Why?

I easily get tired of relationships, I don’t think I can sustain one.
We had a great one why we were apart but that changed upon her coming to spend some time with me, I discovered that I didn’t really love her the way I thought. I can’t quite bond with her during her time with me, I know that I’m so cold and numb to most things and she feels like I don’t love her. She loved me with everything but I couldn’t reciprocated the love, she thought I was seeing someone else. I had to call it quit to stop hurting her feelings, but she became more hurt & devastated. She left to her station so sad, never planned that.

Guys help me, I feel less human, no emotions, no pains, unreal feelings, no love, so cold & numb, the things I love in the past that make me happy changes nothing again. I got myself all l needed to feel human but I’m still cold. I had of the most beautiful & classy lady out but I throw her away, I doubt if she’s ever gonna forgive me.

How can I regain my humanity? Practical solutions plsss!!!

Ps
@Slawomir, jman06 and everyone’s that’s commented, my issue isn’t just bout women alone, I don’t know the best way to present this. My current predicament is that I’m loosing my humanity , I’m so numb and cold, I don’t feel anything, so I need help asap until I’m finally lost in me. Women is just btw ‘cos I thought I found someone that could bring me back from this strange and confusing journey that’s getting me lost.

Damnnn niggar

Just relax you are not the only one in this situation

Someone told me am not mentally ready for that life style

And I accepted...

BaEnki:


So how do you cope?

I want to get out of these circle, I don’t know what I really needed, I’m blessed with the things I wanted, but they changed nothing.

I Just got some few baby girls I bang...nothing serious
My own situation is even worse...the last time I asked a girl to spend more than one week with me after about three days I was no longer getting that excited..so i don't even understand how married people live together for years and still get excited maybe probably they are tired of each other but they are pretending just because of their kids and what society will say
Me personally I don't think marriage is for me

The only thing you are lacking now is sense of humor and you really need it.

No be most you most marry, many married people won return to single

Abeg only marry when you find someone you truly love... Don't let societal pressure get you dating people you are not happy with

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar

Just relax you are not the only one in this situation

Someone told me am not mentally ready for that life style

And I accepted...

So how do you cope?

I want to get out of these circle, I don’t know what I really needed, I’m blessed with the things I wanted, but they changed nothing.

Olarewaju89:


The only thing you are lacking now is sense of humor and you really need it.

How please? You don’t seems to understand my point, I’m currently unmoved by anything, and I want to change that.

And please it’s not about marriage, I only brought that up ‘cos I thought I found someone that would give me that feeling, she’s the best candidate so far, nothing came close. But I was wrong and that got me in thinking mood what could be wrong with me.

it may have to do with your mindset or how you've programmed yourself... you may have gotten used to solitude for you to feel this way... it may also be the way you were brought up, maybe you didn't experience love or have never experienced love, or you've never loved someone or you got your heart broken in a ruthless manner...

in other perspective, you might see no need for a relationship because you feel there's nothing to gain from it.. or it might also be because you are getting sex freely or some other benefits which you think might be the only thing you stand to gain if you're in a serious relationship with them..

at this point, you might end up going the way of patronising prostitutes or escorts, or better still, continue breaking hearts of women which includes the innocent and naive ones... I would advice to desist from relationship or sex for now to truly analyse yourself to see what's wrong with you...

Op be calming down.
I was having the challenge back then, i can't date girls up to 6month or less and i don't care if them breakup, because i am always the first person to get tired.
You gats apply tolerance and endurance. and always have that thought that if i continue this way i will regret later and it may cost me alot.
Goodluck.

@Reminderz thank you, the first paragraph is right, I’ve gotten so used to solitude & other spirituality stuffs. I’m lost within myself & all effort to get back to the outside world hasn’t Ben effective. It’s kinda getting worse.

About the sex, I don’t even feel it again, I feel no pleasure whatsoever. The only thing I still feel is music, I’m tired & wearied out of any other thing.

No marry na.


More for us witg plans to marry 10+ women and 20+ side chicks


Help pray for god to send your missing RIB to me before she keeps searching n searching not knowing you're useless

Go settle with your spiritual wife. you no normal at all.this i have seen!.lol.where dat nairaland falseprophet self? make e come break coconut for ya head.

Baba we dey the same boat.. no fear women na scarbs

BaEnki:
Why?

I easily get tired of relationships, I don’t think I can sustain one.
We had a great one why we were apart but that changed upon her coming to spend some time with me, I discovered that I didn’t really love her the way I thought. I can’t quite bond with her during her time with me, I know that I’m so cold and numb to most things and she feels like I don’t love her. She loved me with everything but I couldn’t reciprocated the love, she thought I was seeing someone else. I had to call it quit to stop hurting her feelings, but she became more hurt & devastated. She left to her station so sad, never planned that.

Guys help me, I feel less human, no emotions, no pains, unreal feelings, no love, so cold & numb, the things I love in the past that make me happy changes nothing again. I got myself all l needed to feel human but I’m still cold. I had of the most beautiful & classy lady out but I throw her away, I doubt if she’s ever gonna forgive me.

How can I regain my humanity? Practical solutions plsss!!!

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar

Just relax you are not the only one in this situation

Someone told me am not mentally ready for that life style

And I accepted...




I Just got some few baby girls I bang...nothing serious
My own situation is even worse...the last time I asked a girl to spend more than one week with me after about three days I was no longer getting that excited..so i don't even understand how married people live together for years and still get excited maybe probably they are tired of each other but they are pretending just because of their kids and what society will say
Me personally I don't think marriage is for me

.hellboy

The movie pearl made me understand that some people smile but don't know what joy is and just fake those emotions.

Aladdin1:
Go settle with your spiritual wife. you no normal at all.this i have seen!.lol.where dat nairaland falseprophet self? make e come break coconut for ya head.

For the first time I read sense to this, but you’re kidding right?

Op, you're not alone in this boat.


I too have lost excitement and lovey-dovey feelings I used to have for girls while growing up. However, my loss of interest in ladies can be traced to some disappointments and heartbrakes I had.

Now, I fear I might not get married because I have lost all the patience to woo ladies. The only lady that can marry me now is one who is ready to take it by force or who doesn't care if I show less excitement about her at the beginning. Like not calling her all the time and so on.

Finding such a girl is never going to be an easy task and that is why I fear I might eventually not get married. However, I know deep down that I'm a passionate lover who can lay down my life for any girl of my liking who agrees to be with me despite all the above faults.

Na my mama I pity because she's always worrying herself about me getting married.

Davidcorny:
The movie pearl made me understand that some people smile but don't know what joy is and just fake those emotions.

You got my point, I fake everything, the smiles, the feelings, the affections, the gestures, even the love but I’m so bad at faking or lying, it’s all bad on me. Friends got me but I got no friends because I don’t feel any of them.

@Slawomir, jman06 and everyone’s that’s commented, my issue isn’t just bout women alone, I don’t know the best way to present this. My current predicament is that I’m loosing my humanity , I’m so numb and cold, I don’t feel anything, so I need help asap until I’m finally lost in me. Women is just btw ‘cos I thought I found someone that could bring me back from this strange and confusing journey that’s getting me lost.

If you can't keep a relationship

Then stay single and allow me to hear word...

Learn to tolerate then start building a relationship.

BaEnki:

You are insecure. There's something you are hiding and that makes you not to open up, you don't want people to see you for who you are. You make up excuses to not make it seem like it's your insecurities but the truth is it is, and it's disconnecting you from reality making you loose touch and hopless, you don't even allow them to come close enough to see it and it's eating you deep.

That Mia goth movie... good move btw

Davidcorny:
The movie pearl made me understand that some people smile but don't know what joy is and just fake those emotions.

BaEnki:


So how do you cope?

I want to get out of these circle, I don’t know what I really needed, I’m blessed with the things I wanted, but they changed nothing.

u can go to hell

I also have same issue. I can be the nicest guy around, but I don't feel any connection with the opposite sex. Most ladies misinterpret it for pride but deep down,I know it's probably how I'm wired and I've learned to live with that.

You need to see a therapist asap

Prayer helps.
Be vulnerable with God

Women are disgusting & annoying at the same time.

No REAL man wants to spend much of his precious time & life with them.

Only thing useful in them is their Vagina that men need for orgasm & procreation.

Go on & interview the married men out there.

BaEnki:
Why?

I easily get tired of relationships, I don’t think I can sustain one.
We had a great one why we were apart but that changed upon her coming to spend some time with me, I discovered that I didn’t really love her the way I thought. I can’t quite bond with her during her time with me, I know that I’m so cold and numb to most things and she feels like I don’t love her. She loved me with everything but I couldn’t reciprocated the love, she thought I was seeing someone else. I had to call it quit to stop hurting her feelings, but she became more hurt & devastated. She left to her station so sad, never planned that.

Guys help me, I feel less human, no emotions, no pains, unreal feelings, no love, so cold & numb, the things I love in the past that make me happy changes nothing again. I got myself all l needed to feel human but I’m still cold. I had of the most beautiful & classy lady out but I throw her away, I doubt if she’s ever gonna forgive me.

How can I regain my humanity? Practical solutions plsss!!!

Ps
@Slawomir, jman06 and everyone’s that’s commented, my issue isn’t just bout women alone, I don’t know the best way to present this. My current predicament is that I’m loosing my humanity , I’m so numb and cold, I don’t feel anything, so I need help asap until I’m finally lost in me. Women is just btw ‘cos I thought I found someone that could bring me back from this strange and confusing journey that’s getting me lost.

It's either you are suffering from depression, PTSD, Bipolar Disorder, Conduct Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder.

I think it's more or a Borderline Personality Disorder.
Don't worry about it, it's a phase. BTW, you need something that'll make you extremely happy, maybe a whole lot of money or a career breakthrough

BaEnki:
@Slawomir, jman06 and everyone’s that’s commented, my issue isn’t just bout women alone, I don’t know the best way to present this. My current predicament is that I’m loosing my humanity , I’m so numb and cold, I don’t feel anything, so I need help asap until I’m finally lost in me. Women is just btw ‘cos I thought I found someone that could bring me back from this strange and confusing journey that’s getting me lost.

I'm like you too, I'm so stoic.
I deal with people based on reasons and not on feelings and emotions.
Even when people die, I don't know, I don't feel a thing about it. No matter how sad someone's story is, it doesn't move me one bit.
Just that in my own case, I fake feelings a lot, and it's so interesting because deep down you know you are truly unbothered