keep quite oo, i no fit talk back no matter what my brother. I respect that man bro. I do.
That man has been running my background needs since day one even at the expense of his own needs.

DamianDd:
My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.

I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.

But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true

Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"

It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.

What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.



What's your thoughts on the matter?

Bibina59:
I wish my father was still alive so I could apologize for all the things I did to him, especially how I took him to an event in his car but left with the car to go and join my friends who were protesting a rigged election result. I left my father to use public transport back home. Another occasion I begged him to allow me use his car after taking him to an occasion and back, but he refused so I left the car outside the compound refusing to drive inside and park well. May God forgive me and continue to grant my father eternal rest.

DamianDd:
My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.

I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.

But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true

Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"

It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.

What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.



What's your thoughts on the matter?

SangoOlukosoOba:
I must commend your dad for his patience. He is a real man!

If I was your dad, you will be on a wheelchair with no arms and legs. I will report myself to the police station when I am done with you!

You have a great dad.

DamianDd:
Omoh I guess so, I'll apologize when the time is right.... Let's just give it time. I know him well