DestinedForGrea:

I can't narrate my experiences, but I'll share some pieces of advice which will indirectly give a narrative of my experiences.

1. If you are a loner, especially with self esteem issues, completely get rid of the thought of going into a relationship.

Why?

You're at your most vulnerable in your low state, and when you find someone who comes to show you love, you have the tendency of developing obsession for that person.

When their love energy reduces at some point, you will know what frustration really is. The other person will get sick of you, until what they have is gone. It seems impossible until it becomes a reality.

2. If you're already in a relationship, the moment you notice your partner is still in touch with their ex, or that they're showing signs of interest in their ex, break that relationship.

Confront them, but that should be after breaking it up. Make sure you stand by your decision, because the chances are they'll try to get into your head and make you think that you're over-reacting.

They'll tell you nothing is up, but they'll keep doing the same thing, because they know you'll eventually return to them after much sweet talks and excuses.

3. As a man, never allow a woman know you love her more than she loves you. She'll consider you weak and take you for granted.

Many people think this to be false, but it isn't. I have experienced this, and it hurts a big bunch.

That's your own perspective of life. Well, noted.

Different strokes for different folks, really.

But your points are well noted.

DestinedForGrea:

Sure.

That's what my experiences have taught me.

Noted.

Ladies,


The number one reason [high-value] men leave their girlfriends/potential wives/ legal wives, is that they make the conscious calculation

"This woman is more annoyance than she is worth."

If you are annoying, and you manufacture conflict (drama) out of nothing, the probability of him deciding you are more trouble than you are worth is extremely high.


His life is hard.

If you make it any harder than it has to be, he will leave you.


Taking up his time because you are looking for affection from him is fine; most men enjoy providing this.

Taking up his time by manufacturing conflict out of nothing is very annoying.

The former is likely to decrease his stress levels & the latter is certain to increase them.


Since his opportunity cost of associating with you will yield a negative ROI, he'll leave for his sanity.

Life is the way you plan your life!!

Digital204:
So why do you think love hurts so much?

Why is it that relationships and marriages don't even last anymore?

Why do people pretend so much in a relationship or marriage, only for you to discover their true character later?

Why can't people be happy in a relationship anymore? And marriages??

And to think of all the marriages breaking up everyday, even celebrity marriages crashing everyday.

I think many people are just not sincere with themselves before getting married. They just pretend and show their true character after marriage. So the marriage crashes. Why can't people get married to those they love?

Love does not even matter to many people anymore. It's all about money and material things. So the pretence goes on...

So what do you think?

How can relationships and marriages be made stronger, to last more??

What do you think about these issues?

Copyright © David Samuel
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So why does love hurt so much?

Why?


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Mynd44

Why??

Marriage is meant for only two matured, responsible and disciplined persons. Those who have understood their strength and weaknesses.

Marriage is for those who have build friendship overtime. You don't start a relationship due to marriage. Your friendship should metamorphose into marriage. This is why many persons get deceived on daily basis.

I once date a lady from my tribe... I kept talking to her about some of her altitudes, but, she's just unteachable. She believes you're the one who needs teaching. Her anger rate is something else. She feels so unprotected or always scared of loosing me due to her past relationships. Though, we were close. I kept it cool and calm. I wasn't under any pressure even though she also bring up the issue of introduction and marriage. Almost 2yrs of our dating, I knew lots of things about her including several revelation, but, I kept it cool.

One day, she said she's tired of the relationship as I'm not interested in marriage. She's a lady not getting younger, she exclaimed. I still didn't say anything. Then, she said I should pay her all the money she has spent in the relationship for almost 2yrs. She calculated them, and gave me. She demanded for the money instantly. Luckily, I had the said amount, no argument, I transferred the money to her. For my mind, case closed
After few days when she travelled back to her work station. Her family members and friends started calling and begging for forgiveness... That was the end of the relationship

Same character that made other guys to leave her was same character that made me not settled with her. She really beautiful and well endowed. If I didn't keep things cool, I would've been trapped in pains. When you keep things cool in your relationship, you will see beyond the glasses.
Before you Kari Cutlass to cut grass, check the kind of grass first. E get y!

Today, I'm a happy man in love and with the best family

udeh3:
Marriage is meant for only two matured, responsible and disciplined persons. Those who have understood their strength and weaknesses.

Marriage is for those who have build friendship overtime. You don't start a relationship due to marriage. Your friendship should metamorphose into marriage. This is why many persons get deceived on daily basis.

I once date a lady from my tribe... I kept talking to her about some of her altitudes, but, she's just unteachable. She believes you're the one who needs teaching. Her anger rate is something else. She feels so unprotected or always scared of loosing me due to her past relationships. Though, we were close. I kept it cool and calm. I wasn't under any pressure even though she also bring up the issue of introduction and marriage. Almost 2yrs of our dating, I knew lots of things about her including several revelation, but, I kept it cool.

One day, she said she's tired of the relationship as I'm not interested in marriage. She's a lady not getting younger, she exclaimed. I still didn't say anything. Then, she said I should pay her all the money she has spent in the relationship for almost 2yrs. She calculated them, and gave me. She demanded for the money instantly. Luckily, I had the said amount, no argument, I transferred the money to her. For my mind, case closed
After few days when she travelled back to her work station. Her family members and friends started calling and begging for forgiveness... That was the end of the relationship

Same character that made other guys to leave her was same character that made me not settled with her. She really beautiful and well endowed. If I didn't keep things cool, I would've been trapped in pains. When you keep things cool in your relationship, you will see beyond the glasses.
Before you Kari Cutlass to cut grass, check the kind of grass first. E get y!

Today, I'm a happy man in love and with the best family

I am happy for you. Congratulations brother.


This post made my day!

Gloriouspa:


I am happy for you. Congratulations brother.


This post made my day!

I'm glad my life story could lighten up your day
It's a pleasure sharing my story

Thanks and God bless you

Steady259:
Civilization and independency of the female partner, that's the only logical explanation I can render in this discussion.

Okay think of it this way, if you are totally dependent on someone for your upkeep, needs, bill, and any other amenities you so wish or desire, you will prolly stay glued to that person right?

I mean even if the person offends you, you will almost forgive easily because he/she is your dependant.

But the moment you become independent and you are able to afford everything that has made you stay glued to that person, your thinking mentality changes and you begin to see things from a different angle.

Things that would have been said to you ealier that probably would have been ignored will now that getting into you and you being to take note and act back.

Because you are not relying on that person, you can make your decisions without minding the consequences....


Same way when you are married to an independent wife.

Thanks For Your Explanations Not Mere Emotional & Stewpid Spiritual Filled Explanation by Most Nigerians Albeit Nairalanders ...

My Own Submissions & Personal Opinions is that The Present Crops of Men are Still Glued to the Operating Systems of Our Forefathers Where Women are Enslaved & The Societies Demanded Submissions to the Husband Regardless of The Status of the Women While Economic & Political Powers were Mostly Concentrated in the Hands of Men ....

However, The Societies has Evolved, Women are now Much Independent, Knowledgeably Informed as their Men Counterparts But The Present Crops of Men Do not Know How to Manage Successfully the Present Crops of Women !

The Failure of Marriage is Most Men ain't Man Enough & Moreover Can't Handle Successful/Knowledgeable/Informed/Intelligent/Independent/Educated Women Because Successes Comes With alot of Intricacies Whether Women or Men .....

Most Men Can't Bear what the Women Would have to Passed through to Become Successful But Men are Doing Men For Successes While Men Can't Stand Women For Doing Women for Successes....


We go all Dey Alright Laslas !

Starlight252:
My thoughts...


An extreme fondness for materiality -through the rulers to the ruled- cultivates in a society a hoard of inhabitants full of emotional imbalance and immaturity.

Such a society is often devoid of true innate peace, satisfaction and purpose.

Oh! What a world!

Succinct Captured Words On a Marble! Thank You !

Digital204:


How? How??

A lot of big sounding words there!

What exactly are you saying?

Make yourself to be understood by every reader. Use simpler words please!

Regards!

Read it Slowly You will Understand... You read it fastly that's why u ni Understand!

DonroxyII:
Read it Slowly You will Understand... You read it fastly that's why u ni Understand!

Hmmm....


I see....!